What'S With Farangs & Their Thai Gfs Holding Hands All The Time

[Johnniey]

So many generalisations going on here.

I think we should consider all as individuals, BG's and Falangs alike.

I was lucky enough to find a non BG lady who had 2 children to her past useless Thai boy - I am not obese but I am far older than her.

Why do you think you are lucky to find a non BG lady? There are millions in this country.

If one frequents brothel - bars, then the likelyhood of hooking up with a bar-prostitute is high.

Surely her having 2 children already is very unlucky?

I do not think so - I have been married 3 times before and have a number of children

Funny people on this site.... I have plenty of cash we have a great relationship, the kids call me paw - she was not a hooker.

I have had a number of BG's over a number of years - I prefer this lady - so what is your problem.

Been burnt before, cannot handle the rejection, not enough funds???

Who said anything about cash? I have no problem. Never been burnt by a bar girl. Got enough funds. My kids call me Dad -

Amazing how old sexpats(or maybe recovering in your case) think that their money has nothing to do with their relationship.

[transam]

So many generalisations going on here.

I think we should consider all as individuals, BG's and Falangs alike.

I was lucky enough to find a non BG lady who had 2 children to her past useless Thai boy - I am not obese but I am far older than her.

Why do you think you are lucky to find a non BG lady? There are millions in this country.

If one frequents brothel - bars, then the likelyhood of hooking up with a bar-prostitute is high.

Surely her having 2 children already is very unlucky?

I do not think so - I have been married 3 times before and have a number of children

Funny people on this site.... I have plenty of cash we have a great relationship, the kids call me paw - she was not a hooker.

I have had a number of BG's over a number of years - I prefer this lady - so what is your problem.

Been burnt before, cannot handle the rejection, not enough funds???

Who said anything about cash? I have no problem. Never been burnt by a bar girl. Got enough funds. My kids call me Dad -

Amazing how old sexpats(or maybe recovering in your case) think that their money has nothing to do with their relationship.

Same as yours perhaps eh.

[metisdead]

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[F1fanatic]

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Sorry - off topic I know, but I doubt it was deliberate.

Many is the time I've tried to reply to a post only to find I've a 'different number of opening and closing tags' or something... Trying to get rid of some posts to correct the problem, I have ended up with my post in the wrong 'block'!

[Johnniey]

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Sorry - off topic I know, but I doubt it was deliberate.

Many is the time I've tried to reply to a post only to find I've a 'different number of opening and closing tags' or something... Trying to get rid of some posts to correct the problem, I have ended up with my post in the wrong 'block'!

It was deliberate as I didn't know it was against the rules.

[BigJohnnyBKK]

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You’ll find the law disagrees with you on the buying selling sex part. On long term companionship, I think everyone agrees with you IF the companionship is genuine.

IMO the law is a very poor guide to personal ethics, usually irrelevant to and in fact often in opposition to true morality.

Unlike love, companionship is something that can be bought, its value is purely in the eye of the beholder.

Something’s however happy they make the man are simply wrong, and with the exception of very few circumstances

I have no idea what you're trying to say here, are you a NES?

the woman is only making this choice for financial reasons. Very rarely would a woman of financially independent standing find herself with a much older man.

Yes, obviously. I was talking about a purely transactional relationship, and in an honest one both parties are completely clear about getting what they want, and again, nothing wrong with that.

[BigJohnnyBKK]

And given sufficient availability the man would likely prefer to be with better looking women. In most cases all he gets is youth and woman who’s features remotely resemble that of a primate (apparently I’m not allowed to use the splay-toed comment).

Even more despicable characterisation IMO, you may prefer the tall white-skinned "classic Thai-Chinese" look, personally that makes me puke. Comparing the SOs of those who prefer small dark-skinned upcountry girls to monkeys is absolutely obscene; please stop.

[NovaBlue05]

It's BG initiated and is BG Code to other BG's who might be circling in the waters that the customer is hers.

