4 minutes ago, JakeC said:

@SAFETY FIRST I can safely confirm that you are already 'on the sauce' this good Sunday.

Agree, I reckon we've got a few here who are on the sauce 👍

Likelihood is that @Prubangboy doesn't have friends in high places. If he had friends, they might take care of it for him and not be bought off. If he doesn't he could pay and a counter deal could be done in so both sides pay.

I think that's why the advice is to leave it alone unless it's something serious.

 

1 hour ago, Hummin said:

👏

 

you know what they say when your life depends on it? If not sure, you are sure!  😉 First lesson from my skydiving instructor. 

 

So true. Again, and again this has proven true in life. If in doubt, there's something wrong.

3 hours ago, mordothailand said:

i doubt anyone who has rented half a dozen or more condos hasnt been stolen by land lord/lady in thailand

Garbage...you doubt wrong.  Never happened to me once in thirty-plus years of condo renting in thirteen properties

34 minutes ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

I've got this guys number if you want.

 

Inspector Cluso 

Wrong spelling of the name and wrong actor. 

2 hours ago, Cameroni said:

I hired the top and supposedly best private detective firm in the Philippines to check out one of my previous Filipinas.

 

They did interviews in the neighbourhood, went to her store, took photos of her and her mother and her house. On the basis of interviews with neighbours they did a report for me how she was supposedly of good character and still single.

 

Of course what they could not know is her online activity and her clandestine sex holidays with scores of foreign men

 

They charged 2000 dollars for this and it was completely useless.

That's Flippers for you.

@Cameroni You will ALWAYS be in doubt. It's the nature of the kind of relationships that you attempt to form. Almost wholly superficial and based on finance. Stop telling yourself that you are running on the same track as famous people. As they say...get real.

1 hour ago, JakeC said:

 If you are rich and want to stop someone unscrupulous getting a hold on your assets, that may be understandable. But you are not, so then hiring a detective is just really sad.

You are not a superstar actor nor anything like that. Instead of trying to get a hold on young girls who are simply not attracted to you, you should try to find someone who actually likes you. My humble opinion of course.

 

It's almost as if you've never been out with a woman. Every woman you are with will PRETEND to like you. Some are so good at it, you can't tell the difference. Just yesterday I was on a date with a beautiful 25 year old who lives locally. She came to make dinner with me and we watched Netflix. At no point did she give off any signs that she wanted physical contact, so I did not escalate things. She spoke excellent English and I really liked her. Anyway, because there is no aircon in my kitchen I was sweated like Chauncy Billups running from the FBI. The reason we were at my house was also because I had arranged to meet at a restaurant, which at a last minute due diligence check turned out to be a ladies bar as well as a restaurant. So I'd improvised and told her we were going to make dinner at my place and watch Netflix. As you can imagine this must have given out a vibe of incompetence, not to mention the fact I was sweated like a racehorse after cooking, and she, whilst being very talkative and pleasant, did not give any indications she wanted physical contact. So naturally, I'd assumed, that there was no chance of a second date. To my surprise she agreed to a second date and said she enjoyed meeting me and would like to see me again. So I can tell you now, there is often no chance to know what a girl really thinks about you.

 

Anyway, the detective had nothing to do with that. Things were getting serious and I did stood to lose some of my assets if I pursued things with her, which did actually happen, so I took the advice of my father to hire a private investigator. This was a colossal waste of money. For your information this girl was massively attracted to me, and stayed with me for 6 years. 

 

You really talk a load of crap, Jake.

1 hour ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

Can I just say, give it up mate, turn the page, these Thai girls are much smarter than most of the foreigners arriving in Thailand.

As are the PIs!

44 minutes ago, georgegeorgia said:

He should of used a real estate agent I guess than a private landlord

 

How does it work say in Bangkok if I'm paying a month bond / deposit on a apartment ?

Some of these on Pattaya want TWO months deposit 

So that's 500 baht at your favourite condo at Flybird.

