barefoot1988 Posted March 27, 2012 Share Posted March 27, 2012 how to deal with the ego when your spouse is a high flyer, more educated and earning more than you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
inthepink Posted March 27, 2012 Share Posted March 27, 2012 (edited) I used to love the fact that she earned more than me. Now she no longer works I miss it. I'm not sure why it should be a problem ego-wise though, not in this day and age? Edited March 27, 2012 by inthepink Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bendix Posted March 27, 2012 Share Posted March 27, 2012 Celebrate and retire earlier, perhaps? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
overherebc Posted March 27, 2012 Share Posted March 27, 2012 Sit back and enjoy it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post theblether Posted March 27, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted March 27, 2012 (edited) Take delight in it and embrace it, be the proudest man in the room, and let her know how proud of her you are. You're not in competition with your wife, you are a partnership. " be hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise" You and you're marriage will be happier and better for it. Edited March 27, 2012 by theblether 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExpatOilWorker Posted March 27, 2012 Share Posted March 27, 2012 My gf's monthly salary is a bit more than my day-rate, but it is a small margin, so we have just learned to live with it. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post MediumPaceBowler Posted March 27, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted March 27, 2012 Celebrate and retire earlier, perhaps? You talk a lot about retirement, don't you? It saddens me when I read about men who spend more or less their entire adult lives working purely in order that they can ..... retire. I don't wish to retire. I doubt Sir Alex Ferguson wishes to retire. I doubt Warren Buffet wishes to retire. I doubt Sir Richard Branson wishes to retire. You don't need to retire, little Bendix. You just need to get yourself a life. Take a risk. Be brave. Be bold. Be daring. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scorecard Posted March 27, 2012 Share Posted March 27, 2012 (edited) I have friends in Singapore (husband and wife, same age, local Chinese), she earns massive commissions on oil trading, he earns a quite nice professional salary. - She says she wishes she had the lower stress situation her husband enjoys. - He confirms she works under deep stress. - He tries hard to make life as easy as possible for her, to limit family chores, plan things, shopping, etc. - They have an agreement that she will stay in this job until they have reached a savings goal whereby they can have a very sizable nest egg, own a good home, big investments for kids education, etc, and then both work part-time in non stress jobs, and contribute actively to the community. Probably about 45 years old. Their both very balanced people, they're pretty happy. Edited March 27, 2012 by scorecard Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
draftvader Posted March 27, 2012 Share Posted March 27, 2012 I have no issue with it. During our early relationship I was earning considerably more than my partner. Since we have been in Thailand she is a far more "profitable" commodity and she has landed a very nice job. I am the stay at home Dad, I keep myself busy with studying, the home and our daughter. My wife is pleased with how I support her life. 5 years down the road from here? Who knows? The important thing is to remember that we are a team and we have to work together to stay together and get the best from our choice in each other. I love it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
F1fanatic Posted March 27, 2012 Share Posted March 27, 2012 Great thread that will be enjoyed by many posters - for different reasons.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GuestHouse Posted March 27, 2012 Share Posted March 27, 2012 (edited) It saddens me when I read about men who spend more or less their entire adult lives working purely in order that they can ..... retire. I don't wish to retire. What saddens, you the thought that others have planned for the future or the knowledge that you did not and you are going to be granted your wish? Edited March 27, 2012 by GuestHouse Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bunta71 Posted March 27, 2012 Share Posted March 27, 2012 If my wife made more money than me, I would simply trade my wallet for her purse.... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roadrunerboi Posted March 27, 2012 Share Posted March 27, 2012 I want a beach facing home in Huahin and golf memberships in Cha-am... I also want a Sony Playstation and Xbox360 with the camera attachment that sits on top of the 70inch flat screen (preferably internet capabilities) Last but not least, I would like a 2012 BMW M3... Sedan (I consider the family, see?)... Red on red.... Thank you... 555 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fletchsmile Posted March 27, 2012 Share Posted March 27, 2012 Put your ego on one side and celebrate. That's good news in my book + Don't forget to ask for more pocket money Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post h90 Posted March 27, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted March 27, 2012 Well I would tell her that I must send 2000 Euro every month to my poor parents in Europe. And that they would like to have a new pickup kombi. And of course there are situations when the cow is sick or Mama is in the hospital. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PattayaParent Posted March 27, 2012 Share Posted March 27, 2012 Does spending more than me count? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Swiss1960 Posted March 27, 2012 Share Posted March 27, 2012 My television is too small... and I don't have an iPad like my friends... and my 3GS needs replacement, because of the battery... And most of all: I would be proud of her, tell her every day how perfect she is and how much I love her and I would tell her same same if she would earn less... so... I could not care less... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
