Unsure what to do...

[electronicweld]

I met a Thai woman (33, I'm 55) on a dating site, 8 months ago. It wasn't a Thai dating site, but we just seemed to "click".

We chatted on Skype everyday for about 3 months, before I flew from Manchester to meet her in Bangkock. We stayed a

couple of nights in Bangkock, before travelling by bus to Hua Hin. We had planned to spend 8 nights in Hua Hin, but after

2 nights, she had to travel home to Phetchabun, because of the death of a "cousin". We met up again 4 days later, in

Bangkock and spent New Year (2014) together, before I flew home.

We were emailing and chatting on Skype everyday, since my return, up untill 9 days ago.

She knows I have booked flights to visit her in mid April, she even told me which hotel to book, in Phetchabun.

But since 9 days, I have had no contact with her, no email or Skype and her phone is on voicemail.

I don't speak any Thai, so would appreciate help in understanding where she lives. Her address is,

7 Ban kock District

City Canton

Phetchabun Province

The address is real, as I've sent her a birthday and Valentines card, which she showed me on Skype.

Can someone please tell me, where do I get a bus to, from Bangkock, I have to know she is ok.

She fell off the back of a pickup truck, and banged her head on the road, a couple of days before I lost contact with her.

She showed me a nasty graze on her elbow and said she also hurt her back. Maybe she is in hospital, I just don't know.

Any help would be appreciated.

[David48]

Her other Sponsor is visiting?

Just a thought to consider.

[wiki12]

You'll find people who have lived here a fair amount of time are very cynical when we hear stories like this.

I would say come over to Thailand on holiday and make plans to be a singe traveller and see if she gets in touch when you are here, if you beleive her excuses for going quiet go and see her then.

Be very careful of Thai ladies, that's not to say they are all bad I am married with a daughter, but there a lot of schemers about.

Look on the web for Mor Chit bus station in BKK that's the main one. A taxi from the airport will probably be 3500thb or so.

[chiang mai]

Be very very wary, your life to do as you please but I would walk away today and not look back, that's just me..

[Borzandy]

the buffalo is sick

[Jimmu]

How many times have we heard this type of story! Almost verbatim...

[BWPattaya]

To get to Ban Kook go to Mor Chit bus station and get a bus to Phetchabun. Or take a taxi. Once you are in Phetchabun City on Road 21 continue straight on, about 3 Km later turn right into Ban Pak Poo, follow that road, look for a turn off on the left over a bridge, then laft again. Follow that road for about 10 Km, that is Ban Kook.

However, what do you do when you get there? If she isn't there you have wasted your time (8 hours on a bus) and money. If she is there it will cost you money whatever the circumstances. Your level of Thai needs to be reasonably good to undertake such a trip as most people there will not speak English. It isn't for the faint-hearted.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

[JimMagee]

Thai people will avoid conflict at all costs. If she has gone quiet, then that is probably her way of telling you the relationship is over. Make your planned trip, send her a message telling her where and when you will be in Thailand, and if she wants to contact or see you, she will. Otherwise, don't waste your time looking for her. Thai addresses are very difficult to find. Come to Thailand with the plan to find a new girl, or better yet, find many new girls. It is not uncommon for a Thai girl to have a few overseas contacts working them all for money, and to see which one will pay the sinsot and buy the gold first.

Your trip to Hua Hin should have been a clue. She was probably not impressed with the travel by bus, then perhaps the hotel was not impressive enough, so after 2 days, she was already ready to end the relationship.

Move on, give her up, there are thousands of Thai girls looking for a good man.

[chiang mai]

Hypothetically, what would you guess is likely to happen if you show up at the lady's house unexpectedly and you find that she has a husband, Thai or otherwise? The other thing to remember is that you're not going to a modern city, you're going to a small rural location that probably off the beaten track and you don't speak Thai.

[Lostpack3t]

You dont have her contact details for LINE or Facebook? She is not active on these sites?

I'm thinking she is no longer interested. I think she may very well be in contact with other interested men. Very suspicious she only stayed a few days before shooting off before. I have "friends" who have done similar actions and tell similar stories. Funny thing is they think it is all fine to do like fishing and throwing the unwanted fish back into the sea. Dont take anything personally in Thailand regarding relationships until they move in with you. I do hope she is okay however I'm more concerned about you. Pm me if you want to talk.

[BrooklynNY]

7 Ban kock District

City Canton

Phetchabun Province

The address looks weird which I have never seen Thai home address starts with "District" on the first line (I maybe wrong)

the city "Canton" does not sound Thai.

