No, it isn't 'definitive'. I can say the same, but I can also shout at her. That might suit that person(who might actually appreciate it) and not another. Your research is useless if you are unable to adapt it to real situations. Your behaviour here shows an inability to adapt. That's my observation. Abusing and insulting doesn't change that but merely confirm it. It's nothing personal about you at all. I just say what I see. Personally, I have the kind of relationships to which you appear to aspire. But for you they are at the end of your rainbow. For me, it is here and now. For you it's theory, rather than reality. Again, merely my observations. It's only you imagining that I have something personally against you. I just write openly about what I see, without fear, nor favour.
