What is life about ? A rant .

[nobodysfriend]

When I was young ... on my first trip to Thailand I met a beautiful , tall girl on Koh Tao . She was working as a waitress in a beach restaurant ... the story goes on just the way you imagine ...  3 years later we decided to marry mainly because she was refused a visa to visit me in my european home country .

She took me to her village in Isaan to see her parents .

Her family lived in a rural village , in a typical thai house . The second floor was the place they slept , downstairs was just the bare ground and a few bamboo mats to sit on .

And a mountain of rubbish right in the middle of it .

They enjoyed their meals and drinks sitting right next to that ... they invited me to eat with them . They made me eat some funny soup with mushrooms .

I do not remember much more , the next morning I woke up upstairs with a headache .

I did not like that , and I thought that it would be better not to marry ( into this family ) .

So , I told her that .

To my surprise , she stayed cool and said that she does not want to lose face in front of her family .

She proposed to just go to the local Amphur on the day we were supposed to get married , spend a few hours somewhere near and go back to her family's place just to tell them that we could not marry because of missing papers ...

Well , I was in Love and that changed my mind about not getting married . We got married the same day at the Amphur .

 

It is now 25 years that we are married . She came to stay with me in beautiful southern France . Being married , she got her Visa easily . We stayed there in our little house in a natural reserve for about 16 years . My parents died and we decided to go back to Thailand to spend our old age over there ...

So far , so good ...

 

I sold everything and we moved to Thailand .I found a nice place to live , had a nice house built here .

She never had to work , not here neither in France . I provided everything , I took ' care of her ' . My job .

 

Her father died  died while we were in France and some years later her mother in our house in Chiang Mai .

We moved to a quiet island in the south , built a nice house and later found an old , abandoned ' Talat ' , a market , open air but covered with a roof . We transformed that into a beautiful big house with 5m high ceilings . Our plan was to rent it out via Airbnb . She said she was gonna move in to design the garden .

She did that . And now , some years later she is still living in her " residence ".

No Airbnb . I am living alone in the first house with the many dogs I take care for . ( wanted some loyalty in my life ...)

Quite happy after all if it were not the eternal requests for money . I gave her a lot , but it is never enough .

I bought her land as an investment , she does not want to sell it .

Her brothers , all alcoholics , came to ' see ' her . They never worked , nobody would give a job to them anyway .

I do not want to pay for them .

All high on ' Lao Khao ' they have serious mental and health problems . Not my job to take care for them .

 

Lao Khao is the drug they should make illegal in Thailand , not Cannabis .

 

That stuff causes serious harm . It destroys lives and health .

 

Life is ok for me now , but my wife and me are slowly becoming estranged , she lives in her house a few km away , she comes to se me often and even more often asks for money , even she has a safe box full of golden Krugerrands in Chiang Mai that she inherited from my dead mother ...

 

I never made foreign friends here on the island , the few who live here are all alcoholics . But I am getting old now , my back hurts often , I am no good for work anymore .

Never found a good thai gardener or housekeeper ... her brother offered me to do this , but proofed incapable ...

 

I do not want to move or sell , I need to take care of my dogs that all love me ...

 

So , I let the garden just grow wild I guess ...

 

I do not really know why I wrote all this ... I just had to let it out I guess ...

 

Hope you enjoyed reading it ... If you could read until the END ...

 

Thank you .

 

 

[CharlieH]

Let's confine rants to the Pub !

 

MOVED

[ravip]

Spending lavishly and giving too much money is the main mistake you did,IMHO.

You both should have settled down in France and never returned to TH.

[OneMoreFarang]

Finally, I found a reason to use ChatGPT:

 

My request: "Please write a short summary about the following text:"

 

The result:

"The story narrates a man's journey from meeting his future wife on his first trip to Thailand to their current estranged relationship. They married primarily because she was denied a visa to visit him in Europe, and he moved to Thailand to live with her after retiring. Initially, their marriage seemed happy as they lived together in France, but after returning to Thailand, their relationship deteriorated. The wife now lives separately in a house meant for Airbnb rentals and frequently asks for money. Her alcoholic brothers add to the strain, and the man, feeling isolated and burdened with physical pain, finds solace in caring for his dogs. He reflects on his life's complexities, expressing a mix of resignation and frustration."

