I know the mods might think I am being morbid, I am not. So, please don't close this thread.

When my grandfather died I spoke at his funeral. It was kind of large. A lot of people. I always knew he knew a lot of people. He was a man about town with a good word for everyone. I would be hard pressed to find someone who would speak ill of the man. So, many people to see him off, on a cold windy and wet day. They didn't mind, the walked out into the graveyard and got wet and froze while we placed him in the dirt.

This is a good thing right? Look at the effect he had on all those who he came in contact with. I think we are raised to believe the more people that show up to bury you the better, right? Even as a grown man with a family of my own I couldn't help but feel like a kid when I thought of the influence my Grandfather had even in death. So, what if no one comes or very few people come? Is this sad? Is this something that reflects poorly on you? Does this mean not many loved you? If I can feel my heart swell that so many people wanted to pay their respects to 'my' Grandfather, what would my kids feel if only they showed up to my funeral?

I am guess I am asking does the number of people matter at the end? Does this mean you lived a better life that so many people respected you? Is this a better memory to leave behind for your children? I know many will say no, it's quality that counts, but then why are we sad for others when only a handful show up to bury them, or in some cases....no one?

Like I said I am not being morbid. I know many people right now who have loved ones dying. They won't make the new year. I know many of these people as well. It makes me think the image you leave behind is very important. I want my kids to look up to me and I would like it if they felt what I felt when I buried my Grandfather. His was a good life, a respected life and and well lived life. There is nothing to be sad about, it was just time to say good-bye.

Where ever you guys this Holiday season, Thailand or somewhere in the western wilderness take care of yourselves and each other, for I already know how many is more important while we are here.

Love & Respect all

Thaibebop

My Father died at the age of 39. Absolutely loads of people turned up, too many to count. But he was fairly young and all the people he knew where still youngish and alive. If someone dies at the age of say 95, they have probably outlived most, if not all of their friends, so the majority of those at the funeral will probably be sons, daughters, grandchildren etc.

What i am saying is, the older you live, the higher the probability you will have a smaller audience.

My Father died at the age of 39. Absolutely loads of people turned up, too many to count. But he was fairly young and all the people he knew where still youngish and alive. If someone dies at the age of say 95, they have probably outlived most, if not all of their friends, so the majority of those at the funeral will probably be sons, daughters, grandchildren etc.

What i am saying is, the older you live, the higher the probability you will have a smaller audience.

That's true. My Grandfather was 83. He stayed very active.

A friend of ours died at the age of 24. They had to hire a civic hall that sat 300 for the funeral. It was packed to the doors! I actually wondered why how many were there? What had this young girl do to effect so many? I suppose we perceive that a larger number is 'a good send off'!

I don't think I'll worry too much if not many people turn up at my funeral, but yes the way you live life affects those around you, even when you are gone.

So play nice people

I don't think its the numbers that matter but rather the opinions held of the deceased.

I don't care if anyone shows up at my funeral and I don't care what people think about me mostly. People mostly have such low standards that it seems foolish to me that I should try to live to their standards. If you think that most people have high standards then just look at who gets elected.....and I mean EVERYWHERE IN THE WORLD look who gets elected or supported to be in power.....as I was saying....mostly people have such low standards...look at who get's elected, look at the bigotry, look at the greed..... and then tell me that I should care what most people think about me.....hahahhahahahahah...you must be joking.

Chownah

Hopefully every person who has caused me hardship of any kind in my life attends my funeral - just so I can come back from the grave and scare them all to death.....

Personally, I ******* hate funerals and hopefully don't have to attend my own.....

Instant vaporisation at the critical moment between the doors....

Just play some music that people can dance to.