Does Your Thai Wife Do This...

[connda]

What a wonderful day yesterday. Me and the Misses head to the Mall for lunch and some shopping. Wife is happy and chatting away about this and that. Lovely day all around, and in the evening we take a motorcycle ride around the city on a warm and balmy evening. Ahhh! Life is good in Thailand with the woman you love.

When we get home, wife heads for the shower before retiring to bed. 15 minutes later she appears from the shower:

Wife: <angry> "I not go play water with you and your friends this Songkran!"

Me: "Humm! Why not Sweetie, they're your friends too."

Wife: "You no play water with me last Songkran. I lose whole year!!!"

Me: <confused> "Ok"

Wife: <silence>

This morning:

Wife: <silence>

This afternoon:

Wife: <more silence>

I'm expecting two or three more days of silence, which I really don't mind.

Interesting though...I distinctly remember being sick last Songkran. I was recovering from Dengue, and really didn't feel like doing much of anything. Seems she has a selective memory. And a year later out of the blue. Gotta love Thai women

[cardholder]

I presume that it wasn't her first shower since last Songkran, so I am intrigued to know why it has taken almost 11 months for her to bite you on this one

[chrisinth]

So how do you get them to be quiet for so long again?

[connda]

So how do you get them to be quiet for so long again?

Find a way to piss her off without knowing you pissed her off.

[David48]

Ahhh ... a wonderful example of the renown Thai Sulk ... not to be confused with the renown Thai Silk.

You seem to have the required temperament to outlast it.

Note to self ... remember to play water with the gf this Songkran

[Sing_Sling]

That's how you communicate?

[connda]

That's how you communicate?

That's how she communicates. I'll just be jai yen and mee kwam suk until she pulls her head out, so to speak.

[connda]

Ahhh ... a wonderful example of the renown Thai Sulk ... not to be confused with the renown Thai Silk.

You seem to have the required temperament to outlast it.

Note to self ... remember to play water with the gf this Songkran

Thank God she doesn't stick her lower lip out and give me the Thai Pout. I just get the furrowed eyebrows, down-turned lips, and silence. More like the Thai Serious Face. Probably has to do with her being over 50. The Thai Pout seems to be a younger girl's method. I see it on Thai soap opera all the time!!!

[villagefarang]

No, I can’t say that has ever happened in our 14+ years together. Communication never seems to be a problem.

[Soutpeel]

I waiting for someone to pipe in that the OP shouldnt have married a bargirl...

[Naam]

I waiting for someone to pipe in that the OP shouldnt have married a bargirl...

you mean then the stories he can tell us are less boring?

[Ijustwannateach]

I understand how it seems like the story is out of the blue, Connda- but as a suggestion, considering her age and what she said- perhaps she is feeling insecure about getting older? I mean, I don't know either of you so it may be that this is completely unhelpful advice, but perhaps you could do/say something to reassure here about the 'real' topic, which is her getting older, while ignoring the trivial thing that set her off. Maybe buy her some flowers and remind her of how much longer you both have, etc., etc..... just a thought.

[connda]

I understand how it seems like the story is out of the blue, Connda- but as a suggestion, considering her age and what she said- perhaps she is feeling insecure about getting older? I mean, I don't know either of you so it may be that this is completely unhelpful advice, but perhaps you could do/say something to reassure here about the 'real' topic, which is her getting older, while ignoring the trivial thing that set her off. Maybe buy her some flowers and remind her of how much longer you both have, etc., etc..... just a thought.

Good advice. She actually is dealing with (drum roll)...menopause! Hormone roller-coaster~~~~~ She actually called me up and asked me to buy her an Ice Coffee. Maybe she just "broke the ice" on the silent treatment. I'll toss a rose in and see what happens.

[connda]

I waiting for someone to pipe in that the OP shouldnt have married a bargirl...

you mean then the stories he can tell us are less boring?

Sorry for boring -- you obviously haven't been married for as long as I have. Ha ha ha!

[theblether]

I understand how it seems like the story is out of the blue, Connda- but as a suggestion, considering her age and what she said- perhaps she is feeling insecure about getting older? I mean, I don't know either of you so it may be that this is completely unhelpful advice, but perhaps you could do/say something to reassure here about the 'real' topic, which is her getting older, while ignoring the trivial thing that set her off. Maybe buy her some flowers and remind her of how much longer you both have, etc., etc..... just a thought.

A very thoughtful and tender post IJWT, but no, the silence is worth it.

[hellodolly]

Now if I can get her t stop watching the TV soaps it will be great.

[farangme]

Try telling her "sorry", even if you don't think you've done anything wrong. In her mind you have. My wife waits to hear those words, and then she's all better. I don't think its a Thai thing, as much as a woman thing.

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[thenervoussurgeon]

Actualy my wife and i speak to each other properly ,not in pidgeon english

Edited March 5, 2012 by thenervoussurgeon

[cardholder]

Try telling her "sorry", even if you don't think you've done anything wrong. In her mind you have. My wife waits to hear those words, and then she's all better. I don't think its a Thai thing, as much as a woman thing.

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I think it's a "Man Thing" - apologise just in case you are wrong - because you probably are.

[onionluke]

Why don't you try communicating with a similar tone of voice ,

" you no lose all year , me lose all time , me pay water money , you shower many many time , why you ab nam mak mak , you very bad heart , no more powder you take all " .

just say it with a smile .

[GreenSnapper]

Wife: <silence>

This morning:

Wife: <silence>

This afternoon:

Wife: <more silence>

I'm expecting two or three more days of silence, which I really don't mind.

I have had girlfriends who behaved similar.

They didn't last for long.

But each wanted to come back.

[Soutpeel]

just say it with a smile .

and maybe say it in English or Thai while your at it

[transam]

Wife: <silence>

This morning:

Wife: <silence>

This afternoon:

Wife: <more silence>

I'm expecting two or three more days of silence, which I really don't mind.

I have had girlfriends who behaved similar.

They didn't last for long.

But each wanted to come back.

You got the shower fixed ?

[Thaddeus]

It could have just been a dream.

Did she walk out of the shower looking like Bobby Ewing?

[chops]

My wife gives me the silent treatment when she's angry with me. Most of the time it is about something extremely petty such as my shirt being dirty . Seems to go away in about a day.

[ludditeman]

Try telling her "sorry", even if you don't think you've done anything wrong. In her mind you have. My wife waits to hear those words, and then she's all better. I don't think its a Thai thing, as much as a woman thing.

I agree it's a woman thing.

I disagree that a man should apologise for something in her mind.

I usually go out with the boys and get drunk when mine plays this game, amazing how quickly they forget whatever it was, when they thing you are considering taking a 'mia noi'.

[chrisinth]

So how do you get them to be quiet for so long again?

Find a way to piss her off without knowing you pissed her off.

Doesn't happen much. I always do what i want when she wants...................... Still never shuts her up, my little coiled cobra

[KarenBravo]

Actualy my wife and i speak to each other properly ,not in pidgeon english

That's impossible. You couldn't possible know pidgeon English as that is only spoken by the birds in Trafalgar Square in London.

Do you mean Pidgin English?

[englishinsiam]

Actualy my wife and i speak to each other properly ,not in pidgeon english

That's impossible. You couldn't possible know pidgeon English as that is only spoken by the birds in Trafalgar Square in London.

Do you mean Pidgin English?

My God some people are Pedantic.....

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[IanForbes]

Does your Thai wife do this?

Why yes she does, but only when she's with me.