Help finding girls

[hansnl]

Okay well look at my other posts in my profile and you can see that i don't have a track record for humor or even posting on this site.

I'm serious. I just chose the wrong <deleted> day apparently.

This is not April fools. If I wanted that I would have added more humor but I can see why you think I'm trying to dupe you.

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Try finding someone through the good offices of someone already married to a Thai woman.

Most know the pitfalls, and many might know someone.

And even then things might go wrong, although chances are better that way.

Edited April 2, 2014 by hansnl

[mimi9000]

I'm a doctor from America, now living in thailand for the past 2 years, have many very nice girl friends who i would marry if i was able.

Please have your friend email to me at [email protected]

[brit1984]

If he wants to meet educated Thai women he will most likely need to meet them abroad, most likely at a foreign university. A Thai degree isn't worth the bog roll you just wiped your backside with a threw down the loo.

I married a Thai girl I met in London due to a similarly misguided / over-simplistic view. Having subsequently moved to Bangkok I wish I had looked for a wife here instead as there more choice of girls I would/could date (and therefore more chance to find a good match from one of them).

Thai universities are indeed awful (with a couple of exceptions for particular courses at 1 or 2 unis) but I'm not sure I understand the relevance to this topic... I don't envy any of my mates who married girls they met at Oxford... and I don't want to lower the tone of this intellectual thread by talking about Cambridge girls!

[JLCrab]

My advice to him is to contact one of the large Private Hospitals ( they are full of well educated ladies who all speak English to a reasonable standard)

May I suggest that he makes a courtesy call to one of his fellow Medics at one of these hospitals under the premise that he would like to make some comparisons between the two countries health care systems ....once there he can fill his boots .....take my word they are filled wall to wall high quality females (most univerisity educated).....that's where my present gf works.

I think you skipped this one too fast -- tell him for his first trip to Thailand he should visit some of the dermatology clinics and say that he has had inquiries from patients in USA about being treated in Thailand and he wants to check things out for himself. Meeting first hand rather than by referral.

[1FinickyOne]

There are many lovely Thai ladies available, especially if he does not mind one that has been previously married and may or may not have a kid or two… you don't say how old he is…

The largest stumbling blocks are time and culture - then language which connects into culture. How do you go anywhere and meet someone and fall in love and even think you know the least bit about them during a 2 week vacation?

The more likely scenario is that he comes here and falls somewhat in love with the culture - then finds a lady through repeat visits, best through an introduction from a friend. But expect a learning experience and depending upon his nature, a clash of culture.

I assume he wants to bring this lady back to your country which can take time, plenty of time. Surely, I could go on and on, but even if he falls madly in love in 2 weeks, there is still a long period ahead of visits and learning and being able to accept the cultural differences. One good tip is to look at the family. This will be the most important thing for her happiness and having a good family is a big big plus.

[HeavyDrinker]

Forget these internet 'dating' sites.

They're just extensions of the bars.

Wall to wall hookers plying their trade, looking for a mug, in spite of what the 'players' will fantasise about out on here, telling everyone about the 'educated good women' they meet and bed from these sites every day.

[Om85]

Rosco, here is the same that in any other country, for finding a good chick you must to go out there and look for it, there is plentry of good chicks in Thailand, in fact the most of them are really good, imo, but for getting them you need to talk to them, and for that you must to speak thai, my advise, find a good chick back home, language problem asides , the rest is the same.

[abrahamzvi]

If he wants to meet educated Thai women he will most likely need to meet them abroad, most likely at a foreign university. A Thai degree isn't worth the bog roll you just wiped your backside with a threw down the loo.

I really can't comment on where to meet the perfect lady, but I take great exception to your comments about Thai university degrees. What you are saying may, just may, apply to some Thai universities, but most certainly NOT to all of them. May i suggest you google for the best 100 universities in the world and you'll be surprised to find in that list three Thai universities (Chula, Thammasat and Mahidol). Khon kaen university as well as Chiang Mai University and Mae Fah Luang University in Chiang Rai, are also considered first class universities and their degrees are recognise worldwide . May I suggest tha5t before you make statements of such nature you get yourself properly informed!

[Razer64]

You won't have any problem finding girls in Thailand. Or in any land, for that matter.

You're going to have to be more specific. More specific stats on Uncle, and maybe even a picture might help.

I know lots of women looking for men. I could print out some general info and give it to some friends I know are looking. I am in the province of Nakhon Pathom. So, if Uncle has anything against women from around here, don't bother yourself.

Don't get too vital with the information, of course, but enough to get the general idea.

The resort I would recommend in this area is well within his price range, rural, incredibly beautiful, and meetings and dates can easily be arranged there.

I'm sure he wants only one woman (poor thing), but how many women does he want to meet? One per day? Two per day? How long will he stay?

[Choonpon]

Why Thailand? Elsewhere would be better isn't it?

[tetleythedog]

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Sign him up for Thailovelinks and Thaifriendly and state exactly what he wants. Finding a perfect girl on a short vacation might happen by chance, but going looking for the perfect girl in a short time probably won't bring good results. Finding an educated, young, attractive woman with kids who is looking for a stable guy with his finances in order and who will treat him well is very doable. Without kids, then that is another story.

