cyberfarang Posted March 29, 2018 Share Posted March 29, 2018 On 3/26/2018 at 10:26 PM, bwpage3 said: Go to the police BEFORE you tell her and don't get a hotel or all your things might disappear The police won`t be interested, this is a domestic affair not a criminal case. As Swissie says; change the door locks, end of problem. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FritsSikkink Posted March 29, 2018 Share Posted March 29, 2018 6 hours ago, markaoffy said: End contract on the condo and find another ! She has no rights on new property ! Just walk away from situation! Often done by guys with the “Mentally Damaged females” Sent from my iPhone using Thaivisa Connect She has no rights on old property. So there is no need to move. Then the same people complain that they don't get any respect from the locals. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Media1 Posted March 29, 2018 Share Posted March 29, 2018 On 26/03/2018 at 10:07 PM, poanoi said: this would not be an issue if you were somewhat aggressive & violent, but as it is, i think the best thing you can do is first go to police and ask if they would help if she dont comply, and ask to get appropriate phone nr, and then go back and tell her to leave, and when she dont, phone. neither she or the dog is your problem btw, take care of yourself is your only priority and responsibility Yes with no marriage no VISA issues no love. First visit the police nicely as a B plan. Because she may try to say you HIT her. Be smart Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Media1 Posted March 29, 2018 Share Posted March 29, 2018 On 26/03/2018 at 10:26 PM, bwpage3 said: Go to the police BEFORE you tell her and don't get a hotel or all your things might disappear correct Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Media1 Posted March 29, 2018 Share Posted March 29, 2018 On 27/03/2018 at 10:45 AM, geriatrickid said: We do not know the full story do we? Just one side. Perhaps the other person is mentally ill. Compassion and kindness as recommended is the right way to go. When one takes the high road, one is always best served, Yes we all want what's best for her. But obviously it's not working out. Perhaps he can help her get a job and find her her a room. Maybe help her along for 2 months Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joeBr Posted March 29, 2018 Author Share Posted March 29, 2018 (edited) 9 minutes ago, Media1 said: Yes with no marriage no VISA issues no love. First visit the police nicely as a B plan. Because she may try to say you HIT her. Be smart Exactly. I was just planning ahead in order to make things as smooth as possible Should calling the police be really necessary as I know from the previous incident she might act very unreasonable/refuse to leave. I could have manhandled her out then lock the door - done. That would have resulted in some drama on the hallway etc. - security/neighbours would call police - end of story?? I just dont much experience with police here. Another thought is that I also dont want her to get into any serious trouble. Might sounds crazy to some but she is a very decent person unless when she loses control. Edited March 29, 2018 by joeBr Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joeBr Posted March 29, 2018 Author Share Posted March 29, 2018 5 minutes ago, Media1 said: Yes we all want what's best for her. But obviously it's not working out. Perhaps he can help her get a job and find her her a room. Maybe help her along for 2 months Yeh, glad to hear that there are some people on the same page. I think I will support her for 1-2 months. I find myself struggling with the idea though. One side wants to help her, another side wants to keep the upper hand :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Media1 Posted March 29, 2018 Share Posted March 29, 2018 3 minutes ago, joeBr said: Exactly. I was just planning ahead in order to make things as smooth as possible Should calling the police be really necessary as I know from the previous incident she might act very unreasonable/refuse to leave. I could have manhandled her out then lock the door - done. That would have resulted in some drama on the hallway etc. - security/neighbours would call police - end of story?? I just dont much experience with police here. Another thought is that I also dont want her to get into any serious trouble. Might sounds crazy to some but she is a very decent person unless when she loses control. l understand completely been in similar worse scenario where l did not even no this lowie. She wanted to get money off me to leave my condo. A bad date lol. She got dragged out and bit me. I mean dragged out. Being a former soldier l wont be extorted by a rodent. This is not that scenario and the police you must speak to a well ranked man..Forget the kickers. They may not serve you. But themselves. Explain you want to help her but you can't stay together The mission is departure Once the gates are locked changectheclocks notify managemnet. After that it's goodbye Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Media1 Posted March 29, 2018 Share Posted March 29, 2018 On 26/03/2018 at 11:08 PM, swissie said: Change lock. Not nice Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Media1 Posted March 29, 2018 Share Posted March 29, 2018 On 27/03/2018 at 10:14 AM, NilSS said: I have a very successful marriage thanks. IMO any man that lets his violent girlfriend have a key, considers PAYING her to leave, and in the process leaves his own home to atay in a hotel in the hope she'll leave, is frankly rather pathetic. Maybe he doesn't mind if she uses his toothbrush to clean the dog's @rsehole before she goes. Have you been stabbed before ? Do you think the police will lock her up Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carnifex Posted March 29, 2018 Share Posted March 29, 2018 Your first mistake was not dealing with her when she first showed the crazy. Allowing her to stay around after that just empowers her. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FritsSikkink Posted March 30, 2018 Share Posted March 30, 2018 9 hours ago, Media1 said: Have you been stabbed before ? Do you think the police will lock her up If she stabs you, she will be locked up. Don't think he will be living with a HiSo very influential person. Stop living in fear, you will like it a lot more. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thaibeachlovers Posted March 30, 2018 Share Posted March 30, 2018 On 3/29/2018 at 12:15 AM, nsimmons said: never even had sex and she declared me hers!!? That's normal BG behaviour. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gk10002000 Posted March 30, 2018 Share Posted March 30, 2018 Hell no do not leave her alone in the place. If you are a really nice guy, get her a cheap place for a month for 5k baht. If she was at all good to you, that would be a nice thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Media1 Posted March 30, 2018 Share Posted March 30, 2018 10 hours ago, joeBr said: Exactly. I was just planning ahead in order to make things as smooth as possible Should calling the police be really necessary as I know from the previous incident she might act very unreasonable/refuse to leave. I could have manhandled her out then lock the door - done. That would have resulted in some drama on the hallway etc. - security/neighbours would call police - end of story?? I just dont much experience with police here. Another thought is that I also dont want her to get into any serious trouble. Might sounds crazy to some but she is a very decent person unless when she loses control. don't listen to idiots that say police won't.. Police must act it's there f job. insist..And tell them she is violent. But you get her a room to stay Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NanLaew Posted March 30, 2018 Share Posted March 30, 2018 On 3/26/2018 at 4:07 PM, poanoi said: this would not be an issue if you were somewhat aggressive & violent, but as it is, i think the best thing you can do is first go to police and ask if they would help if she dont comply, and ask to get appropriate phone nr, and then go back and tell her to leave, and when she dont, phone. neither she or the dog is your problem btw, take care of yourself is your only priority and responsibility The Thai police, like pretty much any police force in the world, will not be interested in any sort of domestic dispute. On the other hand, the Thai police, unlike much any police force in the world, will happily accept a 'donation' to get them to come over to the OP's condo and be all threatening and the like. However, in all practicality, the OP should just go ahead and advise the landlord that he's terminating the lease with immediate effect, not tell the girlfriend, abandon the whole lot, furniture, belongings and any rental deposits and just disappear. New phone number, leave FB, etc.. If this works, please let us know. If you subsequently invite her back into your life (and we know that you will), we can assist with ways of leaving the country that will ensure that you can never come back (as we know that you will). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Media1 Posted March 30, 2018 Share Posted March 30, 2018 15 minutes ago, NanLaew said: The Thai police, like pretty much any police force in the world, will not be interested in any sort of domestic dispute. On the other hand, the Thai police, unlike much any police force in the world, will happily accept a 'donation' to get them to come over to the OP's condo and be all threatening and the like. However, in all practicality, the OP should just go ahead and advise the landlord that he's terminating the lease with immediate effect, not tell the girlfriend, abandon the whole lot, furniture, belongings and any rental deposits and just disappear. New phone number, leave FB, etc.. If this works, please let us know. If you subsequently invite her back into your life (and we know that you will), we can assist with ways of leaving the country that will ensure that you can never come back (as we know that you will). l have never read such madness lol. Firstly she is a visitor. Secondly he will make a police report to protect himself. And thirdly she must leave. What you say is pure madness.. Good for a laugh Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scubascuba3 Posted March 30, 2018 Share Posted March 30, 2018 This thread goes round and round like many others. Op, let us know how it goes asap@joeBr Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gamesgplayemail Posted March 30, 2018 Share Posted March 30, 2018 21 hours ago, cyberfarang said: The police won`t be interested, this is a domestic affair not a criminal case. As Swissie says; change the door locks, end of problem. Polie is ALWAYS interested by some easy cash... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DonnyT Posted March 30, 2018 Share Posted March 30, 2018 (edited) 1 hour ago, NanLaew said: The Thai police, like pretty much any police force in the world, will not be interested in any sort of domestic dispute. In the USA the police are usually really keen to arrest the man in any domestic dispute. (even if it was her hitting him) As an East European man once said, "when your woman calls the police to make a false allegation of domestic violence. In the interests of justice spend the time they take to arrive to beat her senseless. You'll still be arrested, but it will save her from perjury, and it will save you from injustice." Edited March 30, 2018 by DonnyT Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rimmer Posted March 30, 2018 Share Posted March 30, 2018 Multiple off topic baiting, bickering and flaming posts have been removed 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rosst Posted March 30, 2018 Share Posted March 30, 2018 On 26/03/2018 at 10:15 PM, joeBr said: Nah, she is the violent one. From the last incidence I even got lots of witnesses who could prove that. ...Yeah I thought so too: Get in touch with police beforehand and get the right number. Police station is right around the corner. I just wanna avoid getting police involved by all means. cheers! The first move by me would be to change the locks whilst she is away and as discussed go to the police station and arrange a contact number. On her return, discuss the situation with her and ask her to leave offering a financial parting gift. Then play it whichever way she chooses. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hellohello123 Posted March 31, 2018 Share Posted March 31, 2018 On 3/27/2018 at 2:05 PM, geriatrickid said: Because it's the right thing to do. Appreciably, some people without any decency or class will behave as they always have and then wonder why they are treated so poorly in return. I see that response as well thought out and good experienced advice. I would want to be treated decently too and 20,000 is chump change in the general scheme of things. The answer probably came from a considerate person who is well liked. right thing to do? class? decency? what the hell is wrong with some of you guys, she freeloads off him, shes been given enough warnings, and you have to pay her to leave? if you lost all your money, and your job, and couldnt pay rent, and were about to get kicked out, would she pay your rent for you? even if she had it? its the same line that comes out in these types of threads, no wonder farangs are seen as walking ATMs, you let them walk all over you and justify it with things that they dont care or understand, Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
soalbundy Posted March 31, 2018 Share Posted March 31, 2018 Tell her you are into anal 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cornishcarlos Posted March 31, 2018 Share Posted March 31, 2018 1 minute ago, soalbundy said: Tell her you are into anal Now how would that help him get rid of her ???? She's probably got a cock and would be well up for it :) 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hellohello123 Posted March 31, 2018 Share Posted March 31, 2018 On 3/28/2018 at 3:21 PM, InMyShadow said: What? Spend your whole life renting because your to cowardly to tell a female to leave? You've completely lost it! why not, renting is cheaper, they cant take your house, car or whatever you will come out in front financially and mentally in front, Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hellohello123 Posted March 31, 2018 Share Posted March 31, 2018 On 3/28/2018 at 4:41 PM, HLover said: Decency and common sense, being threatened by some bar girl numerous times and then rewarding her for her bad behavior with severance pay? Some of us have a high opinion of Thai girls but a low opinion of the white knights that want to 'save' them and let them walk on them as a doorway rug. I'm sure you understand. Severence pay? absolutely ludicrous all of this multiple advice saying pay her 10k or a few 1000 baht, no wonder so many guys are door mats, 20 years older and get taken for a ride by someone 20 years younger, while worrying about doing the decent thing to do 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scouse123 Posted March 31, 2018 Share Posted March 31, 2018 (edited) 10 minutes ago, hellohello123 said: Severence pay? absolutely ludicrous all of this multiple advice saying pay her 10k or a few 1000 baht, no wonder so many guys are door mats, 20 years older and get taken for a ride by someone 20 years younger, while worrying about doing the decent thing to do And for every bad story about a Thai, there is equally one about a foreigner. What about those guys coming out underfunded that cannot even survive on that kind of money in their own country, that then take7-10,000 a month condos here and move a woman in because they think they are being smart and it's all just free sex without bar fines or paying the girl? Edited March 31, 2018 by Scouse123 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hellohello123 Posted March 31, 2018 Share Posted March 31, 2018 On 3/28/2018 at 5:02 PM, pmarlowe said: A lot of good (and some questionable) advice here. My opinion is that real compensation is the solution. Given your goal to get her out and avoid incident and police (realize this idea may be moot depending on your financial situation), consider giving her more money than she's ever seen in one place before. 100,000k baht would probably be enough to set her up in a new room for a year -- or much longer if she went back to her village. Then help her pack, escort her out and change locks and/or key cards. I understand to give up that much money would sting, but there doesn't seem to be another way around it without involving police. This is just what I would do and in know way is meant to antagonize posters here with other solutions. 100k!?!!! can I be your gf, I promise you I think you are hansum I cant tuck my nuts behind me absolutely ludicrous, no wonder farangs are seen as doormats 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marco777 Posted March 31, 2018 Share Posted March 31, 2018 Several very good opinions ... That's why I'm going to refrain from giving mine. But at this point in the discussion, I would be curious to have the feedback and the update of OP. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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