[GreenSnapper]

It's BG initiated and is BG Code to other BG's who might be circling in the waters that the customer is hers.

There must be a lot of Thai men with BGs, because I see the handholding every day in Bangkok....

[BigJohnnyBKK]

I had a look around as I was walking in Bangkok yesterday - went to a large temple, then a fair/market thing.

Counted over thirty Thai M-F couples holding hands, not another farang in sight.

No one was looking at them, pointing and whispering, not even raised eyebrows.

Oh the terrible influence of all those primate BGs.

[2unique]

I had a look around as I was walking in Bangkok yesterday - went to a large temple, then a fair/market thing.

Counted over thirty Thai M-F couples holding hands, not another farang in sight.

No one was looking at them, pointing and whispering, not even raised eyebrows.

Oh the terrible influence of all those primate BGs.

The nature of Monkey is IRREPRESSIBLE!!

Monkey Magic!!

Sent from Android, please excuse errors in type or judgement.

[Soutpeel]

Even more despicable characterisation IMO, you may prefer the tall white-skinned "classic Thai-Chinese" look, personally that makes me puke.

Why is that Johnny ?...are they taller than you without their high heels on or something...inferiority complex or something.... hence having to name yourself "big" to make yourself feel better...?

[mjj]

Meh, you want to hold hands? Go ahead. You want to display affection in public? Go ahead. You want to marry her? Go ahead. She did what before? It's Ok. You are both happy? Well done.

Live and let live my friends.

[StreetCowboy]

Even more despicable characterisation IMO, you may prefer the tall white-skinned "classic Thai-Chinese" look, personally that makes me puke.

Why is that Johnny ?...are they taller than you without their high heels on or something...inferiority complex or something.... hence having to name yourself "big" to make yourself feel better...?

How do you guys keep track of the points you score off each other? Is there a forum software function to do this of which I'm not aware?

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[Johnniey]

I had a look around as I was walking in Bangkok yesterday - went to a large temple, then a fair/market thing.

Counted over thirty Thai M-F couples holding hands, not another farang in sight.

No one was looking at them, pointing and whispering, not even raised eyebrows.

Oh the terrible influence of all those primate BGs.

I find this hard to believe, although it's 17 years since I lived in Bangkok.

Holding hands in a temple?????????????

[richard_smith237]

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And given sufficient availability the man would likely prefer to be with better looking women. In most cases all he gets is youth and woman who’s features remotely resemble that of a primate (apparently I’m not allowed to use the splay-toed comment).

Even more despicable characterisation IMO, you may prefer the tall white-skinned "classic Thai-Chinese" look, personally that makes me puke. Comparing the SOs of those who prefer small dark-skinned upcountry girls to monkeys is absolutely obscene; please stop.

You have made assumption that the women I described originate from up-country (which is where by the way?)

Who’s despicable ?... (Oh, and what is a NES ?).

You have fallen foul of your own stereotyping….

I have identified that [in most cases all he gets is youth and woman who’s features remotely resemble that of a primate]…. you assume I’m talking about up country women !

Many of the ‘upcountry girls’ as you call them are stunningly gorgeous, and Thailand has a wealth of extremely beautiful ladies who originate from all of its provinces, this is not in debate. I rarely see these stunners with the much older men as they themselves have better options.

As such it is those who have ‘taken the fall from the ugly tree hitting every branch on the way down and landing face first’ who appear to lack options and have taken up companionship with those of significantly greater seniority or physical contrast. Those that I see being paraded up and down Sukhumvit anyhow....

Now, the esteemed members of Thaivisa.com should not be taking personal offence at any off this as they do not parade their splay-t...No, ok.. genetically unfortunate slice of youth hand in hand up and down lower Sukhumvit road... Do they?...

Edited June 5, 2012 by richard_smith237

[mca]

Why do you think you are lucky to find a non BG lady? There are millions in this country.

