9 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

Young girls get with much older guys for resources and then sometimes wake up one morning and decide they don't want to do it anymore.

So if you go too young, you might get dumped at some point.

 

That assumes that women prioritise looks in the same way men do. 

 

That is not the case. Looks do matter for women, don't get me wrong, but not to the same degree as for men.

 

The danger of you losing your job and your money is far greater, as she will then bail for sure, if your looks are not all that, it's not great, but it's not the same level of risk.

1 minute ago, Cameroni said:

 

Guys like you James ,and Jake, really make laugh. Honestly, I'm chuckling here. You both have the sheer audacity to claim you don't pay for your women, when we  both know you have and you will continue to do so.

 

For a start, women who have a lot of money from a business of their own are by definition old and used up, with a terrible attitude, so naturally I wouldn't even consider them.

 

However, EVEN women with money from a business will seek out a man with more resources than she has, it is a well known principle called hypergamy, women always want to improve their life. They will simply NOT entertain being with a guy long term who does not improve their life financially.

 

The only, extremely rare, exceptions are women like Taylor Swift, who are bilionaires, so rich, that they could never hope to improve their life  financially with any man. And EVEN SHE picked a guy with a networth of 70 million USD.

 

Sure, there are some women so old and ugly, they will also adopt the strategy of paying for a guy. But those are outliers, very rare exceptions. It almost never happens. Just as the rich young sexy businesswoman with millions with a fetish for guys that are well off. You're veering into fantasy territory, which is not surprising, because like Jake you live in delusion.  And I get it, it's nice there in fantasyland. I love to read Comics. But it's not reality!

 

 

 

I will just laugh, what stupidity, I did not even mention millionaires etc, the usual mad rant.

 

 

Just now, fredwiggy said:

You have no ideas about me besides what I've said here. Then you twist that around, which shows your true character. You aren't getting this yet. You don't have any idea about narcissism because you're suffering from it, and denial is your mainstay. Don't make opinions without any evidence or knowledge on the subject, as it makes you look foolish with every reply. It again, is not abuse defending my position. It is abuse when you assume how I live my life, and ignorance when you forget what I've said. And narcissism when you twist things around to suit your agenda. Studying narcissism for 30 years isn't done by narcissists you twit. It's so we can spot your kind easier.

 

What you've written on this forum and how you have written it, says enough. You want people to have a particular view of you. You want to control the narrative. But when you cannot do that, you lose it. That's who you are. Stop pretending that is not you.

Just like I would not say these things to you in person, unless we were friends or I was your shrink. Doesn't mean that I don't believe them to be true.

For me, you display narcissistic behaviour. I can pinpoint it to what you write and how you write it.

You cannot do that with me. Instead you have a stock set of replies that you give to everyone. Assuming. Skimming. Narcissist. Dense... Those words have been written by yourself literally hundreds of times to anyone who dares to challenge your presentation.

40 minutes ago, JakeC said:

 

Wow...that was quick. You were touting the restauranteur as the new prospect. I guess there's an update on that somewhere.

She asked for a loan.

11 hours ago, JamesPhuket10 said:

 

Your 10% guesstimate is far too low.

 

And of course it is much easier not to find such a woman for many guys as it is easer to go for the low hanging fruit, all that is needed is money.

 

Such a woman would want to meet an equal not some average bloke with a thick wallet, well thick compared to the poor Thais they end up with. 

 

 

 

I don't know what the percentages are. I don't think I am far off.

AI is predicting the tourism industry will account for 30% of GDP by 2030. 

So a good chunk of jobs are waitressing jobs, and of course bar girls.

 

But there is another issue. Once you start contacting girls on dating sites, you will find that many of them are in debt, have kids to support, have poor parents to support, have low-paying jobs, have been out of work altogether for the last 6 months. And so it's easy to keep swiping and bumping them off. But after a while, you start to feel like a "reverse gold digger", only looking for women who have their finances together. I don't really like doing that. 

 

 

On 10/22/2025 at 11:38 AM, Furioso said:

3 years ago I was living in Vegas I started counting the % of morbidly obese people I saw at the grocery stores. It was easily 50%-75% and quite often 90% for adults as I wouldn't count young children or elderly people. 

 

Now I see the exact same thing happening here. Now looking to move to another country. 

Just buy some rose colored glasses... they have a pretty good reputation.

1 minute ago, JamesPhuket10 said:

 

I will just laugh, what stupidity, I did not even mention millionaires etc, the usual mad rant.

 

 

 

Indeed, the man obviously lives on his computer, trading and watching YouTube videos. Doubt he even goes outside. He hasn't a clue about real life in the wild.

