On 9/5/2025 at 1:55 PM, KannikaP said:

Yes. In our 15 year relationship, I give her 6000 a month, but also pay for son's Uni education as I did for her daughter who now works in a bank.

When my Dad got his weekly pay packet on a Friday, he always handed it over to Mum, who then gave HIM a small allowance.

 6 grand a month? Your missus seems to have lost the lottery. 

2 minutes ago, sungod said:

 6 grand a month? Your missus seems to have lost the lottery. 

All food and utilities paid, a nice big house and car and bike. The 6k is just for her own personal use, and if she needs more, she knows my PIN. She's happy with the arrangement.

10 minutes ago, KannikaP said:

All food and utilities paid, a nice big house and car and bike. The 6k is just for her own personal use, and if she needs more, she knows my PIN. She's happy with the arrangement.

 

My kids get more pocket money, you are quite the catch aren't you!

13 minutes ago, KannikaP said:

All food and utilities paid, a nice big house and car and bike. The 6k is just for her own personal use, and if she needs more, she knows my PIN. She's happy with the arrangement.

 

Thumbs down? Grow up will you. 

2 minutes ago, sungod said:

 

My kids get more pocket money, you are quite the catch aren't you!

Obviously, I do not know the ages of your kids, or what they spend your money on

I have put two through Uni who now have reasonably well paid jobs.  Trips to UK annually.

We now live a very quiet, peaceful life happily here.

11 minutes ago, sungod said:

 

Thumbs down? Grow up will you. 

I am not the only thumbs downer. I did put it because I did not like your sarcastic reply. 

I have removed it now........happy?

I am not as wealthy as you say you are, unable to give my children and Mrs more.

OP has used this forum for years just to shove his opinion about farang and bargirl relationships down peoples throats. Whats worse for thailand, that or what he does? The guys marrying hookers arent hurting anyone, how about the exploiters of girls looking for relationships?

33 minutes ago, KannikaP said:

I am not the only thumbs downer. I did put it because I did not like your sarcastic reply. 

I have removed it now........happy?

I am not as wealthy as you say you are, unable to give my children and Mrs more.

 Yes I am happy now you have decided to be an adult again

2 minutes ago, sungod said:

 Yes I am happy now you have decided to be an adult again

What a pathetic answer, sungod 5555

12 hours ago, angryguy said:

OP has used this forum for years

 

you connected the dots and guessed it was Goat?

who cares what he thinks?

everyone has to make their own decisions in life and then live with them. 

 

All these thumbs down, didnt realise so many farangs were living in poverty here.  

2 hours ago, KannikaP said:

All food and utilities paid, a nice big house and car and bike. The 6k is just for her own personal use, and if she needs more, she knows my PIN. She's happy with the arrangement.

 

 

She would be happier with 12k.....................no ?

8 minutes ago, hotandsticky said:

She would be happier with 12k.....................no ?

I'm not convinced women are ever happy.

8 minutes ago, hotandsticky said:

 

 

She would be happier with 12k.....................no ?

Yeh, but I wouldn't. 555.

If she needs something, I buy it for her.

On 9/5/2025 at 6:38 AM, MalcolmB said:

Maybe I am wrong on this but from what I have seen it seems that farangs who marry and have children with normal thai women with normal jobs are given a decent allowance when they have children together.

But the guys who marry and have children with the bargirls are extremely stingy with the allowance they give them. One guy I know who married a bargirl was telling me he gives his wife 6,000 per month of which she gives 3,000 to her parents. 
So she only has 100 baht per day. I was thinking to myself she would have been much better off staying working in the bar.

 

Another guy was also bragging to me how he gives his wife almost nothing also despite having a child with her and she has another child that also lives with them.

 

Do they do this to control them?

Is it just that they are extremely stingy anyway and that is a big reason they didn’t find love normally?

Is there an underlying hate?

Is it that they are over compensating to prove to themselves that they only want me for my money?

Is it that former bargirls simply can not be trusted with money?

Is it they actually married them because it was cheaper than paying 2-3 barfines per week? Sort of like having a sex slave?

 

From what I have seen the Thai women that get the most money are those with boyfriends/customers overseas who send them an allowance every month. And sometimes they have more than one guy sending them money. It is quite lucrative.

 

These are just my observations from a smallish sample size. I could be wrong.

 

 

My wife and I have been together for 25 years. Married for 19. We have a 23 year old daughter.

 

I have never given my wife an allowance. To me it feels like giving an employee a salary. 

 

She had a job when we met, working in a photo copy booth. She wanted to keep her job. We then set up a small business together which grew in to a big business, thanks mainly to her hard work. At this point she did receive a salary but it was via the business and based on profit. 

 

She tends to save a lot of her money. She's never been into fashion, gold or buying stuff just for appearance.

 

I can't fault her work ethics, awareness of value of money or her outlook and awareness of preparing for the future.

 

I put that down to not having "salaried" her when we first got together. 

On 9/5/2025 at 7:50 AM, marin said:

What if you marry an educated professional with a great job and investment skills? I have bought my wife gifts, taken her on holidays but have never given or even thought about giving her an allowance. Over the course of our marriage she has bought land, condo's houses, and made wise investments on her own.

You won the lottery, or you living in a twilight zone with an alternative reality. 

 

I feel I won the lottery, but you certainly did

2 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

I'm not convinced women are ever happy.