If one frequents brothel - bars, then the likelyhood of hooking up with a bar-prostitute is high.

Surely her having 2 children already is very unlucky?

How so unlucky? Nothing wrong with taking care of your SO's children from a previous marriage, most admirable that a guy's willing to treat them as his own. The way the Thais do it here as if genetics are the basis for love is despicable why would you go along with that?

Nothing wrong with it but a big handicap IMO. Something I couldn't/wouldn't do. Sometimes it may be admirable but mostly from what I have experienced it's stupidity/ignorance. The farang doesn't know how unwanted the divorced woman with kids is in this culture. He is stupid enough to believe her ridiculous story that she prefers farang as they are faithful or they have a bigger penis. The reality is that she is desperate and has probably resorted to desperate means like joining a farang-finding-web site or moving to Pattaya. She is over 30 and will spend the rest of her life along bringing up her kids. Not one decent Thai man will hook up with her. There is ONE last chance of an easy life - find a gullible farang. Come on guys wake up to reality.

In the West it wouldn't be such a devastating handicap but in Thailand with the cultural differences it's relationship suicide. Especially if the step-kid is a boy.

I love the "Thai Culture By Numbers" wanke_ry that TVF posters come up with sometimes. I personally know of 4 Thai blokes who're married to divorcees with a kid/ kids. I attended one's stepson's ordination as a monk the other week and a more proud father you couldn't hope to meet. They obviously don't read TVF. That'd soon put them straight as to what mugs they were. Or not.

Edited June 5, 2012 by mca

[Soutpeel]

"Thai Culture By Numbers" wanke_ry

love it... .........needs to go into TV pinned dictionary of common words and phrases used on TV

Can we also include.."flat nosed and splayed toed" as well......

[richard_smith237]

Why do you think you are lucky to find a non BG lady? There are millions in this country.

If one frequents brothel - bars, then the likelyhood of hooking up with a bar-prostitute is high.

Surely her having 2 children already is very unlucky?

How so unlucky? Nothing wrong with taking care of your SO's children from a previous marriage, most admirable that a guy's willing to treat them as his own. The way the Thais do it here as if genetics are the basis for love is despicable why would you go along with that?

Nothing wrong with it but a big handicap IMO. Something I couldn't/wouldn't do. Sometimes it may be admirable but mostly from what I have experienced it's stupidity/ignorance. The farang doesn't know how unwanted the divorced woman with kids is in this culture. He is stupid enough to believe her ridiculous story that she prefers farang as they are faithful or they have a bigger penis. The reality is that she is desperate and has probably resorted to desperate means like joining a farang-finding-web site or moving to Pattaya. She is over 30 and will spend the rest of her life along bringing up her kids. Not one decent Thai man will hook up with her. There is ONE last chance of an easy life - find a gullible farang. Come on guys wake up to reality.

In the West it wouldn't be such a devastating handicap but in Thailand with the cultural differences it's relationship suicide. Especially if the step-kid is a boy.

I love the "Thai Culture By Numbers" wanke_ry that TVF posters come up with sometimes. I personally know of 4 Thai blokes who're married to divorcees with a kid/ kids. I attended one's stepson's ordination as a monk the other week and a more proud father you couldn't hope to meet. They obviously don't read TVF. That'd soon put them straight as to what mugs they were. Or not.

I too know a number of Thai couples whereby the man has married or is dating a lady who has children from a previous marriage.

However, the ladies in question are from what may be considered in Thailand a desirable social background (i.e. well educated and financially independent). The guys in question are in a mutually agreeable and respectful relationship rather than one of a requirement for financial security on the part of the lady.

[mca]

The nature of Monkey is IRREPRESSIBLE!!

Monkey Magic!!

Well there's a keyboard intro rift that's going to be playing on a loop through my head now all day.

[johnboy3739w]

i always hold my g/f's hand.....

can't see why the op has such an issue....

[Soutpeel]

i always hold my g/f's hand.....

can't see why the op has such an issue....

