Time to share

A good savaging from Moss can usually bring him out of the doldrums but not today.

Good pal of mine fell out with his seventeen year old son last year. Kicked him out of the house over the argument, so son moves in with girlfriend. Girlfriend falls out with now eighteen year old boy ( almost inevitable ), son no where to go.

Police knock on door last night ask his youngest son for the whereabouts of parents and if he heard the thump. You guessed it, 8.5 from the Spanish judge for the swan dive past his families window from the thirty story block.

What the hel_l do you tell the father ?

Keep your loved ones close. ( said with tear in the eye )

Im so sorry to read that suiging. I dont know the details, so i cant really comment. Sorry. Sad news.

Many, many teenagers get suicidal over small things that seem insurmountable at the time.

Luckily most don't go the whole way and live to get control over their feelings, but there are tragedies like this far too often.

Feel sorry forthe family, and forthe flying kid.

What the hel_l do you tell the father ?

Not sure about this line S'? Do you mean it is up to you to break the news to the father, if it is, then it is something I have never done, so I can suggest nothing, except to tell him straight out and have your words ready and do not try and beat around the bush, stammer or be lost for words.

However if it means how do you try and console and commiserate, trust me there is nothing that you can do to assuage the guilt and remorse this man will feel.

So just be there and be a sounding board and try and do little things to help, he may need help in the organisation of certain things, because he will not be thinking straight.

He will go through the what if's, why didn't I do that, why didn't he talk to me etc etc.

It will be tough, I wish you well.

Moss

Good call Moss

Father took eldest daughter with him to the morgue today. ( mother not up to the task )

Whole family in a guilt spiral which may not have a happy ending, support from all friends the only thing which is viable.

Kids ( eighteen year old boys still are in my book, girls far more mature ) take life so seriously these days and with the help of the web, Facebook, Twitter etc all believe they can run before they can walk. Experience shared on a PC does not equate to real life

Sad times.

from the circumstances it sounds like the father's grief and remorse will be intensely private and there won't be much that you can do or say to comfort him other than to be available...it's a big drag as when these tragedies happen one wants to be active to help their friends...it don't look like there will be much that you can do...

please accept my sympathy...I know that a friend's grief is very difficult to bear when one feels helpless.

This is a very sad event and there is little that anyone can say, except to accept our sympathy for all concerned.

mate I am not sure there is much you can say and it may be best if you simply do nothing more than to be there for the family. Let them take the lead and you follow. In times like this it is family and true friends that will rally and form a circle around those affected. Be there for them and hold your own loved ones closer than you would even normally do.

CB

I just don't know what to say... It's so sad.

Thanks for the support lads...........Much appreciated.

How very sad.

Thought provoking thread. Another young life wasted. So sad.

Gets worse.

Girlfriend posting on facebook asking for messages for the lad " which she will carry to him " !!!

I have made sure parents of lady made aware and hopefully they can get a grip of her before it turns in the wrong direction yet again.