Crazy neighbour - suggestions please

[Eloquent pilgrim]

 

She might be angling for a ménage à trois … is she fit ?

[steven100]

11 minutes ago, darrendsd said:

I live in Hua Hin

 

Years ago I had a issue with a neighbors dog barking non stop

 

I went to the Tessaban who were very helpful and they went round to speak to the Thai owner of the dog and the problem stopped 

 

Go to the Tessaban and explain the issues you are facing. They do speak reasonable English there but take the wife so they can understand fully

 

Some videos or audios of this woman and her dog may help 

This is a good solution if she was a crazy Thai but she's a crazy farang ...   the Tessaban won't want to deal with a crazy farang. 

[proton]

1 hour ago, bkk6060 said:

Sell and rent.  I never understand people buying here seems more complaints then pleasure.

Buying can make sense. We bought 12 years ago and would have spent more than we paid for it on rent by now if not. Rent is always money down the drain. You cant keep moving all the time, there are annoyances everywhere.

[darrendsd]

14 minutes ago, steven100 said:

This is a good solution if she was a crazy Thai but she's a crazy farang ...   the Tessaban won't want to deal with a crazy farang. 

Why not?

 

If course they will, do you think that Thais are scared of farangs?

[NanLaew]

4 hours ago, Promula said:

Opinions please. 

I recently retired and bought a run down house in Hua Hin that's been empty for 3+ years with a front patio that has great views of the nearby hills and overlooks the garden of the next door house that's further down the hill. I've been cleaning and painting the front of the house and patio area over the past few weeks. The middle aged foreign (seems Spanish) woman renting the house below mine sits out in her garden chain smoking and shouting into her phone for hours at a time which I can hear in every room of my house even with the windows closed, but there's not much I can do about that. She also lets her dog run wild around the neighbourhood and it's come into my garden and chased my cats several times when I've opened my gate to go out. The first time it happened she was walking nearby and I asked her if she could keep the dog in her garden. She said yes but it was back out again shortly after and every day since.

 

To try to cut a long story short, yesterday at 19:30pm she rang my doorbell on my front gate several times. I went outside and she started shouting at me through the gate that her young daughters don't want to go in their garden when there's a man above them on his patio. She then accused me of watching them and being a "pervert" and "pedophile" and that she was scared that I'd rape them. My Thai wife was in the doorway and heard this crazy woman defaming me.

 

I called her an idiot and asked her to stay away from my house. I could then hear her shouting on her phone for the next two hours telling numerous people that she had a pervert and pedophile living next door and was also asking them why her dog didn't have the right to roam around the neighbourhood when cats could do that.

 

She clearly has some serious mental health issues. How to proceed?

Ah, so that's where Mrs Garcia from 255/8 M3 moved to. She used to bang on my gate and complain about my dogs crapping in her yard which they didn't as our dogs were always kept inside our closed gate. It was other neighbor's dogs that were doing their business as she always left her gate open. But the only dogs she could see were my dogs.

 

One day I went and closed her gate and she shot out of the house and told me to never touch her property. When I suggested the open gate allowed the other dogs into her yard, she said she needed to leave the gate open as she was expecting people and she doesn't have a doorbell and my dogs are bad and I am a horrible man and she'll call the police...

 

No wonder Mr Garcia went home for a visit one summer and never came back.

Edited August 11, 2023 by NanLaew

[steven100]

16 minutes ago, darrendsd said:

Why not?

 

If course they will, do you think that Thais are scared of farangs?

The Tessaban are not scared at all,  it's a typical thai mentality,  they are reluctant to be confrontational with a farang because of communication and cultures,  but he can always try,  maybe this Tessaban is not against that, but I know in other provinces and specific villages they were.     just saying

 

 

 

 

Edited August 11, 2023 by steven100

[sirineou]

4 hours ago, Promula said:

She then accused me of watching them and being a "pervert" and "pedophile"

It's one thing to be "Crazy" it's another thing to accuse you of a crime , and pedophilian non the less. I would call the police on her and if you can afford it get a lawyer and have him send her a A cease and desist letter and inform her that if she does not, you would take legal action. You can even get a restraining order on her.  

