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GF of 2 years suddenly blocked me

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Hi everyone, I’m looking for some perspective on my current situation.

Background:
I’ve been with my Thai girlfriend (from Patong) for 2 years. I’ve supported her significantly and we’ve been very close—I was with her in Jan, and she even asked when I’m returning (planned for Sept). I’ve been her emotional rock, often staying on video calls while she sleeps. She met my friends and my friends family.

I've met her friends, she used to say I love you even in front of friends, there was no real fight to cause the trigger

Last weds she told me she hurt her foot video called me and we chatted I helped her out, we messaged a bit more everything was normal. On thursday I reached out and said good morning but never got a reply by friday she blocked me for no reason. There was no argument or a trigger to cause the block

The Situation:
She recently told me while I was in phuket 2 weeks ago she needed 60,000 THB for surgery (doctor coming from BKK to Phuket). I gave her 20,000 THB to start.
Shortly after I can see she went to singapore. Last time I went she claimed she’s staying at a "friend's condo" for a holiday, I even gave her money last time and she was so appreciative almost cried etc.

The Red Flags:

  • My assumption is that she arrived in Singapore, she blocked me on everything.

  • She is still posting on social media, her latest shows a love heart emoji in the distance.

  • She is still wearing the jewelry I gave her in her posts.

  • I sent her 5,000 THB last Friday while blocked; she accepted the money.

  • A mutual friend messaged her; she didn't block him, but she didn't reply either.

  • The surgery is supposedly scheduled for Jan 31st (this Saturday).

My Conflict:
I haven’t reached out since last Saturday (5 days of total silence). I’m worried she’s found someone else or has multiple sponsors, but I also wonder if she’s just in "work mode" to raise the remaining 40,000 THB for her surgery and blocked me to avoid the "guilt" or drama of me seeing her in that environment.


I’m struggling with the urge to reach out.
Does this sound like a standard "Singapore working holiday" where she’ll unblock me once she’s back in Patong, or am I being ghosted for good?

Appreciate your advice, I'm a hopeless "nice" guy

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There must be thousands and thousands of girlfriends earning money on the side, still it makes the farang feel happier whilst back in lonely farangland

Just now, scubascuba3 said:

There must be thousands and thousands of girlfriends earning money on the side, still it makes the farang feel happier whilst back in lonely farangland

Are you saying that Mr Lonely Farang is happier to know that the GF he is paying, is also getting it from others?

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So she was going to have surgery by a Bangkok doctor coming to Phuket.

Then she went to Singapore and you think she will have surgery there? Why do you think that?

Where is the Jan 31 surgery scheduled to take place?

What kind of work does she do in Singapore?

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1 minute ago, Dante99 said:

So she was going to have surgery by a Bangkok doctor coming to Phuket.

Then she went to Singapore and you think she will have surgery there? Why do you think that?

Where is the Jan 31 surgery scheduled to take place?

What kind of work does she do in Singapore?


When I was there in Jan, she told me a doctor will fly in to phuket to do sexyline there was a clinic "The Klinique"
The earliest she could get an appointment was 31st Jan

She went to singapore because her friend has a condo there that studies university. But obviously she is probably doing a "Singapore Run" to try and get the money, even though I said I would of helped her out. She just quit her job about 2 weeks ago wanted to get a "normal" job in phuket, like hotel etc

So it wasn't like she wasn't getting what she wanted, but obviously my feeling is she met another guy in singapore and decided to block me to get money
I doubt she will unblock me?

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30 minutes ago, hopelessthailover said:

I gave her 20,000 THB to start.

First mistake.

31 minutes ago, hopelessthailover said:

Shortly after I can see she went to singapore. Last time I went she claimed she’s staying at a "friend's condo" for a holiday,

With another holiday john

33 minutes ago, hopelessthailover said:

I sent her 5,000 THB last Friday while blocked; she accepted the money.

Second mistake.

35 minutes ago, hopelessthailover said:

Appreciate your advice

Decisively drop it and move on.

36 minutes ago, hopelessthailover said:

I'm a hopeless "nice" guy

That’s too bad, terribly sorry to hear about that.

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39 minutes ago, hopelessthailover said:

I’m looking for some perspective on my current situation.

Oh goodie, another Dear Abby posting.

You're in the right place.

The Pub forum and it's knowledgeable members are here to help.

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It never fails to amaze me just hos easily grown mature men can be deceived into being an ATM and not even in Thailand !

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5 minutes ago, novacova said:

First mistake.

With anther holiday john

Second mistake.

Decisively drop it and move on.

That’s too bad, terribly sorry to hear about that.


Yeah I definitely made some mistakes, trying to move on, just felt the block was so harsh considering I was there in jan, and we talk every day not even give me a message hurts

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3 minutes ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

Oh goodies, another Dear Abby posting.

You're in the right place.

The Pub forum and it's knowledgeable members are here to help.

Sorry didn't know where I should be posting

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1 minute ago, hopelessthailover said:

Sorry didn't know where I should be posting

No, you are in the right place.

Good luck

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Is this serious or just a wind up??

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1 minute ago, hopelessthailover said:


Yeah I definitely made some mistakes, trying to move on, just felt the block was so harsh considering I was there in jan, and we talk every day not even give me a message hurts

You’re wallowing, women instinctively see this character flaw before it even develops and fleshes out.

Drop it already and take the bull by the horns.

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4 minutes ago, MarkT63 said:

Is this serious or just a wind up??


