Advice on Thai girl

[Ulisse22]

Hi guys,

new in the Forum and thanks for reading my story.

I was on holiday 1 months ago and met in a club this girl, 22 years old, with her girl friend. She spent the first night with me and then for a week she stayed with me, we seemed like a real couple and she promised me she will be a good girl when i would have left. Now that i am back she never answers my messages, or comments i do on her socials, she calls me once a week or less, she says she is busy with her friend, but when she does answer me she is all sweet like: “i miss you so much, cant wait to see you again, and bla bla”. She doesnt work so i am not sure how she gets money to live there, she stays with a girl friend who takes her around and host her in her room, but a bit crazy girl. I think her friend goes out with many men so not sure what mine does to be honest but she never asks me money. This is important, never ask me money so she could potentially if she wanted but no. Everyone says that thai girls are jealous but i dont see in her, also not sure why she behaves like that with me, when she randomly talk to me she is all sweet, then she disappear for many days, she says she will call me every day and she disappear for a week. I think she lies she says she doesnt see my messages on messenger Fb, also she never answer on line or instagram, at all. What to do with her?i was planning a holiday in august or when it gets better in thailand with her, but i dont wanna be with a girl who lies or doesnt care. Thanks!

[Tagged]

If you dont like her to lie, dont ask her anything you dont like to hear! 
 

She is working, thats whybshe is busy, and Im sure she want to see you again! To her you might be in her eyes her future if you want! In meantime, she need to make a living

[Justgrazing]

16 minutes ago, Ulisse22 said:

What to do with her?

the same as you would do with a used tissue .. and she's probably binned a few herself and I doubt if they were full of sn*t .. 

 

22 minutes ago, Ulisse22 said:

“i miss you so much, cant wait to see you again, and bla bla”.

standard patter .. 

 

26 minutes ago, Ulisse22 said:

She spent the first night with me and then for a week she stayed with me,

If you b*ned her or put it in other parts without a johnny I'd be getting down the Subscriber Trunk Dialling clinic pronto .. Seriously .. 

[AlexRich]

Yup. Yawn. Newbie longwinder ... come back in August with 1 million Baht sin sod, and plans for a house and land in Issan. This ones a keeper. 
 

You couldn’t make it up, or could you?

[jastheace]

8 minutes ago, AlexRich said:

Yup. Yawn. Newbie longwinder ... come back in August with 1 million Baht sin sod, and plans for a house and land in Issan. This ones a keeper. 
 

You couldn’t make it up, or could you?

libraries all closed, bookshops shuttered up, so can't get any new books to read. so where better than to get your fiction fix than TVF?

[ThailandRyan]

Run Forest, Run.  

[ChaiyaTH]

You might be a nice guy and gave her a good holiday. She might even really liked you for the time being, if you had plenty cash and would have stayed permanently, she might have stayed. But now you are gone and not getting her laid, not getting her anything. 
She will either ignore you or come up with something that will end up about being about money.

Will use you again on a next holiday if she has no other better offers going on, might attempt a next level to go after big cash aka long term scam.

For sure she is open to any other offers, for sure she is getting laid for free or paid when you are gone longer than a few weeks. 

If you are also younger, not close to even 50 soon, you can't even get a long term visa easily. You have nothing to offer her here unless she comes to you, which should be developed trough online chats and short holidays. How big of a chance is that? Aside of that even those who do marry, well 50% globally divorce, I think more here.

Anyway, are you living under a stone or what? You thought you met the girl who is different? You never read any of the stories? 
Forget about it and move on. IMO not a good idea to try and start a relationship during short holidays in the first place, unless both of you know that means she needs to get to your country, and you are able to get those visa's with financial proof etc + you go more often to Thailand (not forget the costs of this, while not being sure about the relationship at all too). Like take a ice cold shower right now and wake up dude.

P.S. If she really liked you, she would at least texted you once a day. Everyone has a few minutes. You are plan C, D, E or F (reserve troops).
If she had a normal job, she can not take off a full month. Even 10 days out of the blue and without proper planning be hard - the easiest way to spot something is off with a girl in TH - (another issue with long distance relationships, likely she need to give up job for visits your country etc so you end up paying) So how does that work for august and on your previous holiday?

[Puchaiyank]

You don't need advise...you need to grow up!

[jastheace]

calling @PatOngo. advice needed.

what would Batman suggest?

[Ulisse22]

9 minutes ago, ChaiyaTH said:

You might be a nice guy and gave her a good holiday. She might even really liked you for the time being, if you had plenty cash and would have stayed permanently, she might have stayed. But now you are gone and not getting her laid, not getting her anything. 
She will either ignore you or come up with something that will end up about being about money.

Will use you again on a next holiday if she has no other better offers going on, might attempt a next level to go after big cash aka long term scam.

For sure she is open to any other offers, for sure she is getting laid for free or paid when you are gone longer than a few weeks. 

If you are also younger, not close to even 50 soon, you can't even get a long term visa easily. You have nothing to offer her here unless she comes to you, which should be developed trough online chats and short holidays. How big of a chance is that? Aside of that even those who do marry, well 50% globally divorce, I think more here.