Most on the dating sites are either carrying baggage, or want your money. Don't get me wrong, we've all tried it, but honestly ..........what are the chances of success??? A couple of days of sex, and then what? Meaningful discussions with a Thai woman ? That's a joke !

I'm not saying that the odd relationship doesn't happen, but nearly all the farangs on them are day and night drinkers, and are only after a quickie !

If you want a good women, they are here, but they are few and far between. You won't meet them in resorts, bars, etc The women there go from one Farang to another, and another ' (recurring). If your friend wants to get burned, let him follow the advice from the masses.

If he is REALLY looking for a lady to settle down with and start a family with, i may be able to assist. My wife is a teacher, in our family12 others are teachers, some nurses, they have never known a Farang, and are intelligent, decent people.My wifes father was a school director, as were 3 of her brothers, her mother was a teacher. Believe me it makes a big difference when you can walk anywhere in Thailand and no-one can say "i've had her" !!!.

Don't get the wrong idea, i'm not pimping, but a good Farang is as hard to find as a good Thai woman

[Scarpolo]

Good Thai ladies are around good men - got it? If he has problems with women he needs to look at himself first. then he needs to learn the culture and the woman's education and finances. This is not USA it is not easy - you only think it is. Before you get taken away with image (Thai is 99+% image) write down what you want in a lady. Occassionally go back and read it and update it. Good ladies exist but they know bad men, stupid men, only want sex men, angry men - they arre professionals knowing men and you know nothing about Thai women. No easy.

"they are professionals knowing men"

I will have to remember that next time I think I am "special"

[saakura]

Why are you not telling us his age?

[Scarpolo]

Forget these internet 'dating' sites.

They're just extensions of the bars.

Wall to wall hookers plying their trade, looking for a mug, in spite of what the 'players' will fantasise about out on here, telling everyone about the 'educated good women' they meet and bed from these sites every day.

The internet dating sites are perfect for a man fishing from outside the pond,

keep in mind, he isnt even in the country yet,

those sites are a great beginnning, and many non working girls use it, some, just for fun

[Baerboxer]

If he wants to meet educated Thai women he will most likely need to meet them abroad, most likely at a foreign university. A Thai degree isn't worth the bog roll you just wiped your backside with a threw down the loo.

Using your analogy of things connected to bodily motions - why do so many ignorant expats insist on talking out their arse when it comes to Thai universities, Thai degrees etc? That is, if they can manage to lift their arse off the bar stool long enough.

Maybe they should do some research - No, perpetuating the urban myths is easier. Yes, all the farangs here are so well educated, highly intelligent, successful, and highbrow. You can see just from walking round, listening and reading their erudite postings on social media

Ross - there are various internet dating and friendship sites your uncle may consider, although obviously he needs to be careful. Similarly with the "introductions" type of company, both farang and Thai run. But using these helps out with language issues.

How would he meet nice ladies back home? Get your gf to introduce him around, go places with him, look at social groups and activities he may be interested etc etc

I'm sure as an educated person he won't listen to all the advice from the bar stool guru's!

[larsjohnsson]

Yeah my girlfriend is more of a person to ask if the girl is good AFTER the person has been found. She can judge the character she just isn't sure where to find them.

His cousin recently married a thai girl he met on the Internet. I'm sure he's not completely against that.

He did say she can have kids already just no awkward husband situation. The thing is most of us aren't even aware of these scenarios till after we meet the girl.

My girlfriend made me think she was more normal but then you start to unearth the good stuff.

Lol. Anyways. I'm not looking for perfect here nor is he. Let's simplify it. Where to find a good girl as opposed to a bar girl.

What's wrong with bar girl I've been with one for 6 years

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Nothing wrong with a bar-girl. But I would expect that 99% of all men would prefer to marry/having a girlfriend that isn't a sexworker

[mrtoad]

I think my uncles cousin (my 3rd cousin?) used a dating website and he has already taken his wife back to Austria with him and is already pregnant. Seems like a success story there. I just feel like that wife is completely submissive.

I didn't realize getting someone knocked up is classed a success of a relationship? Your further point, also doesn't necessarily suggest that it is a comparable relationship. Plenty of people breeding like rabbits, that should not be able to add to the gene pool.

[Baerboxer]

Forget these internet 'dating' sites.

They're just extensions of the bars.

Wall to wall hookers plying their trade, looking for a mug, in spite of what the 'players' will fantasise about out on here, telling everyone about the 'educated good women' they meet and bed from these sites every day.

Disagree. There are many prostitutes plying their trade on the internet dating sites, as well as using the more obvious escort sites. But there are also many non prostitutes who use the dating sites. But, they are looking for romance, marriage and a partner for a better life. Not all are easy looking for casual sex, and not all are prostitutes.