1 hour ago, georgegeorgia said:

I called Scotland yard a few years ago on a farang who "accidentally" lost my luggage on arrival at his  little hotel guesthouse 

 

They called him in Thailand and he ended up paying compensation 

Of course you did.  And, of course, they did...nothing whatsoever to do with the UK police and they would have told you so. 

No @Cameroni No woman has ever taken me for anything. Also no one, no matter how long we had been together, ever requested anything on leaving.

Being attracted to someone and actually liking them as people aren't the same thing. Didn't you know that?

 

Someone who likes you. Someone who is attracted to you. One is forever and the other is superficial. 

People who choose solely on looks are doomed to fail, unless they keep paying.

Which is why I am still friends with most of my ex girlfriends.

One day you might learn the difference, but likely then you'll be too old and scrambling around to find someone who actually likes you. But it won't work, because your ways will be ingrained.

Someone here knows what I'm talking about. I don't need to say more than that.

 

4 minutes ago, JakeC said:

No woman has ever taken me for anything.

 

Of course, cause you've never gone out with a woman, and your "girlfriend" doesn't even live with you.

 

5 minutes ago, JakeC said:

Which is why I am still friends with most of my ex girlfriends.

 

Oh my God, I lost all respect for you.

 

5 minutes ago, JakeC said:

Someone who likes you. Someone who is attracted to you. One is forever and the other is superficial. 

 

You are so clueless, it's almost painful. Attraction is the FOUNDATION on which "likes" is built, without this foundation all the "likes" are pointless. If you are not attracted to her, and she's not attracted to you, you have precisely zero chance. You are totally out of your depth, don't give advice on women. 

2 hours ago, Cameroni said:

 

That's not what I meant. I meant HER online activity, her dating app profiles in fake names, her online messaging with other guys. It is not possible to "check" this online as even back then it was based on false names and was done in private. 

 

Of course had these detectives been able to access her mobile phone their report would have been rather different.

 

Thankfully, the truth always comes out, and she herself revealed what she was really like in due course. Obviously me checking her phone was also part of it.

obviously profile names change but if the photos are the same it's easy spotting her

1 hour ago, JakeC said:

 According to you, you have lots of money.

 

You need love, obviously.

 

True and true.  But so what?

 

He has stolen 4 other deposits. It's a mental illness situation, BPD or whatever.

 

Then he tried to take over the building board and now sues everyone for defamation -and they sue him back. I funded two other suits against him.

 

He enlisted a maintenance man to claim he was threatened, but it's just footage of someone talking to him. Silent footage.

 

On the witness stand (he didn't show) his lawyer kept demanding that I acknowledge a made up verbal agreement about paying a fee to have a plant on my balcony. That's the level of stupid we're talking about. No local lawyer will represent him. The new one is half a country away.

 

I haven't lived there in a year. I'm down $900 on a $1500 deposit, plus I had to fly back for the trial. At this point it's sort of a hobby. 

 

But he put a false name down on the legal filing, and tried to get me buy crypto-nonsense.  

 

So, just a skim of who he's sued and vice versa, and any police involvement would be useful for the siege I continue to mount from afar.

 

He doesn't know it's me paying for it all.

 

 

 

22 minutes ago, short-Timer said:

56 minutes ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

I've got this guys number if you want.

 

Inspector Cluso 

Wrong spelling of the name and wrong actor

I love you Nerdie guys, you catch me out everytime 😂

 

1 hour ago, connda said:

first and second apartment I cleaned so they were cleaner than when I arrived. They took my deposit

As a landlord, tenants cleaning standards vary, they all swear blind it's spotless, only small minority do it properly

11 hours ago, Cameroni said:

Every woman you are with will PRETEND to like you. Some are so good at it, you can't tell the difference. Just yesterday I was on a date with a beautiful 25

 

If there is a 40 year age gap, there is a greater chance that they are pretending to like you and you might need to keep looking over your shoulder.

 

51 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

he might also be a thug, or have friends who are thugs.

 

He's older and weaker than me. He has no juice.  