 

 

Now that is a separate conversation altogether.....😆

16 minutes ago, sungod said:

All these thumbs down, didnt realise so many farangs were living in poverty here.  

The reactions are because you come over as a braggard...I give more than that to my kids.............living in poverty. I am glad you are happy with your financial arrangements. We here are possibly happier

1 minute ago, youreavinalaff said:

My wife and I have been together for 25 years. Married for 19. We have a 23 year old daughter.

 

I have never given my wife an allowance. To me it feels like giving an employee a salary. 

 

She had a job when we met, working in a photo copy booth. She wanted to keep her job. We then set up a small business together which grew in to a big business, thanks mainly to her hard work. At this point she did receive a salary but it was via the business and based on profit. 

 

She tends to save a lot of her money. She's never been into fashion, gold or buying stuff just for appearance.

 

I can't fault her work ethics, awareness of value of money or her outlook and awareness of preparing for the future.

 

I put that down to not having "salaried" her when we first got together. 

 

 

I think it is at least as much down to the person.

 

Mine gets an allowance because, despite her assurances that rice farming is profitable it never seemed to be enough to fund her expenditure.

On 9/5/2025 at 8:37 AM, MalcolmB said:

3k per month.

 

just out of interest related to the topic, how did you guys meet?

Gentleman’s rules in Thailand, you never ask where couples met! Mostly the obvious bar mongers is the ones who are interested in that matter, and no one else. 

 

In the circle of people I am regularly meeting up with, or my few friends I got in Thailand never asked that question, and never did I. If those people weren’t decent people, we wouldn’t be hanging out, and that’s whats really matter. Good decent respectful people who do not put their noses where it doesnt belong. 

5 minutes ago, KannikaP said:

The reactions are because you come over as a braggard...I give more than that to my kids.............living in poverty. I am glad you are happy with your financial arrangements. We here are possibly happier

 

6000 baht a month is domestic abuse, 

 

Send me a link to your go fund me page, I'll send over a few quid. 

9 minutes ago, hotandsticky said:

 

 

I think it is at least as much down to the person.

 

Mine gets an allowance because, despite her assurances that rice farming is profitable it never seemed to be enough to fund her expenditure.

I think helping with expenditure for a partner who is working is different to what the OP was on about.

 

Until our business was making good profits, maybe 2 years, I too helped out with the outgoings.

 

 

25 minutes ago, Hummin said:

I feel I won the lottery, but you certainly did

Yes I do realize it, but have always been attracted to smart women. 34 years and all is well. 

Just now, youreavinalaff said:

I think helping with expenditure for a partner who is working is different to what the OP was on about.

 

Until our business was making good profits, maybe 2 years, I too helped out with the outgoings.

 

 

 

 

Also, our relationships started differently. 

 

We did meet in a bar and at that time she was earning 8,000 Baht pm as a salary as night cashier. When our relationship developed I 'bought her out' of the bar and paid the same amount as an 'allowance'..... actually, she left when I started to increase my visits so, having done that, I paid the same.

 

I quickly discovered that paying 8,000 Baht pm did not last more than 20 days so a change to 2,000 Baht every Friday worked a lot better, Less than £30 pw in those days. When we had our business, the business paid + the occasional bonus.

 

19 years later that amount is 2,500 pw although I also allocate 500 pw to "Hotandsticky Bank" where she can either save accumulated funds - or use the 500 Baht to repay money borrowed from me. I wanted to instill a sense of value and have her making decisions on whether to spend her money on specific items. I rarely buy anything for her. 

 

She has accumulated a few baht of gold (from a 30k deficit when we met) plus a house and land worth 15m.

 

 

2 minutes ago, hotandsticky said:

 

 

Also, our relationships started differently. 

 

We did meet in a bar and at that time she was earning 8,000 Baht pm as a salary as night cashier. When our relationship developed I 'bought her out' of the bar and paid the same amount as an 'allowance'..... actually, she left when I started to increase my visits so, having done that, I paid the same.

 

I quickly discovered that paying 8,000 Baht pm did not last more than 20 days so a change to 2,000 Baht every Friday worked a lot better, Less than £30 pw in those days. When we had our business, the business paid + the occasional bonus.

 

19 years later that amount is 2,500 pw although I also allocate 500 pw to "Hotandsticky Bank" where she can either save accumulated funds - or use the 500 Baht to repay money borrowed from me. I wanted to instill a sense of value and have her making decisions on whether to spend her money on specific items. I rarely buy anything for her. 

 

She has accumulated a few baht of gold (from a 30k deficit when we met) plus a house and land worth 15m.

 

 

Spoken like a true bank manager. 🤣🤣🤣

 

Joking aside, I agree with your philosophies. The outcome, with regards to your partner's relationship with money, is very much the same as my wife's. 

 

I look forward to my wife providing me free bed and board in my retirement. 😁😁

A couple of overly vulgar posts were removed.

Hmm, too lazy to read 4 pages.

 

But me and Mrs G normal couple met at work in Singapore.

 

Our son not an oddity in Singapore, white guy some version of Asian wife not unusual.

 

Got a little bit weirder back in Thailand, which surprised me actually, quite a bit more judgemental

 

Our son didn't have a very good time at High School in Thailand he was ready to escape to College in Chicago, lived with his half sister, never looked back 

 

We couldn't ever shake the 'perception' of the white guy, thai woman stereotype

 

Trouble is walk through the mall and see the older farang with Thai woman half his age slopping through with a couple of rugrats reinforces the stereotype!