Dating 22-Year-Old Thai Bubble Tea Girl - She Just Asked for 30K/Month – Am I Being Played?

[thesetat]

When i met my wife, she was a recent graduate from the University starting a new job making only 15k a month. She was hot then and still now. Her income has tripled now with her career.  She gets money from me monthly now but 90% of it pays our monthly bills. We save money in a joint account that does not have a ATM card and can not be taken by one person only. Through all the years we have been married, she has rarely asked me for help with family money although I have offered occasionally when i see a real need for them. 

I say this to give a small comparison. There is almost a 20 year gap between us. 

Back then, when I met her and we dated. She never asked me for money, in fact, she would buy me dinners that she brought home and sometime when we went out. Not because i did not have money ok. 

So, I am of the opinion that if she wants you for love and a possible future always to be together. Then she would not be asking you for money now. Perhaps her friends tried to tell her it is normal for a foreigner to pay support to keep a GF. Which leads me to think she is talking to some type of working girls that are not (good girls).

 

Also, you have to consider, if you were a Thai man, she would not be asking you for money and most likely giving you money instead. 

 

If you see this girl as someone you want to continue with to make a future being married, then paying her off like a prostitute is not something you want to do. She will not truly love you and will stay with you simply to get the money you are giving her. Once you go down this path, it will only get worse. 

 

If she is serious about you and feels love and considering a future with you, then she would not be asking for your money now simply because she will be wanting you to have lots of money once you get hitched. 

 

Perhaps, you should quietly tell her these things the next time the topic is brought up. Does she want your money now, leaving you with less to buy a house and make a family? 

Or does she have real feeling and considering a future with you both always together. 

 

Just remember, once you start paying her. Then you are no longer the BF. You are downgraded to the sugar-daddy or customer. 

By the way, your gf knows that once married you , she will have better access to your money to aid family if needed. To ask now, means she is looking at you as an ATM machine. It will only get worse. If she truly supports her family as she claims, how is she doing it now and what has changed since before you both started the relationship? Nothing most likely so she is just using that as an excuse now. You are posting that your GF wants you to begin paying her for her love. You can surely figure it out this way. Perhaps it is time to take a step back to assess this with your big head instead of your little one.

[Mike_Hunt]

I'll wager she is taking home over 100,000 baht/month. 

[thesetat]

34 minutes ago, Dan O said:

I will add that its not uncommon for many Thai's to happily  trade future financial security in place of love. its your money in the end so do what you want.

Yes but, they do this after marriage, not before. 

[Smokin Joe]

"...makes me feel 20 years younger."

 

Her Thai boyfriend feels 20 years younger also. Because he is.

[Dan O]

36 minutes ago, thesetat said:

Yes but, they do this after marriage, not before. 

The majority start it before and play the long game. 

[Ralf001]

Less than 1,000 a day, I say go for it but insist she moves in with you and have her earn that 1000 in the bedroom.

[scubascuba3]

If you pay them they are an employee, paying them to be with you, so you will never know if she actually likes you and if she doesn't that's where the real Thai boyfriend comes in

[DonniePeverley]

Things you have to remember :

 

1) If you pay her no money, would she move on? These girls aren't university educated, low income, so having someone who can take care of them is important to them as much as physical attraction is to you. 

 

2) I think deep down you know if you do not provide for her, she will move on. 

 

3) You have to be cautious that this 'investment' won't mean she will stay faithful. She may well have others on the go, and any could pop up just like you. And trust me when you are dishing that kind of money, you will demand loyalty and it will mess you up a fair bit with the trust. 

 

4) I would take no notice of the 'she is being nice, she never asked much before, etc' - even the biggest scamming girls will play the long game like this. 

 

I say keep going, but keep your guard. Have your fun, but knowing full well this may not last forever, especially if it is not built on love, and as much as you suspect if you do not pay the 30k she will end it. 

[GammaGlobulin]

She is a steal.

 

If you are addicted to Bubble Tea, then, in Taipei, this can cost you about NTD50,000 per month, or much more.

 

 

So, cheap at twice the cost, if you are only paying Bt.30,000.00, per month, in Thailand.

 

This is why Taiwan guys come to Thailand.

They want to drink the cheaper bubble tea.

 

 

[HappyExpat57]

Post a pic of her then we can tell you if 30k is reasonable. Preferably naked.

[bubblegum]

BS troll post

[Kinok Farang]

5 hours ago, NorthernRyland said:

Why stop at 30k? She's selling a very popular BUBBLE TEA drink. I'd say this one is worth more in the 40-50k range.

Sarky.

[JoseThailand]

6 hours ago, 123Stodg said:

makes me feel 20 years younger

 

Are you over 50?

 

 

[Mason45]

The figure quoted was that to buy or rent.

[JoseThailand]

Also, your posting history reveals a few interesting details.

 

 

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Since I was pretty snookered, I let what I thought was a girl do most of the heavy lifting. It wasn't until the geezer was on top that I could see something spinning around like a helicopter down in the area where that our bits were intertwined. Since I was in no state to get into any violent altercations, I just let it run. He tried to stuff me too at some point, but I wasn't having it. 

 

Jezus mfcking Krist!

[HappyExpat57]

1 minute ago, Mason45 said:

The figure quoted was that to buy or rent.

Obviously to rent, cuz if the money goes away, so does she.

[Asean Tiger]

22? How old are you?

A Thai man same age/economic power difference would be giving, or not ?

[JoseThailand]

7 hours ago, 123Stodg said:

I’m not one of those bar scene guys, never really got much into all that.

 

Somehow I doubt that, after reading about your escapades with ladyboys haha

[BritManToo]

8 hours ago, 123Stodg said:

If both of us are happy and it’s working, is there actually anything wrong with it? As I said, I don’t mind giving her the money. She makes me happy. So I’m thinking, why not. 

We'd need to see a photo before passing judgement on her value!