 

 

26 minutes ago, Cameroni said:

she, whilst being very talkative and pleasant, did not give any indications she wanted physical contact. So naturally, I'd assumed, that there was no chance of a second date

Any decent girl won't have sex on the first date, they learn it ruins things

@Cameroni You are so focussed on thinking that you can win the argument. There is no argument. I'm telling you what will happen.

Attraction can take many forms, as you should know. You might be attracted by someone's eyes, voice, body...That gets you to approach. but then you have to see if there is a foundation for a lasting relationship or whether you want to keep them around by paying for their time. I know which choice you make.

I can guarantee that I've met more beautiful girls and thrown them back into the ocean, than you have had beautiful girls. You are like a kid in a candy shop. 

Unlike yourself, I've spent a fair bit of time around the kind of celebrities about whom you fantasise. I don't fantasise, I prefer to keep it real and so have real relationships. I don't have to fork money out to be with them or pretend to be what I'm not. 

 

 

11 hours ago, scubascuba3 said:

Any decent girl won't have sex on the first date, they learn it ruins things

 

Only hookers or girls who are crazy or extremely desperate will have sex right away.

The crazy desperate one, you won't be able to get rid of her if you have sex too soon and then change your mind. 

 

@scubascuba3 Even the indecent ones know that.

7 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

 

If there is a 40 year age gap, there is a greater chance that they are pretending to like you and you might need to keep looking over your shoulder.

 

I am always happy to wander into the vissitudes of Thai dating with Cameroni.

 

I went out to the Robin Hood Pub with a 56 year old welder. Tiny, built, very accommodating, BUT she walks with Christ.

 

Just not 'avin' it. She told me her church is 80% women, but dead useless for our purposes.

11 hours ago, JakeC said:

I don't have to fork money out to be with them or pretend to be what I'm not. 

 

Do you buy them a birthday present at least? 

 

1 hour ago, JakeC said:

Likelihood is that @Prubangboy doesn't have friends in high places.

 

So you have high government officials you can just ring up. 

 

Do you ever introduce them to the (many) celebrities that you can just ring up for sex?

 

I see a business idea here.

14 minutes ago, JakeC said:

I can guarantee that I've met more beautiful girls and thrown them back into the ocean, than you have had beautiful girls.

Crikey, I'm looking in the mirror. 🪞

 

The oceans are filling quickly because of you and me. 

 

I feel your pain @Prubangboy But what outcome would you like? You need to think of that in the first instance. A realistic goal. 

 

What is his reason for withholding your deposit? That he doesn't like you? A plant on the balcony?

What I wrote is that unless you have someone in a high place as a personal friend, you'll need to make it worth their while to get involved. 50,000 baht doesn't go very far, plus you've already spent 20,000 of it according to you. If it's not a friend and you make it worth their while, he can use the money that he's stolen from you to lessen the impact. Plus there is the impact on your own being.

In your home country you would know what to do. Here, it's a bit more fluid. ALWAYS put your good health and peace of mind above money. 

He who fights and runs away, lives to fight another day. You don't have to fight every battle. Have there been talks about a settlement?

 

 

 

 

 

49 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

obviously profile names change but if the photos are the same it's easy spotting her

 

No, it's pointless. 

 

There are many dating sites for Filipinas, even asssuming you'd trawl through all of them and find her profile it's useless. I actually found one. She just said, oh yes, that's an old profile, she doesn't use it anymore.

 

And the point is rather that she was communicating with guys she'd met BEFORE me, so she would have taken down her profile on the dating app but she was still secretly texting these guys and writing to them by email.

 

Like I said, it's pointles.

@Prubangboy I have normal friends that I have met along the way. Precisely because they are friends, I would not consider to bother them unless there were no other choice.

I prefer to take care of things by myself 

@SAFETY FIRST The women I meet are your sisters and daughters. If I don't think I'm the best person for them, I let them go. I prefer to have a friend for life, than a shameful quicky behind the shed. A knee trembler we call them. Exciting, but as an adult you realise the consequences of such behaviour. Some people don't ever grow out of it and seek to replicate that 'high' throughout their lives.