my girlfriend wants gold

[KhunFred]

When you swim with sharks, expect to be eaten. Any relationship which requires gold should be terminated.

[mauGR1]

I did that mistake once, although i have to be honest in saying that, at 60, i'm not much interested in sex anymore, i would never ever stick around with somebody who's just interested in my money.

Don't think with your small head, don't feed the parasites.

[giddyup]

26 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Dude, they could always get a job and work for a living like everyone else.

I give my partner 20,000 baht a month for both our living expenses, food, and utilities, on top of that I buy her any clothes she wants and she gets 100,000 baht every birthday, not because she asks for it, it's because she's worth every baht. Probably half the guys who come to Thailand don't stand a chance of meeting someone young and attractive in their own country, yet they seem to think that a woman here is going find them a catch for their good looks and winning personalities, hah!

Edited April 9, 2020 by giddyup

[ripstanley]

Bye Bye Miss American  (Thai) Pie..............

[Chrysaora]

39 minutes ago, ChouDoufu said:

 

isn't that about the average salary for an office lady in bangkok with a decent job?

No.  Most of them make about 12,000b a month if that.  The employers here exploit all of them, especially the women.  

[at15]

Its never been love. Lets just get the obvious out of the way first. Laughable to think otherwise. Right now you are under a test. With the time you have spent away from each other she now believes her value is high enough to achieve a better man than you. Hence the financial test of a 150-200k gold purchase. She knows this is not a big deal for you money wise, you said it yourself. If you do not cough up this money you will fail and be written off as stingy. She will be moving on soon once your next target is locked in. If you do cough up the 150-200k baht then you move on to the next stage, which as you said will be cars, houses, land, etc. It will be a constant progression like this, and she will not stop until you are buried under the ground. 

[david555]

2 hours ago, Pilotman said:

Gold is her pension, the rest is just living expenses.  Either understand  that or ditch her, but if you ditch her, it's not her fault for asking, its yours for not understanding the 'deal' in a Thai Farang relationship.    She is just being normal. I had a 'deal' with my wife for the first 10 years of our relationship, until she qualified for half my pension when I died.  Each year I would buy her one item of 1 Baht gold on her birthday, or upgrade one, 1 Baht item to a 2 Baht item. It worked out well for us both.  We both own that gold now and trade it as we require. 

1 bath gold once in a while for birthday Christmas or so , is far of from 150/200 k gold ….in one chop …..

What if she see this as a final goodbye payment  …. never had a thought for that ….a finale squeeze before looking (or having already ) replacement boyfriend …?

Edited April 9, 2020 by david555

[olfu]

55 minutes ago, Davo369 said:

Buy her a shovel and then tell her to dig for it

Is this what they do in rice fields?

[moontang]

A friend's company bought a house for his "manager," to live in near HH.  She has seven relatives living there.  She is a "nice" girl, of course, but she sure does know lower Sukhumvit well.

[ChouDoufu]

10 minutes ago, Chrysaora said:

No.  Most of them make about 12,000b a month if that.  The employers here exploit all of them, especially the women.  

well, i didn't know that.  mine was making 20k plus end of year bonus, some of her friends working for banks doing collections are making up to 30k.

[samsensam]

 

tell her if she want's money get a job, it's what other people do. unless her job is being your GF in which case you pay her to be your gf or look for someone who doesn't want paying to be with you. there are plenty of thai women who aren't interested in money and anyone who tells you different needs to get out of the bars.

 

[Destiny1990]

You been so far very generous for her. Likely she been talking to some bar girl friends and they tend to brag amongst eachother..

Anyway before i tell u how to handle this what’s her and ur age and what was her last job and her education?

 

[Kwasaki]

2 hours ago, kiever said:

What do you think, should I give what she wants ?

[ratcatcher]

1 hour ago, connda said:

Yeah baby!  It's a buyers market!!!  Tons of available, slightly used merchandise.  You should be like a kid in a candy store.  

His only problem is that he's in his home country not Thailand. Utube videos are no substitute. He is long distancing his relationship.

[ravip]

Congratulations, OP! The one of the best questions you could ask on this forum!

[KhunFred]

I understand this situation better than most. I was involved with a restaurant supervisor, who makes a whopping nine thousand baht a month. She never stopped needing extra infusions of cash. She drove my budget into a ditch and then when payments had to stop, she ditched me for someone else who had more money. NOT a rich man.....just more disposable income. There are no exceptions to this norm. If you want it, you have to pay for it. This woman was no young girl, she is 47, I am now 70. I learned a. hard, bitter lesson. I would have been no worse off, if I had chosen a bargirl, because there is no real difference.

[BritManToo]

55 minutes ago, bbi1 said:

What you are describing here is not a gf but a prostitute.

No, prostitutes are a lot cheaper than gfs or wives.

This one is asking too much to be a prostitute.

[Jimmy Pop]

I don't know where my last post went so I'll try again.

There's one born every minute sometimes two,I think it's time to lick your wounds and move on.

