Quick update about the cake shop girl, since a few people here told me to stop guessing and actually find out something. I decided to stop overthinking and just ask her out. Nothing fancy. I just said there is a new place nearby that does good iced drinks and asked if she wanted to go after her shift.

 

To my surprise she said yes without hesitating. We met that evening and it was actually really nice. She talks more outside of work, as I expected she might, and she is funny too, she keeps the conversation going, and I definitely felt a bit of a spark. At one point she touched my arm while she was laughing, and I thought that was a good sign. For a moment I thought I had been completely wrong about her being into women.

 

Then things turned a bit odd. When I suggested we grab dinner she suddenly changed. She said she needed to get home early. She looked a bit tense, like she wanted to leave but did not want to look rude. We walked to the BTS station together and she kept a bit of distance. Not awkward exactly but definitely acting different from how she had been earlier.

 

Now I am right back to square one I think. Either she realized I was interested and wanted to keep things just friendly only, or she actually is into women as I suspected earlier and the idea of it possibly shifting into something romantic made her uncomfortable. Or maybe I am just reading the whole thing wrong and she simply had to be somewhere.

 

I like her. I am curious. I do not want to make things uncomfortable for her or for myself though. At the same time I do not want to waste a lot of time on something that is never going to go evolve.

 

So here is the question. Should I try asking her out again to see if she opens up more the second time, or should I take that sudden shift in her behavior as a quiet signal that she is not interested at all in another meeting.

2 hours ago, 123Stodg said:

Should I try asking her out again to see if she opens up more the second time

 

Asking costs nothing, besides maybe some drinks or dinner. If she was fun to be around with, why not?

Maybe she was thinking dinner was going to lead to sex which is too fast, but who knows.

 

Yes ask her for dinner, if she says no, move on, no worries

Yes, why not ask!!

4 hours ago, 123Stodg said:

funny too, she keeps the conversation going, and I definitely felt a bit of a spark. At one point she touched my arm while she was laughing

I get the same result from the chicks I drink beer with after meeting them at 7-Eleven's. 

 

4 hours ago, 123Stodg said:

Went out with the cake shop girl 

You are meeting chicks working in a cake shop, what are you doing in a cake shop? 

 

How's your physique, are you fit and healthy? 

Go to the gym lots of fit girls there. 

 

 

Get in shape first, then chat with chicks. 

 

28 minutes ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

I get the same result from the chicks I drink beer with after meeting them at 7-Eleven's. 

 

You are meeting chicks working in a cake shop, what are you doing in a cake shop? 

 

How's your physique, are you fit and healthy? 

Go to the gym lots of fit girls there. 

 

 

Get in shape first, then chat with chicks. 

 

Thai gyms are fake as hell, not to mention expensive.

 

Full of wannabe insta idols and smartphone addicts..

 

Eric.

Assuming you have her LINE—always a good starter (what’s your LINE?)—I’d just message a bit and see how that goes. Asking outright is very forward one one one with ‘normal’ Thai girls… assuming she is normal. 🙂

12 minutes ago, Stressed Eric said:

Thai gyms are fake as hell, not to mention expensive.

 

Full of wannabe insta idols and smartphone addicts..

 

Eric.

Sounds like you’ve never had the pleasure, ‘Eric’, of bagging a gym girl. Or avoid the fit ones coz they show you up? 😋

Cake girl also goes to the gym for all we know. 

20 minutes ago, Stressed Eric said:

Thai gyms are fake as hell, not to mention expensive.

 

Full of wannabe insta idols and smartphone addicts..

 

Eric.

Gyms in all countries have fake girls, you can tell them from the normal chicks.

 

The Instagram etc. fake, weird chicks have a tripod set up. 

 

6 minutes ago, daveAustin said:

Sounds like you’ve never had the pleasure, ‘Eric’, of bagging a gym girl. Or avoid the fit ones coz they show you up? 😋

Cake girl also goes to the gym for all we know. 

Ive bagged loads.

 

They were all fake as hell.

 

Eric.

4 hours ago, 123Stodg said:

Should I try asking her out again to see if she opens up more the second time, or should I take that sudden shift in her behavior as a quiet signal that she is not interested at all in another meeting.

A perceived sudden change in demeanor doesn’t mean anything, she didn’t expect dinner and you didn’t know what she had planned that evening. Though sending her a message that evening letting her know that you enjoyed the time with her would go a long way. Ask her out again and ask other women out, you obviously need the experience of understanding that women are people too.