2 minutes ago, atpeace said:

Why I have these preferences is complicated and not sure I know why myself.

 

I believe you, there are all kinds of fetishes. Jingthing likes Bacha Bazi, there's all kinds of preferences, and I will not judge anyone's preference.

 

I'm just seeing these old English guys in Big C with their 50 year old Thai ruins, and I have to say I find it hard to believe that guy has a great life.

 

Maybe that's just me.

Just now, fredwiggy said:

that you took advantage of many while they were unconscious (your words)

No I didn’t say that.

Find where I ever said “took advantage” 

 

You probably have never had this experience but women actually want to have sex and enjoy it. They are wired for it and when aroused their vaginas swell up and get moist.

It is a totally natural thing and that is why they are sex objects. That is why nature designed them like that.

 

I know you like reading. Can I suggest you read the Joy of Sex. 

My dad gave it to me to read when I was 12. 

1 minute ago, Prubangboy said:

She asked for a loan.

 

😮 Shame.

Someone posted a link to a video just the other day about financial struggles of the Thai middle class.

 

 

3 minutes ago, JakeC said:

For me, you display narcissistic behaviour.

Thanks for that Captain Obvious 

39 minutes ago, georgegeorgia said:

Obviously you have money .....it helps 

But.....your lonely , you don't need a personal trainer ,start thinking for yourself and stop being needy 

That's why your not meeting anyone 

Start cleaning your own apartment,cooking by yourself and going to the gym by yourself 

Stop relying on others !

Do things yourself 

 

 

 

my trainer asks me to take pictures of everything I eat, at the beginning of the meal and at the end of the meal. And then he sends me an analysis of what I ate and how I might do better. He also goes over the exercise I do when I am not with him. 

 

I’m moving to a place that has maid service every day. And a real buffet. With an omelette station.

 

Life is great.

 

5 minutes ago, JakeC said:

You cannot do that with me. Instead you have a stock set of replies that you give to everyone. Assuming. Skimming. Narcissist. Dense... Those words have been written by yourself literally hundreds of times to anyone who dares to challenge your presentation.

Honestly I think he is just a bit dim.

 

37 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

You don't have the education to do anything besides assume. You're a teenager in a man's body that's still deflecting away from the real you/ Grow up and realize you're not in my league, and find another way to vent your anger.

 

I think we had this conversation about level of education before, haven't we? You haven't even attended university. So please stop this nonsense of making things up because someone has challenged the superficial image that you try to present.

13 minutes ago, JamesPhuket10 said:

 

You have misrepresented me again.

 

I do not pay and the reasons I have explained, you will never understand my situation as you have blinded yourself by having to pay for women and that will not change.

 

I am not making that up as you have explained this many times.

 

So good luck, but do not misrepresent me to others.

 

Trust me, I can understand quantum physics and the theory of relativity, I would have very little trouble to understand your "situation".

 

Of coure you are the one blinding yourself, by preferring to live in delusion. I think you actually believe you're not paying for your woman, though, surely deep down you must know you're lying to yourself.

 

The reply you quoted was to Jake, not you, btw, I think you're doing a bang up job of misrepresenting yourself without my help.

11 hours ago, JakeC said:

It's about the person. If they like you, they won't feel good about taking your money.

 

No, no, no, that's absolute nonsense.

Everyone like getting Xmas presents, right?

Everyone, especially women, like to receive things, gifts, clothes, money, vacations.

Not sure what planet you live on. 

 

21 minutes ago, MalcolmB said:

Honestly I think he is just a bit dim.

 

 

Worse than that...trying so hard to pretend that he is not.

8 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

I divorced the three of them, 

It is because you don’t understand what a woman wants.

They want a real man.

A woman will never leave a real man.

2 minutes ago, JakeC said:

 

What you've written on this forum and how you have written it, says enough. You want people to have a particular view of you. You want to control the narrative. But when you cannot do that, you lose it. That's who you are. Stop pretending that is not you.

Just like I would not say these things to you in person, unless we were friends or I was your shrink. Doesn't mean that I don't believe them to be true.

For me, you display narcissistic behaviour. I can pinpoint it to what you write and how you write it.

You cannot do that with me. Instead you have a stock set of replies that you give to everyone. Assuming. Skimming. Narcissist. Dense... Those words have been written by yourself literally hundreds of times to anyone who dares to challenge your presentation.

Your failing to understand I'm talking to you, as you constantly assume things about my life. This isn't directed towards anyone besides you and Malcolm, who are one and the same as far as ignorance and being just a tad unstable.

 

A lot here have heard my story, and funny thing, it's only you, Malcy and a couple of others who twist what I've said around. Why would I lie about how I life my life? What would I gain? I relate to others here who have gone through the same things, choosing the wrong woman to have children with.