[gk10002000]

Of course she is asking and will ask for things.  Did she ever work?  Does she have any job skills, and substantial education?  If she is thinking about the future, well just getting living expenses along the way as gifts doesn't do that

[saakura]

OP, the answer to your question also depends on why did you come from Turkey to Thailand, how did you meet your gf? What is the age gap between both of you? How do you communicate with each other? You mention that "never understand the love of thais", so how many thai girls have you been in a relationship with and then left them? It could also be quite possible that you are the dodgy one and she wants to be careful as you may use and discard her?

[Chrysaora]

38 minutes ago, ChouDoufu said:

well, i didn't know that.  mine was making 20k plus end of year bonus, some of her friends working for banks doing collections are making up to 30k.

It's not the norm.

[bwpage3]

2 hours ago, kiever said:

no never i would do it for a girl in my home country.. but in my home country i would never have a girl at less than half age of mine.

Sounds like you feel lucky to have a girl have your age and she feels lucky to have an old ATM.

 

Thai girls that are in love, never ask for gold, money anything.

 

For all you have already done, her only response is her friend's boyfriend does more.

 

That should be a clear message, this gold is not about you or love.

 

Once the asking for gold/money starts, it never ends and these relationships end painfully.

 

Read the forum.

 

If I were you, I would say no and put your foot down on sending her so much money.

 

See is she sticks around or not?

[CrunchWrapSupreme]

I must take exception to these "Run away from ALL Thai women" posts in the thread. They would do well to read the other popular thread currently going, "When did you get married?", in which several have documented 20, 30, and even one 40 year marriage that began in the midst of the Vietnam war.

 

That being said, this one's clearly a dud. I can't even fathom these numbers. 20k baht monthly allowance, and now a 200k request for gold. Utterly ridiculous. Both the amounts, and this guy for not seeing it. That is, if this just isn't a troll post to get more posts on the site going. But let's entertain it.

 

I've been in Thailand a number of years and have been with my wife about the same time. I've just been a lowly teacher. I've supported her and her family with what I could, only a few thousand at a time. I was only able to afford the smallest wedding rings. Then some time ago, I got her a two baht necklace.

 

In the midst of this Coronavirus, my savings have been stretched thin. I had summer school work that's been cancelled. I told her we had to sell the gold. She did so without hesitation and give me the money.

 

Getting a Thai woman to part with her gold. It does exist, my friends. And that is how you know you've got yourself a keeper. Keep looking for them.

[bwpage3]

1 hour ago, Enzian said:

OK, I'm going through the same right now, and she's half my age and I could write a book on all I've done for her these past five years, and yes she has returned value. They want SECURITY, whatever that means in any particular case, and in my case I could not take the step of marriage. I just drew the line finally when she asked me to cover a family emergency which did not seem appropriate from my western point of view. So it may be over, we're separated, no legal chains, I've never bet more than I was willing to lose. It hurts, a little. Suffer and move on; or don't.

Nothing ever lasts forever

Everybody wants to rule the world

(Tears for Fears)

 

Sad story and sorry for you.

 

However, some girls will play hard at first and when they cannot find another sponsor, they will do anything to get back together with you.

 

You have already seen the true color, sure it is painful, but being broke is painful too.

 

Plenty of good women in Thailand, you have nothing to worry about.

[InfinityandBeyond]

When I was a young, single and hansum man back in the day, I always found the phrase "my OTHER girlfriend has never asked for gold" gets to the heart of the matter fairly quickly. Good luck to you. And store sharp objects safely away. 

Addendum: the heart of the matter appears to be money in your situation. Which is fair enough. But like everything in life, give what you comfortably can without sacrificing your happiness. If someone loves you, they will understand. 

Edited April 9, 2020 by InfinityandBeyond
Addendum

[Andrew23]

Just give her whatever she wants until such expense is not too significant for you. And don't overestimate your "food, dentist & good accommodations"

[CharlieH]

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[kingdong]

2 hours ago, kiever said:

no never i would do it for a girl in my home country.. but in my home country i would never have a girl at less than half age of mine.

To quote the Beatles " money can,t buy you love"

[kingdong]

6 minutes ago, Andrew23 said:

 

 

6 minutes ago, Andrew23 said:

7 minutes ago, Andrew23 said:

Just give her whatever she wants until such expense is not too significant for you. And don't overestimate your "food, dentist & good accommodations"

She wants gold,only gold she,d get off me would be a golden shower,just pay as you go and love them and leave them.

 

[kingdong]

1 hour ago, at15 said:

Its never been love. Lets just get the obvious out of the way first. Laughable to think otherwise. Right now you are under a test. With the time you have spent away from each other she now believes her value is high enough to achieve a better man than you. Hence the financial test of a 150-200k gold purchase. She knows this is not a big deal for you money wise, you said it yourself. If you do not cough up this money you will fail and be written off as stingy. She will be moving on soon once your next target is locked in. If you do cough up the 150-200k baht then you move on to the next stage, which as you said will be cars, houses, land, etc. It will be a constant progression like this, and she will not stop until you are buried under the ground. 

Good reply,give her the Spanish archer.