A recent poll on this forum revealed roughly half the members found love in Thailand at beer bars, gogos, massage shops, soapies or online.

 

There is a 

correlation between a higher number of past sexual partners and a higher likelihood of future infidelity in a committed relationship. 

 

 

• Past behavior as a predictor: A widely held view in psychology is that the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. Individuals who have had many sexual partners in the past might be more prone to seeking variety or have a pattern of short-term relationships, which some believe makes settling down difficult.
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• Statistical studies: Some research from the Institute for Family Studies and other sources indicates that people with more lifetime sexual partners report higher rates of extramarital affairs. One study found that women who cheated had a significantly higher average number of prior partners than those who remained faithful.
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• Underlying values: Some argue that a high "body count" may signal different values or views about commitment and sex, suggesting a potential lack of discipline or a focus on short-term gratification that could conflict with the stability required for a long-term, faithful marriage. 

 

Is it best to keep them on a tight leash or just let them go and enjoy themselves as long as they are keeping it discreet?

Hi Malcolm, Thank God you finally made a new thread. I´ve missed your threads. Welcome back, as I think it was almost, or even over, a week since you touched your favorite subject.

Dunno

What does "faithful" mean in this context.  If she's a working bargirl, going with customers is likely to be part of her job.  But is work considered being "unfaithful"?

27 minutes ago, Gottfrid said:

Hi Malcolm, Thank God you finally made a new thread. I´ve missed your threads. Welcome back, as I think it was almost, or even over, a week since you touched your favorite subject.

Hi Gotti,

these threads about the women we love are extremely popular and also very important for many of our members.

 

Some of us are quite isolated if having moved to “up country”, not being able to understand the language and cultural norms and having nobody to talk to regarding promiscuity, Thai boyfriends, loan sharks, gambling, drugs and alcoholics.

 

Others are in places like Pattaya which is like a jungle.

 

This forum was originally set up to help each other to jump the hurdles of life in Thailand and the biggest hurdle is often dealing with the women that we love.

 

 

 

1 minute ago, brewsterbudgen said:

What does "faithful" mean in this context.  If she's a working bargirl, going with customers is likely to be part of her job.  But is work considered being "unfaithful"?

Very good point.

Basically three broad categories.

1) part timers who agree to sponsor a girl to leave the bar and live upcountry while he is away. Often will pay for houses and pay for children to other males.

2) full timers who want the girl as a real girlfriend to be with him all the time and live together. Usually will pay for houses and pay for children to other males.

 

3) the poorer guys who love the girl but can not afford to sponsor them and must play second fiddle to the payers who will pay for houses and children to other males.

57 minutes ago, MalcolmB said:

A recent poll on this forum revealed roughly half the members found love in Thailand at beer bars, gogos, massage shops, soapies or online.

 

Why are you mixing "online" with the others?

 

I personally do not trust girls in the massage scene. To each his own.

 

13 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

 

Why are you mixing "online" with the others?

 

I personally do not trust girls in the massage scene. To each his own.

 

Do you trust mongers?

3 minutes ago, Harrisfan said:

Do you trust mongers?

The women are desperate, so they get what they get.

 

2 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

The women are desperate, so they get what they get.

 

So are the blokes 

I voted no, because no woman can ever be trusted as faithful.

They are biologically designed for genetic diversity.

I think that it's a very nuanced discussion, and it depends a lot upon how long she was working, what her experiences were, and what kind of men she was exposed to.

 

If we're talking about a bar girl that's been at it for many years that's a whole different story, it is very possible she'll never be emotionally healthy again, and whether or not she remains faithful is almost irrelevant, the real discussion is the question of whether or not you can have a healthy relationship with her. 

 

An occasional topic of conversation with some of my friends is how many guys can a woman do, and still maintain some semblance of normality and the ability to have an open heart and engage in a healthy relationship. This is the conclusion that we've come to. 

So, how many? Many of us think there is a sort of sliding scale of damage. In my opinion, up to 150 men (beginner), no big deal. Millions of civilians around the world have had well over 100 men. 

 

150-500 men (BAB - been around the block), she is experienced, but will likely be fine, if she has a good heart, and a strong mind. There are an awful lot of civilian women in America and in Europe that have had this many men. 

 

500-1000 men (AVEG - a very experienced gal) is approaching the point where there very well might be some long term psychological damage.

 

1000-2000 men (ASP - a serious pro), and there is likely to be long term bitterness towards men.

 

2000 men (ATW - around the world) and over, and there is little chance of being able to engage emotionally in a healthy manner, ever again. And there could be physical issues too. 3,000 or more? All bets are off. 5,000? Many of these women will do one to 20 men in a single film, so think about 3,000 films. There are likely exceptions. But not many.

 

Average farang in Thailand is old and ugly let's be honest 

6 minutes ago, Harrisfan said:

Do you trust mongers?

If they admit it.

 

It is the westerners here that pretend they do not indulge, or even worse the ones that claim their tattooed little brown midget was previously gainfully employed are the ones I am wary of to be honest.

1 minute ago, Harrisfan said:

So are the blokes 

It is nature.

God gave us and all other mammals a penis and all the females vaginas.

6 minutes ago, transam said:

Never had a problem purchasing Cod.................

Cod disappeared in the 1990s

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Collapse_of_the_Atlantic_northwest_cod_fishery#:~:text=Cod stocks were depleted at,historical%2C sustainable levels by 2030.

2 minutes ago, spidermike007 said:

150-500 men (BAB - been around the block), she is experienced, but will likely be fine, if she has a good heart, and a strong mind. There are an awful lot of civilian women in America and in Europe that have had this many men. 

Jesus.

Talk about setting the bar low.

I think 2-4 would be more acceptable. 

2 minutes ago, transam said:

The expert with noooooooo qualifications, talks...............🤣

Malcom got bar girls on his mind.

 

It is his kink a well lubricated well used woman. He admitted anal sex as his requirements for a girl, so? 

 

Might as well be a LB he is looking for

4 minutes ago, MalcolmB said:

If they admit it.

 

It is the westerners here that pretend they do not indulge, or even worse the ones that claim their tattooed little brown midget was previously gainfully employed are the ones I am wary of to be honest.

Lots of normal women away from farang ghettos.

2 minutes ago, MalcolmB said:

I think he probably has a body count above yours. 
That qualifies him.

Prostitutes doesn't count as true body count 

2 minutes ago, Harrisfan said:

Lots of normal women away from farang ghettos.

Yes but unless they are divorced with children they prefer the virile Thai male.

1 minute ago, Hummin said:

Prostitutes doesn't count as true body count 

Damn.

 

That is debatable.

 

A body is a body.

1 minute ago, MalcolmB said:

Yes but unless they are divorced with children they prefer the virile Thai male.

Not true. Easy to get a childless woman. Set the goal go find it.

4 minutes ago, Hummin said:

Prostitutes doesn't count as true body count 

4 virgins in my body count!

Worst sex ever, hookers are much much better for sex.

Just now, BritManToo said:

5 virgins in my body count!

Any Polish or Spanish?

My top 5

Spanish

Polish

Swiss

Italian

Swedish

 

 

1 minute ago, Harrisfan said:

Any Polish or Spanish?

4 Brits, 1 Filipino .........

Just now, BritManToo said:

4 Brits, 1 Filipino .........

I did a German but no Brits. Best root was Swedish.

1 minute ago, Harrisfan said:

My top 5

Spanish

Polish

 

Italian

 

 

You like hairy women?

Just now, MalcolmB said:

You like hairy women?

Italian was bi and hot.