How to get rid of a Thai lady who has overstayed her welcome?

[surfinglife]

I'm sure many people on this forum have had similar experiences so please share and help!
About 7 months ago I took a freelancer home. In the morning she suggested that we should meet again which we did a few times. I went away to my 28/28 job. On return she kind of moved in, gave up bar work and found a normal job. I helped her financially a bit. I did tell her that at my workplace I have a serious long-term relationship and she accepted our liaison as "friends with benefits". Now I've had enough, bored with her, can't stand the sight of her and told her not to contact me again. She won't take No for an answer and insists on seeing me when I go back again soon. I will go back with my long-term girl and this "stalker" is now threatening to confront my girlfriend too. How can I tell her to get lost? She is behaving irrationally now, Vibers me every day about how she MUST see me....It's getting beyond a joke and I'm scared to go back to be honest. Any advice would be appreciated.

[Tao Diver]

Offer to pay the first months rent and deposit on a new place away from where you stay or 20,000 cash to just leave. A small amount of cash for a quick end to your nightmare. That or just move 

[HeijoshinCool]

I'm sure many people on this forum have had similar experiences …..

 

 

So why did you expect yours to be different?

 

We all reap what we sow.

 

Can't help you. There is no good solution, and I feel no pity for those who cheat when they are in a, as you misrepresent it, "serious long-term relationship." I think you got what you deserved. I just hope your partner, didn't.

[krisb]

You know...

[surfinglife]

I'm sure many people on this forum have had similar experiences ..
 
 
So why did you expect yours to be different?
 
We all reap what we sow.
 
Can't help you. There is no good solution, and I feel no pity for those who cheat when they are in a, as you misrepresent it, "serious long-term relationship." I think you got what you deserved. I just hope your partner, didn't.

I don't recall asking for moral judgement so please keep it to yourself

[Gsxrnz]

Isn't it customary to start these sorts of posts with:   "I have a friend who needs some advice..........."  

 

 

[DP25]

Don't take girls, especially hookers, back to your home if you have a girlfriend. Don't take hookers to your home even if you're single. Even if the girl isn't planning on making a scene, some Thai person will tell the gf you have been taking girls home.

Use hotels, or rent a small studio for like 5k a month that you can use as a bachelor pad.

There is no solution here other than moving or paying the girl off.

[HeijoshinCool]

 

I'm sure many people on this forum have had similar experiences ..
 
 
So why did you expect yours to be different?
 
We all reap what we sow.
 
Can't help you. There is no good solution, and I feel no pity for those who cheat when they are in a, as you misrepresent it, "serious long-term relationship." I think you got what you deserved. I just hope your partner, didn't.

I don't recall asking for moral judgement so please keep it to yourself

 

You posted your behavior on a public forum. 

 

Okay, you asked for advice, here it is:

 

Act like a man and take your shots. Then you can "get rid" of her.

[Gsxrnz]

a pair of size 4 shoes from tesco has the same affect as a 'do not disturb' sign if left outside your front door. For ladyboys make them a size 12.

 

HTH

 

Only in 50% of situations do the shoes work as a DND sign. 

 

The other 50% of the time it's a signal for the psyco Thai girl to raise merry hell screaming and ranting, trying to kick down the door resulting in the security staff and police being called, culminating in your bloodied face appearing in the local paper.

 

Don't ask how I know. 

 

Heads or tails anyone?

[AlanAunuum]

you reap what you sow,  my dad always said to me Son,don't shit on your own doorstep,you took her back to your home so she knows where you live,  big mistake just be honest with your girlfriend and tell her the truth,Grow some balls if not this other girl will own your balls forever.

 

[Costas2008]

OP,don't be so hard.

Marry the girl, give her a generous sin-sod, build a house for her to accommodate her relatives also, have a dozen of Luk Krung with her and be happy.

You are saying, you can't stand her any more.

Don't worry love matures with time, like a good red wine.

I would be honoured to be invited at your wedding.

[Sawan Chan 7]

Don't take girls, especially hookers, back to your home if you have a girlfriend. Don't take hookers to your home even if you're single. Even if the girl isn't planning on making a scene, some Thai person will tell the gf you have been taking girls home.

Use hotels, or rent a small studio for like 5k a month that you can use as a bachelor pad.

There is no solution here other than moving or paying the girl off.

Yes  there is - tell her to get out and if she refuses call the police.

[Spoonman]

You have a sexual fantasy about dressing like a ghost and doing naughty things to all of her body orifices don't you.....

 

Time to enact that fantasy.

[Upnotover]

Did you have her stay with you in all your returns since the first time?  If so her behavior seems quite reasonable (certainly predictable).  Blocking her on Viber or whatever else is easy enough, the hardest decision for you is if you are going to tell the "serious" one.

[Rumblecat]

You could try crying in front of her.

