Getting Old: Stoic About It or Endless Whinger?

[Yagoda]

29 minutes ago, spidermike007 said:

Great one. Keep it up. This forum needs more wise old farts like you on it. 

My philosophy is simple:

 

Today is your last day. What are you going to do with it?

 

To me, stuff like steaks, great weed, tattooed blonde Romanian girls with eel like bodies walking around naked in Sharks in Frankfurt, Billboard in Nana, Thermae Cafe, Smashburgers (I had three last night from Joes Burger Bar in Siem Reap, one of the three best burger places in town), Greg Gutfeld, lots of Big Boobs and chocolate and Ice Cream, randomly paying poor people's hospital bills at the Childrens Hospital, hanging at Angkor Wat, road trips in Mercedes convertibles, cat videos, annoying my reliably dumbass leftist yet still endearing defiant and ungrateful child, Manchester United, watching Ladyboys from the patio at Margarita Storm, Nana Burger, machine guns, cheese omelets and as much oral gratification as I can buy are all possibilities on the menu for the Last Day. So as not to be branded as completely loathsome, I do try to continue m y own education in between spurts of hedonism.

 

Whats not on my menu is worrying about getting old. And with the utmost respect to those who have found peace through monogamy (my folks did 55 years), whats not in my menu is watching that hottie I married 40 years ago whine about her prolapsed uterus and bad teeth while those perky boobies in 1974 are now dragging the floor. Im so shallow, but I wouldnt wish me on anyone these days so at least I have some honour left.

 

Getting old? Winners play through the pain, and those who die the happiest win.

 

 

[Lacessit]

1 hour ago, georgegeorgia said:

All good until you get over 80 then there not much you can do unfortunately 

In your occupation, you are probably used to seeing sick 80 year olds, and don't realize there are healthy ones as well.

[RSD1]

3 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

In your occupation, you are probably used to seeing sick 80 year olds, and don't realize there are healthy ones as well.

 

There are also healthy 90 year olds too.

[georgegeorgia]

1 hour ago, Lacessit said:

In your occupation, you are probably used to seeing sick 80 year olds, and don't realize there are healthy ones as well.

Wouldn't matter how healthy you are....time is limited in all probability 

[spidermike007]

3 hours ago, Yagoda said:

My philosophy is simple:

 

Today is your last day. What are you going to do with it?

 

To me, stuff like steaks, great weed, tattooed blonde Romanian girls with eel like bodies walking around naked in Sharks in Frankfurt, Billboard in Nana, Thermae Cafe, Smashburgers (I had three last night from Joes Burger Bar in Siem Reap, one of the three best burger places in town), Greg Gutfeld, lots of Big Boobs and chocolate and Ice Cream, randomly paying poor people's hospital bills at the Childrens Hospital, hanging at Angkor Wat, road trips in Mercedes convertibles, cat videos, annoying my reliably dumbass leftist yet still endearing defiant and ungrateful child, Manchester United, watching Ladyboys from the patio at Margarita Storm, Nana Burger, machine guns, cheese omelets and as much oral gratification as I can buy are all possibilities on the menu for the Last Day. So as not to be branded as completely loathsome, I do try to continue m y own education in between spurts of hedonism.

 

Whats not on my menu is worrying about getting old. And with the utmost respect to those who have found peace through monogamy (my folks did 55 years), whats not in my menu is watching that hottie I married 40 years ago whine about her prolapsed uterus and bad teeth while those perky boobies in 1974 are now dragging the floor. Im so shallow, but I wouldnt wish me on anyone these days so at least I have some honour left.

 

Getting old? Winners play through the pain, and those who die the happiest win.

 

 

All right do agree with you about maintaining some perspective on time. I'm counting my remaining days in months not years, as I find that 240 months sounds more urgent than 20 years, but I get what you're saying and I really enjoyed your post, thanks for that. 

[RSD1]

4 hours ago, Yagoda said:

great weed, tattooed blonde Romanian girls with eel like bodies walking around naked in Sharks in Frankfurt, Billboard in Nana, Thermae Cafe, Smashburgers

And where do you go to find those hairy protruding growlers that you said you like to chew on?

