If you were looking for a new relationship today what age gap would you aim for and why?

[thailandsgreat]

Just now, NextG said:

Such crazy assumptions ????

What are yours?

[bignok]

21 minutes ago, NextG said:

Not at all. It’s only you who mentioned 75 years old. My first age gap relationship when I was the older one was 31 to 18. Money wasn’t involved nor has it ever been in my relationships. The issue is that many have started relationships where finance is the main issue and subsequently see that as the norm. But many have relationships based on mutual attraction… unbelievable to some it seems. 

Posting nonsense. Most here are 50 to 80yo.

[bignok]

19 minutes ago, thailandsgreat said:

What are yours?

31 and 18yo he reckons.

[LikeItHot]

On 7/28/2023 at 9:32 PM, GinBoy2 said:

Well my ex wife is dealing very well with her toy boy boyfriend, doesn't seem to worry them.

 

But again, he is I 'think' about 10 years younger than her

When I lived in phuket there was an Italian guy with a Thai wife. He definitely did his part for her and her family but you could feel it wasn't exactly a family filled with love.  The wife confessed to my gf at the time that she made regular trips to a Thai gigolo bar in Patong to get her bell rung.  I had never heard they had those here but I can't say I was surprised either.. Bunch of alley cats the lot of them.

[NextG]

45 minutes ago, bignok said:

Posting nonsense. Most here are 50 to 80yo.

So from a male age range of 50 to 80, you came up with 75 & 45 ???? Impressive.

Of course you are referring to a certain demographic.. 

[OneMoreFarang]

4 hours ago, LikeItHot said:

When I lived in phuket there was an Italian guy with a Thai wife. He definitely did his part for her and her family but you could feel it wasn't exactly a family filled with love.  The wife confessed to my gf at the time that she made regular trips to a Thai gigolo bar in Patong to get her bell rung.  I had never heard they had those here but I can't say I was surprised either.. Bunch of alley cats the lot of them.

Maybe he was not able to make her happy. So she could have left him of stay with him and get the satisfaction somewhere else. Possibly he was happy that she stayed with him.

[Gknrd]

Strictly depends on how much money you have in Thailand, Philippines.. 

Example 1:  million up 18-30 years old

Example 2:  500K and up. 18-30 years old

Example 3:  100K and up.  18-30years old

Example 4:  50K and up.  18-30 years old

Example 5: Old age pension 18-30 years old

If I left anyone out then it defaults to 18-30 years old ????

 

Edited July 30, 2023 by Gknrd

[Ggeorge]

18 year difference.  That was pushing it by about 8 yrs, but in my case it worked out.  She was 29 at the time and very mature and laid back.  Been married 28 years.  Best decision I ever made in my life.  

[GammaGlobulin]

Such an interesting Topic and a subject I often think about.

If I were to have a GF again...which I will not.

I would search for one with an age difference of about 20 years.

I like older women.

Always have.

[bignok]

8 hours ago, NextG said:

So from a male age range of 50 to 80, you came up with 75 & 45 ???? Impressive.

Of course you are referring to a certain demographic.. 

 Few 30yos here champ

[NextG]

9 minutes ago, bignok said:

 Few 30yos here champ

How do you know? Don’t be ridiculous. 
Quite a jump from 30 to 75… make up your mind. You are all over the place. First 75, then 50 to 80 and now “few 30yos”

You are just throwing mud and hoping it sticks. Try making sense. 

[bignok]

3 minutes ago, NextG said:

How do you know? Don’t be ridiculous. 
Quite a jump from 30 to 75… make up your mind. You are all over the place. First 75, then 50 to 80 and now “few 30yos”

You are just throwing mud and hoping it sticks. Try making sense. 

You obviously dont know much about the average age on here.

[NextG]

1 minute ago, bignok said:

You obviously dont know much about the average age on here.

Neither do you ☺️

[bignok]

Just now, NextG said:

Neither do you ☺️

50 to 80 mostly. You talking about 30yos 555

[NextG]

4 minutes ago, bignok said:

50 to 80 mostly. You talking about 30yos 555

So stick with 50 to 80 then, rather than 75 just to suit a ridiculous argument. 

[bignok]

4 minutes ago, NextG said:

So stick with 50 to 80 then, rather than 75 just to suit a ridiculous argument. 

Yeah sure.

[hotchilli]

On 7/28/2023 at 8:22 PM, sidjameson said:

A perennial favourite topic. 

I'm 55. If I were single I know I should aim for a compatible 40 year old. I fear id be aiming for the nearest to the hottest 25 year old I could find.

nothing wrong with that.

[NextG]

8 minutes ago, bignok said:

Yeah sure.

Thank you. 

[NextG]

4 minutes ago, hotchilli said:

nothing wrong with that.

Of course there is… if she’s not attracted to him for anything other than money. 

[jerrymahoney]

All this was at my age 70. I like the lyric from "Nobody Does It Better"

 

I wasn't lookin' but somehow you found me

 

At the time I was somewhat looking but she was more looking. We had known each other off and on as friend-of-friend for 5 years.

 

We then went on a couple of lunches just by ourselves. We were going to do 'just lunch' once again but I said: They are doing a major electric utility job and I won't have daytime power in my house for 2 days in June. I said I am going to stay in a hotel. She said:

 

"Would you like me to stay with you?"

 

And it was downhill from there.

Edited July 30, 2023 by jerrymahoney

[OneMoreFarang]

25 minutes ago, NextG said:

Of course there is… if she’s not attracted to him for anything other than money. 

