Need some advice

[Surasak]

On 7/26/2023 at 3:13 PM, Lucky Bones said:

Buy a truck load of mirrors and place strategically around your house/condo.

You will always have someone close that loves you.????????

Yes, but even in the dark your shadow leaves you!

[wwest5829]

Sorry, cannot give advice on this matter as I cannot identify … although I recognize it is very real for some folks. We are all different so, my spending a good part of the day reading is not for everyone. Being a student of history, I am also immersed in seeking out my genealogy both through the written documents (Ancestry) and through having taken the DNA tests. Currently reading, “Texas” by Michener while researching my Mother’s lineage in Texas while it was still part of Mexico. But that is just me … no doubt others would find the seeking out of more knowledge boring. As is oft said in Thailand, “up to you”. Not enough hours in the day for me.

[BusyB]

On 7/26/2023 at 9:27 AM, bignok said:

I'm extremely bored with life when not travelling. I have things to do but don't enjoy it. I see people do less than me but seem happy doing next to nothing. They just watch crappy movies and the like. 

 

I can drink with a mate but he's depressing. I can drink with a female friend but she's a nut. I can hang out and talk shares with another but that bores me. Another friend lives far. Others I know are busy. Their lives look boring to me but they seem happy but you never know. A mate told me he's been depressed for 15 years and I couldnt tell.

 

So what the hell should i do? Be a full time nomad? I cant see how that works.

 

Or just watch crap movies like these other morons?

 

I don't know.

 

 

 

 

An average 40 posts a day since you joined lends weight to your claim of being bored ????

 

But I don't know either, sorry.

[Stevemercer]

There's nothing wrong with being bored. As long as you have something to look forward to tomorrow.

[KhunLA]

I easily get bored, and probably explained why I moved and lived in more than a few places back in the USA.

 

Also my one of few, pet peeves about TH, damn small country.  

 

Explains whey I'm out & about quite a bit, compared to most.  Enjoy being home and the area we live, but after a couple weeks, I'm planning the next O&A.

 

Just got back from N, and already planning to visit the very southern provinces, as never been.  After the wife is done, toying around the house and tending to the garden/greenhouse, we'll be O&A again.

[JimTripper]

10 hours ago, liddelljohn said:

Big Nok

Im like you easily bored cant stand living a vanilla life ,,always looking for new adventure , all my homes are just places i store stuff , more interested in the journey than the destination , hate being trapped ,,sometime i stay   and chill , read, look tv and movies , socialize and party but when my demon calls I  am off again

 

Did you become your father, or was the exorcism a success?

[bignok]

1 hour ago, Stevemercer said:

There's nothing wrong with being bored. As long as you have something to look forward to tomorrow.

Like being bored again

[Gottfrid]

On 7/26/2023 at 3:14 PM, bignok said:

Useless advice.

No, it´s not useless at all. In reality, it means that you need to get a life. You know, shake lose from negative thoughts and just embrace your life like it is. Maybe add some spice to it by adding something that you really like to do.

[bignok]

2 minutes ago, Gottfrid said:

No, it´s not useless at all. In reality, it means that you need to get a life. You know, shake lose from negative thoughts and just embrace your life like it is. Maybe add some spice to it by adding something that you really like to do.

No such thing as get a life. Only one life. We all share it.

[Gottfrid]

7 minutes ago, bignok said:

No such thing as get a life. Only one life. We all share it.

Ok, I did expect you to understand. Sounds like once depressed, always depressed. Cheer up, take another beer!

[watthong]

1 hour ago, KhunLA said:

After the wife is done, toying around the house and tending to the garden/greenhouse, we'll be O&A again.

Gardening is a also great pastime for me, blame it on covid. I have only a tiny balcony on the top floor but since we are in the tropics, there are numerous experiments I can conduct at very low expense and minimal space. It was the trend of hoyas that keep everybody all excited while cooped up at home during the pandemic. We religiously trek down to Chatujak every Tuesday just like folks going to church on Sunday.

 

Now that "life as we knew it" has re-opened , and we start to travel again, the poor hoya plants all died out during our long absence, delicate little things that require constant care (thus perfect for covid.) Undaunted I start picking up other more hardy genuses/species (cactus and the likes) and the fun continues .In pic is the latest find, nicknamed  "little mice" thai name "dragon eyes fern" latin name "lecanopteris crustacae."

