Last night I was sitting with a group of ten backpackers , having some food and drink at 1 AM . Everyones eating drinking and talking in a friendly atmosphere .

Then my Thai female friend shows up , shes a dancer /bargirl , but just a friend and we quite often share a drink until sunrise .

The last time that I saw her , in a drunken state , I had pushed past her and she fell over and this was the first time that I'd seen her since .

I introduced my Thai friend to the backpackers when she came and sat next to me.

Thats when the atmosphere changed .

The backpacking females got furious .

"Why you sitting next to him, come and sit with me " blah blah blah .

The Thai lady and myself went to sit outside and I profoundly apologised for pushing past her the other night and that I really didnt intentionally make her fall over , but never the less, I was so sorry that it happened .

I put my arm around her and apologised once again , she accepted that we were both a bit drunk , put her hand on my knee , smiled at me and that we were friends and no hard feelings .

The 20 something backing packing female came out and told me to stop putting my arm around the Thai lady and I impolitely told her to go away , her male friends came out to back her up .

Here we go again

What's the point of this post? You just wanted to tell everybody that you like hanging around with prostitutes and backpackers?

What's the point of this post? You just wanted to tell everybody that you like hanging around with prostitutes and backpackers?

No, its the way that backpackers view Western males who have Thai female freinds

I don't understand this post either. So, the backpackers disapproved of you sitting with a bargirl?

"Why you sitting next to him, come and sit with me ..."

No idea who said the above, and why?

You don't explain yourself very clearly.

What's the point of this post? You just wanted to tell everybody that you like hanging around with prostitutes and backpackers?

No, its the way that backpackers view Western males who have Thai female freinds

So don't hang around with backpackers,problem solved.

What's the point of this post? You just wanted to tell everybody that you like hanging around with prostitutes and backpackers?

No, its the way that backpackers view Western males who have Thai female freinds

Well don't hang out with backpackers then....

What's the point of this post? You just wanted to tell everybody that you like hanging around with prostitutes and backpackers?

No, its the way that backpackers view Western males who have Thai female freinds

No, it's not. If the female backpackers objected, the objection was to sitting in the same company as a prostitute. I think you'd find that ordinary Thai girls may have had the same attitude.

Take her back to meet your Mum, see how she feels about her? The reaction will probably be the same.

I see the problem.....what you should have done is sat with a group of nine backpackers, this never happens to me when there is just nine of them, dont forget for next time

Then again, lots of western women cant stand western men who have Thai Gf's...Prosstitutes or not....Who cares. I also know many ex pat females that treat the ex prostitute wives of ex pats just like they treat each other.....Backpackers are mostly just young dumb kids pretending to be worldly....

You are not responsible for what other people think.

I understand what was going on. These backpackers could clearly see that your Thai 'female' friend is actually a ladyboy with extra 'tackle' on offer, whereas you, in your drunken haze, were mad enough to think that she was a pretty female - and born a female.

So these backpackers were trying to do you a favour...

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What's the point of this post? You just wanted to tell everybody that you like hanging around with prostitutes and backpackers?

What I got out of it is that he treated the bar girl as a person and not stereotyping her as the mob did.

What's the point of this post? You just wanted to tell everybody that you like hanging around with prostitutes and backpackers?

What I got out of it is that he treated the bar girl as a person and not stereotyping her as the mob did.

All I got out of the post is he isn't very choosy when it comes to who he drinks with and he occasionally gets so drunk that he knocks over girls - real class act.

I understand what was going on. These backpackers could clearly see that your Thai 'female' friend is actually a ladyboy with extra 'tackle' on offer, whereas you, in your drunken haze, were mad enough to think that she was a pretty female - and born a female.

So these backpackers were trying to do you a favour...

Shes not a ladyboy , those bottles of whisky dont come for free

Well it looks like Luke was 'one over the eight' again, was bumping into everything/everyone in sight and then tried copping a feel of his 'bargirl /friend'.

Maybe the female backpackers didn't like seeing this lass treated like a cheap piece of meat with some drunken slob feckling her, having or maybe she wanted Luke for herself?

I understand what was going on. These backpackers could clearly see that your Thai 'female' friend is actually a ladyboy with extra 'tackle' on offer, whereas you, in your drunken haze, were mad enough to think that she was a pretty female - and born a female.

So these backpackers were trying to do you a favour...

Shes not a ladyboy , those bottles of whisky dont come for free

true he /she f **** for them

Well it looks like Luke was 'one over the eight' again, was bumping into everything/everyone in sight and then tried copping a feel of his 'bargirl /friend'.

Maybe the female backpackers didn't like seeing this lass treated like a cheap piece of meat with some drunken slob feckling her, having or maybe she wanted Luke for herself?

The falling over incident happened a few days before and I have no need to coop a feel of her as she always accompanies back to my room when I need to get the money to pay for the the bottle of whisky ,

The backinging female drove off with her on her moped.................and came back a few minutes later

A shambles !

They were being sisterly and protecting her, likely not knowing how it really is here... that most girlies are where they are at because they want to be there. That or you were being an a...s...s (dear me, the censorship!).

Well it looks like Luke was 'one over the eight' again, was bumping into everything/everyone in sight and then tried copping a feel of his 'bargirl /friend'.

