39 minutes ago, rumak said:

you still look the same !    well, maybe the beards a bit longer      congrats

I have many disguises.  The gentleman and the hillbilly, for example.  We were once a normal family, LOL.

 

Enough of my thread hijack.  As to how soon to get married, it all depends on circumstances and your temperament. But don't rush in.  In my case, I didn't think much of my future wife as more than a friend until I got to know her.  I didn't want to leave her behind.  She wasn't particularly interested to go to the USA.  It worked.

 

   

On 4/7/2020 at 8:44 AM, Damrongsak said:

I don't recall exactly when I met my future wife, but I think it was the start of Khao Phansa, July 1977.  She was in the market in Loei selling clothing with her sister.  Soon hired her to do my laundry as it wouldn't dry in the rainy season if I did it.  We married Oct 7, 1978, so perhaps 15 months.  It was then or never as my Peace Corps tour ended in March 1979. (We did hang around for another year or so as I got a job interviewing Lao and Khmer refugees for resettlement in the U.S.)

 

She didn't speak English at the time, though she knew a few words.  We got along fine just as friends.  Now after 42 years, her English is way better than my Thai.  And she's a worth adversary. 

 

Oh, she was never married and we were young.  I was 25, she was a couple years younger. Lovely couple.  Then and now:

 

 

Well done; you beat the odds.

Even western to western is only 50% likely to succeed, and western to Thai is probably worse odds.

 

PS. Great beard. It's as good as mine

On 4/12/2020 at 1:00 PM, rumak said:

I am not an advocate of "marriage".    Why do you need papers and contracts to live with somebody?    And,  in many many cases the love does not grow stronger, but quite the opposite.

Snap.

It's so rare to see a couple still in love after 40 years as to be unusual. The best most seem to achieve is that it's too hard to go off alone so stay together.

On both my break ups I lost almost everything.

1 hour ago, thaibeachlovers said:

Snap.

It's so rare to see a couple still in love after 40 years as to be unusual. The best most seem to achieve is that it's too hard to go off alone so stay together.

On both my break ups I lost almost everything.

sorry to hear that.   men should definitely have a  Me Too  movement.   Guys who have lost

in the game of love.    When the (divorce) laws favor the women,  men should stand their ground

(no marriage, thank you)  .    

But alas,   words of warning fall on deaf ears.     Seems to me good guys often put in 80 percent of the effort...... and get left with 20 percent when the end comes. 

31 years together and married for 17 years.

Still going strong and happy ????

 

 

Met my better half outside of Thailand in 1995, 25 years later still together and going strong. We have a 21 year old son.

 

 

On 4/6/2020 at 1:44 PM, Damrongsak said:

I don't recall exactly when I met my future wife, but I think it was the start of Khao Phansa, July 1977.  She was in the market in Loei selling clothing with her sister.  Soon hired her to do my laundry as it wouldn't dry in the rainy season if I did it.  We married Oct 7, 1978, so perhaps 15 months.  It was then or never as my Peace Corps tour ended in March 1979. (We did hang around for another year or so as I got a job interviewing Lao and Khmer refugees for resettlement in the U.S.)

 

She didn't speak English at the time, though she knew a few words.  We got along fine just as friends.  Now after 42 years, her English is way better than my Thai.  And she's a worth adversary. 

 

Oh, she was never married and we were young.  I was 25, she was a couple years younger. Lovely couple.  Then and now:

 

 

 

I love these 2 pics together!

So nice............

I knew my wife for 5 years, now been married 12 years this month.

We married 7 years after meeting; a year after our son was born.

She was 19 when we met.

(Edit: however my wife is not Thai)

 

On 4/7/2020 at 2:34 AM, TC17 said:

This is a great topic.  You hear so many horror stories, especially on YouTube of guys taken to the cleaners once married to a Thai girl.  Let's hear more positive stories and the details behind those relationships.  Maybe the few bad outcomes get a disproportionate amount of press and attention.   I wonder the same thing as the original poster.  

You can be wiped out by women from any country, not just Thailand

Some inflammatory posts and replies have been removed. 

I think it was 6 years

Met my wife my 1st trip to Thailand

 

I was 30yrs old, she was 21yrs old.

 

But as usual, Thai girls want to go 0-60 in a relationship and I wanted it to be more casual

Seen each other on maybe 7-8 trips in 2/3 years

But went our separate ways, she moved to Italy for a couple of years

 

But we ended back together

So known each other 18 years, married for 12 years

 

My stepson is 19yrs old at Thamassat University, we have a great relationship. Always in touch with each other

We still would like to have a baby in the next year or so and even maybe adopt another child(or two!)