[sipi]

 

There's a pile of useful and very truthful videos on you tube on the subject. Its worth taking a look. 

There's a common theme... No one is coming to rescue you when you get old...

[The Fugitive]

39 minutes ago, spidermike007 said:

240 months sounds more urgent than 20 years

I agree! What sort of yardstick are you using for your remaining months? For example, we know that in civilised countries the greatest numbers of people die around 85/86 years. However, official figures vary. Also, in my family, males have died almost exclusively between ages 67 and 73.

[Yagoda]

18 minutes ago, RSD1 said:

And where do you go to find those hairy protruding growlers that you said you like to chew on?

Ya lost me there mate

[spidermike007]

4 hours ago, Yagoda said:

My philosophy is simple:

 

Today is your last day. What are you going to do with it?

 

To me, stuff like steaks, great weed, tattooed blonde Romanian girls with eel like bodies walking around naked in Sharks in Frankfurt, Billboard in Nana, Thermae Cafe, Smashburgers (I had three last night from Joes Burger Bar in Siem Reap, one of the three best burger places in town), Greg Gutfeld, lots of Big Boobs and chocolate and Ice Cream, randomly paying poor people's hospital bills at the Childrens Hospital, hanging at Angkor Wat, road trips in Mercedes convertibles, cat videos, annoying my reliably dumbass leftist yet still endearing defiant and ungrateful child, Manchester United, watching Ladyboys from the patio at Margarita Storm, Nana Burger, machine guns, cheese omelets and as much oral gratification as I can buy are all possibilities on the menu for the Last Day. So as not to be branded as completely loathsome, I do try to continue m y own education in between spurts of hedonism.

 

Whats not on my menu is worrying about getting old. And with the utmost respect to those who have found peace through monogamy (my folks did 55 years), whats not in my menu is watching that hottie I married 40 years ago whine about her prolapsed uterus and bad teeth while those perky boobies in 1974 are now dragging the floor. Im so shallow, but I wouldnt wish me on anyone these days so at least I have some honour left.

 

Getting old? Winners play through the pain, and those who die the happiest win.

 

 

I vividly remember those triples in Phnom Penh. $30 plus $3 for the room. Those were the days. 

[sidjameson]

9 hours ago, Yagoda said:

Im almost 70. I toss my broccoli of desire into supple and firm hardbodied legal teenagers every chance I get, which is only about once a month since my back has difficulty handling travel,

 

I dont drink, am not "morbidly" obese (yet) and smoke tons of weed, hash and concentrates. My back is shot, but if a man cant handle pain, hes not a man and I try not to whine, although I do jerk from the clonic spasms and scream in agony once in a while. But hey, if a man cant hang with the boys and bellow like a wounded walrus once every now and then, whats the point?

I get those spasms too. Far to regular. What works for pain? I just endure and never smoked weed. Does weed help?

[sidjameson]

9 hours ago, Yagoda said:

Im almost 70. I toss my broccoli of desire into supple and firm hardbodied legal teenagers every chance I get, which is only about once a month since my back has difficulty handling travel,

 

I dont drink, am not "morbidly" obese (yet) and smoke tons of weed, hash and concentrates. My back is shot, but if a man cant handle pain, hes not a man and I try not to whine, although I do jerk from the clonic spasms and scream in agony once in a while. But hey, if a man cant hang with the boys and bellow like a wounded walrus once every now and then, whats the point?

I get those spasms too. Far to regular. What works for pain? I just endure and never smoked weed. Does weed help?

[bunnydrops]

I'm pushing 79. Just finished building a pole barn with an 81 year old. I still work on the roof, climb the ladders. Some ask why I still do it. I say someday may be the last time---- but that won't be today, looking forward to tomorrow. You have to keep moving to be happy.

 

[sipi]

 

[Lacessit]

12 minutes ago, sidjameson said:

I get those spasms too. Far to regular. What works for pain? I just endure and never smoked weed. Does weed help?

