The ones who can just shrug their shoulders and smile at everything and not think about things too much .

  Dont have an opinion and agree with everything , just smile .

Everything is always right and no one is ever in the wrong .

Just smile and giggle to get through the day

the non whining variety..

Having...

 

a good partner

 

decent health

 

ability to suffer hot weather so you are at least not house bound.

 

living within ones means and being ok with it

 

something of quality to fill ones time, hobby, work.

 

interest in travel, holiday in Thailand and a break from it outside.

 

enjoyment of Thai food, more enjoyment, more happy

 

ability to function in the world in Thai, not at any level of fluency but able to conduct daily business, take trips, order food, etc

 

have lost the desire to run back home because it's just no longer home.

 

have lesser or no need for fancy standard of living, complicated foods, fancy sunday brunches.

 

did not arrive with pussy fever and never caught it, well socialised with females, you're not creeping them out on approach.

 

have young people in their lives

 

non smokers, moderate drinkers.

 

(not) a need to go out every night, weekend like some 20 something

 

reasonable weight for health and aesthetic reasons

 

been here 10+ years, really understanding the country beyond superficial levels.

 

a certain street smarts to smell a scam and get well away from it

 

a temperament that does not display anger openly

 

an ability to be one's own best company because farang can be so maladjusted, sociopathic and self centered

 

Money, enough money to meet ones needs.

Personally I suspect open mindedness and an ability to evaluate the issues and other things which surround us with a healthy balance - its ok to feel critical of somethings and speak up about them without getting upset, we should also recognize the good things and speak out about those too.

 

The negative issues with living in Thailand are out balanced by the positives.

 

Another thing which allows me to thrive and enjoy life here its to comfortably feel a level of respect for those around me, not the tools who act poorly, but the every day people who get on with their life quite normally... it generally lends to a level of mutual respect and makes life somewhat easier and more relaxing.

 

Also, by letting the issues I have no control over slide life is simpler, but handling those issues I do have control over in a mature manner, not losing my cool, being patient but being firm. 

 

ones who are interested in another culture, take the time to learn the differences, learn the language... and financial security helps no matter where you are in the world... 

33 minutes ago, 473geo said:

That was Millwall alright as I recall, going along nicely for 89 minutes then totally f****** it in 30 seconds

Right. Right. I watched that and almost immolated myself in shame

 

31 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

Good lasting sex involves foreplay, ever heard of it?

Yeah it something folks do to pretend they care. I dont. Its all about me.

 

But hey, with my xgf I used to do foreplay: going to the 7-11 to buy batteries for the vibrator. Here ya go sugar, call me when your finished and you can give me mine. Im going to watch replays of the last Newscatle match in the interim. And keep the noise down, its hard enough  understanding those mumbling pundits.

3 hours ago, nausea said:

What do you think are the qualities that make a Western guy (or gal) do better here than they would in their home country?

ATM & Credit card.

The ones that start laughing when anyone says "sex" and the ones who think that they just have to mention "sex" and everyone else will start laughing 

Just now, sanemax said:

The ones that start laughing when anyone says "sex" and the ones who think that they just have to mention "sex" and everyone else will start laughing 

Yes you have made it clear via many posts that you dont like sex.

Open minded people who don't judge things by their own culture.  If you can relate to the statement, "Thailand does not have a proper "_________" then you will not do well in Thailand. 

 

I moved to South East Asia in 1968 and saw most countries at their worst in the midst of war, violence and real poverty.  Now it is much better. 

11 minutes ago, Nyezhov said:

Right. Right. I watched that and almost immolated myself in shame

 

Yeah it something folks do to pretend they care. I dont. Its all about me.

 

But hey, with my xgf I used to do foreplay: going to the 7-11 to buy batteries for the vibrator. Here ya go sugar, call me when your finished and you can give me mine. Im going to watch replays of the last Newscatle match in the interim. And keep the noise down, its hard enough  understanding those mumbling pundits.

Damn. I just spilt my Scotch. You should not be doing this to me.

1 hour ago, BritManToo said:

I rent mine by the month, she also works as a babysitter for my boy.

I thought she also worked as mother

4 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

Damn. I just spilt my Scotch. You should not be doing this to me.

At least YOU think Im funny. Dont know if thats a compliment or not....

