How did you do it ?

[BritManToo]

1 minute ago, Lacessit said:

IIRC you said your Thai wife had gone from gorgeous to a german hausfrau.

 

Are you mellowing with age?

I think she'd need to double in weight to reach German Hausfrau status.

 

But I'd still love her!

[Lacessit]

Just now, BritManToo said:

I think she'd need to double in weight to reach German Hausfrau status.

 

But I'd still love her!

Wow, you have changed.

[rct99q]

I wouldn't really worry about it. Take whatever comes along and go for a joy ride, world has less than 15 years left, as once the likes of Putin, trump, and the little weirdo in north Korea start to age out and die, they are going to take the rest of the world with them. So stuff it and start shagging everything.

[Gottfrid]

4 hours ago, Delta Shift said:

The only places one can still find older farangs with good-looking young Thai women are in lesser known towns.

For example, I was surprised at the number of old guys (more than 50 for sure) with young and rather good-looking Thai girls in Cha-am.

So, you must mean that Cha-Am, is a lesser known town??? Not in Thailand much, are we? 😂😂

[J Branche]

Recap,

 

Thai Women All don't want a foreign boyfriend ( maybe because, language barrier, cultural differences, high expectations from foreigner, don't like his style, lack of security foreigner can just up and leave anytime)

 

Thai Women are partial breadwinners for some families and contribute to their mother and father and family home if required.

 

Thai women expect their partner to be confident and ask them on a date.  Ask them for Line to connect.

 

Women are like taste buds and people everyone's a little different but like some of same things.

Maybe they like freedom and seeing someone 1 or 2 times a week to share time.  This may change anytime or last 5 years+

Maybe they expect you to work a little, confirm you will live here years

 

When looking understand some people are not receptive all the times.  May see Potential Thai Partner, at Grocery, Park/Beach exercising, The Mall/Shop, Insurance Office, Hospital/Dentist, Hotels.  It's challenging Sometimes to get their attention, what lines will work on this Women?

 

My experience, Thai people don't ask about you or your family like Western cultures. Not once been asked how my family is doing. Only at Temple does she ask for good health, safety etc for my family.

 

Don't expect a Thai woman to have an understanding knowledge, interest, or adequate opinion on things outside of Thailand.

 

Understand your partnership may require on-going work to be successful. Using language apps, cultural understanding, expectations, what lifestyle you can afford, etc.

 

 

 

 

[Hummin]

5 minutes ago, J Branche said:

Recap,

 

Thai Women All don't want a foreign boyfriend ( maybe because, language barrier, cultural differences, high expectations from foreigner, don't like his style, lack of security foreigner can just up and leave anytime)

 

Thai Women are partial breadwinners for some families and contribute to their mother and father and family home if required.

 

Thai women expect their partner to be confident and ask them on a date.  Ask them for Line to connect.

 

Women are like taste buds and people everyone's a little different but like some of same things.

Maybe they like freedom and seeing someone 1 or 2 times a week to share time.  This may change anytime or last 5 years+

Maybe they expect you to work a little, confirm you will live here years

 

When looking understand some people are not receptive all the times.  May see Potential Thai Partner, at Grocery, Park/Beach exercising, The Mall/Shop, Insurance Office, Hospital/Dentist, Hotels.  It's challenging Sometimes to get their attention, what lines will work on this Women?

 

My experience, Thai people don't ask about you or your family like Western cultures. Not once been asked how my family is doing. Only at Temple does she ask for good health, safety etc for my family.

 

Don't expect a Thai woman to have an understanding knowledge, interest, or adequate opinion on things outside of Thailand.

 

Understand your partnership may require on-going work to be successful. Using language apps, cultural understanding, expectations, what lifestyle you can afford, etc.

 

 

 

 

 

and the stereotype of those who you see walking around with their wife, is not especially something Thai women with options in life want to be associated with, myself also do not want to be associated with. 

[RocketDog]

On 1/14/2025 at 4:54 PM, Lacessit said:

If you don't accept most Thai women want financial support from a foreigner, IMO your chances are statistically improbable.

 

Any high-earning Thai woman is only going to be interested in Thai males, for status reasons. Claims by more deluded or mischievous posters notwithstanding.

 

You may find a soulmate accidentally. I was having my share of fun and games until I met someone who changed my mind. I give her what she wants, she gives me what I want. About 12 years now.

 

I would suggest Pattaya is not the place for long term relationships. I met my GF in Chiang Rai.

 

Filipinas can be just as predatory as some Thais, there's no guarantees.

 

 

Everything you said.

If the op wants a LTR who stays at home it's up to him to provide her a stipend/allowance. 

 

You can't expect something for nothing.

She will clean, cook, take care of the house and your other needs. 

 

If someone spends the minutes of their alloted span helping you then you MUST help them; it's really that simple in my book.

 

Looking for a long term mate in a place that is known globally for its fast women is a losing proposition.

