Totally lost interest in marriage

[bignok]

Just now, 2baht said:

10,000 oil massages at approx 600 baht per hour equals 6 million baht, I think you could buy a nice house for that, bigbird! Even at half that price, it's still a pretty fair house!

Do 200 then

 

[2baht]

Just now, bignok said:

Do 200 then

 

Make up your mind, is it 10,000 or 200???

[PeachCH]

Or you get married 4x and then divorced 3x. Then you know everything about marriage. A little bit expensive, but actually no regrets ????????????

[Hummin]

1 hour ago, 4MyEgo said:

I see marriage as a business or a good long term investment.

 

You get from a marriage what you put into a marriage, same as a business or a good long term investment.

 

16 + the best years of my life, that said, most marriages fail because like businesses or investments, no enough was done to make the business work or enough research was carried out on the investment, i.e. possibly incompatible in the first place, ego, gave up, drank too much, had an affair, gambled, became abusive, (either partner), all recipes for failure in a marriage.

 

I have invested a few mil into my marriage since we met 16 + years ago, wedding, house, car, bike, furniture and holidays of course, but that investment has paid off very well for me.

 

Breaking it down over that period would mean my investment cost me around 500 baht a day, and for what I have received in return over that period to me means I have done extremely well.

 

Now you might want to be single or pick up the odd girl every now and again because you think marriages are an open pit to pour money into, but to me, having a partner that is compatible means you want to spend the rest of you life with them, and is far better than being single in my opinion, that said, I also go on the principal of you only invest as much as your prepared to lose, and if your marriage fails, then you walk away with what you were prepared to lose and without blaming your partner for your lose because you knew what you were getting into, i.e. it takes two to Tango ????.  

My relationship so far is on 4000 baht a day, included everything we have done and invested in since we met. Small farm, houses, land, motorbikes, car, travels, and for each year we spend less money pr day compare to investment. 

 

So for those who want to invest in massage and short times, go ahead, make your day as it suits you!

[bignok]

17 minutes ago, 2baht said:

Make up your mind, is it 10,000 or 200???

Your life you pick your fav number.

[Hummin]

54 minutes ago, bignok said:

10,000 women vs 1.

One is eneough when you have to reight one, but should be unecessery to explain

[2baht]

Just now, bignok said:

Your life you pick your fav number.

These are your numbers, bigbird, not mine!

[bignok]

1 minute ago, 2baht said:

These are your numbers, bigbird, not mine!

So you want me to boss you around? Go do 15,000

 

[shackleton]

Your choice live with it ????

[2baht]

1 minute ago, bignok said:

So you want me to boss you around? Go do 15,000

 

I'm sure you have'nt got that sort of money, bigbird! That's what this post is about, right, the cost of marriage compared to 10,000 oil massages?

[bignok]

5 minutes ago, 2baht said:

I'm sure you have'nt got that sort of money, bigbird! That's what this post is about, right, the cost of marriage compared to 10,000 oil massages?

Only 3m baht. Over 16 years is less than 200,000 baht so about usd$6,500 a year.

 

So totally doable if one wanted.

 

 

[2baht]

Just now, bignok said:

Only 3m baht. Over 16 years is less than 200,000 baht so about usd$6,500 a year.

 

So totally doable if one wanted.

 

 

????Cool!  

[Stevemercer]

I'm aged 64, married 3 years. To be honest I wouldn't do it again. If my current marriage to a Thai lady ended, I wouldn't date another Thai lady. I'd return to my home country.

 

I've seen too many old, cynical bachelors chasing the ladies and don't want to become one (although I think I might be rather good at it). Plus I can't be bothered going through all that meeting the parents/relatives, dramas etc. etc. etc. involved with another Thai girlfriend.

[BTB1977]

Maybe you haven't met the right guy?

[bignok]

3 minutes ago, BTB1977 said:

Maybe you haven't met the right guy?

So how is your guy marriage going? Are you happy?

[bignok]

1 minute ago, Sticky Rice Balls said:

complained my gf again last night ????

 

as for the Big Nok how can one get tired of marriage when he also claimed his wife was a 9/10

What wife?

[bignok]

Just now, Sticky Rice Balls said:

he also claimed his wife to be a 9/10......doesnt seem to add up but i think in real world terms

Why are you telling lies?

[Hummin]

10 minutes ago, Stevemercer said:

I'm aged 64, married 3 years. To be honest I wouldn't do it again. If my current marriage to a Thai lady ended, I wouldn't date another Thai lady. I'd return to my home country.