If I were you, I would not travel to see her alone unless you are familiar with the area. I am Thai and I would not go to where I am not familiar with the area even though it is my birth country. It is not safe to travel alone to unfamiliar places even though I speak Thai fluently.

Edited March 26, 2014 by BrooklynNY

[HeavyDrinker]

Golden rule: Apply the same rules of common sense as though this situation were happening in your home country. Imagine that she isn't some delectable exotic younger Thai lass but maybe some iffy sort from Carlisle or Redcar and what would you do then?

For me there are too many 'grey areas' here. If I were you I'd ask her to clarify what is going on? If she can't be straight with you at this stage, or the situation has you flummoxed now, then how will it be in the future? Too many alarm bells ringing for my liking here and I'm guessing for you too hence the fact you're posting here. sure on this, walk away.

[zyphodb]

You'll find people who have lived here a fair amount of time are very cynical when we hear stories like this.

I would say come over to Thailand on holiday and make plans to be a singe traveller and see if she gets in touch when you are here, if you beleive her excuses for going quiet go and see her then.

Be very careful of Thai ladies, that's not to say they are all bad I am married with a daughter, but there a lot of schemers about.

Look on the web for Mor Chit bus station in BKK that's the main one. A taxi from the airport will probably be 3500thb or so.

If you want to save some money get the metro from the airport into town & then get a taxi, you should save 3000 Bht & not be a lot slower...

[chiang mai]

I've just gone over the map of Phetchabun Province and I can see all the districts but I don't see a Ban kock District, sounds oddly like Bangkok whereas Canton sounds distinctly Swiss. Personally, I think that address is a p*ss take.

[yooyoo farang]

sorry for you electronicweld .

a few things look suspicious to me

.the fact she had to leave you for a cousin death..old story of a relative problem (must be huge families in isaan)

.is it evening time in Thailand when u skype her? did u get to see her place by cam? decoration.shoes.small items detecting man s presence.?

.address is too vague. in LOS they have to be very precise as Moo tanong numbers amphur even room numbers. she can have collected at the local store..

.did u see the wound only or the body and head it belongs too?

i might sound paranoiac to you but i have dozens of stories on my personnal book with scams going beyond imagination

fortunately they always make mistake , details will help. use all she told u to track her down there if you really want to be sure

[Dr. Burrito]

Thai people will avoid conflict at all costs. If she has gone quiet, then that is probably her way of telling you the relationship is over. Make your planned trip, send her a message telling her where and when you will be in Thailand, and if she wants to contact or see you, she will. Otherwise, don't waste your time looking for her. Thai addresses are very difficult to find. Come to Thailand with the plan to find a new girl, or better yet, find many new girls. It is not uncommon for a Thai girl to have a few overseas contacts working them all for money, and to see which one will pay the sinsot and buy the gold first.

Your trip to Hua Hin should have been a clue. She was probably not impressed with the travel by bus, then perhaps the hotel was not impressive enough, so after 2 days, she was already ready to end the relationship.

Move on, give her up, there are thousands of Thai girls looking for a good man.

Betting Jim here has it pegged pretty well... Perceptive and succinct.

[djvolak]

Do your trip as planned. As you said she knows the dates. If she shows up or contacts you again before you come fine. If she does not that is a good indication she is off doing something else. It happens and there are many more to choose from here. The language thing is not as bad a barrier in the bigger cities but in small villages yes you will not get much help even if they do understand you. If you come to Thailand and she has not contacted you then look elsewhere. She knows where you are and that you are interested. Chat up the women you meet in Thailand who do speak Thai and you might be suprised to find there are many beautiful hard working women here who would love to meet you, Have you wine and dine them, have you meet the parents. You know. From the women working the desk at the hotels you stay at to the women working at 7/11 to the waitresses who bring you your food in the resturants. Not all are looking for a meal ticket. Some are really looking for a good man who wants a good woman. Get after it and do not be discouraged and I do not think you have to worry about your friend being too injured to get in touch with you. Wait it out and see what happens. If she gets in touch a few days before you are due to show up here do not be suprised. Good luck in your search. May 11th will be 7 years married to a good Thai woman for me. I met her online and she was everything she said and more when I did get the face to face in 2007. We had been chatting off and on since 2005. I got lucky. She has a single sister... But the sister does not speak english. Work on your thai if the one you found does not get back to you and I will make an introduction if you like.

Ha! Stay safe.

[yooyoo farang]

agree with Djvolak!

[jacko45k]

You'll find people who have lived here a fair amount of time are very cynical when we hear stories like this.