[riclag]

On 1/14/2025 at 4:34 PM, The Cobra said:

I’ve been living in Thailand for awhlle now, based in Pattaya. Great place, love the country, love the people. But there’s one thing I just can’t seem to figure out—finding a proper long-term relationship.

 

Don’t get me wrong, there’s been no shortage of fun. I’ve had my fair share of dates and, you know, other things. But finding someone who’s genuinely interested in me and not what I can do for them? That’s been a struggle.

I’m in my 50's, keep myself in decent shape, and I don’t think I’m too bad-looking. But most of the women I meet here seem to want financial support, and I’m not interested in being an ATM.

 

Then there’s the other side of it—some of the women I’ve dated didn’t speak a word of English. I gave it a go, but honestly, it just got awkward and boring after a while.

I’ve tried chatting up women who work regular jobs—shop girls, market sellers, even a pharmacist once—but it doesn’t seem to go anywhere. Maybe it’s the language barrier, or maybe they’ve already got a farang boyfriend. Or, who knows, maybe Pattaya’s just not the place for a foreigner to find a serious relationship. Feels like the reputation here works against me sometimes.

 

I’ve started thinking maybe I’m in the wrong spot entirely. Like, should I move? Maybe try a quieter city in Thailand may be up north?  or even go somewhere like the Philippines, where English is more common? I’m not giving up yet, but it’s starting to feel like a dead end.

 

So, what do you guys think? How did you meet your partner? Any tips for finding someone genuine? I’m not keen on apps—too many freelancers and scams there. Got any advice for meeting someone the old-fashioned way?

 

Thanks

I met my partner at my hotel 15 years ago in Pats , she was part of the cleaning staff.

Her cousin was the hotel manager.

 

 

Dirt poor from Issan , i was looking for 

a young lady to take care of me .

10k a month and all expenses paid while I was in country with her!

I did that for 7 years , Than we decided to jump the broom. I bought a car and two years later built a house.

Im not exceptionally wealthy but I have enough to share . It works for me.

I spent as much as I could afford to walk away from!

 

So far so good ( fingers crossed the new neighbors don’t bring any more chickens in what was once a jungle behind my house and the other neighbor doesnt re up a chihuahua , once the other dies.

 

 

 

 

[MalcolmB]

On 1/14/2025 at 4:54 PM, Lacessit said:

You may find a soulmate accidentally. I was having my share of fun and games until I met someone who changed my mind. I give her what she wants, she gives me what I want. About 12 years now.

So where did you meet her?
That is what the Op is asking

[Seppius]

80% of the time, if you meet a girl in the West and marry her, you become an ATM anyway

 

I have friends stupid to do it 2 or 3 times

[Sandboxer]

Stop being a needy Golden retriever and just continue as you've been going.  If you want meaningful conversation, just customize yourself an AI gf with big t_ts.

[FritsSikkink]

On 1/14/2025 at 4:34 PM, The Cobra said:

I’ve been living in Thailand for awhlle now, based in Pattaya. Great place, love the country, love the people. But there’s one thing I just can’t seem to figure out—finding a proper long-term relationship.

 

Don’t get me wrong, there’s been no shortage of fun. I’ve had my fair share of dates and, you know, other things. But finding someone who’s genuinely interested in me and not what I can do for them? That’s been a struggle.

I’m in my 50's, keep myself in decent shape, and I don’t think I’m too bad-looking. But most of the women I meet here seem to want financial support, and I’m not interested in being an ATM.

 

Then there’s the other side of it—some of the women I’ve dated didn’t speak a word of English. I gave it a go, but honestly, it just got awkward and boring after a while.

I’ve tried chatting up women who work regular jobs—shop girls, market sellers, even a pharmacist once—but it doesn’t seem to go anywhere. Maybe it’s the language barrier, or maybe they’ve already got a farang boyfriend. Or, who knows, maybe Pattaya’s just not the place for a foreigner to find a serious relationship. Feels like the reputation here works against me sometimes.

 

I’ve started thinking maybe I’m in the wrong spot entirely. Like, should I move? Maybe try a quieter city in Thailand may be up north?  or even go somewhere like the Philippines, where English is more common? I’m not giving up yet, but it’s starting to feel like a dead end.

 

So, what do you guys think? How did you meet your partner? Any tips for finding someone genuine? I’m not keen on apps—too many freelancers and scams there. Got any advice for meeting someone the old-fashioned way?

 

Thanks

Learn to speak Thai, this will greatly enhance the scope of people to interact with. Don't look in areas where prostitution is full on.

[BritManToo]

1 hour ago, FritsSikkink said:

Learn to speak Thai, this will greatly enhance the scope of people to interact with. Don't look in areas where prostitution is full on.

This works if your relatively stupid and happy to only talk about food and farming.

Some of us require conversation with educated and worldly people.

[FritsSikkink]

5 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

This works if your relatively stupid and happy to only talk about food and farming.

Some of us require conversation with educated and worldly people.

No, it works very good when you mingle with intelligent Thai people. You apparently don't.

Very interested to see an intelligent post from you, might have missed it.

