How much sin sod for 28 yo single mom of 2 Bangkok suburb (Rangsit)

[thainomad3]

How much sin sod for 28 yo single mom of 2 Bangkok suburb (Rangsit)?

She has 2 daughters and agreed to give me a kid. She is requesting 100k baht.  

I am a 22 yo college graduate from a top western university.

Edited 3 hours ago by thainomad3

[thesetat2013]

55 minutes ago, thainomad3 said:

How much sin sod for 28 yo single mom of 2 Bangkok suburb (Rangsit)?

She has 2 daughters and agreed to give me a kid. She is requesting 100k baht.  

I am a 22 yo college graduate from a top western university.

You are crazy to pay sindsod for a woman who has 2 kids already. Sinsod is given to first timers. Not to women with kids already. She should be lucky she will have a man who will even support her Thai kids. She is milking you for the money. Get out of it quickly. It will only get worse and your 100,000 will be long gone. 

 

https://marrythailand.com/thailand-dowry./

should the bride be a divorcee or a "Mia Maiy" - a spoiled/ruined wife, normally no dowry is paid. If she has a child or children from a former marriage or relationship no dowry is paid either.

[steven100]

[thainomad3]

31 minutes ago, thesetat2013 said:

You are crazy to pay sindsod for a woman who has 2 kids already. Sinsod is given to first timers. Not to women with kids already. She should be lucky she will have a man who will even support her Thai kids. She is milking you for the money. Get out of it quickly. It will only get worse and your 100,000 will be long gone. 

 

https://marrythailand.com/thailand-dowry./

should the bride be a divorcee or a "Mia Maiy" - a spoiled/ruined wife, normally no dowry is paid. If she has a child or children from a former marriage or relationship no dowry is paid either.

I understand divorcees usually don't get anything. but she'll let me live in her home so I dont need to buy a condo or pay for a hotel in Thailand. also she hasn't asked me to pay for her kids but only pay for my kid

Also doesn't expect any gold

Edited 2 hours ago by thainomad3

[thesetat2013]

1 hour ago, thainomad3 said:

I understand divorcees usually don't get anything. but she'll let me live in her home so I dont need to buy a condo or pay for a hotel in Thailand. also she hasn't asked me to pay for her kids but only pay for my kid

Also doesn't expect any gold

perhaps you did not understand the dowry... if she already has a kid from someone else... you do not need to pay dowry. They can demand it. But if they do they only want so they can get that money from you. Dowry is abused by so many Thai families because the foreigner does not understand it. The dowry goes to the family. Not to your wife. So does not need to be paid if she is tainted (used loosely) with a child from another man. 

On a side note. She should feel lucky she has found you. With a child in tow from another man pretty much no Thai man will want to marry her. Or not very many. Which is why there are so many single mothers in Thailand. 

 

If you already have a kid with her then why do you not tell the woman and or family that you will put the 100k in an account in the childs name only. At least that way you will not really be losing it. So your child will be sure to have a future. The dowry is really only supposed to be paid to the family for a woman who never had kids with another man and never been married. 

It seems to me like the dowry is a big issue for your wife. Which makes me think she or her family are more concerned with getting that money that with their childs happiness and future having at least one grandchild with both legitimate parents. 

You also seem to think that her other child from a different man will not be your responsibility in raising. You will learn in time that is an incorrect assumption and you will end up supporting her and all the kids. Especially if there is a Thai father. He will not support the kid long after she remarries or marries you. 

 

(but she'll let me live in her home) She does not let you live there. She chooses to do this to be together there on her terms using your money. If there is a problem between both of you. Then you can be sure your ass will be on the street quickly. If you plan to buy a condo, or think you will. Best to do it prior to any legitimate marriage or she will obtain it in the future. 

 You are only 22... and seems that you are not thinking too much about future possibilities simply because she had your kid along with another mans child. 

Your life is just starting out. Be careful the choices you make. I would hate to see your life ruined and future poverty and misery caused by such a marriage. 

 

[Albo]

Haha 3 posts. Ok...

 

None to keep. Fine to put up dosh for show. She has two kids ffs.

 

I'd give her 50k for every year you've been physically together up to 100k as family as a gift. I was married 15 years ago. Gave the parents 100k happily. We were together two years prior to marriage.

 

Why tf you getting involved with a woman with TWO children? She must be hot.

 

DO NOT take them back to US and make perfectly clear that will never happen.

 

Discuss the sinsod, discuss and never going to US. See her reaction, gauge her reaction. Act accordingly.

 

FYI by Thai standards unless she's absolutely stunning she's unmarriageable.

 

What are you going to do with your fancy degree in rangsit? Earn 50k pm teaching English for a few years till AI overwhelms?

 

If 100k is a burden than back out. You have the wedding to pay, setting up a home, four mouths to feed. Don't forget your obligated for her kids now as well. Hope they are girls.

 

I'd not want someone else's (poor) boys under my roof. Their futures will be dicey and can give you all sorts of grief. Not your kids, not your kids to discipline.

 

No doubt the sex will be non existent after she gives you a kid. Possible she will take birth control.. she doesn't need three to ma age after you bolt as well could be her thinking. More money for kids she has 😉

 

Must be a real beauty

[Albo]

1 hour ago, thainomad3 said:

she'll let me live in her home

 

What MAN lives in a woman's home - with her kids? Well, a lucky man (beta, little self respect) if that man we're not married.

 

I see somewhere that you're 22? I didn't catch that in the first or subsequent post. You have to be a real desperate young man to be hooking up with a woman in Thailand who is 6 years your senior with two children. The trick is to marry a younger woman that will age well. For example, my wife was childless and almost 16 yrs my junior.

 

Living in a woman's home is totally beta and fraught with problems

 

*Above comment excludes men that bought the home/ land for wife and live together in that domicile.

 

 

TBH this post sounds like total windup

Edited 5 minutes ago by Albo