Farangs need to stop sending money to Thai girls while living abroad

[Thingamabob]

As in all countries the girls/women in Thailand are not all the same. Some will be confused and worried by being sent money from abroad, while others happily receive regular payments from many different men without giving it a second thought.

[unblocktheplanet]

Jeez, we came here for the smorgasbord. In a buffet, you want variety!

[AgMech Cowboy]

On 5/20/2025 at 9:45 AM, save the frogs said:

So farangs need to stop this practice.

This will never happen.  Some girls have 4 or more, 6, 7, 8 even.  It's a nice income and they just have to get sick if the bf's schedule a trip at the same time.

[daveAustin]

On 5/20/2025 at 10:20 AM, save the frogs said:

 

But the money is enslaving her. 

It's a chain around her neck.

It's not that easy to break free. 

 

Gawd. Fresh off the boat? Massage shop in Pattaya, Phuket, Samui, CM, Bkk, Hua Hin, Kanchanaburi, Hat Yai? or myriad other places. There is the slightest possibility she is hanging on for him, but every possibility he is not the only one. How long have you been here exactly?

[impulse]

Is there anywhere that they add up and report the remittances to Thailand?  Including sick buffaloes, the lovelorn and Thai relatives sending money back to the village?

 

I wonder how much that contributes to GDP and the trade balances.

 

 

[khunPer]

On 5/20/2025 at 4:45 AM, save the frogs said:

Basically, the girl is confused and has cognitive dissonance. Because the guy sending money is sort of a boyfriend, but not really since he's not there often.

 

But it's also preventing her from finding a real boyfriend.

 

So farangs need to stop this practice.

 

Either move to Thailand or take the girl back to your country. 

Your point of view – the girl is probably happy for the money.

And yes, I've met farangs that regularly send sending money to a Thai lady even only coming for holiday once a year. I met a Brit that supported a younger thai "massage lady". He honestly told me that he didn't mind whay she was soing when he was not in Thailand, just she was available for him during his yearly one month stay. It seemed to work well and she had plenty of freedom and made sure, she had full time for him, when he was here – pure win-win...

[Suitcase]

On 5/20/2025 at 12:44 AM, save the frogs said:

 

Yeah, that's messed up on multiple levels.

You're not planning to support this child? 

Never mind, I don't want to know.

Thailand is a mess with all these fake relationship arrangements. 

 

Behind your back, they’re all saying, “stupid foreigner”

[Suitcase]

On 5/19/2025 at 9:45 PM, save the frogs said:

I went for a massage.

We started chatting and at first she said she doesn't have a boyfriend, but then admitted a German guy is sending her money.

 

So he visits once a year maybe? Why is he sending money? To secure a gf when he arrives in Thailand?

And then what? Effs off and she's left with money but no actual boyfriend?

 

She said she doesn't want to move to Germany. She doesn't want to learn to speak German.

 

He obviously is not relocating here soon enough.

 

How long is it ethical to keep these girls on a "leash" by sending money?

 

Basically, the girl is confused and has cognitive dissonance. Because the guy sending money is sort of a boyfriend, but not really since he's not there often.

 

But it's also preventing her from finding a real boyfriend.

 

So farangs need to stop this practice.

 

Either move to Thailand or take the girl back to your country. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

On 5/19/2025 at 9:45 PM, save the frogs said:

I went for a massage.

We started chatting and at first she said she doesn't have a boyfriend, but then admitted a German guy is sending her money.

 

So he visits once a year maybe? Why is he sending money? To secure a gf when he arrives in Thailand?

And then what? Effs off and she's left with money but no actual boyfriend?

 

She said she doesn't want to move to Germany. She doesn't want to learn to speak German.

 

He obviously is not relocating here soon enough.

 

How long is it ethical to keep these girls on a "leash" by sending money?

 

Basically, the girl is confused and has cognitive dissonance. Because the guy sending money is sort of a boyfriend, but not really since he's not there often.

 

But it's also preventing her from finding a real boyfriend.

 

So farangs need to stop this practice.

 

Either move to Thailand or take the girl back to your country. 

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“But it's also preventing her from finding a real boyfriend.”

More than likely, she already has a Thai boyfriend, and she’s receiving money from multiple foreigners while laughing her ass off at the stupid foreigners

 

 

 

 

 

[Donga]

So many negative and plain wrong understandings on this subject.

