Life is hard.

[Pattayabeerbacon]

 

<deleted>  I'm 33 soon, Can't hold a job, am a bad alcholic, am bad with money have numerous untreated  medical conditions and cant make clear decisions for the life of me ... Already at early thirtys im starting to turn sour, I cannot find a GF in the western world because of social anxiety and i cannot afford Thailand  or asian either where i am much happier.

 

life just sucks sometimes, Why does it have to be so tough, Why are some born millionaires and some born to shovel shit day in day out and suffer through it.

 

I'm not happy at all, never was , I hate life. 

[blackcab]

Moved to the Farang Pub.

[worgeordie]

Not another doom and gloom,feel sorry for me post,

we need cheering up,not more bad news.life is what

you make it.

regards Worgeordie

[elcaro]

Sorry you feel that way mate. Try to pick up a hobby or work out and exercise. It sounds cliche but it has always worked for me in the past when going through a rough patch of life.

[PatOngo]

Life's a bitch, then you die!

[BritManToo]

26 minutes ago, Pattayabeerbacon said:

I'm 33 soon, Can't hold a job, am a bad alcholic, am bad with money have numerous untreated  medical conditions and cant make clear decisions for the life of me ... Already at early thirtys im starting to turn sour, I cannot find a GF in the western world because of social anxiety and i cannot afford Thailand  or asian either where i am much happier.

Took me 60 years to get to this state.

Congratulations you've done it in half the time I did.

[brokenbone]

you had a bad draw with your parents,

there really isnt anything you can do about it

[Matzzon]

34 minutes ago, Pattayabeerbacon said:

<deleted>  I'm 33 soon, Can't hold a job, am a bad alcholic, am bad with money have numerous untreated  medical conditions and cant make clear decisions for the life of me ... Already at early thirtys im starting to turn sour, I cannot find a GF in the western world because of social anxiety and i cannot afford Thailand  or asian either where i am much happier.

 

life just sucks sometimes, Why does it have to be so tough, Why are some born millionaires and some born to shovel shit day in day out and suffer through it.

 

I'm not happy at all, never was , I hate life.

The situation you seem to find yourself in, actually sound very hard. it also sounds very serious. All these problems, and you seem to be aware of them. The first question will be, why in the world you have not been seeking professional help? There is nothing to be ashamed of with that. Many people need to talk to a professional about their problems to sort them out.
 

You say that you are only 33, and single due to that you cannot find a girlfriend or afford one. Looks to me that you have tried to move to Thailand before you sorted out your life. That´s not a possibility. Even if the money is there, that is not going to make you happy.

The two core problems in this problem seems to be a lack of self confidence as well as a major drinking problem. These two things work very well together, due to that they both speed up the process to reach rock bottom. Your self confidence is telling you to drink to be able to better relate to friends, girls and life. Your confidence is fooling you and leading you on a disaterous path in life. On the other hand, your drinking problem continues to lower your self confidence, due to that everytime the great feeling diappears the real life seems to be harder and harder to cope with.

Is there any underlying problems with economy too? I know some people have money, and get in problem with life anyway. Some try to do more than they can and get in problem and depression out of the inpossibility to achive their goals and dreams. Are you also having problems with your possibilities to stay regarding to anxiety over getting your visas?

I am not any kind of professional in any of these matters, just trying to use common sense. I can not help you with what professional can. what I can do, is to be someone you can talk too. If you feel better talking about this through private messages that´s ok by me. I am sure there must be some chances for a 33 year old guy, that just having a bad streak in life.

[HLover]

OP, can you please post a selfie?  We may be able to find you similar soulmate you could bond with.

[BritManToo]

2 minutes ago, Matzzon said:

I am not any kind of professional in any of these matters, just trying to use common sense. I can not help you with what professional can. what I can do, is to be someone you can talk too. If you feel better talking about this through private messages that´s ok by me. I am sure there must be some chances for a 33 year old guy, that just having a bad streak in life.

Op's life is just the way it is for white males in the western world these days.

Our women won't bang us, and employers won't hire us.

[mackayae]

Get a good lawyer and sue God.

[HLover]

4 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Op's life is just the way it is for white males in the western world these days.

Our women won't bang us, and employers won't hire us.

Sounds reasonable.

[poohy]

At least you are looking on the bright side of things!

[Stocky]

Quote

Life is hard

If it were easy no one would get out of bed.

[Pattayabeerbacon]

Just now, BritManToo said:

Op's life is just the way it is for white males in the western world these days.

Our women won't bang us, and employers won't hire us.

 

its hopeless, I told my father i dont want to live in Australia because i was lonely and couldn't find a girlfriend, He just told me to keep labouring and stop going to thailand and hold a job.

 

what am i supposed to do? be a lonely shitkicker for the rest of my days?

im beginning to not give a shit if i live or die, I am already drinking myself to death slowly.

[ratcatcher]

How much shit do you manage to shovel in a day. What do you do for income and how do you survive? You need some serious help mate. 

[Berkshire]

50 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Op's life is just the way it is for white males in the western world these days.

Our women won't bang us, and employers won't hire us.

Geez man, what is it with you and the OP?  Life in the western world is nothing like that.  Unfortunately, if white males in the west grow up believing that they're "entitled," then I suppose they can turn out like the beerbacon dude.  Pattaya is probably the last place one would want to be with no money. 

[Matzzon]

57 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Op's life is just the way it is for white males in the western world these days.

Our women won't bang us, and employers won't hire us.

I do think that might have something to do with the male persons mindset. Just looking down and make a joke of the opposite sex is not working. Nah, unless you pay for your action, of course.

