Popular Post ChrisKC Posted March 2, 2021 Popular Post Share Posted March 2, 2021 I have completed 18 years in Thailand. Had ups and downs - I am on an UP at the moment and expect to stay there! My perspective and philosophy of life hasn't changed much in that time or since being in my 30's. When I was younger, I had ambition and wanted "things" but I got over it. Now I like things but can manage without them. I DO care what people think of me but I don't lose any sleep over it - in any event it is unlikely I will ever know what they think. I DO care about others. I live in the NOW - I have my memories good and bad but they are not emotional baggage and allows me the belief that, either because of, or in spite of, I am what I am and I am happy with that and no-one has to live with my past in ways that they may feel imposed upon. If anything, I think I have more balance in my life that includes the odd indulgence. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Stevemercer Posted March 2, 2021 Popular Post Share Posted March 2, 2021 I think it is partly to do with a quality called 'emotional intelligence'. This is about being able to tolerate other views and opinions, live and let live, not always having to have the last word, appreciating that everyone is different, and having the emotional maturity to handle the ups and downs of life. I didn't really get it until I turned about 55, retired, and had the freedom to do my own thing. Maybe it's the same with many blokes. I've always had an open mind, willingness and curiosity to learn new things, and wonder and appreciation of the world. That hasn't changed for me and I hope it never does. It's the same as (hopefully) gaining wisdom with age and learning from our experiences. Some blokes never learn and keep repeating the same old mistakes. Some blokes never seem to mature and seem happy in their bigotry and living in their own narrow world. I think there is something to be said for better sex as we get older. Maybe you can't do it 5 times a night, but you can last 5 times as long. I find myself enjoying the seduction and plenty of foreplay, maybe doing it more as I imagine a woman would enjoy. I honestly think there is a good reason why many woman would prefer an older bloke. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Surasak Posted March 2, 2021 Popular Post Share Posted March 2, 2021 1 hour ago, Dazinoz said: I am a much angrier man since coming here. Not 100% sure why but I am. Do you drive? 1 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PGSan Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 (edited) Please! Wait until you are at least 80 before you start such philosophizing around getting “old”. Edited March 2, 2021 by PGSan 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mavideol Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 20 hours ago, Natai Beach said: I tried it once. I don’t recommend it. Hurt like buggery. speed is important and so is enough gel/lotion ???????????????????? 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PGSan Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 20 hours ago, simon43 said: thanks to TRT Same here, but without any Therapy, thanks! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Headgame Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 Personally, I'm still challenged by puberty. At 76 I doubt I have enough time to grow up. Oh well. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Speedhump Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 (edited) 22 hours ago, jvs said: You finally grew up. Not everyone is born 30 years old (like I was). At least my attitudes haven't changed much though, I'm as tolerant of difference as I ever was, but also as intolerant of intolerance. I want to keep both my love and my anger at full blast until I die. Do not go gentle.... (64 and still as full of sh.. as ever) Edited March 2, 2021 by Speedhump I'm old 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dazinoz Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 38 minutes ago, Surasak said: Do you drive? Yes and I think that is a big part of the complicated angry equation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dazinoz Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 30 minutes ago, PGSan said: Please! Wait until you are at least 80 before you start such philosophizing around getting “old”. "old" is a relative thing. All my relatives were old and nearly all dead. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post gunderhill Posted March 2, 2021 Popular Post Share Posted March 2, 2021 I'm not changing but the world is around me. 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Surasak Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 As I fast approach 80, I have learned to take things easy. Not take offence at others when they disagree with my views, and not to force my views on others. My past has had a few disappointments but much has had great benefits. You do still learn something new everyday and you learn to take each day as it comes. I am fortunate in being reasonably fit but youth is long gone, though not forgotten. There is also always the 'if only'. Be positive and look on the bright side, tomorrow could well be a better day. If, as I hope I make it to 90, things could possibly have been better, but I have many things to be thankful for. As the words in Frank's song say, 'I did it my way'. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post owl sees all Posted March 2, 2021 Popular Post Share Posted March 2, 2021 I'm definitely getting taller. For the first 1o years of living in our house I had no trouble walking into the bathroom. Now I hit my head all the time. 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gunderhill Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 1 minute ago, owl sees all said: I'm definitely getting taller. For the first 1o years of living in our house I had no trouble walking into the bathroom. Now I hit my head all the time. Your house is sinking! 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post chickenslegs Posted March 2, 2021 Popular Post Share Posted March 2, 2021 2 minutes ago, owl sees all said: I'm definitely getting taller. For the first 1o years of living in our house I had no trouble walking into the bathroom. Now I hit my head all the time. You need to stop wearing Mrs Owl's high heels around the house. 2 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elliss Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 23 hours ago, georgegeorgia said: I can't help to think as I'm going towards 60 how much I changed over the years . I remember being a needy type person and that's one of the reasons I went to Thailand so many times a year so I could pay for love & companionship. Fast forward 25 years and I seem to be changing and I don't know if that's good or bad . Here is an example...I'm back in Australia and received a Facebook message from a old girlfriend in Thailand she would be 44yo now . We went out together for over 12 years whilst visiting Thailand... unfortunately she ripped me off financially a few years ago so I never bothered with her again. However she contacted me again..and even though I was deeply in love with her at that time I no longer felt anything for her ...strange how I changed ...we got into this FB live video and to see her now at her 44 when she looks 54 I decided just to be open and say to her ..sorry it's been too long make this the last time to talk . I don't know if it's the isolation that I have become used to with covid ( living by myself) or changing with age / time . But my attitude to people and life have changed . I no longer care what other people think ...if I want to walk holding hands with a ladyboy I will...before I didn't . I no longer care or concerned about people doing things others consider not right .. It's hard to explain..but I have turned non judgmental? Or as I age I just go on the person not who they are ... I don't care if someone doesn't say hello etc ..if they want to they can and I'm polite back but I no longer go chasing friends like I used to. My views on my eventual retirement to Thailand have changed too. I was going to Pattaya but now I'm leaning towards Udon Thani and just living by myself in a semi rural area . I don't know if all this has become about because of getting older or living by myself during covid and been isolated for weeks by myself has made me into a less caring person who doesn't care about small stuff anymore or things that don't affect me. I don't care anymore about guys holding hands with each other in Thailand or even anywhere else..great I say ... I used to be one of those guys always putting others down now I think it's great people are different and do what U want if it's not affecting others . If U like lady boys then go out and enjoy it . 