Does “Not in the Mood” Even Exist in Asia?

[123Stodg]

A common frustration among Western men who’ve dated, lived with, or married Western women is the decline in sexual activity over time. The phrase “I’m not in the mood” (a more polite version of “I’ve got a headache”) comes up more and more as the relationship ages. It could also become a source of anger and frustration, leaving a guy feeling unappreciated, unwanted, and, of course, sexually unsatisfied.

 

But what about in Asia? Many foreign men who date or marry Thai women—and other Southeast Asian women—may not feel this is nearly as much of an issue. In fact, a lot of Western men might be drawn to relationships in Asia precisely because they feel they don’t have to deal with this problem. So, is there something about Thai or Asian culture that fosters a different attitude toward sex in long-term relationships?

 

Cultural differences could also play a role. In parts of Asia some women may feel a stronger sense of duty to their partners, including sexually. Sex might not be viewed solely as an act of passion but also as an essential part of maintaining harmony in the relationship and keeping a man’s interest. Additionally, there may be less open discussion about personal feelings, fatigue, or disinterest, meaning “not in the mood” simply isn’t expressed as often. On top of that, Asian women might believe that denying their partner sex risks him seeking a replacement elsewhere.

 

But is it fair to assume Asian women are naturally more accommodating? Or is it more a case of the honeymoon phase lasting longer because these relationships often come with an added layer of cultural newness that keeps the spark alive for longer?

 

This isn’t to say Asian women are perfect or that every relationship in Thailand is free of sexual tension or disagreements. However, many foreign men in Asia may have fewer struggles with rejection or disinterest compared to their previous experiences in the West.

 

So, is “not in the mood” truly less common in Asia or not?

[ChumpChange]

I’m always in the mood. Yes it exists!

[MangoKorat]

1 hour ago, 123Stodg said:

 

So, is “not in the mood” truly less common in Asia or not?

I'd say that it depends on how long the money lasts.

[RichardColeman]

Thai women are probably more accommodating as they know when they say no their farang fella can walk 100 yards down the road and pork someone prettier and younger and maybe get a contender for their boo !

 

That said, my mrs generally says no after eating som tam and to be honest for me the risk is too great when that happens

[CanadaSam]

Thai women are simple, you provide the funds for them to be comfortable, and they are never "not in the mood", I suspect also because they realize if they say no, a girl down the road will say yes.

[mokwit]

7 hours ago, 123Stodg said:

A common frustration among Western men who’ve dated, lived with, or married Western women is the decline in sexual activity over time. The phrase “I’m not in the mood” (a more polite version of “I’ve got a headache”) comes up more and more as the relationship ages. It could also become a source of anger and frustration, leaving a guy feeling unappreciated, unwanted, and, of course, sexually unsatisfied.

 

But what about in Asia? Many foreign men who date or marry Thai women—and other Southeast Asian women—may not feel this is nearly as much of an issue. In fact, a lot of Western men might be drawn to relationships in Asia precisely because they feel they don’t have to deal with this problem. So, is there something about Thai or Asian culture that fosters a different attitude toward sex in long-term relationships?

 

Cultural differences could also play a role. In parts of Asia some women may feel a stronger sense of duty to their partners, including sexually. Sex might not be viewed solely as an act of passion but also as an essential part of maintaining harmony in the relationship and keeping a man’s interest. Additionally, there may be less open discussion about personal feelings, fatigue, or disinterest, meaning “not in the mood” simply isn’t expressed as often. On top of that, Asian women might believe that denying their partner sex risks him seeking a replacement elsewhere.

 

But is it fair to assume Asian women are naturally more accommodating? Or is it more a case of the honeymoon phase lasting longer because these relationships often come with an added layer of cultural newness that keeps the spark alive for longer?

 

This isn’t to say Asian women are perfect or that every relationship in Thailand is free of sexual tension or disagreements. However, many foreign men in Asia may have fewer struggles with rejection or disinterest compared to their previous experiences in the West.

 

So, is “not in the mood” truly less common in Asia or not?

It continues until the house is finished, but in some recalcitrant cases it can persist until a house has been built for the parents, even the sister sometimes.

[impulse]

It's kind of like telling your boss at work "I'm not in the mood".  We all wish we could sometimes, but most of us were on the SCIP.  That's the Salary Continuation Incentive Program.  Keep doing what the boss says, and they'll keep paying you.

 

Thai women are keenly aware of where the money comes from, and the competition for that money.

 

Western women generally make out like bandits in the divorce.  That gives them permission to be "not in the mood".  Even the dating ones have backups to the backup for their affections and their goodies.

 

[BritManToo]

6 minutes ago, impulse said:

It's kind of like telling your boss at work "I'm not in the mood".  We all wish we could sometimes, but most of us were on the SCIP.  That's the Salary Continuation Incentive Program.  Keep doing what the boss says, and they'll keep paying you.