Tramadol. Available at pharmacies without a prescription.

 

It is addictive, so use carefully. IME 10-12 hours free of back pain.

[Lacessit]

3 hours ago, georgegeorgia said:

Wouldn't matter how healthy you are....time is limited in all probability 

My day would not be complete without your little ray of sunshine.

[georgegeorgia]

1 hour ago, Lacessit said:

My day would not be complete without your little ray of sunshine.

You need to be a realist 

No use buying a yearly lottery ticket if your over 81

[still kicking]

17 hours ago, georgegeorgia said:

So how can your wife work and you also get the aged pension??

 

Your not entitled to the old age pension if your partner is working !

Nonsense you get deducted  

[GammaGlobulin]

No point in complaining about one's age.

And, in order to distract oneself from age-related complaints...it's best to complain about other things.

Mostly roosters.

Huge trucks that rumble by and shake the house, since the flood.

Truck drivers that haven't had the same educational advantages as some of us.

 

If one is the type of person that does a lot of complaining, routinely, then one's life expectancy is liable to be somewhat reduced.

 

If you complain to the wrong person, and loudly enough, then your life could be ended almost instantaneously.

 

I have no complaints about aging.

But I just want to find a place where I don't feel the need to complain about electric-power delivery, roosters, etc....

Otherwise, what's the point of living past 60?

 

 

 

 

[Lacessit]

1 hour ago, georgegeorgia said:

You need to be a realist 

No use buying a yearly lottery ticket if your over 81

Why not? Happy for my heirs to share the winnings.

[HugoFastor]

3 hours ago, sidjameson said:

I get those spasms too. Far to regular. What works for pain? I just endure and never smoked weed. Does weed help?

Read these links. Cannabis helps a lot for muscle spasms in my opinion:

 

https://www.marijuanadoctors.com/resources/medical-marijuana-research-studies/chronic-muscle-spasms-medical-marijuana-research/
 

https://www.marijuanadoctors.com/conditions/back-pain/

[HugoFastor]

3 hours ago, Lacessit said:

Tramadol. Available at pharmacies without a prescription.

 

Bad advice for a chronic condition. Good only for short term use for an acutely painful condition. 

[proton]

4 hours ago, Lacessit said:

Tramadol. Available at pharmacies without a prescription.

 

It is addictive, so use carefully. IME 10-12 hours free of back pain.

 

Not in Bangkok, unless it's Ultracet with paracetamol. Been taking it for years, twice a week.

[Yagoda]

4 hours ago, sidjameson said:

I get those spasms too. Far to regular. What works for pain? I just endure and never smoked weed. Does weed help?

I should be taking steroid for arthritic inflammation but the side effects concern me so I just live on Baclofen and weed.

 

If you're never smoked, don't start now grab yourself some good concentrate and dose away. What you can get depends on where you are, extracts are your friend

[Mark Nothing]

I don't endure the pain of aging by keeping quiet, nor whine about it either.  Instead I go for what I want and don't stop until the desired results happen.

 

The beauty of aging is you have quite a bit more life knowledge to work with.    Realizing what works and what doesn't by watching and listening to others.  I try to do what works and try not to do what doesn't work.  Some flexibility is required and going against the consensus opinion tends to bear fruit.

 

The answers desired are readily available to those with an open mind, less so to those who don't.

 

 

 

 

 

[georgegeorgia]

3 hours ago, Mark Nothing said:

I don't endure the pain of aging by keeping quiet, nor whine about it either.  Instead I go for what I want and don't stop until the desired results happen.

 

The beauty of aging is you have quite a bit more life knowledge to work with.    Realizing what works and what doesn't by watching and listening to others.  I try to do what works and try not to do what doesn't work.  Some flexibility is required and going against the consensus opinion tends to bear fruit.

 

The answers desired are readily available to those with an open mind, less so to those who don't.

 

 

 

 

 

This sounds like that  AL wrote this 

[save the frogs]

1 hour ago, georgegeorgia said:

This sounds like that  AL wrote this 

cryptic

[BusyB]

18 hours ago, KannikaP said:

In which country please? In UK you can get OAP.