 

[CanadaSam]

You don't know the answer to life?

 

42

 

Somebody will clarify this soon for you, I'm sure!

[OneMoreFarang]

Just now, OneMoreFarang said:

Finally, I found a reason to use ChatGPT:

 

My request: "Please write a short summary about the following text:"

 

The result:

"The story narrates a man's journey from meeting his future wife on his first trip to Thailand to their current estranged relationship. They married primarily because she was denied a visa to visit him in Europe, and he moved to Thailand to live with her after retiring. Initially, their marriage seemed happy as they lived together in France, but after returning to Thailand, their relationship deteriorated. The wife now lives separately in a house meant for Airbnb rentals and frequently asks for money. Her alcoholic brothers add to the strain, and the man, feeling isolated and burdened with physical pain, finds solace in caring for his dogs. He reflects on his life's complexities, expressing a mix of resignation and frustration."

 

 

One more:

 

Can you please provide a one sentence summary.

 

A man's initially happy marriage deteriorates after moving to Thailand, leading to estrangement from his wife, financial strain, and isolation, with his only solace being the care of his dogs.

 

[GrungthepGringo]

The alcoholic brother strikes again. It's hard to find a story about a foreigner being drained of his money by his Thai wife without there being a problematic, unfixable brother in the picture who is the source of all the financial woes. Out of all the possible narratives they could use to extract money from foreigners who would've ever thought the misfit brother would prove to be the most lucrative method. 

[susanlea]

Join a muay thai gym make friends that way.

[nobodysfriend]

42 ... ? yes I know ...

financial woes ? not have . I was clever enough to only give what I can afford to lose ..

But I gave enough already . No more .

Muay thai ? not have on the island , Anyway , nearly 70 now .

I should have stayed in France ? Yes , The life and people in the provence were nicer than here ... but I am the last of my family , not have kids ... never wanted ... what to to when old ...?

 

 

[OneMoreFarang]

47 minutes ago, GrungthepGringo said:

The alcoholic brother strikes again. It's hard to find a story about a foreigner being drained of his money by his Thai wife without there being a problematic, unfixable brother in the picture who is the source of all the financial woes. Out of all the possible narratives they could use to extract money from foreigners who would've ever thought the misfit brother would prove to be the most lucrative method. 

 

Luckily, we don't have an alcoholic in the gf's family. But I wonder, is there a good solution to that problem?

In some farang countries, we might send such a person to a clinic - provided by some health insurance.

And/or he would get some social security payments from the state.

All this doesn't happen in Thailand. So, what is the solution? Just telling him to stop? Send him away, like you are not family anymore?

I guess it is difficult.

[simon43]

1 hour ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Finally, I found a reason to use ChatGPT:

 

My request: "Please write a short summary about the following text:"

 

The result:

"The story narrates a man's journey from meeting his future wife on his first trip to Thailand to their current estranged relationship. They married primarily because she was denied a visa to visit him in Europe, and he moved to Thailand to live with her after retiring. Initially, their marriage seemed happy as they lived together in France, but after returning to Thailand, their relationship deteriorated. The wife now lives separately in a house meant for Airbnb rentals and frequently asks for money. Her alcoholic brothers add to the strain, and the man, feeling isolated and burdened with physical pain, finds solace in caring for his dogs. He reflects on his life's complexities, expressing a mix of resignation and frustration."

 

Just out of interest, if you then ask ChatGPT to summarise the summary, and then ask it to summarise the summary of the summary, will this app eventually disappear up its own backside with a one-word summary "sh*t!!'? 🙂

[GrungthepGringo]

6 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

 

Luckily, we don't have an alcoholic in the gf's family. But I wonder, is there a good solution to that problem?

In some farang countries, we might send such a person to a clinic - provided by some health insurance.

And/or he would get some social security payments from the state.

All this doesn't happen in Thailand. So, what is the solution? Just telling him to stop? Send him away, like you are not family anymore?

I guess it is difficult.

Your assuming the brother really is an alcoholic and that the narrative is not just a ruse to extract more money from the foreigner. 

[GrungthepGringo]

Perhaps the one being introduced as the alcoholic Thai brother is really her Thai husband. 

