How long did it take you to get a good social life? And how did you do it?

[sidjameson]

Many would be expats worry about this topic. I thought it would be interesting for members to share.

 

As for me, Ive been a part time resident and I found my friends slowly and just by staying longer term in guesthouses. I fear I would have struggled socially if I had been renting a house in a city. 

How about you?

[proton]

Concerts, ramwong tomorrow, Lamyai next week, don't know one single foreigner here and don't particularly want to these days.

[OneMoreFarang]

a) Work: I met customers and co-workers. I think that is the best way, because we spend time with these people and after spending weeks with them, we get a pretty good idea how compatible we are.

b) Find a Thai girlfriend and socialize with her friends, go to places which she knows already, discover new places, learn Thai, etc. 

c) After I lived in Thailand for some time my gf and I decided to learn and play pool. We went often to the same pool hall and obviously we meet other "players". Later we went regularly to the same pub with pool tables. Lots of regulars, lots of opportunities. We could have joined local tournaments and meet even more people. I guess without gf I would have done that.

 

If I would now be new in a location and without work, I would probably find a nice place to play pool and meet people. Obviously it takes time. But spending time with something which we like and at the same time meeting new people is a good start.

 

[OneMoreFarang]

26 minutes ago, sidjameson said:

Many would be expats worry about this topic.

Do they?

I think if we are in a new location there are so many things to discover that it doesn't get boring for quite some time.

[VocalNeal]

I was a Hasher before I came here. So it was easy for me to meet up with Hashers in BKK/Pattaya/Phuket/Chiang Mai. I have a good social life. 

But anyone can join in. If you have half a mind to do so.

[Denim]

26 minutes ago, proton said:

Concerts, ramwong tomorrow, Lamyai next week, don't know one single foreigner here and don't particularly want to these days.

Agree. Have a few long time friends here but seldom meet up as we live in different parts of the country. I am never bored so don't need any kind of social life and make no effort to get one. Happily married and content in a rural village , far from the  tourist crowds.

[JustThisOnePostOnly]

  

27 minutes ago, proton said:

don't know one single foreigner here and don't particularly want to these days

Afraid of having a conversation with someone.  I'm tired of policing my thoughts for the benefit of others.

 

I used to be an independent.  Republicans are in power, I go with left-leaning media.  And vice versa.

Trump destroyed that.  Left-leaning media become, to my point-of-view, hysterical.  Unwatchable.  Always being lectured to.

 

And everybody is so bitterly polarized these days.  Why bother?  What am I going to change?

 

The brilliant thing about Thais is that, I don't know Thai, and most of them don't know enough English to take issue with anything I might say.

 

I am blessed to have spent my life on the computer, I think.  It is as engaging a life as I could ever hope for.  I can sit here and gaze out my balcony at the beach below, and then go back to whatever I'm doing on the computer, and almost always when I go to bed I feel the day is well spent.

[steven100]

25 minutes

Found a bar with happy hour prices from 1.00pm

[proton]

49 minutes ago, VocalNeal said:

I was a Hasher before I came here. So it was easy for me to meet up with Hashers in BKK/Pattaya/Phuket/Chiang Mai. I have a good social life. 

But anyone can join in. If you have half a mind to do so.

Whats a hasher?

[Salerno]

1 minute ago, proton said:

Whats a hasher?

A member of a running and drinking club or as some refer to it, "A drinking club with a running problem".

 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hash_House_Harriers

[Woof999]

Take up golf, badminton or a cue sport. Meet loads of people.

[stoner]

1 hour ago, sidjameson said:

How about you?

i'm a loser. i just get high all day in my mommy's basement.

[proton]

24 minutes ago, Woof999 said:

Take up golf, badminton or a cue sport. Meet loads of people.

I''d rather die than do any of that ????

[Woof999]

3 minutes ago, proton said:

I''d rather die than do any of that ????

I hadn't considered that as an alternative, but if you believe in the afterlife then many new (and old) friends could be waiting.

[BananaStrong]

expats or sexpats (real name) come here so nobody sees what they are doing!!!!   sickoes.  

 

having friends might mean people know!!!  never met a farang with more than 1 friend.   never.  

 

I have zero farang friends, love Pattaya, and me and my Thai friends drink all night and don't say a word!!!!

 

livin the life.   

 

you want a social life, that stuff is for back home!!!   here is for the super loners.

 

they say friends are the most important things in life...............but friends don't let friends be sexpats.

 

so no to friends.

 

lol 

[BananaStrong]

32 minutes ago, Woof999 said:

Take up golf, badminton or a cue sport. Meet loads of people.

1.  Golf in the death heat of Thailand?

2.  Badminton.  I'm a male!!!!

3.  cue sport?   I don't like to be around gamblers and drinkers and smokers.

 

How about Ninja fighting?  Muay Thai to the death?  Rock climbing?   Wrestling crocodiles!!!!

[JustThisOnePostOnly]

I can do bowling, maybe.  Inside, air-conditioning, and beer (right?)

[richard_smith237]

2 hours ago, proton said:

Concerts, ramwong tomorrow, Lamyai next week, don't know one single foreigner here and don't particularly want to these days.

I never understood this attitude...  those who come here and want to avoid all other foreigners just seems strange...  

I don’t mean that people ‘should be friends and socialise with other foreigners just because they are foreigners or from the same country etc.... But to avoid a ‘specific group of people’ because of some ingrained idea or reasoning seems extremely strange to me...  I’m left wondering what personality issues these types of characters may have that they are unable to get along with people from their own cultures. 

 

I’ve met some utter tools from western nations, my home country, and also from Thailand... I have also made some excellent friends from many different western nations, my home country and also Thailand - some of them have become long term close friends for over 20 years now. 