 

I've seen too many old, cynical bachelors chasing the ladies and don't want to become one (although I think I might be rather good at it). Plus I can't be bothered going through all that meeting the parents/relatives, dramas etc. etc. etc. involved with another Thai girlfriend.

I agree, I feel lucky because she had a few relationships with foreigners before me, and the last one before me, I guess I should thank him for the job he did with her, because she is fantastic in every way, and well adopted to western lifestyle as well kept her thai way of thinking when it comes to relationships. 

 

Not to forget she knows now whats a good partner and not means. Finding the same in Thailand, I see as impossible. 

 

But there is a few widows who where married to a western I have met, who is playing golf, Well off and educated, but some of them have high norms to live up to. 

[observer90210]

Marry again if you wish, but just remember to stack away all the cash and assets before and always be worth more alive then dead

[riclag]

I think some could careless if they get married but would like to continue a relationship with somebody! Women generally want to memorialize the institution!

Its ok by me !
This time around I have a friend , companion , who says several times a week ,

Thank you to love me!

 

 

[2baht]

4 minutes ago, bignok said:

What wife?

 First one lasted almost 20 years............. Why are you telling lies?

[riclag]

5 minutes ago, bignok said:

Why are you telling lies?

Thanks for starting the thread brother

[bignok]

1 minute ago, 2baht said:

 First one lasted almost 20 years............. Why are you telling lies?

Over. Gf is 9/10.

 

Sticky hands is confused

[xtrnuno41]

Mariage?  It doesnt mean a thing. It is technically, just a legal contract, which will mostly costs YOU at the end. Not only financially, but also emotionally.

Love? ♬What's love got to do with it. Just a second hand emotion.♬

[khunPer]

19 hours ago, bignok said:

Im young enough to try again but whats the point. First one lasted almost 20 years. Couldnt be bothered trying ever again.

 

What about you? I think gf long term is fine. I see no point in marriages. All you do is waste money.

I've never been married to any of my girlfriends and it has worked out fine. Marriage has never been a needed base for relationship, and it's easy to separate, if that's the way to go.

 

The longest relationship in my home country lasted 16 years, and we continued to be best friends. My present Thai relationship has so far –  within a few months – lasted for 20 years. My girlfriend however says that she will marry me when I get 90 years old...????

 

In some cases an unmarried relationship can be regarded at same level as married when you split, even that you don't get any tax benefits like when having a legal wife. There has even been a few cases mentioned in the Thai news...

[jesimps]

First 13 years.

Second 17 years.

This one 16 years (so far).

 

You can't say I don't make the effort.

[bignok]

1 minute ago, jesimps said:

First 13 years.

Second 17 years.

This one 16 years (so far).

 

You can't say I don't make the effort.

Says you scared of being alone

[Lacessit]

Getting married once is OK. More than once, it means you're a slow learner.

[Bundooman]

My first marriage at just 19, ended after 17 years. My Absences through the Royal Navy was a partial cause - but we also just drifted apart. Admittedly, more of me drifting than her - basically, I grew up while I was away and wanted a different future. She and I don't speak, but we have two daughters I/we love dearly.

 

My second marriage lasted some 27 years. I loved her very much and would do anything for her. It gradually disintegrated through many factors and we parted/divorced. We remain close friends and speak/help each other often. I trust her completely and she does with me.

 

My current relationship is almost 15 years and going strong. 

We are not married. We have a daughter and they are the main foundation of my world.

We're OK and close. We aren't the going out and about type and we both work hard at what we do. 

We have an age difference but it has never been a problem.

 

My view is that two formal marriages didn't work. We are quite happy not being married.

Her view is that her Thai marriage was a disaster and she is happy with me.

We share all monies - hers and mine, we work the home together, sharing chores and we are not extravagant,

However, we enjoy the things we do. We tend not to have many friends.

Friends we do have are mainly work associates and family, (Thai & English) and a number of Royal Navy friends I am still in contact with.

 

If I can't make two good marriages work - why would I think I would have success with a third? We are happy as we are.

 

[Scouse123]

23 hours ago, bignok said:

Im young enough to try again but whats the point. First one lasted almost 20 years. Couldnt be bothered trying ever again.

 

What about you? I think gf long term is fine. I see no point in marriages. All you do is waste money.

 

 

 

You will waste money in you marry a Thai and invest in land and property.

 

Stick to girlfriends.