[mrtoad]

It's so easy to find a nice woman. Just go shopping in any market in a normal town, buy some fruit or fried chicken and you will see an honest hard working person. The chances are they will have at least one child and the husband has done a bunk. That's why they are working selling their wares as opposed to their body. Don't get too chatty till they know you don't have a wife or girlfriend and they will approach you. Their are many many very nice women that really do need a bit of financial support for kids schooling etc. In return they will support you through thick and thin.

As for recommending somewhere to stay. If you want to increase the odds of him getting stiffed go anywhere except Pattaya or Phuket. Thailand has beautiful places to stay in just about every province.

Sounds like a potential recipe for disaster, with a relationship built on financial assistance, as opposed to love and Somchai lurking in the background. Each to their own I suppose.

[Scarpolo]

OP,

are you gonna thread his condoms too?

[Patrick Mills]

I was looking for a girl friend for my nephew, and I found some strake forward ad's on Craig List Thailand, also good around hospitals and university's. and on the internet. Good Luck, retired with Thai wife in Thailand.

[HeavyDrinker]

Forget these internet 'dating' sites.

They're just extensions of the bars.

Wall to wall hookers plying their trade, looking for a mug, in spite of what the 'players' will fantasise about out on here, telling everyone about the 'educated good women' they meet and bed from these sites every day.

Disagree. There are many prostitutes plying their trade on the internet dating sites, as well as using the more obvious escort sites. But there are also many non prostitutes who use the dating sites. But, they are looking for romance, marriage and a partner for a better life. Not all are easy looking for casual sex, and not all are prostitutes.

I've yet to meet one lad who's met a girl online who'd not have been better off financially getting in a bar and cutting the BS...

"Online dating being a good place to meet non prostitute women in Thailand" is the Urban Expat myth of this era.

Edited April 2, 2014 by HeavyDrinker

[mrtoad]

Hi Rossco

I understand where he is coming from. Stay away from the likes of Puket & Pattaya type resorts, there is one place I have been to 3-4 times Koh Chang lovely island and good top hotels, girly bars are very few, he could meet some nice girls working in these resorts etc.

if he meets one and things go well tell him to ask her straight, does she have another man as he is looking for nice lady to be with and marry and take back to live in USA. He would have to understand that they will have family and would need to come back to see them at times.

Best of Luck to him

Kiwi Kenny

Khon Kaen

Koh Chang, is now the place to meet Ladies?

Learn something new everyday.

[steven100]

Just tell your uncle to get a taxi to Nana around Soi 4 or 5 preferably at night time and go to the nearest bar and lean on the bar and order a drink.

I'm sure he will meet an honest girl who's never had a BF before and who's mother doesn't have any sick buffalo's. I'm 100% sure after 30 minutes she will ' Lub him too mut '

[mrtoad]

I was looking for a girl friend for my nephew, and I found some strake forward ad's on Craig List Thailand, also good around hospitals and university's. and on the internet. Good Luck, retired with Thai wife in Thailand.

I'm sorry to ask, but was this post meant to be an attempt at humour?Craig's List

[arthurwait]

Thanks for the help. Off topic but u mentioned Bumrungrad and I'm actually there right now and this is another gorgeous Thai hospital and makes my American counterpart look like crap.

I think that would be a good idea to show him the different virtues and vices and let him decide. The spectrum of girls is much more broad than what he's used to I'm sure of that.

My girlfriend always cooks for me and cleans and washes clothes and pretty much does for me what I imagined a wife in the 1950s did for their husband and it surprised me. My American girlfriends really never cared to do much of that. That's what he's looking for out here. And I think that's what the lot of you have experienced.

Don't forget to ask any of your current birds if they have some friends or family that fit the mold to a certain degree.

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I imagine most have plenty but you haven't said anything about him. His age, his looks, his history even after that do they want to meet someone off the internet.

[somefear]

The best practical advice is to look for an expat who lives here and who has a similar interests as your friend and then ask him for his recommendations. I am sure all of us who live here have come across good women in the past and wished that we could help and match them. .Unfortunately the status of these women changes fast and it is a matter of being there in the right time

[fatdrunkandstupid]

Just make sure before your uncle visits he gets some new business cards made up for his Dermatology practice that state CLEARLY AND IN BOLD PRINT that he specialises in skin whitening.

He will have to hire you as a body guard to keep the Thai girls at bay...

[Scarpolo]

I was looking for a girl friend for my nephew, and I found some strake forward ad's on Craig List Thailand, also good around hospitals and university's. and on the internet. Good Luck, retired with Thai wife in Thailand.

I'm sorry to ask, but was this post meant to be an attempt at humour?Craig's List

http://bangkok.craigslist.co.th/w4m/4389428004.html

[Scarpolo]

I was looking for a girl friend for my nephew, and I found some strake forward ad's on Craig List Thailand, also good around hospitals and university's. and on the internet. Good Luck, retired with Thai wife in Thailand.

I'm sorry to ask, but was this post meant to be an attempt at humour?Craig's List

http://bangkok.craigslist.co.th/w4m/4389428004.html

http://bangkok.craigslist.co.th/w4m/4398835748.html