 

The suggestion from anyone that they ‘don’t want to mix with Thai’s’ or ‘don’t want to mix with other foreigners’ kind of rings an alarm bell... 

 

 

[KhunLA]

Social Life ...

... I'm still waiting to come out of my shell.

 

My dog/therapist is the only one that understands and accepts me.  All the social life I need, or want.

[digger70]

8 hours ago, Woof999 said:

I hadn't considered that as an alternative, but if you believe in the afterlife then many new (and old) friends could be waiting.

They say Dying is very satisfying , And it's Permanent. 

Just waiting now till it's My time to find out.

[digger70]

Very good social life ,do what you want and don't see anyone you aren't interested in .

Don't speak Thai and don't mix with Expats.

[thaibeachlovers]

10 hours ago, proton said:

Concerts, ramwong tomorrow, Lamyai next week, don't know one single foreigner here and don't particularly want to these days.

I also never had a farang friend in LOS and didn't care that I didn't.

 

 

[thaibeachlovers]

8 hours ago, richard_smith237 said:

But to avoid a ‘specific group of people’ because of some ingrained idea or reasoning seems extremely strange to me...

I never went out of my way to avoid anyone, but I never made the effort to find a farang friend. Had one just happened that would have been different, but it never happened.

 

The one and only time I attempted to join a farang social club ended when I was completely ignored by the members when I visited on a club day.

[BananaStrong]

12 minutes ago, digger70 said:

Don't speak Thai and don't mix with Expats.

I will NEVER learn Thai!!!!  Never talk to those horrible expats!!!!!   Great attitude in Thailand, you must be a great friend!!!!!!

 

Triggers me to even see farangs posting about Thailand, I hope I never meet anyone here!!!!!  I'll never look at another farang again and If I have to speak one word of Thai I'll ........................................well.............................I"ll move to China and ever, every speak Chinese!!!!!!!!!!  

[thaibeachlovers]

9 hours ago, JustThisOnePostOnly said:

I am blessed to have spent my life on the computer, I think.  It is as engaging a life as I could ever hope for.  I can sit here and gaze out my balcony at the beach below, and then go back to whatever I'm doing on the computer, and almost always when I go to bed I feel the day is well spent.

Reminds me of my last year in LOS. I was living in an hotel off Loi Kroh in Chiang Mai.

My day consisted of Thai Visa forum, tv news channels ( mainly Fox as it was the most entertaining ), tv movies and cheap DVDs from local market.

I did try the local bar beer group, but it was too boring to bother with.

The most exciting thing I did was going to the mall to see a movie.

 

All in all, a quiet, uneventful life- bliss.

[thaibeachlovers]

7 minutes ago, BananaStrong said:

I will NEVER learn Thai!!!!  Never talk to those horrible expats!!!!!   Great attitude in Thailand, you must be a great friend!!!!!!

 

Triggers me to even see farangs posting about Thailand, I hope I never meet anyone here!!!!!  I'll never look at another farang again and If I have to speak one word of Thai I'll ........................................well.............................I"ll move to China and ever, every speak Chinese!!!!!!!!!!  

You seem overly concerned about farangs that don't conform to your druthers.

It's their concern if they don't want to associate with farangs, and you don't get to tell anyone what to do.

Do whatever you want to do and let others do likewise- you'll feel better for it.

[thaibeachlovers]

29 minutes ago, digger70 said:

They say Dying is very satisfying , And it's Permanent. 

Just waiting now till it's My time to find out.

Dying holds no fears for me- we all die, so there isn't any reason to be fearful.

What does scare me is dying slowly in a great deal of pain, but hopefully euthanasia will be available for me if I end up like that.

[BritManToo]

36 minutes ago, BananaStrong said:

Triggers me to even see farangs posting about Thailand,

Triggers me when I see racists, I'm completely unbiased and don't want to meet people of any colour.

[zzaa09]

9 hours ago, BananaStrong said:

expats or sexpats (real name) come here so nobody sees what they are doing!!!!   sickoes.  

 

having friends might mean people know!!!  never met a farang with more than 1 friend.   never.  

 

I have zero farang friends, love Pattaya, and me and my Thai friends drink all night and don't say a word!!!!

 

livin the life.   

 

you want a social life, that stuff is for back home!!!   here is for the super loners.

 

they say friends are the most important things in life...............but friends don't let friends be sexpats.

 

so no to friends.

 

lol 

Cheers!

I was assuming that the OP's intentions were referencing Farang friends/company [our own kind????] Expected and typical. 

 

I've never sought out company or companions of this circle.......or their hangouts/gathering places. 

I'll stay with the local savages, as the stimulation tends to be on the real and connected side. 

 

[BananaStrong]

35 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said:

You seem overly concerned about farangs that don't conform to your druthers.

It's their concern if they don't want to associate with farangs, and you don't get to tell anyone what to do.

Do whatever you want to do and let others do likewise- you'll feel better for it.

Here were my OBVIOUS questions, so pay attention I'll write slow: 

 

1.  Why come on this forum just to be negative and tell us you don't like farangs.   That makes no sense!!!!

 

2.  I'm making them ask themselves the question, "Why am I (they) screaming for attention?"  Seems like they actually want many farang friends and can't handle it.

 

3.  I'm having them ask themselves, "Is this is a normal post?  Oh, no.  So, why am I (them) posting such negativity????"  Obviously, they are miserable.

 

So then I do my hyperbole and make fun at them as some don't seem to get it!!!!

 

FARANGS, never read my messages and stay away from me!!!!!!!!!!!! lol