 

Recently a family of sparrows has decided to lay nest behind the air con machine that doesn't get used. So now we wake up to the chirping of baby birds. All this go on in our little studio amidst BKK concrete jungle, fantasizing what we can do with a plot of land in the province.

[bignok]

11 minutes ago, Gottfrid said:

Ok, I did expect you to understand. Sounds like once depressed, always depressed. Cheer up, take another beer!

I'm not depressed.

[KhunLA]

35 minutes ago, watthong said:

Gardening is a also great pastime for me, blame it on covid. I have only a tiny balcony on the top floor but since we are in the tropics, there are numerous experiments I can conduct at very low expense and minimal space. It was the trend of hoyas that keep everybody all excited while cooped up at home during the pandemic. We religiously trek down to Chatujak every Tuesday just like folks going to church on Sunday.

 

Now that "life as we knew it" has re-opened , and we start to travel again, the poor hoya plants all died out during our long absence, delicate little things that require constant care (thus perfect for covid.) Undaunted I start picking up other more hardy genuses/species (cactus and the likes) and the fun continues .In pic is the latest find, nicknamed  "little mice" thai name "dragon eyes fern" latin name "lecanopteris crustacae."

 

Recently a family of sparrows has decided to lay nest behind the air con machine that doesn't get used. So now we wake up to the chirping of baby birds. All this go on in our little studio amidst BKK concrete jungle, fantasizing what we can do with a plot of land in the province.

She went all in, 1/4 rai & greenhouse, besides the plants around the house.

 

Another reason why most of our O&As are during rainy season, no watering worries.   She has a watering system in the green house.

 

Also lucky and had a few bird nest with wee ones.  Amazing how fast they hatch, then fly off.

 

[metisdead]

An offensive troll post advocating suicide has been removed.

[transam]

I think you are all being taken for a ride............................................????

[xtrnuno41]

it is your mindset, change it

[ujayujay]

Best friend will be a dog, there are so many in Shelters here! Give him twice food a day.....you cant do wrong, he will keep you on your toes????

 

Edited July 28, 2023 by ujayujay

[Jacques Clouseau]

15 hours ago, bradiston said:

That wasn't you in my front garden the other day was it?

héhéhé....

[JackGats]

According to David Benatar, when people fall into depression it's because they suddenly see life for what it is, instead of through the lens of our hard-wired optimism bias.

 

I've considered becoming a perpetual nomad but I'm scared. I've got so much running on my passport or smartphone these days. If I lose one of them I'll need six months to recover.

 

So it's cannabis and Viagra for me.

[swissie]

On 7/27/2023 at 5:30 PM, bignok said:

I believe in reincarnation. Beer and a Delete 55

There is hope. You kept a sense of humor.

You believe in reincarnation. Hmmmm. As far as I interpret the christian gospel, in paradise alcohol and sex drugs and rock n' roll are not part of the daily curriculum. Be careful what you ask for.

Given that, I myself would reject any sort of reincarnation. I would rather apply for eternal death, eternal sleep, eternal nothingness. I was in this state before I was born and I liked it for billions of years.

[bignok]

19 hours ago, JackGats said:

According to David Benatar, when people fall into depression it's because they suddenly see life for what it is, instead of through the lens of our hard-wired optimism bias.

 

I've considered becoming a perpetual nomad but I'm scared. I've got so much running on my passport or smartphone these days. If I lose one of them I'll need six months to recover.

 

So it's cannabis and Viagra for me.

Care factor 3 life is ok

Care factor 9 life sucks

[GammaGlobulin]

As I ALWAYS say, and I hope you will take it to heart, the passage I read in a Zelda Fitzgerald book when I was 14:

 

 

Zelda and Scott were NEVER boring.

Why don't you read, or re-read, ALL of Francis Scott Key Fitzgerald's novels and essays and short stories. That will keep you busy.

 

But, PLEASE, do NOT read The Great Gatsby!

Because you might become like the characters in the novel, which is...BORED or BORING.

 

I do not mean that the reading of the book is boring.

Just that the characters in the book had too much money, and searched in vain for meaning in life.

 

Or, why not try to become more like Elon?

Elon never seems bored.

He has a decent sense of humor.

I loved his touch with the kitchen sink, for example.

 

 

[LaosLover]

On 7/26/2023 at 3:19 PM, bignok said:

Like what? Smoke pot? 