Your reputation is the most valuable thing you have!! Who knows who else she tells her nonsense   , about you. 

[riclag]

5 hours ago, Promula said:

Opinions please. 

I recently retired and bought a run down house in Hua Hin that's been empty for 3+ years with a front patio that has great views of the nearby hills and overlooks the garden of the next door house that's further down the hill. I've been cleaning and painting the front of the house and patio area over the past few weeks. The middle aged foreign (seems Spanish) woman renting the house below mine sits out in her garden chain smoking and shouting into her phone for hours at a time which I can hear in every room of my house even with the windows closed, but there's not much I can do about that. She also lets her dog run wild around the neighbourhood and it's come into my garden and chased my cats several times when I've opened my gate to go out. The first time it happened she was walking nearby and I asked her if she could keep the dog in her garden. She said yes but it was back out again shortly after and every day since.

 

To try to cut a long story short, yesterday at 19:30pm she rang my doorbell on my front gate several times. I went outside and she started shouting at me through the gate that her young daughters don't want to go in their garden when there's a man above them on his patio. She then accused me of watching them and being a "pervert" and "pedophile" and that she was scared that I'd rape them. My Thai wife was in the doorway and heard this crazy woman defaming me.

 

I called her an idiot and asked her to stay away from my house. I could then hear her shouting on her phone for the next two hours telling numerous people that she had a pervert and pedophile living next door and was also asking them why her dog didn't have the right to roam around the neighbourhood when cats could do that.

 

She clearly has some serious mental health issues. How to proceed?

With your wife,Go to the police and file a report!

Soon thereafter go to the local Amphur and file a complaint. Dont forget to bring a long the PR!

Its the first step to problem solving in Thailand!

Oh dont get into a  argument !

Welcome to Thailand the home of wondering dogs and idiot irresponsible owners imop

Edited August 11, 2023 by riclag

[scottiejohn]

Have you checked to see if she has any Hi So Thai/Local Mafia connections before stirring up the Hornet's nest?

[Liverpool Lou]

5 hours ago, Promula said:

...and was also asking them why her dog didn't have the right to roam around the neighbourhood when cats could do that.

Good question!

[Liverpool Lou]

5 hours ago, Promula said:

She clearly has some serious mental health issues.

That's hardly "clear", at all.

[Liverpool Lou]

4 hours ago, Promula said:

It was a comment about one of the few things I know about her. Strange of you to zoom in on that.

Even stranger that you would include that irrelevency in your mental health assessment of her!

[riclag]

2 hours ago, Promula said:

Yes the view is one of the best things about the house. I'm not blocking that because of an aggressive neighbour. She could put a tall hedge around her garden if she wants it to be private. That's up to her.

The mrs said you are at your house

you can look at anything you want

from your house ! Shes a wack jobimop

[scottiejohn]

3 minutes ago, Liverpool Lou said:

That's hardly "clear", at all.

I agree!

We are only getting one side of the story after all!

[Liverpool Lou]

4 hours ago, Promula said:

She shouts into it, not talks. Can hear her in my bedroom which is on the back of the house.

So what?  There's nothing to prevent her having loud phone conversations in her own property, is there?

[sipi]

Run up and down the fence line on your hands and knees, barking.

Guaranteed she won't be back.

[darrendsd]

57 minutes ago, steven100 said:

The Tessaban are not scared at all,  it's a typical thai mentality,  they are reluctant to be confrontational with a farang because of communication and cultures,  but he can always try,  maybe this Tessaban is not against that, but I know in other provinces and specific villages they were.     just saying

 

 

 

 

It's the Tessabans job to solve issues like this, they won't care if it's a farang or not

[Bangel72]

How old is your wife, is there a decent age gap?