Perhaps she had another engagement, but really wanted to say 'yes' to you, but having to say 'no,' she may think you may NOT ask her again now. May reject her.
Ask her out. The worst that happens is she says 'no thanks.'
A bit of an ego hit, but not the end of the world, right? 

Ask her.

18 minutes ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

Gyms in all countries have fake girls, you can tell them from the normal chicks.

 

The Instagram etc. fake, weird chicks have a tripod set up. 

 

Exactly, they're the ones who spend more time looking in the mirror and takin' selfies. They don't know what breaking sweat is! 

Give me a 7-11 girl any day of the week.

5 hours ago, 123Stodg said:

Quick update about the cake shop girl, since a few people here told me to stop guessing and actually find out something. I decided to stop overthinking and just ask her out. Nothing fancy. I just said there is a new place nearby that does good iced drinks and asked if she wanted to go after her shift.

 

To my surprise she said yes without hesitating. We met that evening and it was actually really nice. She talks more outside of work, as I expected she might, and she is funny too, she keeps the conversation going, and I definitely felt a bit of a spark. At one point she touched my arm while she was laughing, and I thought that was a good sign. For a moment I thought I had been completely wrong about her being into women.

 

Then things turned a bit odd. When I suggested we grab dinner she suddenly changed. She said she needed to get home early. She looked a bit tense, like she wanted to leave but did not want to look rude. We walked to the BTS station together and she kept a bit of distance. Not awkward exactly but definitely acting different from how she had been earlier.

 

Now I am right back to square one I think. Either she realized I was interested and wanted to keep things just friendly only, or she actually is into women as I suspected earlier and the idea of it possibly shifting into something romantic made her uncomfortable. Or maybe I am just reading the whole thing wrong and she simply had to be somewhere.

 

I like her. I am curious. I do not want to make things uncomfortable for her or for myself though. At the same time I do not want to waste a lot of time on something that is never going to go evolve.

 

So here is the question. Should I try asking her out again to see if she opens up more the second time, or should I take that sudden shift in her behavior as a quiet signal that she is not interested at all in another meeting.

You like her but you are terrified of her. Something is wrong with this picture. You don’t know her well enough to like her and you think you want to be with her but you are scared. Sounds like a disastrous ending .

6 hours ago, 123Stodg said:

 So here is the question. Should I try asking her out again to see if she opens up more the second time, or should I take that sudden shift in her behavior as a quiet signal that she is not interested at all in another meeting.

I assume you're an adult? Why do you need to ask us?

You've met the woman, we haven't - ask her yourself.

Maybe that is one of the things that may have put her off you.

Perhaps a lack of awareness, confidence, personality, charm, body odour, bad breath, bad language - BG language?

Been there before? Your problem - not ours. Next time - just stick with buying a cake?

But I am curious.

 

Why do you thing she prefers women?

I understand why she might not prefer you - but why would you think that it is because she prefers women?

47 minutes ago, BenCrew said:

Exactly, they're the ones who spend more time looking in the mirror and takin' selfies. They don't know what breaking sweat is! 

Give me a 7-11 girl any day of the week.

I only go to the gym to film a quick workout for TikTok.

5 hours ago, BenCrew said:

Give me a 7-11 girl any day of the week.

Shout out to the 7 girls. Some lookers about and hard workers. They can count too, which is not entirely a good thing I guess. 🤔

I forgot to mention that she had shown me some semi-nude photos of herself on her phone when we met. They were very tasteful, not degrading at all, and appeared almost as if they were professionally done. She looked great in the photos I must say. But I do kind of wonder why she showed them to me. 

14 hours ago, Stressed Eric said:

Ive bagged loads.

 

They were all fake as hell.

 

Eric.

Try North Korea

if you like her company, suggest another meeting, a park or anything really

15 hours ago, Stressed Eric said:

Ive bagged loads.

 

Well done, bob. Nice to see you are still doing your part to support the ladyboy sex worker community.

4 hours ago, 123Stodg said:

I forgot to mention that she had shown me some semi-nude photos of herself on her phone when we met. They were very tasteful, not degrading at all, and appeared almost as if they were professionally done. She looked great in the photos I must say. But I do kind of wonder why she showed them to me. 

Can't trust photos these days, probably AI enhanced