 

Thai women are keenly aware of where the money comes from, and the competition for that money.

 

Western women generally make out like bandits in the divorce.  That gives them permission to be "not in the mood".  Even the dating ones have backups to the backup for their affections and their goodies.

 

And welfare .........

[Sydebolle]

Are you serious - I am surrounded by "not in the mood" people once it comes to work. 

Spending money (they mostly don't have but borrowed or credit-carded) though is a completely different ball game 😉

[BritManToo]

27 minutes ago, mokwit said:

It continues until the house is finished, but in some recalcitrant cases it can persist until a house has been built for the parents, even the sister sometimes.

Mines waiting for the mortgage to be paid off, only another 12 years, and I'll be over 80 by then.

[EvetsKram]

45 minutes ago, CanadaSam said:

Thai women are simple, you provide the funds for them to be comfortable, and they are never "not in the mood", I suspect also because they realize if they say no, a girl down the road will say yes.

It's also grounds for a divorce in Thailand. Most women wouldn't want to give up their gravy train

[hotchilli]

1 hour ago, CanadaSam said:

Thai women are simple, you provide the funds for them to be comfortable, and they are never "not in the mood", I suspect also because they realize if they say no, a girl down the road will say yes.

Nailed it

[Thingamabob]

In Asian culture generally women are brought up not to refuse a man who is good to them.

[OneMoreFarang]

I am not in the mood to read long text for no good reason.

[jaideedave]

18 minutes ago, Thingamabob said:

In Asian culture generally women are brought up not to refuse a man who is good to them.

TH... I tend to agree with you. Also the fact that their Somchai bf wouldn't hesitate to smack them upside the head upon refusal.

Sometimes I'll watch the local news on TV with wifey and domestic beatings and worse are a regular scenario.

[Nick Carter icp]

9 hours ago, 123Stodg said:

But what about in Asia? Many foreign men who date or marry Thai women—and other Southeast Asian women—may not feel this is nearly as much of an issue.

 

   Its their one and only job .

Its the only thing that they have to do .

She would get fired if she didn't want to do her job, a job that just takes 15-30 minutes every few days 

[ChumpChange]

40 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

I am not in the mood to read long text for no good reason.

I am not in the mood to read another AN moaner posting more moaning. 

[OneMoreFarang]

4 minutes ago, Nick Carter icp said:

 

   Its their one and only job .

Its the only thing that they have to do .

She would get fired if she didn't want to do her job, a job that just takes 15-30 minutes every few days 

And luckily most women here understand this intuitively. 

[Nick Carter icp]

5 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

And luckily most women here understand this intuitively. 

 

   Even guard dogs understand that if you don't perform their duties, then they wont get fed

[OneMoreFarang]

45 minutes ago, Nick Carter icp said:

 

   Even guard dogs understand that if you don't perform their duties, then they wont get fed

Which proves that dogs are smarter than many western feminists. 😉 

[Celsius]

AI is always in the mood

[Nick Carter icp]

Just now, OneMoreFarang said:

Which proves that dogs are smarter than many western feminists. 😉 

 

  Western women are self sufficient and they have other roles and inputs in the relationship, rather than just having sex 

[ChumpChange]

2 minutes ago, Nick Carter icp said:

 

  Western women are self sufficient and they have other roles and inputs in the relationship, rather than just having sex 

Pass. 

[Don Kaeo]

It’s a funny old thing, first four years, she’d initiate proceedings… next four years the ship steadied, last two it’s become like that deserted island in the South Pacific, Noarse Atoll… 

Of course, no extracurricular activities allowed.. But resourceful is my nature.. 

[BritManToo]

1 minute ago, Don Kaeo said:

It’s a funny old thing, first four years, she’d initiate proceedings… next four years the ship steadied, last two it’s become like that deserted island in the South Pacific, Noarse Atoll… 

Of course, no extracurricular activities allowed.. But resourceful is my nature.. 

Give her 500bht after sex and tell her to go to the market and spend it, after 3-4 'events' she'll be following you around suggesting you have sex with her.

[PopGun]

5 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Give her 500bht after sex and tell her to go to the market and spend it, after 3-4 'events' she'll be following you around suggesting you have sex with her.

The old Donkey and Carrot 🥕 trick.👏👏👏

[ChumpChange]

7 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Give her 500bht after sex and tell her to go to the market and spend it, after 3-4 'events' she'll be following you around suggesting you have sex with her.

Reward training. Never fails!

[KhunLA]

That never existed in my world.  Any woman that said that to me, knows she'd be out the door soon.   Probably explains that revolving door 

 

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[scottiejohn]

1 hour ago, Celsius said:

AI is always in the mood

Who is Al and what is he in the mood for?

[Yagoda]

More AI topics?

 

I alwsy thought those words meant "goodbye"