[BritManToo]

11 minutes ago, FritsSikkink said:

No, it works very good when you mingle with intelligent Thai people. You apparently don't.

Very interested to see an intelligent post from you, might have missed it.

Works very well ........... At least I know English.

 

I live in a middle class Thai gated village, all doctors, teachers, managers. All appear to be one months wage away from bankruptcy, new cars on minimum deposit, maximum repayment time. Borrow to send their kids to international schools. None know anything about the world outside Thailand.

 

My Thai cycling pal retired after 30 years teaching English in Thai highschool, but we have to talk in Thai as he can't speak one word of English.

[CharlieH]

Off topic remarks removed

 

[asdf1234]

13 minutes ago, FritsSikkink said:

No, it works very good when you mingle with intelligent Thai people. You apparently don't.

Very interested to see an intelligent post from you, might have missed it.

Average thai IQ is like 80 something

[FritsSikkink]

11 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

My Thai cycling pal retired after 30 years teaching English in Thai highschool, but we have to talk in Thai as he can't speak one word of English.

So you do talk Thai.

[Hummin]

19 hours ago, Gottfrid said:

So, you must mean that Cha-Am, is a lesser known town??? Not in Thailand much, are we? 😂😂

After been to Cha Am 3 times, I can't say that place was crowded by beautiful ladies, but I guess beauty is a wide individual definition and taste.

[FritsSikkink]

1 minute ago, asdf1234 said:

Average thai IQ is like 80 something

Like in any country, you have smart and stupid people.

[BritManToo]

1 minute ago, FritsSikkink said:

So you do talk Thai.

I'm currently trying to forget it.

[KhunLA]

1 hour ago, FritsSikkink said:

Learn to speak Thai, this will greatly enhance the scope of people to interact with. Don't look in areas where prostitution is full on.

Are you implying those in or around such areas or profession are idiots ?

 

I wouldn't call anyone independent and or self employed an idiot. 

 

Surely you wouldn't lower yourself to engage in conversation with them, but yet, know their level of education, thoughts or opinions, on all subjects.

 

May a suggest a nose realignment 

 

Especially considering some of the so called more intelligent, diploma'd folks, that are fairly ignorant, borderline idiots, IMHO.

 

I speak, spoke 5 languages, 1 dialect of 2 languages, though most kind of useless here, TH, and back in USA.

 

Thus almost forget 3 of them, almost.

 

See your superiority complex of .... 'I speak 5 languages' got deleted already.

 

On topic ... knowing at least a wee bit of local language is an advantage.  Though most here do speak & understand English, just prefer not to use. 

 

My experience anyway.

[CharlieH]

Meanwhile BACK on topic ! 

 

[1FinickyOne]

On 1/14/2025 at 4:34 PM, The Cobra said:

Great place, love the country, love the people. But there’s one thing I just can’t seem to figure out—finding a proper long-term relationship.

"I was lookin' for love in all the wrong places
Lookin' for love in too many faces
Searchin' their eyes, lookin' for traces
Of what I'm dreamin' of..."

 

why would you look for a wife in the world's biggest brothel? 

 

Are you willing to learn some Thai? And live amidst Thai culture? There are many lovely ladies out there who would love a good husband - keep it relatively age appropriate - 

 

I met my wife through a mutual friend who knew her and her family for many many years... We are together for 25 years - lots of give and take, all worthwhile. 

[BritManToo]

9 minutes ago, 1FinickyOne said:

why would you look for a wife in the world's biggest brothel? 

Are you willing to learn some Thai? And live amidst Thai culture? There are many lovely ladies out there who would love a good husband - keep it relatively age appropriate - 

Probably because I wanted a cute young one, and not a 68 year old hag.

[1FinickyOne]

1 minute ago, BritManToo said:

Probably because I wanted a cute young one, and not a 68 year old hag.

Here, age appropriate is within 20 years... not 50+ with a teenager. 

[BritManToo]

5 minutes ago, 1FinickyOne said:

Here, age appropriate is within 20 years... not 50+ with a teenager. 

Nah, age appropriate is plus or minus 4 years max.

[1FinickyOne]

2 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Nah, age appropriate is plus or minus 4 years max.

Age appropriate here is when both people are adults... Even my USA wife was 7 years younger than I am... but surely a responsible adult. 

[BritManToo]

5 minutes ago, 1FinickyOne said:

Age appropriate here is when both people are adults... Even my USA wife was 7 years younger than I am... but surely a responsible adult. 

Well, my one was 32 when I married her but acted like she was 12, after I sent her to highschool and university she managed to up her behavioral age to about 28 ....... which is where she stuck.

[Nick Carter icp]

5 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Well, my one was 32 when I married her but acted like she was 12, after I sent her to highschool and university she managed to up her behavioral age to about 28 ....... which is where she stuck.

 

   Wasn't she 13/14 years old when you helped her through high school and she was pregnant when she was still in school  ?

   That may be the reason why she acted like she was 12 ?