Is this to ensure she dosnt have her hand in your wallet...

[mca]

i always hold my g/f's hand.....

can't see why the op has such an issue....

Yeah I always used to hold my granny's hand in public. The problem was she died 3 years before I was born.

Bloody police and judicial system. Haven't they got nothing better to do than give me grief?

[Bagwan]

Why do you think you are lucky to find a non BG lady? There are millions in this country.

If one frequents brothel - bars, then the likelyhood of hooking up with a bar-prostitute is high.

Surely her having 2 children already is very unlucky?

How so unlucky? Nothing wrong with taking care of your SO's children from a previous marriage, most admirable that a guy's willing to treat them as his own. The way the Thais do it here as if genetics are the basis for love is despicable why would you go along with that?

Nothing wrong with it but a big handicap IMO. Something I couldn't/wouldn't do. Sometimes it may be admirable but mostly from what I have experienced it's stupidity/ignorance. The farang doesn't know how unwanted the divorced woman with kids is in this culture. He is stupid enough to believe her ridiculous story that she prefers farang as they are faithful or they have a bigger penis. The reality is that she is desperate and has probably resorted to desperate means like joining a farang-finding-web site or moving to Pattaya. She is over 30 and will spend the rest of her life along bringing up her kids. Not one decent Thai man will hook up with her. There is ONE last chance of an easy life - find a gullible farang. Come on guys wake up to reality.

In the West it wouldn't be such a devastating handicap but in Thailand with the cultural differences it's relationship suicide. Especially if the step-kid is a boy.

Is it only in Thailand? Where I come from we are taught that blood is thicker than water, especially water from lands abroad.

Blood is thicker than water? That is right up there in the BS stakes with "Do not ask what your country can do for you but ask what you can do for your country'. Many a Vietnam vet sees right through that crap as do those many ex UK squadies who are now suffering with chronic complaints through their exposure to the use of 'dirty' ammunition in the Gulf Wars. There is no shortage of UK pensioner ex-pats here whose pensions have been frozen because they had the termerity to leave though being unable to stand the garbage dump and Nanny state their country has degenerated into. So much for past heritage and blood ties.

There is nothing logical in the supposition that states you have to be on good terms with anybody just because you shared the same parents - and the number of adolescents who end up hating their parents is sizeable. I left home at the age of 15 years and joined the RN to get away from my kith and kin. They were all beavering away buggering up their lives and I wasn't going to hang around and have the same happen to me.

[Bagwan]

Thai girls like to hold your hand because it's one step closer to your wallet !

As a side; my Thai Father in law is 89 years old and if he sees any couple holding hands, or showing any kind of physical contact, he shows disgust and says 'They should only do that kind of thing indoors' .

Does he cover up the table legs in case they inflame animal passions?

[GentlemanJim]

You know, here in Thailand Thais are generally pretty reserved when it comes to public displays of affection, so it stands out when Falangs and their significant others walk around constantly holding hands. To me, it also looks rather childish, especially in the case of elderly men holding hands with middle-aged or younger women.

My wife and I have been together for 10 years, married for 6, she is not a bar girl and I have never been in a pub with bar girls, we are very much in love with one another and we hold hands all the time, with each other and with our children. We are a family. To be honest it's non of your business really is it, otherwise where do you draw the line as to how far you go in the invasion of other peoples privacy. Worry about more important things and stop trying to turn a short fall or an inadequacy in your own relationship in to a fault with other well meaning happy people. Why always looking for the negative side of things, you know some people out there really are just happy.

Underneath your Avtar it says, Oil Consultant, Proud Father. Perhaps you should try being a Proud Husband.

[richard_smith237]

You know, here in Thailand Thais are generally pretty reserved when it comes to public displays of affection, so it stands out when Falangs and their significant others walk around constantly holding hands. To me, it also looks rather childish, especially in the case of elderly men holding hands with middle-aged or younger women.