Anyway, are you living under a stone or what? You thought you met the girl who is different? You never read any of the stories? 
Forget about it and move on. IMO not a good idea to try and start a relationship during short holidays in the first place, unless both of you know that means she needs to get to your country, and you are able to get those visa's with financial proof etc + you go more often to Thailand (not forget the costs of this, while not being sure about the relationship at all too). Like take a ice cold shower right now and wake up dude.

Thank you mate perfect analysis, just my first relationship with a thai so i feel insecure, thanks for spending some time in giving me an answer instead of others making fun

[ChaiyaTH]

Just now, Ulisse22 said:

Thank you mate perfect analysis, just my first relationship with a thai so i feel insecure, thanks for spending some time in giving me an answer instead of others making fun

Check my edit, I kept on writing lol. Anyway, hope it helps.

[ChaiyaTH]

5 minutes ago, Ulisse22 said:

Thank you mate perfect analysis, just my first relationship with a thai so i feel insecure, thanks for spending some time in giving me an answer instead of others making fun

There are plenty good ones out there but you have to be realistic as well. Specially if not living here.

[RichardColeman]

Think 99% of us have been there, done that, Got the t-shirt. etc.

 

Learn and Move on 

[PatOngo]

1 hour ago, jastheace said:

calling @PatOngo. advice needed.

what would Batman suggest? 

OK! Ulisse, listen once and listen good! Batman is a busy man!

He deals with guys like you too often!    

   

 

 

[CharlieH]

Another one had a glass of milk and fell in love with the cow  !!! 

 

Another cliche, plenty more pebbles on the beach pal , there are dozens and more waiting for you just like her, and better, why on earth stick on one , move on and enjoy yourself.

[cornishcarlos]

Another "new" member with a tragic Thai girl story !!

 

About as realistic as Thailand Covid numbers 

[Bruce Aussie]

You had a good time never got fleeced, put it behind you and keep it as a good memory.

All 22year olds are nice and will be plenty thre in a year or so once virus over.

Dont part with any money and take care your health for the future.

 

 

[Kwasaki]

7 hours ago, Ulisse22 said:

What to do with her?

Up to you, I had a Thai girlfriend many years ago now and then we are still in touch every once in a while.

She has settled down now, before at 19 years old she started and built up to 6 guys from abroad who dated her when they came on holiday, she loved them all.

[Tagged]

2 minutes ago, Kwasaki said:

 she loved them all.

I believe you, 

 

and the first one to make the move, got the princess for rest of his life. Or as long it last

[Skallywag]

8 hours ago, Ulisse22 said:

but i dont wanna be with a girl who lies or doesnt care. Thanks!

you just gave yourself the advice you seek. 

[RJRS1301]

Reading like a person who has never read anything about Thailand ever, the clubs/bars/dating sites.Also lack of emotionally intelligence being displayed it appears.

Finds the TVF but not read any threads it seems, but I think I recall thise similar wording a thousnad times before somewhere

Had a sexual health check recently ??

[Kwasaki]

4 minutes ago, Tagged said:

I believe you, 

 

and the first one to make the move, got the princess for rest of his life. Or as long it last

I have known that to happen to but not to my friend she ended up with a Thai guy in the end and at 47 she is still amazing and very attractive.

[473geo]

I know hard to take, but the no regular contact is the key to the situation

 

A Thai lady with genuine feelings for a guy will want to please, therefore want to communicate regularly, not come with a string of excuses

 

Time to slide your experience into the memory bank and move on to creating another

[dlclark97]

Call it a club if you want.  It was a bar and where many Thai girls go to make money possibly some for themselves, more for their Thai boy friends or husbands and some for their families.  Many are also supporting babies they left at home with family members while they work.  Was this your first time to Thailand?  Have to guess at YES!  It's a way of life here often misunderstood by foreigners (especially newbies) who are unfamiliar with the way things work here.  Based on your description of your attempts to maintain contact with her I would guess she has moved on to another (or many) sponsor.  Yes, there are some great Thai ladies here who can be faithful and could make great wives.  And, they can be met in bars but it would take a very long time to cultivate a potentially lasting relationship.  Something that is unlikely to happen when you occasionally visit on a two week holiday.  Good luck but as others have said my advice is 'RUN FORREST RUN'.

[1FinickyOne]

8 hours ago, Ulisse22 said:

What to do with her

this is more of a what will she do with me question... sounds like you have not much say in things... next time you communicate with her, make sure to send a picture,..

[1FinickyOne]

8 hours ago, Ulisse22 said:

never ask me money

not in words you understood maybe.. you are supposed to offer to pay... 

[stupidfarang]

6 hours ago, Ulisse22 said:

Thank you mate perfect analysis, just my first relationship with a thai so i feel insecure, thanks for spending some time in giving me an answer instead of others making fun

Do not get upset with the comments that make fun of your situation. Most guys on here have been caught out and learned the hardway. There is some good advice on here and if you do not live here or only come for a weeks holiday then be very careful.

[BobbyL]

And again ????

[PatOngo]

3 hours ago, Bruce Aussie Chiang Mai said:

Dont part with any money and take care your health for the future.

 

Come on! Let him pay his due's.........….No Money, No Honey!

[dubai thai farang]

Read Private Dancer by Stephen Leather. You will find your answers there. 

ps. Meeting girls in clubs and sleeping with them that night.....it doesn't happen unless they are selling it

(even if you didn't pay they're still 100% a whore)