Met my lady online and yes she was a mature massage therapist, admittedly at an up market hotel spa. She got into massage through proper training to provide for her two children, even though her ex helped to a small degree.

After a few months I decided she was the one for me - honest as the day is long, practicing Buddhist and delightful Isaan family & values. She needed money to support her Pa and daughter in uni, not a lot and I was happy to oblige while I was tidying things up back home. I have never been hassled to support other family members (14 siblings) and I credit 98 year old Pa for largely creating the family culture of hard work and honesty.

We married four years ago civilly and three years ago after Covid at the village with around 100 family members. Such a wonderful ceremony and feel blessed I met her after dating many ladies, usually much better educated but my lady was a no brainer, pretty much from our 2nd date.

We now live half the time in Oz and other half in Thailand. Life is good.

[Magictoad]

On 5/20/2025 at 9:45 AM, save the frogs said:

I went for a massage.

We started chatting and at first she said she doesn't have a boyfriend, but then admitted a German guy is sending her money.

 

So he visits once a year maybe? Why is he sending money? To secure a gf when he arrives in Thailand?

And then what? Effs off and she's left with money but no actual boyfriend?

 

She said she doesn't want to move to Germany. She doesn't want to learn to speak German.

 

He obviously is not relocating here soon enough.

 

How long is it ethical to keep these girls on a "leash" by sending money?

 

Basically, the girl is confused and has cognitive dissonance. Because the guy sending money is sort of a boyfriend, but not really since he's not there often.

 

But it's also preventing her from finding a real boyfriend.

 

So farangs need to stop this practice.

 

Either move to Thailand or take the girl back to your country. 

 

 

 

 

 

She has not been prevented from finding another; he is paying for her going out drinking and partying! She is not confused. She just wonders why farang men are so stupid!

[LukKrueng]

9 hours ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

We were living together over 4 months. 

Went everywhere together, did everything together 

Even toilets breaks?

[SAFETY FIRST]

2 minutes ago, LukKrueng said:

Even toilets breaks?

Agree, good point. 😂

 

Some of the stuff I read on AN forums it's quite possible that she had a lover hiding in my bathroom. 

 

So, it looks like the babies father is the bathroom lover. 👌

[Upnotover]

37 minutes ago, Donga said:

(14 siblings) and I credit 98 year old Pa for largely creating the family culture of hard work and honesty.

That's impressive.  Does 98 years old Pa have 5 wives?

[Harrisfan]

On 5/20/2025 at 4:48 PM, save the frogs said:

 

Nope, not hooked.

Been screwed over by several ladies in my life.

So I analyze everything carefully now. 

 

You need to find an honest farm girl

[Donga]

27 minutes ago, Upnotover said:

That's impressive.  Does 98 years old Pa have 5 wives?

Divorced first wife after 2 children, mid 20s
Second wife bore 12 children and passed away when my lady, the youngest was 10, Pa was 57
Third wife had one child, and she is a delight, now 73

In his prime Pa won the Yasothon rocket festival 5x in a row

[spidermike007]

Was she providing you with special services? Why do you care and how do you feel it is your right to dictate moral imperatives to her? Alot of these women are experts at the art of survival, and she is likely alot more savvy than you think. 

 

I think you are the confused one. 

[Jerzy Swirski]

6 hours ago, blazes said:

Amazingly, Gladstone was never "outed" in this rather odd preoccupation.

If you have 5 minutes to spare google "Winchester geese"

[Jack Hammer]

If she is having affairs and the German guy finds out when he comes back to Thailand, she will tell him that she just kept the motor running waiting for him

[Dcheech]

Sometimes Pattaya massage friends save the day,  like when ...

Buffalo him sick, send money 

[Magictoad]

I wonder how much the total of such money adds to the Thai economy?

[Issanraider]

On 5/20/2025 at 10:09 AM, save the frogs said:

 

 

 

On 5/20/2025 at 10:09 AM, save the frogs said:

 

No, she does.

Money takes over and they go off the rails, not caring about having a real boyfriend anymore.

You guys are poisoning their souls flashing your wads of cash around. 

 

Do you consider yourself some kind of Messiah sent to save the virtue of Thai girls who are clearly happy to have sponsors sending them money from different countries? 
The practice has been going on for many years here and I’m sure your concern, however noble is unnecessary