Maybe the female backpackers didn't like seeing this lass treated like a cheap piece of meat with some drunken slob feckling her, having or maybe she wanted Luke for herself?

The falling over incident happened a few days before and I have no need to coop a feel of her as she always accompanies back to my room when I need to get the money to pay for the the bottle of whisky ,

The backinging female drove off with her on her moped.................and came back a few minutes later

I dont force her to come back to my room and shes under no obligations to do anything . She just grabs my hand and accompanies me back to my room to make sure that I come back and pay my bill

Well it looks like Luke was 'one over the eight' again, was bumping into everything/everyone in sight and then tried copping a feel of his 'bargirl /friend'.

Maybe the female backpackers didn't like seeing this lass treated like a cheap piece of meat with some drunken slob feckling her, having or maybe she wanted Luke for herself?

The falling over incident happened a few days before and I have no need to coop a feel of her as she always accompanies back to my room when I need to get the money to pay for the the bottle of whisky ,

The backinging female drove off with her on her moped.................and came back a few minutes later

I dont force her to come back to my room and shes under no obligations to do anything . She just grabs my hand and accompanies me back to my room to make sure that I come back and pay my bill

That's all well and good Luke, but no one is judging you here pal, but you are putting yourself in the firing line somewhat, though it does seem as though you are seeking a little reassurance here, or maybe you are feeling a little guilty about your 'relationship' with this lass.

Why don't you just take enough money out with you to cover your bill so she doesn't have to 'accompany' you home every night? Would be a lot easier for the pair of you.

It is a sad fact that many visitors to Thailand know little and understand less they dynamics of the bargirl function/lifestyle in Thailand Luke.

I don't know if you've ever seen a vile Brit TV presenter called Stacey Dooley who has made a few documentaries about 'prostitution in Thailand/The Third World where she tries to come across as some 'heroine' trying to rescue the 'poor exploited girls' all the time.

Many visitors, especially female backpackers/travellers have a similar mindset.

This I know from experience having travelled around Thailand/SEAsia several times in the past with Western girlfriends, only to find that once I was able to show them the 'bigger picture' and prove that no one was making the girls work at 'gunpoint' and indeed some did rather well for themselves out of it all, their attitudes towards the scene changed dramatically.

Maybe next time you are sitting with your friend near some backpackers, to allow them to chat to her (especially the females) could lead to a whole change in their mindset, which in turn, could lead to them helping to explode many of the common myths surrounding the scene.

Every little helps....

Moral of this story.......Don't hang out with other Farangs in Thailand.

I won't sleep tonight.

555

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Jeezo, Charlie. What the Heck did we do to deserve this?? :-D

just crazy what he says. if you are 8 years old maybe it is interesting to read about

The OP is a troll. No 20 yo gives a rats a** if you sit with a bargirl. They are here to party and go to the islands, not get get involved with your dumb drama.

Well it looks like Luke was 'one over the eight' again, was bumping into everything/everyone in sight and then tried copping a feel of his 'bargirl /friend'.

Maybe the female backpackers didn't like seeing this lass treated like a cheap piece of meat with some drunken slob feckling her, having or maybe she wanted Luke for herself?

The falling over incident happened a few days before and I have no need to coop a feel of her as she always accompanies back to my room when I need to get the money to pay for the the bottle of whisky ,

The backinging female drove off with her on her moped.................and came back a few minutes later

I dont force her to come back to my room and shes under no obligations to do anything . She just grabs my hand and accompanies me back to my room to make sure that I come back and pay my bill

That's all well and good Luke, but no one is judging you here pal, but you are putting yourself in the firing line somewhat, though it does seem as though you are seeking a little reassurance here, or maybe you are feeling a little guilty about your 'relationship' with this lass.

Why don't you just take enough money out with you to cover your bill so she doesn't have to 'accompany' you home every night? Would be a lot easier for the pair of you.

It is a sad fact that many visitors to Thailand know little and understand less they dynamics of the bargirl function/lifestyle in Thailand Luke.

I don't know if you've ever seen a vile Brit TV presenter called Stacey Dooley who has made a few documentaries about 'prostitution in Thailand/The Third World where she tries to come across as some 'heroine' trying to rescue the 'poor exploited girls' all the time.

Many visitors, especially female backpackers/travellers have a similar mindset.

This I know from experience having travelled around Thailand/SEAsia several times in the past with Western girlfriends, only to find that once I was able to show them the 'bigger picture' and prove that no one was making the girls work at 'gunpoint' and indeed some did rather well for themselves out of it all, their attitudes towards the scene changed dramatically.

Maybe next time you are sitting with your friend near some backpackers, to allow them to chat to her (especially the females) could lead to a whole change in their mindset, which in turn, could lead to them helping to explode many of the common myths surrounding the scene.

Every little helps....

Yeah, there's a worthwhile exercise.

Who cares what the girls are doing and how well they are doing for themselves? If people want to sleep with hookers that's their business but to come online and tell everybody about it is a bit pathetic. I don't want to know that some sleazebag has had his hand down a girl's knickers in return for buying bottles of whiskey, that's the kind of thing you should keep to yourself really.

What a waste of time reading about this.