Dealing with existential boredom !

[3NUMBAS]

As you approach the age of 80, it's understandable to feel overwhelmed by what some may describe as existential boredom. You’ve accomplished so much in your life, yet now you find yourself unsure of what to pursue next. It’s frustrating when people suggest picking up hobbies or joining activities, as if these superficial distractions can truly address the deeper sense of unease you’re experiencing.

 

This phase of life isn’t about what you should do next; it's about who you are becoming. It’s essential to recognize that you still possess the power to shape your own journey. What comes next may not involve external achievements but rather an inward exploration of your identity and purpose. While this journey may feel isolating, it presents a profound opportunity for self-discovery.

 

After reaching numerous goals, you may feel at a loss, confronting what existential philosophers refer to as “the existential vacuum.” This experience is not uncommon among those who have led fulfilling lives; with old meanings fading, the question arises: What remains? At this stage, you might be experiencing not just boredom but a profound existential inquiry, as described by existential psychologist Rollo May, confronting the concepts of “being and non-being.” The awareness of your own mortality can evoke feelings of emptiness, yet it also presents an opportunity for deeper reflection.

 

Your feelings of boredom are a call to seek new ways to engage with life—meanings that extend beyond your past achievements. This is an invitation to see the freedom you now have as an opportunity rather than a burden. Meaning is not a destination to arrive at once and for all; it’s a continual process of creation.

 

Now, standing at this crossroads, you have the freedom to redefine your life in ways independent of previous goals. Engaging with life authentically means exploring new avenues for connection and contribution. While you may no longer be pursuing a career, the creative process of living doesn’t cease; it simply evolves. What fresh relationships or types of engagement might inspire you? Consider ways to connect quietly, perhaps by volunteering or fostering meaningful conversations.

 

It’s not about staying busy; it’s about rediscovering what truly matters to you. Facing the discomfort of freedom involves exploring parts of yourself that may still be uncharted. Are there conversations waiting to be had or connections yet to be formed? This moment may be prompting you to confront your authenticity and ask: What resonates with you now? With the wisdom of experience, what calls to you at this deeper level?

 

Additionally, the shadow of “non-being” looms in the background. May reminds us that acknowledging this reality can lend urgency and meaning to our present experiences. Life's finitude is what enriches it, transforming our awareness of mortality into a source of profound appreciation for each moment.

 

You are not alone in this exploration of purpose. Many face this sense of uncertainty and ask, "What now?" What you are experiencing is not a lack of imagination but rather a universal aspect of the human condition—a moment ripe for redefining your meaning, even at this stage of life. Embrace this opportunity for reflection and growth, and discover the new paths that await you.

 

 

Based on this article:

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2024/dec/15/im-nearly-80-and-theres-a-void-in-my-life-that-hobbies-cant-fill
 

I’ve noticed mates slipping into this state ,they need help as they have  few interest s nowadays ,I’ve tried to tell them but they get shirty !

[Will B Good]

16 minutes ago, 3NUMBAS said:

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2024/dec/15/im-nearly-80-and-theres-a-void-in-my-life-that-hobbies-cant-fill
 

I’ve noticed mates slipping into this state ,they need help as they have  few interest s nowadays ,I’ve tried to tell them but get get shirty 

 

Now that is freaky.....just read that on the Guardian app......I live in Isaan so it caught my eye......didn't help any.

[Gaccha]

The article is talking about acting authentically in the face of existential boredom. 

 

Heidegger's remarkable "The Fundamental Concepts of Metaphysics: World, Finitude, Solitude" are the best lectures on the topic of boredom. Heidegger is famous for seeking to identify how to act authentically.

 

The lectures strangely manage to make you bored but also excited as you read them. Recommended.

 

But honestly I suspect most AseanForum members would be better off just buying a Leo, and not thinking too much.

[Lacessit]

The only time I have ever experienced boredom was when I spent six months being a component of a McKinsey cost cutting exercise, which IMO was totally fraudulent.

 

As long as I have my books, music, videos, golf and wheels, I don't think I will ever be bored here.

 

When my mortality happens, it happens. I'm not going to dwell on it.

[persimmon]

That`s what worries me about a permanent move to Thailand - it would mean leaving all my pastimes and hobbies behind and trying to find new ones . Just sitting on a bar stool and drinking beer all day - well maybe it`s ok for some , but I think I would get bored of that fairly quickly .

[Denim]

I wish I had the spare time to get bored. What a luxury , nothing to do.

[nausea]

Existential boredom is a luxury ailment, most guys are kept busy just trying to survive, and believe me, it doesn't get any easier as you get older.

[ChrisP24]

The Italians have a phrase "Il Dolce Far Niente".  Not intended as a way to live all of the time, but to balance your time to include just enjoying the moment without having an immediate goal.

 

The Italian phrase il dolce far niente translates to "the sweetness of doing nothing". It's a central part of Italian culture and can refer to a range of activities, such as: 

 

• Enjoying a coffee with a friend 
   
• Watching the waves at the beach 
   
• Sitting on a park bench and people-watching 
   
• Reading a book on the couch 
   

The philosophy behind il dolce far niente is that:

• Spontaneity and adventure can bring joy, pleasure, and meaning
• Filling your time with structured activities can cause you to miss out on something wonderful
• You should balance structured activities with time for il dolce far niente 
   

 

Some benefits of il dolce far niente include:

• Appreciating the details of your day 
   
• Stepping back from the world's chaos and hustle 
   
• Enhancing creativity and well-being 
   

 

Il dolce far niente doesn't mean completely unplugging or taking a sabbatical. Instead, it's about making small changes in your life that can lead to bigger changes in the long run.