[NCC1701A]

1 hour ago, Pattayabeerbacon said:

I'm 33 soon,

snowflake, porn is free on the internet now. 

 

i had to walk 20 miles to get mine.

[Isaanbiker]

No di__is as hard as life! See the positive side, one day it will be over and you're doing all to shorten it. 

[Skallywag]

1 hour ago, Matzzon said:

The first question will be, why in the world you have not been seeking professional help?

Ah the ultimate Catch 22. 

No job, no money and of course a suggestion to go seek professional help at $160 an hour.  A worthy yet monetarily unattainable solution.

 

OP has an internet connection, maybe read about Buddhism online.

Noble truth 1: Life is filled with suffering

 

Join the club

 

[soalbundy]

It isn't supposed to be easy, I know some millionaires, all they have is bigger problems. I don't suppose anybody on this forum had it easy. The one thing life doesn't reward is cowardice, stop whinging and face your problems because nobody else can help you, you are the commander-in-chief of the physical 'me'.

Meister Eckhart, a German christian mystic born in 1260 once wrote, "Once you decide to carry your cross you will find it is the cross that carries you"

[brokenbone]

on the bright side, as you get older and wiser, youll acknowledge

the fact that masturbation is far superior to woman,

its not even a contest

[holy cow cm]

58 minutes ago, Pattayabeerbacon said:

 

its hopeless, I told my father i dont want to live in Australia because i was lonely and couldn't find a girlfriend, He just told me to keep labouring and stop going to thailand and hold a job.

 

what am i supposed to do? be a lonely shitkicker for the rest of my days?

im beginning to not give a shit if i live or die, I am already drinking myself to death slowly.

At least you still have a loving dad and nowadays it is very hard to eek out a living here if you do not have a profession or expertise in some field or degree. Do you? Even then it takes money in the bank or a salary to keep you hear now. 

 

Your dad is right. But set a goal and get there and quit the always me syndrome with your baggage. That's a card you should only play for a small time. Just excuses so be strong.

 

I can name a bunch of problems I have or have overcome, and still will overcome, even a medical condition and even at one time bouncing back from different levels of a rock bottom but never giving up. And I exercise and make the effort to try my best and never give up. This is how I stay on top and successful..

 

Why can't you hold a job? Alcohol sounds like your first barrier, so give it up if you can't keep it under control. Second, in Australia go get a rub and tug and be satisfied like that. Honestly, no one wants someone not in control of their life unless someone is in your same type of feeling or situation. Or maybe someone in a Church like a nice woman would like to save you or help you.

 

Reminds me of the Movie: Leaving Los Vegas with Nicolas Cage.

 

I don't mean to be callous or come off that way, so please excuse me if it comes of harsh.

 

Good luck. Life is not easy for anyone.

[Pilotman]

1 hour ago, Pattayabeerbacon said:

 

its hopeless, I told my father i dont want to live in Australia because i was lonely and couldn't find a girlfriend, He just told me to keep labouring and stop going to thailand and hold a job.

 

what am i supposed to do? be a lonely shitkicker for the rest of my days?

im beginning to not give a shit if i live or die, I am already drinking myself to death slowly.

The first thing that you need to do is get a grip of yourself, stop all the self pity and feeling sorry at what life has given you so far and work at making it better.  There are very many millions, possibly billions, that are much worse off than you are. You live in an advanced country that, provided you are prepared to work hard and with resolve, focus, dedication and will power, you can make something of yourself in short order. So stop your whining, stop drinking, stop posting on TV,  exert some self control over what makes you unhappy and get on with the only life you have been given.  

[transam]

2 hours ago, brokenbone said:

you had a bad draw with your parents,

there really isnt anything you can do about it

No, sounds like a good draw and became a spoilt brat..

 

1 hour ago, Pattayabeerbacon said:

 

its hopeless, I told my father i dont want to live in Australia because i was lonely and couldn't find a girlfriend, He just told me to keep labouring and stop going to thailand and hold a job.

 

what am i supposed to do? be a lonely shitkicker for the rest of my days?

im beginning to not give a shit if i live or die, I am already drinking myself to death slowly.

You could rent a condo with a balcony...

[CGW]

1 hour ago, Pattayabeerbacon said:

what am i supposed to do? be a lonely shitkicker for the rest of my days?

im beginning to not give a shit if i live or die, I am already drinking myself to death slowly.

O dear, the indoctrination process seems to have failed you, you are supposed to be content with your "lot" in life!

Now you have seen through the facade you have only one option and that is to get on with your life and make the best of it you can, feeling sorry for yourself is not an option!

[RichardColeman]

2 hours ago, Pattayabeerbacon said:

life just sucks sometimes, Why does it have to be so tough, Why are some born millionaires and some born to shovel shit day in day out and suffer through it.

Have you thought of starting a 'go fund me' page ? I'm sure if you explained you are an unemployed, alcoholic spendthrift plenty would donate.

Grow up, man, you think i liked working a naff job for 25 years straight ?None of us do - unless your Beckham ! You want the life , you gotta earn it !

[sherwood]

1 hour ago, Pattayabeerbacon said:

 

its hopeless, I told my father i dont want to live in Australia because i was lonely and couldn't find a girlfriend, He just told me to keep labouring and stop going to thailand and hold a job.

 

what am i supposed to do? be a lonely shitkicker for the rest of my days?

im beginning to not give a shit if i live or die, I am already drinking myself to death slowly.

Not easy to drink yourself to death in Australia other than slowly, grog prices are stupidly high.

Tax! the curse of the drinking man.

Chin up mate.

 

[EVENKEEL]

Have another beer, life not fair.