 

It's people like you, likely without any children (for their sake) or maybe never having married, that think they are somehow experts on the subjects and also think they know how others live.

 

To you I display narcissist behavior. This is because you are suffering from NPD, and your main deal is trying to deflect your behavior onto others, trying to make some think you're the good guy here. They aren't stupid. People here are adults and most know full well what a narcissist does, even if they haven't studied it. Your replies are further enhancing their image of you, but this you'll never see.

1 minute ago, JakeC said:

I think we had this conversation about level of education before, haven't we? You haven't even attended university.

He spent all his time in a gym, posing in front of the mirror.

Narcisstic

Omg you guys have a lot of time on your hands to constantly post on here 

 

I guess your providing jobs for the staff that run the forum

 

,and the advertising in this thread , which I noticed in this thread for Psychiatrists believe it or not !!!

Are you guys in this thread clicking on the adverts for the psychiatrist 

Fred ?

 

 

 

Thankyou for your service 

 

 

29 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

Even if you did read, and possibly understand, what I write, you'll never change your thinking, as it's there from your childhood. 

 

Now apply that rule to yourself...

6 minutes ago, MalcolmB said:

No I didn’t say that.

Find where I ever said “took advantage” 

 

You probably have never had this experience but women actually want to have sex and enjoy it. They are wired for it and when aroused their vaginas swell up and get moist.

It is a totally natural thing and that is why they are sex objects. That is why nature designed them like that.

 

I know you like reading. Can I suggest you read the Joy of Sex. 

My dad gave it to me to read when I was 12. 

You said weekly you went after girls at bars that were drunk and sometimes unconscious. I've been with about 100 women, so I think I've had enough experience, and funny, I didn't have to purchase them like you do. That you think women are sex objects shows everyone how you think. Sadly, there are others like you that also were never taught respect for women by their simp dads.

1 minute ago, fredwiggy said:

I've been with about 100 women

Rank amateur 

3 minutes ago, MalcolmB said:

It is because you don’t understand what a woman wants.

They want a real man.

A woman will never leave a real man.

I left them. I asked you to add that to your files, as your constant inebriation isn't enough to keep up here. Try also replying without an assumption. You never met me. And you are as far from a real man as anyone can be.

11 hours ago, Cameroni said:

 

That assumes that women prioritise looks in the same way men do. 

 

That is not the case. Looks do matter for women, don't get me wrong, but not to the same degree as for men.

 

The danger of you losing your job and your money is far greater, as she will then bail for sure, if your looks are not all that, it's not great, but it's not the same level of risk.

 

Yes, good point. 

But it's not just about looks.

It's about vitality and old age. Old age is not appealing. And if one partner has a lot more vitality and youth, it might become an issue.

 

So my hairdresser asked me once if I had a girlfriend. At that time, I didn't and said no. She said "all you need is money here". 

 

But yet when you join AN, it's a different story. 

 

 

 

 

4 minutes ago, Cameroni said:

 

Trust me, I can understand quantum physics and the theory of relativity, I would have very little trouble to understand your "situation".

 

Of coure you are the one blinding yourself, by preferring to live in delusion. I think you actually believe you're not paying for your woman, though, surely deep down you must know you're lying to yourself.

 

The reply you quoted was to Jake, not you, btw, I think you're doing a bang up job of misrepresenting yourself without my help.

 

Whaaaaaa 🤣

 

Get your wallet out and carry on as usual mate. 😄

Just now, MalcolmB said:

Rank amateur 

None bought. It's easy to purchase women Malcy, and that's usually done by little boys who don't know how to pleasure a woman and are only there to get off.

12 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

 

Yes but the opposite is also true.

Young girls get with much older guys for resources and then sometimes wake up one morning and decide they don't want to do it anymore.

So if you go too young, you might get dumped at some point.

But go ahead and take your chances. 

 

The odds are against older men and many have let themselves go that even lowers the odds. 

 

A couple smart guys on this forum with beautiful younger long  term partners ( they actually posted pics in moments of insanity ).  They have setup an environment that keeps her around. Many ways this can be done if you put your mind to it.  They live a comfortable life while constantly being reminded how good they have it every time they see their beauty hammering away on her phone or watching endless vids.  Sex life is adequate at best but they have the trophy 🙂 

1 minute ago, fredwiggy said:

I left them. I asked you to add that to your files, as your constant inebriation isn't enough to keep up here. Try also replying without an assumption. You never met me. And you are as far from a real man as anyone can be.

You did send me a topless photo of your flab with your pink shorts on so I feel like I have met you.