I would say come over to Thailand on holiday and make plans to be a singe traveller and see if she gets in touch when you are here, if you beleive her excuses for going quiet go and see her then.

Be very careful of Thai ladies, that's not to say they are all bad I am married with a daughter, but there a lot of schemers about.

Look on the web for Mor Chit bus station in BKK that's the main one. A taxi from the airport will probably be 3500thb or so.

To Moe chit!!!!!

[HeavyDrinker]

Minimise your chances of getting into schtuck. Keep your wallet and your whanger firmly in yer trassis....

[stickylies]

another one bites the dust....

[Wat dee]

I 'm sure She's fine. If not, nothing that new car and a house won't cure.

[rotorbreeze]

Thai people will avoid conflict at all costs. If she has gone quiet, then that is probably her way of telling you the relationship is over. Make your planned trip, send her a message telling her where and when you will be in Thailand, and if she wants to contact or see you, she will. Otherwise, don't waste your time looking for her. Thai addresses are very difficult to find. Come to Thailand with the plan to find a new girl, or better yet, find many new girls. It is not uncommon for a Thai girl to have a few overseas contacts working them all for money, and to see which one will pay the sinsot and buy the gold first.

Your trip to Hua Hin should have been a clue. She was probably not impressed with the travel by bus, then perhaps the hotel was not impressive enough, so after 2 days, she was already ready to end the relationship.

Move on, give her up, there are thousands of Thai girls looking for a good man.

Yes move on..hard to tell ya...as I had the same..mate best ya note all the postings about Thai ladies...move on there are millions and millions of single ladies that would love to meet you...condolences on your feelings... FYI I was married twice to Thai ladies and they are a strange like most women..a challenge but not speaking Thai then know you are the under dog... take care hope this helps..ok? Ron

Edited March 27, 2014 by metisdead
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[Estrada]

Her other Sponsor is visiting?

Just a thought to consider.

Or all 3 sponsors are visiting! I know quite a number of Thai Women playing this game.

[ggt]

Thai women have a reputation of fabricating the truth...many have several men who send them money from around the world while living with a foreigner and going home to visit the kids...and husband...it is just Thailand...do not take it personally...it is how many of them make a living...

[vahack]

i've been here long enough to be cynical too. its highly likely something else is going on (boyfriend, husband, sponsors). however, it doesn't sound like that's why she dropped off like that. if she was milking it, she wouldn't stop BEFORE his next trip. there's no money in that.

i'm guessing she is hurt or dead. people die really easily in Thailand. i'd follow up, but cautiously.

[ttthailand]

It is possible but highly unlikely that her accident ( if she even had) has caused this lack of communication. Put the shoe on the other foot, if you were interested in a girl would you not keep in contact ? As others have suggested, she is with some other guy she met or she just does not care about you. I would stop it right now and just remember the fun and move on. Trust me, the relationship is finished. Even if she contacts you do not take her back unless you find out she has been in the hospital in a coma for this entire time. These girls do what suites them best and don't really care about other's feelings. Thais can be very inconsiderate people ! It's a me me me society.

Get back online chatting with the girls now and arrange a few dates. Too many girl to have one play games with your heart. Learn from history and look for warning signs when you meet new girls.

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[Estrada]

7 Ban kock District

City Canton

Phetchabun Province

The address looks weird which I have never seen Thai home address starts with "District" on the first line (I maybe wrong)

the city "Canton" does not sound Thai.

If I were you, I would not travel to see her alone unless you are familiar with the area. I am Thai and I would not go to where I am not familiar with the area even though it is my birth country. It is not safe to travel alone to unfamiliar places even though I speak Thai fluently.

This is Moo 7 (street No.7) Bahn Kok Phetchabun where Ban Khok health centre is located. If she is indeed in hospital as you say, then it could be that she is in this hospital. You could try telephoning the hospital. If you just enter "phetchbun bahn khok 7" in Google Earth and you will get a map location. There are a lot of Chinese families living in Phetchabun Province so no surprise if she uses the word Canton which is Chinese for District. Or on the other hand she may have a Swiss "Financee" also on the go as the Swiss also use the word Canton for districts in Switzerland.

Edited March 26, 2014 by Estrada

[realenglish1]

How much money did you give here

It soulds weird that a cousin died and she had to go back Sounds like she has someone else Move one That is life in Thailand sometimes

[robertthebruce]

Hi

Just read your posting, I live in ''Thailand'', if you have a mobile number i can give her a call if you like, or call the number and leave a message, I do speak a bit of Thai,

If you want me to do that, please send me a personal message, and i will..

or anything else i can do just ask..

All the best

Robert