Oh oh... you meant that mooners.

Sorry mooners. :jap:

Phew, dodged a bullet there cowboy...................

Mooners is a cook?

Wrong guy anyway, this pain in the butt is over four foot six tall.

Wow , four foot six eh!! Mooners is certainly growing...................Must be all that pugilism.

More like all the kicks in the arse he got...

That's fightin' talk.

u wenches are gonna have another bitch slappin contest r ya?

Oh oh... you meant that mooners.

Sorry mooners. :jap:

Phew, dodged a bullet there cowboy...................

Genuine error... I don't know what made me think you were referring to that errr... other... person.

Senility setting in...

Set in my ways you ask? Well right now I'm set in front of my computer... but not for very long. I have a date with a pretty, young woman. I'll check back with you in 4 hours.

u wenches are gonna have another bitch slappin contest r ya?

Dunno.

Was in the mood to pick on Jingthing earlier, but he's not been about. Did some work instead, tired now.

must....beer....have.....sleep....

Set in my ways you ask? Well right now I'm set in front of my computer... but not for very long. I have a date with a pretty, young woman. I'll check back with you in 4 hours.

'Pics or it didn't happen.'

Set in my ways you ask? Well right now I'm set in front of my computer... but not for very long. I have a date with a pretty, young woman. I'll check back with you in 4 hours.

'Pics or it didn't happen.'

Is this u comin outa the closit......u wanna see pics of naked ian hovering over the target

Set in my ways you ask? Well right now I'm set in front of my computer... but not for very long. I have a date with a pretty, young woman. I'll check back with you in 4 hours.

'Pics or it didn't happen.'

Is this u comin outa the closit......u wanna see pics of naked ian hovering over the target

I'll check back with you in 4 hours.

Summun bragging.......lol

Set in my ways you ask? Well right now I'm set in front of my computer... but not for very long. I have a date with a pretty, young woman. I'll check back with you in 4 hours.

'Pics or it didn't happen.'

I would, but you might claim her as one of yours. All I'll say is she is somewhere on this page...

http://gallery.fishbc.com/gallery/view_album.php?set_albumName=album211&page=5

Set in my ways you ask? Well right now I'm set in front of my computer... but not for very long. I have a date with a pretty, young woman. I'll check back with you in 4 hours.

'Pics or it didn't happen.'

I would, but you might claim her as one of yours. All I'll say is she is somewhere on this page...

http://gallery.fishb...album211&page=5

Ian, I just don't know where to start.

Patsy, expecting someone to be on time or to honour their commitments to take you out is only fair...

On the other hand, it does seem as if you are having some, er, control issues. The discomfort you felt going out makes it clear this isn't just about your friend. I have an older female relative who lives alone, feels lonely and pines for company, but can't stand to have guests actually staying because they make her feel out of control- and when she is asked out to a restaurant spontaneously by her grandkids she nearly always refuses because 'you can't just go out on a moment's notice' (despite having no schedule and no plans). She lives with a cat, too. She rationalises her loneliness by telling herself 'this is the way everyone lives' and 'it's hard to find friends'.

If you were truly happy living this way, fair enough. However, it seems clear that you are lonely and you are beginning to see effects of this behaviour on your social potential, not only with houseguests but in going out (which is generally the way to meet people).

I think this kind of behaviour is related to feelings of security. When some part of your life (even a part that is not happening now in the present) has made you feel unsafe or insecure, it can seem to make you safer to keep to one predictable pattern. The downside of this security- which is really a false promise anyway- is that it keeps you from developing your potential.

No one can tell you it's time for a change, but if you are worried enough about how things are going, you might want to seek some local counselling to explore some of these feelings. I'd hate to see you (or anyone) end up like my great-aunt! (She won't let anyone else do dishes, by the way, because they must be done a certain way and she 'likes' washing dishes).

That is a touching and well thought out reply, Ijustwannateach. I can think of several similar people.

OP seems to be about a male friend that could turn romantic and the disappointment regarding things there.

Subject-line is about how set we are in our ways.

I know what I like but am a total pushover at times, especially if I love someone and believe it is easier if I am more gentle than they to keep the peace.

In my OP there was never any romantic bit going on. he and I had that about 15 years ago - been there, done that etc. We are good friends, and shall always be. The romance did not work all those years ago and neither of us envisage it ever doing so again!!!

Good to see that others share my complaint about visitors!!

On the other side of this - my mum complains when I leave her place that she misses her cup of tea and toast in bed in the morning... along with the paper to read!!

OP seems to be about a male friend that could turn romantic and the disappointment regarding things there.

Subject-line is about how set we are in our ways.

I know what I like but am a total pushover at times, especially if I love someone and believe it is easier if I am more gentle than they to keep the peace.

In my OP there was never any romantic bit going on. he and I had that about 15 years ago - been there, done that etc. We are good friends, and shall always be. The romance did not work all those years ago and neither of us envisage it ever doing so again!!!

Good to see that others share my complaint about visitors!!

On the other side of this - my mum complains when I leave her place that she misses her cup of tea and toast in bed in the morning... along with the paper to read!!

Sorry, double post....

Thanks, Ijustwannateach!!

Perhaps I am a bit odd. When I was younger I was the life and soul of the party. Out every night, able to go to work the next day etc. Didn't give a dam_n if my flat was tidy or not.

I think, I have reached saturation point in the going out etc. I do go out - don't get me wrong - but i get bored seeing the same old same old faces in the same old same old places. And it costs money here, I am talking just going out drinking with pals in one day will set me back a weeks food shopping.

I am not rich and have to count my pennies. So, especially as it is frigging cold here, I would rather spend 2 quid on a bottle of wine than 2 quid on a glass of wine. And sit in front of my TV or annoy you lot on TV!! With the cat...

So, I shall stay set in my ways and try to give leeway to visitors (if i have any...)!!!

This thread is starting to seriously stray back on topic!

This thread is starting to seriously stray back on topic!

Anybody call...........????