Help, i fancy my local pharmacist (F) !

[Denim]

15 hours ago, lanng khao said:

If you were a washing machine, could i put my dirty load in you,, tried and tested ice breaker,, obviously youd have to translate it into thai, anyone here can help?

 

But she might answer with :

 

Sorry , I don't wash other people's smalls.

[Farma]

Having been married to one for over 2 decades and know of 2 other farangs within 60 km of me also married to pharmacists its not impossible to meet or date them.

 

However me excluded they tend to mix with professionals their level or above.

 

There's also lot of unmarried pharmacists either career girls or left it too late to marry.

 

Suggest asking around if she's married or in a relationship. Adding line is a good idea. Don't expect to jump into bed the 1st date. You'll possibly find she'll bring a friend "chaperone" the first few dates.

[Expat68]

17 hours ago, FritsSikkink said:

Ask her if she has Line. When she gives it to you, you know she is open to communication outside the shop and you can talk more.

That is the way Thais start

[wavodavo]

1 minute ago, Farma said:

Having been married to one for over 2 decades and know of 2 other farangs within 60 km of me also married to pharmacists its not impossible to meet or date them.

 

However me excluded they tend to mix with professionals their level or above.

 

There's also lot of unmarried pharmacists either career girls or left it too late to marry.

 

Suggest asking around if she's married or in a relationship. Adding line is a good idea. Don't expect to jump into bed the 1st date. You'll possibly find she'll bring a friend "chaperone" the first few dates.

I suggest that you ask her for the latest medications for AIDS and also 5 packets of XL condoms and watch her reaction.  That should give you an idea what your chances are to bed her.

[BritManToo]

15 hours ago, RichardColeman said:

Unless you are in the 30's and 40's then I would say she is just being polite. You go to a bar then you know you are getting lied to to boost your ego. I was 51 when I married my 37 year old wife - she was well educated and not a bar girl, I would not think a younger girl would be interested in an old man (if you are over 65 unless she is working in a bar. Happens , yes, but ask yourself what on earth she sees in you other than a good customer. 

Quite a lot of them see the dad they always wished for, to stabilize their crazy lives. 

[Expat68]

17 hours ago, FritsSikkink said:

Ask her if she has Line. When she gives it to you, you know she is open to communication outside the shop and you can talk more.

That is the way Thais start

[Expat68]

Diversing a little. I have a Thai girlfriend. In my local lotus fresh (small lotus) which I frequent regular and always have a chat to the girls. One of the girls who I hadn't seen for a while, so just been friendly I asked where she was and the supervisor told me she had moved to another  province with another lotus, asked me straight out if I liked her and did I want to contact her. So you just never know. Faint heart and all that

[OneMoreFarang]

18 hours ago, Aurelien said:

or if she has a boyfriend, etc.

Maybe look at her hands. Does she have a wedding ring?

I have to say personally I never look at such little details, but I am sure sometimes it makes sense to look.

 

I think the best approach is to give her a business card or a piece of paper with your name and LINE ID on it.

If she is interested, then she might contact you. And if not, then you didn't embarrass her too much.

Obviously, it also makes a big difference if she is alone in that shop or who else is around.

 

Good luck! Only people who try have a chance to win. Go for it! 

 

[Woke to Sounds of Horking]

17 hours ago, Aurelien said:

I would do it, but then she'll think it's destined for another girl 

That's not the point -- you're thinking too much. DON'T think!!

[Expat68]

31 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Maybe look at her hands. Does she have a wedding ring?

I have to say personally I never look at such little details, but I am sure sometimes it makes sense to look.

 

I think the best approach is to give her a business card or a piece of paper with your name and LINE ID on it.

If she is interested, then she might contact you. And if not, then you didn't embarrass her too much.

Obviously, it also makes a big difference if she is alone in that shop or who else is around.

 

Good luck! Only people who try have a chance to win. Go for it! 

 

She definitely won't contact, always down to the man, depending where you are but it is fireworks this w/e in Pattaya, just saying. Sometimes even if the lady doesn't have a boyfriend and you ask her if she has, they may say they have, not wanting to be too easy

[KhunLA]

FFS, just ask her out.