Why would that be a problem?

Does it really matter if a woman is attracted to you because you are tall or have these wonderful blue eyes or you are a celebrity or have money?

If she is attached to you and if she makes you happy then all is good.

 

[NextG]

1 minute ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Why would that be a problem?

Does it really matter if a woman is attracted to you because you are tall or have these wonderful blue eyes or you are a celebrity or have money?

If she is attached to you and if she makes you happy then all is good.

 

Not my business…

[OneMoreFarang]

19 minutes ago, jerrymahoney said:

All this was at my age 70. I like the lyric from "Nobody Does It Better"

I love that song. Watching James Bond with my first girlfriend.

 

 

[NORDO]

Im 70 Y.  Ive done the 20-30-40 year gals and don't want anything to do with them.  Most are “bling” chics with no idea how to strum the fiddle or enjoy the finer things in life.  If they need to play on their phone when we are on an outing, then they don't have an interest in me.  

 

Most 45 and up are serious and are trying to make up for lost time.  Usually earning salaries under 10K THB month.  I will hire a gal for a year and pay her salary for two years, plus take her places and do things she never could have.  But very upfront there will be no marriage because it is a one way religious and political trap.  Never could pick up a gal and dump her.  Just not right.    Even the crazy wicked ones Id pay their salary two years and show them the door.

 

Never hit or beat a gal.. Treat them right.  But steal, lie or screw around and they are out the door.

[OneMoreFarang]

19 minutes ago, NORDO said:

Im 70 Y.  Ive done the 20-30-40 year gals and don't want anything to do with them.  Most are “bling” chics with no idea how to strum the fiddle or enjoy the finer things in life.  If they need to play on their phone when we are on an outing, then they don't have an interest in me.  

 

Most 45 and up are serious and are trying to make up for lost time.  Usually earning salaries under 10K THB month.  I will hire a gal for a year and pay her salary for two years, plus take her places and do things she never could have.  But very upfront there will be no marriage because it is a one way religious and political trap.  Never could pick up a gal and dump her.  Just not right.    Even the crazy wicked ones Id pay their salary two years and show them the door.

 

Never hit or beat a gal.. Treat them right.  But steal, lie or screw around and they are out the door.

This thread is supposed to be about relationships.

It seems you hire someone to do a job - maybe taking care of you.

If you tell them up front it is a job for a year, then it's not a relationship.

Obviously, you can do that. But it's a different topic to what this thread is about. 

 

IMHO with a relationship you start a relationship. And maybe you are pretty sure it won't be forever. But you don't have a clear date in mind or agreed when it will end (except maybe when you are here on holiday).

[Expat68]

Why do you have to aim? Generally it just happens 

[thailandsgreat]

2 hours ago, OneMoreFarang said:

I love that song. Watching James Bond with my first girlfriend.

 

 

I still somehow wouldn't really appreciate if my gf told me "Nobody does it half as good as you."

 

While we are being picky. This famous model pictured in the thread looks a little trans in this image, in my opinion.   But she is not.

 

https://i.insider.com/5be5e6e748eb1257955951a9?width=1000&format=jpeg&auto=webp

Edited July 31, 2023 by thailandsgreat

[wwest5829]

On 7/28/2023 at 9:26 PM, GinBoy2 said:

Two things affect the aging male brain; a desire for sex, and a sense of familiarity.

 

Many guys in Thailand gravitate there for the former, easy sex with young women who in their home country would probably vomit at the thought of sex with them.

 

Then you get to familiarity.

We all like sex, but being with someone roughly your own age brings that sense of common ideals.

You sorta like the same music, movies have lived through the same history so you actually have things to talk about, rather than a relationship just based around sex.

 

So I'd say a 10 year age gap is about the limit

 

And for full disclosure me and Mrs G are exactly 10 years apart

Agree if within the same culture. Da and I grew up in different cultures quite literally half a world apart. The same goes for education background. Still there is a happy convergence, I find. I a Thai girl is raised traditionally, she both looks to the male to provide economic security and knows it is in the family's interest to take care of him. For me, it was stepping back into the time period in which I was raised and so a comfortable fit. Agree, hard to find this in too young females (I had nothing but positive experiences when I first arrived at age 64 1/2). All that said, we count ourselves fortunate to have found each other by chance. Da is 26 years younger (do remember I am in my 70s now, so she is not a young girl ... except to me!).

[wwest5829]

On 7/28/2023 at 10:58 PM, KhunLA said:

At 67 now, I don't think I'd be looking for another relationship, and simply enjoy being single again.

 

No sense in starting something that won't last that long.  I'm on borrowed time already.

 

Wide variety in personal outlook. For some, including myself when I first arrived ... rent all from now on. Housing? Transport? Ha! Even the food we are just "renting ... so to speak). Female company? So much for the grand plan. I found after experiencing with different scenarios, that I wanted to have a female to share my life. While you might observe that at age 64 1/2 and after having 5 by-passes that it would be a good move for health reasons ... that was not my primary concern. The girl I was with was still with me when I had a heart attack in 2015. Still, conditions were such that I chose to no longer share my life with her. By 2017 my Wife and I found each other and could not be happier (not entirely true if anyone want to "Will" me about 400K USD, you could say you personally created a millionaire!).

[wwest5829]

On 7/29/2023 at 12:31 AM, Jacques Clouseau said:

That comment was fxcked up, bro.

Ha! Yes, well here is the thing ... up until I reached the age of 26 ... Michael Douglas and I could have said the same thing.