1 hour ago, Lamkyong said:

most of us ??     complete exaggeration

You must be a member of a sub-set; no offence intended.  Maybe one day you might open your eyes and look around.  It will make driving a lot safer.

5 minutes ago, StreetCowboy said:

I thought she also worked as mother

No I divorced mom, although she still turns up every few days.

1 minute ago, Nyezhov said:

At least YOU think Im funny. Dont know if thats a compliment or not....

Your florid, verbose and off-the wall posts do amuse me. I'm not so sure about face-to-face conversation.

13 minutes ago, Nyezhov said:

Yes you have made it clear via many posts that you dont like sex.

Its old men talking about sex , that I dont like too much .

Theres about five older guys on here that always seem to be talking about sex , there are sex forums, where you can talk about sex all day long with like minded people

2 hours ago, Puchaiyank said:

..stopping to feed the fish

 

 Or ending up being fed to the fish, as sometimes happens here...

2 minutes ago, sanemax said:

Its old men talking about sex , that I dont like too much .

Theres about five older guys on here that always seem to be talking about sex , there are sex forums, where you can talk about sex all day long with like minded people

I like the ones that do live streaming at the same time you are talking.  Cause you never know who you are really talking to unless you can see them live. 

55 minutes ago, sanemax said:

The ones who can just shrug their shoulders and smile at everything and not think about things too much .

  Dont have an opinion and agree with everything , just smile .

Everything is always right and no one is ever in the wrong .

Just smile and giggle to get through the day

Wow. I feel your pain. How ever do you manage, living in Thailand?

Ones who are flexible (not physically, although.... ????) adventurous, not desperate, and not gullible.  

 

It's often a matter of expectations and goals. It seems some people who set out to live in Thailand or similar places are trying to escape from themselves, convinced that such a vast change in their environment will bring about the changes they want in themselves or their lives. I think in some cases this actually happens but not often, and for the majority who don't find the expected improvement in their lives, deep depression can set in, especially if they've committed their emotions and finances into a false or failed relationship. We've seen and known of many a Western man who has been emotionally and financially bankrupted by a calculating lover.

13 minutes ago, sanemax said:

Its old men talking about sex , that I dont like too much .

How about young guys then?

Having different interests, being disciplined with money, not having a drink problem, regular exercise. The longer i stay here i realise its better to not have a girlfriend or wife, you just don't need to. You could make a good case for having a dog instead.

 

Not buying a condo/house also good, you have freedom to move in case of bad neighbours or law changes. Flexibility feels good.

 

Ah and the big one, don't spend too much time on here, the negativity isn't good for you

 

 

 

 

 

 

16 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

Your florid, verbose and off-the wall posts do amuse me. I'm not so sure about face-to-face conversation.

You would be distracted by the large, juicy, protruberant and pustulant zit on the tip of my nose that looks like a large inflamed vanilla ice cream cone, albiet a sickly light greenish yellow coloured one surrounded by red. It does have a tendency to wiggle as I talk sometimes. Maybe we should have dinner together one night to check.

2 minutes ago, Nyezhov said:

How about young guys then?

1. Not I will not talk to you about sex , go for a massage or something or go to a bar and talk about sex with bargirls 

2 minutes ago, sanemax said:

go for a massage or something or go to a bar and talk about sex with bargirls 

Well thats why I thrive in Thailand.

18 minutes ago, Spidey said:

Wow. I feel your pain. How ever do you manage, living in Thailand?

Just go around shrugging my shoulders , smiling and laughing 

4 minutes ago, Nyezhov said:

Well thats why I thrive in Thailand.

Go out and "thrive" then , rather than sitting at home telling about how you "thrive"

2 minutes ago, sanemax said:

Just go around shrugging my shoulders , smiling and laughing 

So your persona on TV is your alter ego then?

7 minutes ago, Nyezhov said:

You would be distracted by the large, juicy, protruberant and pustulant zit on the tip of my nose that looks like a large inflamed vanilla ice cream cone, albiet a sickly light greenish yellow coloured one surrounded by red. It does have a tendency to wiggle as I talk sometimes. Maybe we should have dinner together one night to check.

Oh good lord!!!

 

Thank god it's far enough past breakfast and long enough until lunch where I am that I didn't have to toss my cookies and will likely forget this enough to have an appetite by early afternoon. That's a bit too vivid, but I should have known better than to keep reading after the first two adjectives used to describe the zit.