[Yagoda]

At my age, life is all about a good dump

[nobodysfriend]

3 minutes ago, GrungthepGringo said:

Your assuming the brother really is an alcoholic and that the narrative is not just a ruse to extract more money from the foreigner. 

He really is . He is living on borrowed time ... had an operation already because of health problem .

Lao Khao is the drug that needs to be banned ... but also a part of " normal " life in Isaan .

 

After all , I can give a very short summary to my Narrative : Enjoy life without ever getting married ... ( not from Chat GTP ...)

[nobodysfriend]

Just now, GrungthepGringo said:

Perhaps the one being introduced as the alcoholic Thai brother is really her Thai husband. 

I would know that after 25 yrs ... anyway , who would marry him ?

[GrungthepGringo]

1 minute ago, Yagoda said:

At my age, life is all about a good dump

Photos or we can't be certain. 

[BritManToo]

4 minutes ago, Yagoda said:

At my age, life is all about a good dump

I can't even do that properly any more!

[Yagoda]

2 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

I can't even do that properly any more!

Kimchi. Seriously.

[Yagoda]

5 minutes ago, GrungthepGringo said:

Photos or we can't be certain. 

OK after my Duck blu block dissolves, otherwise the colour will be off

[GrungthepGringo]

5 minutes ago, Yagoda said:

OK after my Duck blu block dissolves, otherwise the colour will be off

Fair enough. Will be waiting with baited breath. A picture is worth a thousand words!

[Tropicalevo]

Good luck in your twilight years.

Just take every day as it comes. A beer at sunset and a glass of pastis before bed.

[nobodysfriend]

3 minutes ago, Tropicalevo said:

Good luck in your twilight years.

Just take every day as it comes. A beer at sunset and a glass of pastis before bed.

Thank you .

I like a good whiskey when it get's dark outside . Pastis ? not so much , I am not french ... just lived there a long time ...

Edited May 20 by nobodysfriend
typo

[Hummin]

The main purpose of life for a man, is to make wife happy. 

 

 

 

 

[retarius]

Brothers are a huge downside to becoming involved with a Thai gf or wife. My gf has 2 brothers and 2 sisters. The sisters are ok. One lives with us and helps out in the garden and house. The other lives a long way away. 

Her brothers are pretty bad but not as bad as some I have seen. The youngest of the family is the most lazy person I have ever seen besides his son, my gf's nephew. The youngest's wife is a lazy fat pig, no other way to describe her. We have nothing to do with them, not even to say hello. 

 

[Hummin]

56 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

 

Luckily, we don't have an alcoholic in the gf's family. But I wonder, is there a good solution to that problem?

In some farang countries, we might send such a person to a clinic - provided by some health insurance.

And/or he would get some social security payments from the state.

All this doesn't happen in Thailand. So, what is the solution? Just telling him to stop? Send him away, like you are not family anymore?

I guess it is difficult.

Te cure for that, is to know your coming wife family and friends, and Not marry if you are not sure about her family is good or not. Her family problems becomes your problems. Never experienced a thai girl who left her family and her problems behind her, they will always stirr up bad feelings guilt and demands making her unhappy. 

 

I left one family before I marriend the one Im with now. 

 

Out of 20 +- very few had wifes who did not have some bad family relations or high expectations or unrealistic claims.

 

Know the family and friends, you will know the future

 

 

Edited May 20 by Hummin

[OneMoreFarang]

45 minutes ago, simon43 said:

Just out of interest, if you then ask ChatGPT to summarise the summary, and then ask it to summarise the summary of the summary, will this app eventually disappear up its own backside with a one-word summary "sh*t!!'? 🙂

You could try it and report your findings. 

[patman30]

if you are not happy about the money requests
answer is simple, to be blunt,
grow a pair and tell her, and then talk about where to go from there.
or
setup direct debit or whatever equivalent scheduled payment of X amount and tell her that is it.
Sounds like you have already let this go on way too long.

[OneMoreFarang]

42 minutes ago, GrungthepGringo said:

Your assuming the brother really is an alcoholic and that the narrative is not just a ruse to extract more money from the foreigner. 

 

Let's say it like this: There seems to me many Thais out there who drink lots of alcohol. So independent of above, it is a common problem.  

[OneMoreFarang]

5 minutes ago, Hummin said:

and Not marry if you are not sure about her family is good or not

 

I decided not to marry in any case. Problem solved.