 

Some cultures don't get that or perhaps her own partner ran off with a younger quieter girl and she then carries a lot of baggage that she feels the need to push on to you perhaps.

 

I think the suggestion from someone of you and the mrs having a chat with village leader seems the most sensible option, logic and reason goes out the window when the base thinking about norms is so different.

 

Dog on your land, you can probably sort that non lethally multiple ways, befriending it would be a wee bit devious though, sound is a bit harder but perhaps some trees could benefit you both. 

 

Nobody really likes people overlooking their garden so accept that as a point but the accusations though, they verge into criminal and harmful, not acceptable, she may have just had a bad wine day but she could also need benefit from some counselling as perhaps could you.

 

 

[Daffy D]

Next time she is loud on the phone, record the conversation and later play it back at full volume for the whole neighborhood to hear

[Promula]

2 hours ago, Lacessit said:

If she is that obsessed, rest assured it will happen again. Be ready when it does.

I'm hoping that she was drunk and is regretful today.

 

Either that or she can't cope with having lost the house nearby being empty & the related privacy, and has decided to try to harass me into leaving.

[Promula]

1 hour ago, sirineou said:

It's one thing to be "Crazy" it's another thing to accuse you of a crime , and pedophilian non the less. I would call the police on her and if you can afford it get a lawyer and have him send her a A cease and desist letter and inform her that if she does not, you would take legal action. You can even get a restraining order on her.  

Your reputation is the most valuable thing you have!! Who knows who else she tells her nonsense   , about you. 

Indeed. I was tempted to ask her if she wanted my wife to call the police so she could repeat her criminal accusations to them, followed by me filing a defamation complaint, then seeing which of us ended up with a criminal record. My heat of the moment preference was to end the encounter asap though.

[sammieuk1]

2 hours ago, Promula said:

Thank you. I regret not filming yesterday's event as it was shocking.

 

My wife has been talking for weeks about installing perimeter security cameras with sound recording. She ordered two this morning. One will be aimed at the front gate.

Get yourself down to Tesco bought 2 IP T3 Smart cams for 890bt on a buy one get one free offer today ????

[sammieuk1]

47 minutes ago, Liverpool Lou said:

So what?  There's nothing to prevent her having loud phone conversations in her own property, is there?

I will swop him for my Frenchy neighbor for a phone shout off competition can he suggest it  ???? 

[steven100]

rent a guard dog for a week,   she and her dog won't come near the place again 

[metisdead]

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[huahinjoe]

You could play loud meditative music for a straight 48 hours if it doesn't work, try with a catalonian one 

 

 

[bignok]

Id play loud music every night and morning.

 

Invite some muay thai guys over. Go to gym make friends organise party your house.

 

 

[jvs]

Our neighbour has been a headache for years,screaming and making all

kinds of threads.

He stepped it up a notch last year when he decided he did not like our plants so he went into our yard and pulled them out.

When i yelled at him for doing that he called the Police.

It all settled a bit after that but he started again and we have had the Police here a few times in the last months.

The last time we all had to go to the station where he yelled and carried on.

The officer asked me if i had anything to say and i told him all we want is to

be left alone.

The officer told him that if he is not going to leave us alone he will keep him there for a few nights so we can have some peace.

Over 4 weeks ago now and it has been awfully quiet.

[Lacessit]

1 hour ago, scottiejohn said:

Have you checked to see if she has any Hi So Thai/Local Mafia connections before stirring up the Hornet's nest?

The OP has said she is a foreigner. The probability of her developing HiSo/Mafia connections approaches zero.

[Andre0720]

6 hours ago, FritsSikkink said:

Very good question. 

You have a problem with her smoking at her own property?

And so he should.

People who are addicted to any drug, should at least administer such drugs privately, in a way that is hidden from sight, and hidden from other people's knowledge.  Be it heroin, cocaine, fentanyl, nicotine or meth, does not matter. They should keep their addictions private, and away from people's view, especially children.