Age Gap Relationships... in the Later Years? (Opinions/Experiences Sought)

[Mac Mickmanus]

8 minutes ago, Adumbration said:

Do you even live in Thailand?  Show me just one Thai guy who has a mia noi the same age as him.

We are talking about two people in a relationship .

"Mia Nois are affairs, bits in the side, cheating or whatever you call them 

We are talking about Males being married to Females and the age differences , external bits on the side and cheating are a different subject 

[impulse]

28 minutes ago, jak2002003 said:

Then you can sleep with her teenage daughters from previous relationships when your wife is too old for you.

Man, that's just wrong.  Woody?

 

[fondue zoo]

All I know is that those Pattaya marathon girls need help getting their medical degrees too!

[Mac Mickmanus]

14 minutes ago, BangkokReady said:

Who said retired?  How would someone twenty years older than a twenty year old be retired?  I guess he could be if he was super successful, but that would be a plus, I would imagine.  ????

Isn't this thread about Western guys who retire to live in Thailand and get a younger Woman ?

   Or is this thread about 40 year old ex-pats who get a job in Thailand and move to Thailand for work reasons ?

[aqua4]

1 hour ago, OneMoreFarang said:

The important part is the age, not the difference. I.e. if a 50 year old guy starts a relationship with a 30 year old woman then she has, roughly speaking, at least 10 years of sexual and adult life experience. She is formed in many ways and it will be difficult to change her ways.

???? A thumbs up just would now have done it justice. That was a very good answer and true by the way from my own experience. When they are in their mid 20's they are still malleable but once they hit 30 its like a coca cola bottle. Its molded and it aint changing into a teacup. 

[BangkokReady]

21 minutes ago, Mac Mickmanus said:

Isn't this thread about Western guys who retire to live in Thailand and get a younger Woman ?

   Or is this thread about 40 year old ex-pats who get a job in Thailand and move to Thailand for work reasons ?

It is what it is, I guess.  I didn't really specify.  (Although my rundown did start with 20-40.)  I just wanted to get some answers re. age-gaps.  I thought around 20ish years was a common one.  I didn't think it mattered if it was retired with an age-gap or working in Thailand and an age-gap.

 

Does it?  What is the difference if the age-gap is 20ish years?

[LaosLover]

Very sympathetic (to both sides) scholarly article on this topic:

 

https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/1369183X.2019.1565403

 

At the end, they're just painfully waiting for you to die and (maybe) just staying with you out of duty.

[Adumbration]

35 minutes ago, Mac Mickmanus said:

We are talking about two people in a relationship .

"Mia Nois are affairs, bits in the side, cheating or whatever you call them 

We are talking about Males being married to Females and the age differences , external bits on the side and cheating are a different subject 

Thai men have relationships with their mia nois.  I don't know why you can't understand that.

[Mac Mickmanus]

38 minutes ago, Adumbration said:

Thai men have relationships with their mia nois.  I don't know why you can't understand that.

I do understand that , but we are talking about the main female in the relationship, the Wife/GF/Partner , we arent talking about bits on the side/Mia Nois

[GrandPapillon]

3 hours ago, OneMoreFarang said:

It seems for at least some of them it is more important to be seen with younger women and maybe they hope that other people think they can still perform. Do they? Maybe, and likely we will never know.

no, it's all secret, he is just happy to have it hard for her

[GrandPapillon]

1 hour ago, Mac Mickmanus said:

We are talking about two people in a relationship .

"Mia Nois are affairs, bits in the side, cheating or whatever you call them 

We are talking about Males being married to Females and the age differences , external bits on the side and cheating are a different subject 

mia nois are real relationships, in a polygamic sense

[Mac Mickmanus]

13 minutes ago, GrandPapillon said:

mia nois are real relationships, in a polygamic sense

My reply would be exactly the same as the post that you replied to 

[cobra]

I think the real issue is, can a relationship with a significant age difference even sustain itself, as it is an eventuality that the vagaries of age will certainly manifest in one form or another, be it dementia, heart disease, stroke, etc.

 

Would a Thai spouse wish to take that on, could they even do it ?

 

I suppose if the revenue stream is ample enough, maybe they'll farm you off to another family member to care for you, or maybe you'll find yourself alone and discarded.

 

Not an enviable position to be in at that age.

[BangkokReady]

10 minutes ago, cobra said:

I think the real issue is, can a relationship with a significant age difference even sustain itself, as it is an eventuality that the vagaries of age will certainly manifest in one form or another, be it dementia, heart disease, stroke, etc.

 

Would a Thai spouse wish to take that on, could they even do it ?

Without the age gap, if it was 70 and 75 rather than 55 and 75, would you be any better taken care of? Or would it, in either scenario, be your money and your kids that are really the only ones looking out for you?

 

Although I believe that part of the deal with a much older guy and a very young girl from the North East, is that she provides sex and companionship until he becomes very old, then would care for him until death and gets everything.

 

The main difference is possibly not the care, so much as once you become decrepit, will your younger wife run off with a 50 something Thai man? I suppose if she's waiting for a payout, perhaps not.

[GinBoy2]

I'm sorry, but are we talking love or sex?

 

Regardless of where folks come from there is not a 20 something woman who finds a 50/60ish guy attractive in any sexual way.

 

Men delude themselves whichever way they can to believe the opposite.

 

Watch Thai lakorns, the Mia Noi is always f***cking some young dude her age, and unfortunately art probably reflects reality

[BangkokReady]

17 minutes ago, GinBoy2 said:

I'm sorry, but are we talking love or sex?