 

Ask her what her favorite restaurant is, then ask her to go there, show you where it is, on her next day off.  That puts her in a familiar safe environment, so she'll be comfy and relaxed.

 

Her name should be hanging on a diploma / certificate somewhere in the shop.  If you see it, ask her how to pronounce it.   Pay attention to details 

Edited 1 hour ago by KhunLA

[Bundooman]

Plan where you get your pharmacy items for when you are possibly rejected. You won't want to visit there any more after that.....

 

[newbee2022]

19 hours ago, Aurelien said:

So I fancy my local pharmacist and I'd like to believe she likes me too....you know, just that feeling you have when you know someones likes you. 

The other day i asked what her name was, but that's about the only thing i know about her. Don't know her age or if she has a boyfriend, etc. I would think she's not over 30.

The thing is, she speaks limited English. I'm kinda scared to come off as creepy if I go to her store too much, and to be rejected if I ask for her social. I was thinking of inviting her to eat with me. But I'm not really sure how to break the 'customer-merchant' dynamic. Should I bluntly ask her out ? Any advice?

Yeah, ask her and then walk out and name yourself a fool. Life will go on.

[Callmeishmael]

Easy peasy!  Just slap a couple of packs of condoms and KY on the counter and then ask if she is free tonight! 😜

[Gecko123]

42 minutes ago, KhunLA said:

FFS, just ask her out.

 

Ask her what her favorite restaurant is, then ask her to go there, show you where it is, on her next day off.  That puts her in a familiar safe environment, so she'll be comfy and relaxed.

 

Her name should be hanging on a diploma / certificate somewhere in the shop.  If you see it, ask her how to pronounce it.   Pay attention to details 

Well I would say a lot would depend on how small the community is. In a big city, the straight forward approachmay be fine, but in a small town if you're awkwardly turned down, options for finding another pharmacy might be limited. There's also the potential that your overture might be subject to gossip ("she's always flirting"), the stigma associated with being hit on by a foreigner, some insanely jealous boyfriend/husband lurking in the background, or you being perceived as a total loser for thinking she would go out with you in the first place. Over the years, I've been approached a number of times by third parties conveying romantic interest from women in town. I think using an intermediary to make the overture is often the Thai way of saving face, not only for the person making the overture in case they're rejected, but it allows the person approached to be more honest about their level of interest. Getting a scouting report ahead of time is highly recommended too. Not only could she be romantically involved, any details about her family life might quickly be reason to lose interest. At 30, there's a very good chance she has had kids already.

[Gecko123]

@KhunLA  Got it. Never pass up the opportunity to try and make another guy feel like a simp, eh?

[OneMoreFarang]

1 hour ago, Expat68 said:

She definitely won't contact, always down to the man, depending where you are but it is fireworks this w/e in Pattaya, just saying. Sometimes even if the lady doesn't have a boyfriend and you ask her if she has, they may say they have, not wanting to be too easy

I know that as a general rule, but it seems sometimes it works when you give her the opportunity.

If she is interested in him, then she will know for sure he is also interested if he gives her his contact details. Even if she doesn't contact him, her behavior in the shop might change. I don't see a downside of trying above.

[KhunLA]

Geez, good thing I didn't take some of the advice offered.  And no, you won't be chastised just for asking, politely, respectfully, and with a little humor.  Smiling goes a long way.  Catch her when she is alone.  She a pharmacist, so her English is probably better than you think, she's jut not use to using or confident enough.  That changes quickly.

 

I ask the current wife out about 3 times  ... no .. no ... no    Still went back to her workplace, as some of the best food in town.   Even took dates there a few times.  

 

She eventually warmed up to me, after watching daughter & myself's interactions, as it was a weekly stop for us.  Taking an interest when realizing I wasn't dating anyone.   So asked again, and finally agreed.

 

Moved in about 6 months later and 18+ years on, all good.

 

Major plus in her favor, she's pretty much the only gat that ever said NO, that I was interested in