My wife and I have been together for 10 years, married for 6, she is not a bar girl and I have never been in a pub with bar girls, we are very much in love with one another and we hold hands all the time, with each other and with our children. We are a family. To be honest it's non of your business really is it, otherwise where do you draw the line as to how far you go in the invasion of other peoples privacy. Worry about more important things and stop trying to turn a short fall or an inadequacy in your own relationship in to a fault with other well meaning happy people. Why always looking for the negative side of things, you know some people out there really are just happy.

Underneath your Avtar it says, Oil Consultant, Proud Father. Perhaps you should try being a Proud Husband.

How could you assume there is an inadequacy in his relationship? playing the amateur psychologist serves no purpose other than as a ill thought out personal attack.

Good luck to you and your family that is lovely take a nice tale, I'm sure many if not most people in Thailand see your public display of comfort and happiness and smile.

But, what xthAi76s wrote is fairly accurate in my opinion. In general Thai's are rather reserved when it comes to publics shows of affection, a miss-matched couple do draw attention especially when holding hands, it just looks odd.

I don't care either way, but I also don't pretend that my attention isn't drawn to it. But, people have the right to live their lives in happiness so long as it doesn't hurt or offend those around them. So, good luck to all the hand-holders, whatever age. But, don't pretend its normal, or the social norm, or that Thai's won't pass comment 'in the case of elderly men holding hands with middle-aged or younger women'... They do, I've heard it and seen it enough times...

Edited June 5, 2012 by richard_smith237

[samsiam]

I would like to hold my wifes hands...but she drags them along the ground.

[StreetCowboy]

OK. Now what about skipping...

[GentlemanJim]

You know, here in Thailand Thais are generally pretty reserved when it comes to public displays of affection, so it stands out when Falangs and their significant others walk around constantly holding hands. To me, it also looks rather childish, especially in the case of elderly men holding hands with middle-aged or younger women.

My wife and I have been together for 10 years, married for 6, she is not a bar girl and I have never been in a pub with bar girls, we are very much in love with one another and we hold hands all the time, with each other and with our children. We are a family. To be honest it's non of your business really is it, otherwise where do you draw the line as to how far you go in the invasion of other peoples privacy. Worry about more important things and stop trying to turn a short fall or an inadequacy in your own relationship in to a fault with other well meaning happy people. Why always looking for the negative side of things, you know some people out there really are just happy.

Underneath your Avtar it says, Oil Consultant, Proud Father. Perhaps you should try being a Proud Husband.

How could you assume there is an inadequacy in his relationship? playing the amateur psychologist serves no purpose other than as a ill thought out personal attack.

Good luck to you and your family that is lovely take a nice tale, I'm sure many if not most people in Thailand see your public display of comfort and happiness and smile.

But, what xthAi76s wrote is fairly accurate in my opinion. In general Thai's are rather reserved when it comes to publics shows of affection, a miss-matched couple do draw attention especially when holding hands, it just looks odd.

I don't care either way, but I also don't pretend that my attention isn't drawn to it. But, people have the right to live their lives in happiness so long as it doesn't hurt or offend those around them. So, good luck to all the hand-holders, whatever age. But, don't pretend its normal, or the social norm, or that Thai's won't pass comment 'in the case of elderly men holding hands with middle-aged or younger women'... They do, I've heard it and seen it enough times...

Not meant as a personal attack at all, its odd that people would even focus on such a thing. What I find far more unsettling is that when Thai men are caught short they will just stop the car get out and take a pis* wherever they happen to be standing without any attempt to be discreet or hide their public urination. Reserved?...yeah right. I would rather my kids are exposed to some hand holding than some Thai chap taking a pee wherever it takes his fancy. Each culture has its own faults and positive aspects and when cultures mix we all bring a little something to the table. I am delighted to introduce 'hand holding' of loved ones from our culture and happy to skip the 'pulling out your tadger in a public place and having a pee'.