23 hours ago, georgegeorgia said: Farlang , being non judgemental , really ? Must be a new species ... Best avoided ... 23 hours ago, georgegeorgia said: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elliss Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 3 hours ago, Dazinoz said: I am a much angrier man since coming here. Not 100% sure why but I am. Erectile disfunction ?. Get a Kindle .. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Dazinoz Posted March 2, 2021 Popular Post Share Posted March 2, 2021 (edited) 6 minutes ago, elliss said: Erectile disfunction ?. Get a Kindle .. Definately not the problem. Maybe yours but not mine. Ay 65 my gf of 30 say I still have big power. Edited March 2, 2021 by Dazinoz 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AlexRich Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 4 minutes ago, elliss said: Erectile disfunction ?. Get a Kindle .. To lean it on? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sirineou Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 I remember reading, or hearing it somewhere that by the time you reach a certain age, nothing but memories remain of your younger self, since every cell in your body is destroyed and replaced every Seven years. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThailandRyan Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 2 minutes ago, sirineou said: I remember reading, or hearing it somewhere that by the time you reach a certain age, nothing but memories remain of your younger self, since every cell in your body is destroyed and replaced every Seven years. So what your saying is that there is a new me every seven years. Wo doppelganger heaven. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elliss Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 21 minutes ago, AlexRich said: To lean it on? Fyi , there are two sizes available , six and nine inches . On special discount @ Amazon ..555 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wake Up Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 On 3/1/2021 at 6:54 AM, jvs said: You finally grew up. Great to read the OP’s expression of openness, honesty, and realization. ???????????????????? Then first reaction post to the OP communicates judgment and passive aggression ——instead of communicating compassion, happiness or congratulations .???????? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post murraynz Posted March 2, 2021 Popular Post Share Posted March 2, 2021 On 3/1/2021 at 8:09 PM, georgegeorgia said: You are probably right ..and I say that with sincerely.. I don't know what it is ...I seem more happy with my own company nowadays I think living in Thailand, teaches us different priorities,but sure things change,as we get older. Im a few months from 70,very healthy,very ample funds,but know now is the time to make the very most of the next few years. In the west...we spend decades working,many stresses,and raising a family...now is the time to reap the benefits of all that.. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jvs Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 35 minutes ago, Wake Up said: Great to read the OP’s expression of openness, honesty, and realization. ???????????????????? Then first reaction post to the OP communicates judgment and passive aggression ——instead of communicating compassion, happiness or congratulations .???????? Did you read the OP's reaction to my comment?He has absolutely no problem with it,why do you? I have similar feelings like the OP and i feel i finally grew up,what is wrong with that? Not positive ,not negative but realistic i think. Your turn, 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
connda Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 On 3/1/2021 at 7:40 PM, georgegeorgia said: unfortunately she ripped me off financially a few years ago so I never bothered with her again. However she contacted me again..and even though I was deeply in love with her at that time I no longer felt anything for her That sounds perfectly reasonable. I've been ****ed by people in the past too whom I've totally written off including ex-wives. "Do you think your changing as a person as you get older ?" Such an odd question from someone in there 60s who is just beginning to mature. Well - Better late than never. The bottom line is: The Only Constant In Life Is Change. You can frame that and put it on your wall. Words to live by. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gunderhill Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 2 hours ago, sirineou said: I remember reading, or hearing it somewhere that by the time you reach a certain age, nothing but memories remain of your younger self, since every cell in your body is destroyed and replaced every Seven years. Brain cells don't. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sirineou Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 33 minutes ago, gunderhill said: Brain cells don't. Which is why , i forgot about that. LOL 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Laza 45 Posted March 2, 2021 Popular Post Share Posted March 2, 2021 (edited) Transcending fear... It is fear that keeps us in situations that we are not comfortable in. A job we don't like, an unhappy marriage or in a social situation where we may feel like a square peg in a round hole. Fear of the consequences if we make a change. Fear is an insidious thing.. If asked to describe fear we may focus on external things that may threaten us but fear lurks in dark places. It shapes our decisions and keeps us in situations we may want to get out of and we may not even be aware that it is fear that keeps us there. We learn to distrust our intuition. The pressure to conform and 'fit in'.. to a job or a marriage that makes us unhappy makes us deny our underlying knowledge that we are not being true to ourselves. If we wake up one day and realize that it is fear that keeps us in untenable situations the world changes. If we get in touch with our intuition and start making decisions based on what we really want and are prepared to accept and deal with the consequences we start to become ourselves. This is liberation. The change in us is not becoming a different person but becoming who we really are. Transcend fear and become yourself. Edited March 2, 2021 by Laza 45 correction 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AlexRich Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 7 hours ago, elliss said: Fyi , there are two sizes available , six and nine inches . On special discount @ Amazon ..555 So I have to suffer three inches over the side? Worth complaining to Amazon! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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