Say what you will, it's a great time filler.

 

Your love of travel may wane a bit over time. I moved to Thailand a year ago. I thought I'd be exploring every last corner of SEA. I've been to ho-hum Penang and Singapore for visa runs. And then I went to Laos for a hard week (nothing was open, wife got dengue).

 

Settling into Chiang Mai has really lessened my wanderlust. I don't have to get on a plane to get my Thai hit anymore. It's now all around me. Net effect: Much happier, much less adventurous.

 

I used to be the kind of guy who would go and eat Khao Soi Noodles in 10 places, because that's the kind of thing you do as a tourist. Now I have 3 good Khao Soi places within a five minute walk.

 

But I'm not even going to rotate among them, I'm just going to the one with no name -when I want Khao Soi -which I want a lot less now that it's on Khao Soi-tap compared to when I lived in the states. 

 

I've been meaning to go to Muslim Khao Soi for a year. It's 15 minutes away in a cab. I want to see if it's truly 5* Khao Soi or just benefiting from liberal-type, affirmative action, over-positive Google-reviewing due having the word, "Muslim" in the shop name.

 

But I'll have to wait for tourist friends to show up to solve this mystery.  If I pitch it to my wife, she'll say, "can't we just eat on our street instead?". And I will agree. We can hop on one foot to a dozen great eateries without shifting feet.

 

If I won't even go to Muslim Khao Soi, Myanmar beaches and another look in on Xieng Kok are definitely on hold.

 

And if you move here, you'll prob be some variety of the same.

Edited July 29, 2023 by LaosLover

[Furioso]

I can understand Bignok's dilemma, here in Thailand everything is too cheap, too easy, no struggle. From my observation a lot of people(not all) fall into 3 categories. 

1. Bored, low grade depression, don't know what to do with their life. 

2. Just way too much overstimulation, whoring and drinking.

3. Wife/GF/Family. 

 

For many who don't want to go back to their home country, being a nomad is not a bad idea. Eventually a person will find a community that they fit in with. A life too easy is simply that, too easy. 

 

 

[LaosLover]

21 hours ago, JackGats said:

According to David Benatar, when people fall into depression it's because they suddenly see life for what it is, instead of through the lens of our hard-wired optimism bias.

 

So it's cannabis and Viagra for me.

I read in The Buddha Brain that we're hard-wired for negativity. It's that edginess that helped us dodge masterdons back in the day.

 

Can't fault that last sentence.

Edited July 29, 2023 by LaosLover

[mrwebb8825]

Drive to the nearest big city, go to Tesco. Put your hands together like you're holding a gun and sneak around stalking people while humming the theme song from Mission Impossible really loud, stopping occasionally to talk into your wrist.

[NextG]

On 8/27/2023 at 6:14 PM, mrwebb8825 said:

Drive to the nearest big city, go to Tesco. Put your hands together like you're holding a gun and sneak around stalking people while humming the theme song from Mission Impossible really loud, stopping occasionally to talk into your wrist.

We did that after watching John Wick ☺️

[Toolong]

bignok, 

 

I can't tell how serious you are about this. There's at least a little element of tongue-in-cheek, casual playfulness about your post, I reckon ????. I could be wrong. Forgive me if I am.

 

But anyway, I kind of like it all the same. ????

 

As for any suggestions from me, I won't get too seriously into it....but neither am I kidding entirely.....

 

So...what's your 'thing'? Travelling, by the sound of it. Fine, but if you can't for any reason do that, or find enough friends whose company is sufficiently satisfying, how about dedicating some effort into becoming just amazingly bl***y good at something? Something that already interests you. 

 

For example...I like a drink. Being a working-class fella, I likes me beer. But I like the occasional treat, like martinis. So I figured I'd become a master of the martini. 

Not only am I now the best maker of martinis this side of the Rio Grande, I rather cockily will take every opportunity to say so......like now.

 

But point is.....I get a kick out of thinking myself so uniquely good at it! It fulfills me to a (very limited!) point that makes life a little more interesting. 

Which is what you seek right? 

 

Ok....I'm being a bit tongue-in-cheek playful myself.....but beyond that, come on, bignok!....only YOU know the answer to your posted query.....and you know it. ????

 

PS: I will btw reveal no trade secrets re my martinis. You got your classic martinis.....and then you got mine. 

 

Chok dee.