richard_smith237 Posted March 27, 2012 Share Posted March 27, 2012 I'd want a Ferrari... Just so long as she doesn't make me the hot chick in the passenger seat ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chrisinth Posted March 27, 2012 Share Posted March 27, 2012 Celebrate and retire earlier, perhaps? Perhaps encouraging the spouse to work a little longer? In case she gets bored naturally! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mauGR1 Posted March 27, 2012 Share Posted March 27, 2012 I keep on telling her that we need more holidays..She just doesn't listen, too busy working Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theblether Posted March 27, 2012 Share Posted March 27, 2012 It saddens me when I read about men who spend more or less their entire adult lives working purely in order that they can ..... retire. I don't wish to retire. What saddens, you the thought that others have planned for the future or the knowledge that you did not and you are going to be granted your wish? MPB is saddened every morning when he wakes up...............then it goes downhill from there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DP25 Posted March 27, 2012 Share Posted March 27, 2012 This might be the wrong place for advice on this problem Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RudieTheFoodie Posted March 27, 2012 Share Posted March 27, 2012 Try signing-up for some GCSE's or maybe pottery classes. Probably do your ego the world of good. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naam Posted March 27, 2012 Share Posted March 27, 2012 It saddens me when I read about men who spend more or less their entire adult lives working purely in order that they can ..... retire. I don't wish to retire. What saddens, you the thought that others have planned for the future or the knowledge that you did not and you are going to be granted your wish? there is the parabel "The Fox and the sour Grapes"... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Huayrat Posted March 27, 2012 Share Posted March 27, 2012 Never understood this thing about who gets the best salary... If your married your a team who cares if the wife or husband earns more... I retired at 21 and will never work again.. Just happy relaxing and soaking up the sun.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
travelmann Posted March 27, 2012 Share Posted March 27, 2012 She hasnt had a better education than me but I set her up in business ( investement of 4 million baht 5-6 years ago) showed her how to treat customers and she went from 12 k a month salary ina fulltime job to 250k a month in 5 years working for herself. It paid off for me....... I now do nothing.............BIG TIME hahahah I am not bothered by this one iota. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
travelmann Posted March 27, 2012 Share Posted March 27, 2012 I keep on telling her that we need more holidays..She just doesn't listen, too busy working Sh*t you mean she actually has time to speak with you??? you lucky bas*ard!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sing_Sling Posted March 27, 2012 Share Posted March 27, 2012 Not a problem at all . . . sometimes she does, sometimes I do. She's doing her DBA at the moment so she's busier than a one-armed paper hanger and her caseload is increasing. Too little time but luckily flexibility comes into it on my part so the family is still fucntioning happily Why shouldn't a woman earn more . . . 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KeyserSoze01 Posted March 27, 2012 Share Posted March 27, 2012 I don't wish to retire. I doubt Sir Alex Ferguson wishes to retire. I doubt Warren Buffet wishes to retire. I doubt Sir Richard Branson wishes to retire. Rather unrealistic to compare a work-a-day person with those that are fabulously wealthy and most likely have never done a hard days labor in their lives. As far as working spouses, been there, won't do it again. The first two Mrs Soze were both professional ladies who at the end of the day decided that their careers were more important than our marriage. I have worked over 40 years to build a nice retirement where I can come and go as I please and not be too worried about fiscal matters. IF I decide to get married again, it will be to someone who is more interested in spending time together and enjoying our lives as apposed to someone driven by the need to earn a crush. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
inthepink Posted March 27, 2012 Share Posted March 27, 2012 I don't know what you consider a hard day's work but I don't think Richard Branson got rich by sitting around on his backside. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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