It was serious, it was my first real relationship with a girl in thailand
I guess in a way I thought I was really helping her out, she introduced me to her friends, she even came on trips with my friends family in thailand. She wanted to come to Australia there was definitely at least in my mind something more than just a wind up etc

Of course I'm not naive to know that while I'm not there she would of probably been seeing others etc, but she would ask when I was going to come back etc
What really hurt was I was there 2 weeks ago and I even on the Weds she video called me etc and by friday you block just out of the blue which she had never done to me before, I just can't get over that part why do that knowing I could of giving you money by 31sts surely she could of stuck it out 1 more week and then destroy me it just felt so harsh

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To answer your question: Of course she's going to go back to you. After all, what prostitute turns down free money? She has just found a (temporary) better offer, so she will ignore you until that "relationship" plays out. Then she will be back to you, crying about how much she missed you but she had to do what she did to get the money for the operation (that she's of course not going to have).

And the worst part? You're going to take her back when she comes crying back to you.

The objective in these relationships is to be the suckEE rather than the suckER.

You'd be better off sending the money to ME. You would be getting as much sex out of me as you would out of her: NONE. But at least I won't block you - at least as long as there is still money to be had from you.

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2 minutes ago, BangkokHank said:

To answer your question: Of course she's going to go back to you. After all, what prostitute turns down free money? She has just found a (temporary) better offer, so she will ignore you until that "relationship" plays out. Then she will be back to you, crying about how much she missed you but she had to do what she did to get the money for the operation (that she's of course not going to have).

And the worst part? You're going to take her back when she comes crying back to you.

The objective in these relationships is to be the suckEE rather than the suckER.

You'd be better off sending the money to ME. You would be getting as much sex out of me as you would out of her: NONE. But at least I won't block you - at least as long as there is still money to be had from you.

At least you made me laugh haven't laughed in days

I highly doubt she will ever unblock, in thailand don't they want to save face, she doesn't have any leg to stand on
She really was going to have the surgery it was called SexyLine sucks out the fat etc thing she showed me what it involved so I kinda think that was true

I think she followed a new guy which she never does on her instagram so shows she must be moving on or maybe for show... she did post a pic of herself with boy/girl emoji love heart in the far distance not so visible so not sure if she is just doing to impress the guy

You are right about the sucker here, lots of people tell me she will eventually block but I just can't seem to believe it right at this point and you are right tendency is to take her back hopefully I'm strong enough not to get to that

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42 minutes ago, hopelessthailover said:


It was serious, it was my first real relationship with a girl in thailand
I guess in a way I thought I was really helping her out, she introduced me to her friends, she even came on trips with my friends family in thailand. She wanted to come to Australia there was definitely at least in my mind something more than just a wind up etc

Of course I'm not naive to know that while I'm not there she would of probably been seeing others etc, but she would ask when I was going to come back etc
What really hurt was I was there 2 weeks ago and I even on the Weds she video called me etc and by friday you block just out of the blue which she had never done to me before, I just can't get over that part why do that knowing I could of giving you money by 31sts surely she could of stuck it out 1 more week and then destroy me it just felt so harsh

You didn't have a relationship, you were paying a protitute.

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I got a great idea save you lots of trouble and heartache....

Give me the remainder of the surgery money....ill kick you in the balls and we'll call it a day.

1 hour ago, CharlieH said:

It never fails to amaze me just hos easily grown mature men can be deceived into being an ATM and not even in Thailand !

Because the pu***y is like "the force" .

I been duped many times.

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1 hour ago, hopelessthailover said:

Hi everyone, I’m looking for some perspective on my current situation.

Background:
I’ve been with my Thai girlfriend (from Patong) for 2 years. I’ve supported her significantly and we’ve been very close—I was with her in Jan, and she even asked when I’m returning (planned for Sept). I’ve been her emotional rock, often staying on video calls while she sleeps. She met my friends and my friends family.

I've met her friends, she used to say I love you even in front of friends, there was no real fight to cause the trigger

Last weds she told me she hurt her foot video called me and we chatted I helped her out, we messaged a bit more everything was normal. On thursday I reached out and said good morning but never got a reply by friday she blocked me for no reason. There was no argument or a trigger to cause the block

The Situation:
She recently told me while I was in phuket 2 weeks ago she needed 60,000 THB for surgery (doctor coming from BKK to Phuket). I gave her 20,000 THB to start.
Shortly after I can see she went to singapore. Last time I went she claimed she’s staying at a "friend's condo" for a holiday, I even gave her money last time and she was so appreciative almost cried etc.

The Red Flags:

  • My assumption is that she arrived in Singapore, she blocked me on everything.

  • She is still posting on social media, her latest shows a love heart emoji in the distance.

  • She is still wearing the jewelry I gave her in her posts.

  • I sent her 5,000 THB last Friday while blocked; she accepted the money.

  • A mutual friend messaged her; she didn't block him, but she didn't reply either.

  • The surgery is supposedly scheduled for Jan 31st (this Saturday).

My Conflict:
I haven’t reached out since last Saturday (5 days of total silence). I’m worried she’s found someone else or has multiple sponsors, but I also wonder if she’s just in "work mode" to raise the remaining 40,000 THB for her surgery and blocked me to avoid the "guilt" or drama of me seeing her in that environment.


I’m struggling with the urge to reach out.
Does this sound like a standard "Singapore working holiday" where she’ll unblock me once she’s back in Patong, or am I being ghosted for good?

Appreciate your advice, I'm a hopeless "nice" guy

One born every minute. 20,000 baht buys 40 nights in a hotel.

1 hour ago, hopelessthailover said:

I’ve been her emotional rock, often staying on video calls while she sleeps.

Does she know about the Teddy Bear camera?

4 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

Because the pu***y is like "the force" .

I been duped many times.

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Ive never been duped. Where do you find the bad ones?

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