Seriously. I had a stalker ex-girlfriend who was a school teacher, who was barred from my condo by security but bought an apartment in the building (which was kind of ingenious I have to admit), threatened to tell the police all kinds of lies, and nothing I did would stop the contest harassment. Till I broke down into fake tears in front of her about how bad I felt and how my life was ruined and she was so horrified by this loss of face of mine she apologised and ceased all harassment. 

 

Essentially she's losing face by being shut out your life. You need to twist the situation so you're to blame- pay her off or do something to make her feel like she's won- and learn a lesson. 

[Bung]

You have a 28/28 job and said you have a girlfriend at your work place! How does that work and how could this Thai girl confront her if she is at your work?

[choochoo]

whats a FREELANNCER?

[Proofreader]

Tell her that your "serious long-term relationship" is a dude. 

[iancnx]

She has to go out at some point, whilst she is gone change the locks. Deposit her belongings outside the door for her to remove. If she attempts criminal damage against your front door call the police and they will arrest her.

[DP25]

Don't take girls, especially hookers, back to your home if you have a girlfriend. Don't take hookers to your home even if you're single. Even if the girl isn't planning on making a scene, some Thai person will tell the gf you have been taking girls home.

Use hotels, or rent a small studio for like 5k a month that you can use as a bachelor pad.

There is no solution here other than moving or paying the girl off.

Yes  there is - tell her to get out and if she refuses call the police.

Good luck with that plan if you don't want the girlfriend to find out

[A1Str8]

From experience: do not give any money. Do not return any calls, do not answer any messages. Do not talk to her. Ignore her absolutely!
It's going to be hard and i am sure that others will suggest you to do otherwise but this is the only way that actually works. Ignore her! Until she disappears. She might make you angry at times she might confront your gf or whatever. But what you do is NOT respond to it. That's oil on the fire. Whatever she does, you deny and ignore. And have a story for your long term gf, that explains why this crazy woman showed up from nowhere.

[inbangkok]

This thread is hilarious.....totally made my night 

[Crazy chef 1]

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just take your other honey with you and she will leave soon..

[Loptr]

 

 

I'm sure many people on this forum have had similar experiences ..
 
 
So why did you expect yours to be different?
 
We all reap what we sow.
 
Can't help you. There is no good solution, and I feel no pity for those who cheat when they are in a, as you misrepresent it, "serious long-term relationship." I think you got what you deserved. I just hope your partner, didn't.

I don't recall asking for moral judgement so please keep it to yourself

 

You posted your behavior on a public forum. 

 

Okay, you asked for advice, here it is:

 

Act like a man and take your shots. Then you can "get rid" of her.

 

 

Since when were you appointed as the morality mod on TV? 

[JDGRUEN]

OP ... Just move... do it secretly ... it can be done ... First move to an intermediate - hotel ... Get everything out ... find a place to store it... Then find another long term place a fair distance away from the old place.. pay the current landlord off - a deal can be made.  Get rid of the phone number ... your story - the phone got stolen or lost and now the person who has it is misusing it to the extreme -- so you have to get another phone and new number ... First delete the gal from any account you have - remove block - such as LINE, Viber, etc.  Start over again ... blame it on scammers, or local enforcers who didn't like where you parked your motorbike or whatever story ... keep it simple - but mai pen rai as far as your g/f is concerned.  You just do not want anything around to be a problem to her, etc., etc., etc.

 

Present the new place as a present to her... and leave NO TRACE of your former existence... It can be done ... 

[daveAustin]

They will take the piss if you give em an inch, happens to a high percentage of guys if this forum is anything to go by. Just think yourself lucky you didn't get suckered into moving upcountry and building a house :o

Organize different digs and change your sim. In future, never take tarts back to your place.

[thailiketoo]

 

Don't take girls, especially hookers, back to your home if you have a girlfriend. Don't take hookers to your home even if you're single. Even if the girl isn't planning on making a scene, some Thai person will tell the gf you have been taking girls home.

Use hotels, or rent a small studio for like 5k a month that you can use as a bachelor pad.

There is no solution here other than moving or paying the girl off.

Yes  there is - tell her to get out and if she refuses call the police.

 

 

Then the police will tell you to pay them 500,000 baht or go to jail which they will split with the lady.
 

[Seastallion]

 

I'm sure many people on this forum have had similar experiences ..
 
 
So why did you expect yours to be different?
 
We all reap what we sow.
 
Can't help you. There is no good solution, and I feel no pity for those who cheat when they are in a, as you misrepresent it, "serious long-term relationship." I think you got what you deserved. I just hope your partner, didn't.

I don't recall asking for moral judgement so please keep it to yourself

 

Ha. I too feel no pity for you. You made your bed, now sleep in it.

Not a moral judgement, but a practical one. You do the crime, you do the time.

Here's a moral judgement for you though....I hope your "serious one" finds out and ditches you.....she probably deserves better.

[phazey]

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And

 

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[FritsSikkink]

You have a serious long-term relationship AND live with a hooker for 7 months ???