Either.

 

17 minutes ago, GinBoy2 said:

Regardless of where folks come from there is not a 20 something woman who finds a 50/60ish guy attractive in any sexual way.

"Let's say there's a 20 year age-gap."

[GinBoy2]

20 minutes ago, BangkokReady said:

Either.

 

"Let's say there's a 20 year age-gap."

Well pulling numbers outta my ass, I say a mid 40's woman early 60's guy is doable. Much out of that range and I think, take your honey home and you are in serious mail order bride territory

[scubascuba3]

The gaps you see with thais is usually due to them being giks or mia nois.

 

In Thailand, no point getting someone the same age, need someone a lot younger to take care when you need it, but if you don't get a good one they'll go off with someone younger

[Fat is a type of crazy]

I was 39 she was 21. It was a good and bad 6 year marriage. The good things are obvious of being with a young lovely Thai girl. The negatives are that you have to of course, to some degree,  take on the role as older guy. Tell her she is beautiful. Go shopping etc. Fun at first but not after a while. After we broke up I had a short relationship with a not so pretty girl. It was actually refreshing to feel like an equal. I have had friendships with women my own age and culture and it can be nice too to discuss things happening now, and in the past, without feeling a  bit old and boring. On the other side it was  good not to talk with the ex about news or the past as it's all just talk and who cares. 

My ex wife and I are good friends. She is now 37 and has many of the habits I had at 39.  It's nice to be with a young and pretty but a bit tedious over the years being in the older guy role. 

 

[OneMoreFarang]

6 hours ago, vinci said:

Asian in general woman age faster then men for that 20 year gap is not a problem, for farang you guy don't age very well, most of you in your 40 you look like 60

Potty Ying, is that you?

[OneMoreFarang]

6 hours ago, Mac Mickmanus said:

There are two different Worlds in Thailand .

One World is Thai people living among Thais 

And the other World is Felangs living in tourist areas .

Its quite common for felangs to buy/pay for younger ladies .

But for Thais living among Thais , its not common at all for a big difference in age group relationships .

  Why would a young Thai woman want to be in a relationship with an older Thai man ,  unless he was paying for her 

Really?

Is Aranyaprathet a farang tourist area? I knew a businessman and coffee-shop owner who lived there and who had several wives and girlfriends under 18. And that went on for many years. And it seems everybody though it was completely normal.

Otherwise I am not much up country and don't know much about how they live.

[OneMoreFarang]

6 hours ago, jak2002003 said:

She has no 'boost in social status'.  She will be seen basically as a very common and 'low so' woman willing to prostitute herself and sleep with some old ugly white guy to get his money and not have to work.

Why don't you think that is work? Probably it's hard work. And she chose hard work to make a lot of money, and why not?

[OneMoreFarang]

6 hours ago, Mac Mickmanus said:

Is this a hypothetical question ?

Do Thai University educated 20 year old girls get married to retired Western guys ?

Maybe you should check how many entertainment girls study in universities. Many. And some of them continue to work in the bars after they graduate and after they are able to get a "proper" job.

[BritManToo]

7 hours ago, Mac Mickmanus said:

Among the Thai population, 20-30 year age differences are also uncommon , Thais generally partner up with people of a similar age .

   Its mainly Western/Thai partnerships where theres a big age difference .

My Thai cycling pal, age 64, retired schoolteacher, has a 24yo girlfriend (younger than his daughter).

My woman's best pal, age 43, has a Thai boyfriend, builder age 66.

Italian guy down the road, age 58, has a Thai wife age 58.

 

As far as I can see your post is complete nonsense.

Or maybe you don't know any Thais?

[BritManToo]

2 hours ago, GinBoy2 said:

I say a mid 40's woman early 60's guy is doable. 

But who wants a mid 40's woman? ......

Not me and I'm 66.

[BritManToo]

3 hours ago, GinBoy2 said:

Watch Thai lakorns, the Mia Noi is always f***cking some young dude her age, and unfortunately art probably reflects reality

Why would you care what she does after you've finished?

[BritManToo]

3 hours ago, BangkokReady said:

The main difference is possibly not the care, so much as once you become decrepit, will your younger wife run off with a 50 something Thai man? I suppose if she's waiting for a payout, perhaps not.

I keep hoping mine will run off, but sadly she's still here.

[Guest truthman]

8 hours ago, Mac Mickmanus said:

Among the Thai population, 20-30 year age differences are also uncommon , Thais generally partner up with people of a similar age .

   Its mainly Western/Thai partnerships where theres a big age difference .

But it is common for Thai men to have a much younger mistress

[OneMoreFarang]

3 hours ago, GinBoy2 said:

I'm sorry, but are we talking love or sex?

 

Regardless of where folks come from there is not a 20 something woman who finds a 50/60ish guy attractive in any sexual way.

 

Men delude themselves whichever way they can to believe the opposite.

 

Watch Thai lakorns, the Mia Noi is always f***cking some young dude her age, and unfortunately art probably reflects reality

Women are attracted to dominant (powerful, rich) men. That is a fact. And women want to marry up in status.

 

Men are interested in young and pretty girls, or in evolutionarily terms: They want health strong females to spread their genes. And even if they don't do that in reality anymore, the urge is still the same.

[RichardColeman]

I'm 58 , the wife 44 - good age gap for me.

 

BUT the wife has two previous daughters now, 16 and 18, she has already said she will tell them to marry a farang 40 up when they graduate ! Though I kind of get this Asian idea of marrying an established person now.