 

Where I live (for tax purposes - I'm rather nomadic occasionally) I was able to WORK and draw a pension for a year and a half. Legally. Goddam EU marxist communism. It's $hi7, stay in the US or the UK. You'd hate it here. 

 

And don't get me started on how much holiday I got or the health issues that I didn't pay a penny for in the socialist hell of Germany.

 

Late in life and retired after a lifetime of good universal healthcare the docs are giving me a clean bill of health and I'm just wondering what to do with the last third or so, roughly, of my  available adult years.

 

I can't rock climb or tackle obstacles the way I once could. My shoulder is threatening me with some violence in a not too distant future. I have to be careful with my back and couldn't punch my way out of a wet paper bag these days. However I still do hefty gym work and cardio, swim, am active, travel and enjoy life, have lots of fun.

 

But the body is definitely dying and the aches and pains I wake up with sometimes were never there as a young man. The wrinkles set to come are already hinting at the maps they'll draw on my face and the loose skin that will develop on my arms is beginning to pucker. There's no escaping that.

 

I find those thoughts comforting rather than trying to deny it though. Dying is, in the end, just another issue to deal with in life. I'm more worried about the how than the fact itself and I am quite prepared to put an end to me myself if things get really bad. I do hope though that I can get the remainder of the things done I want to do before I get that far. I've made it a priority not to die regretting things I haven't done.

 

But who knows?

[Thingamabob]

83 years old 3 days ago.Happy to be in Thailand, with my Thai wife, in old age. She is 68. We were married in Taiwan in 1990, and above all else we are very good friends. I have told her if and when I get sick do not put me into a hospital, just make me as comfortable as possible at home until I expire. I guess I could be called stoic. I find enough in each day to keep me interested and involved with what is going on around me.

[soalbundy]

On 11/23/2024 at 11:06 PM, JK-Trilly said:

Aging is something we can’t avoid, but how we deal with it varies wildly. Some keep moving forward, adapting, and continuing to enjoy life as always, while others seem to get stuck, endlessly complaining about every ache, pain, and limitation. For those aging in Thailand, the dynamic takes on an even more unique flavor.

 

For many expats here, growing older doesn’t mean slowing down. You’ll find men in their 60s and beyond who still go out to the bars, chase the same things they did in their 30s, and dive headfirst into everything life has to offer. Whether it’s maintaining an active social life, exercising, meeting new people, or traveling, these folks refuse to let age dictate their pace. They embody that classic “mind over matter” approach, embracing the here and now and staying engaged with the world around them.

 

On the flip side, there are those who seem to have hit a wall. Instead of adapting, they focus on what’s going wrong—the health problems, creaky knees, back pains, and chronic ailments. You’ll often hear them sitting around, talking about their blood pressure, cholesterol, wanting to lose weight and all the things that they feel they can’t do anymore. For them, life in Thailand has shifted from adventure to a growing list of limitations.

 

But here’s the question: Is it just a mindset, or do circumstances play a role? Thailand offers unique advantages for aging expats—relatively affordable healthcare, easy access to good food, warm weather that’s easier on the joints, and a culture that generally respects elders. Yet, it’s not all roses. Some face visa headaches, financial challenges, or feelings of isolation as they grow older without family nearby.

 

For those who’ve spent more than 20 years here, it’s worth asking: Was aging in Thailand part of the plan? Or did time simply pass faster than expected, leaving you as a senior citizen in Thailand? For some, staying here into old age feels like a natural extension of the life they’ve built. For others, the question of whether they’d be better off returning to their home country looms large.

 

The truth is, everyone approaches aging differently. Some lean into the physical realities of getting older but refuse to let them define their lives. Others see those same realities as walls that block the way forward.

 

Where do you stand? Are you still pushing forward with life, doing the same things you did in your younger years? Or have the physical aspects of aging shifted your focus, making you feel more limited than liberated?

 

Stoic or whinger—what’s your approach?

Nothing wrong in getting old when one considers the alternative.