What you are in Thailand and still single?

[freebyrd]

When asked questions like this by 'friends', or family in the past, I told them to mind their own business. The life we have been gifted belongs to us. One man's meat is another man's poison.

[manarak]

I would ask back "please define single" 555

[anon467367354]

I have no interest in marrying a Thai, fidelity is important to me and it's not part of the culture.

I would much rather have my freedom and my friends without expectations of performance.

If you're seeking marriage, then there is a gap in your life you're trying to fill. (here come the puns...)

The one you choose, will be nothing more than a reflection of what it is you think you're lacking in your life.

[winstonc]

When asked questions like this by 'friends', or family in the past, I told them to mind their own business. The life we have been gifted belongs to us. One man's meat is another man's poison.

one mans meat.......maybe thats his thing...but never go flying without a jacket..

[BadBouy]

just yesterday i offered to take a lady out for a birthday meal just a nice gesture i thought,mai pen rai, didnt get an answer, this morning i get a message "you want to marry me or not ?, dont waste my time" oh she's got no job/no money. of course being a gentleman i said YES, he he

Ah yes, sweet 16!

[BadBouy]

To Winstonc:

I can understand why you may have thought that mentioning my ladies desire to achieve a good education, her perserverence in achieving a high standard in the business world and her desire to dress well either professionally or informally as frivolous rhetoric but I applaud her and anyone like her who wants to rise above in a country where it is so difficult to do that...

But I am sure you had a good reason to bring all this to my attention and this is why it is so great to have a forum such as this to allow everyone to express their thoughts...

Well said, you will soon see that responding to these type of retorts is a waste of your time. Enjoy your lovely lady and good luck!

[umbanda]

If you are under 60..still single in Thailand makes a lot of sense....Marriage in Thailand is a retirement benefit!

[kekalot]

Well then, having read all the posts on here, I have to say that.. Sometimes it's not that easy.

I am 32 years old, tall and fit.

Having a hell of a hard time meeting any "normal" women here.. It was a pain in the bottom in Cha-am where most smart women would leave and the rest either didn't speak English or were too shy to talk to me.

I am even on a paid dating website (membership before I came over) but every lady I meet from there have issues.. I guess it comes from them going on falang hunting websites to begin with.

Maybe the issue is that I am not rich, not even well off? They don't know that tho..

I left Cha-am now and am on the verge of possibly moving somewhere else.

I bet it would be real easy to find someone if I drank or went to party/clubs/bars but I have no interest in any of the above or in any women who does.

Maybe it will take me 20 years too

[kekalot]

Forgot to add. Unbelievable the amount of "I don't believe you." that I get when I confirm I am single.

[DP25]

Forgot to add. Unbelievable the amount of "I don't believe you." that I get when I confirm I am single.

I get the same thing all the time, am about the same age as you. Thais simply can't believe that I am single, and are convinced I am hiding a girlfriend or wife somewhere. That I don't bring hookers home seems to reinforce this belief somehow. I once had a female coworker inform a girl I was dating that I had a wife and was only trying to screw her on the side. Which she believed, and was completely untrue.

I've had girlfriends here, but in general I find it difficult to find someone I'm interested in. Most girls specifically looking for farang are unacceptable for various reasons.

[balo]

You will save a fortune staying single in Thailand.

Marry the girl and you marry the whole family. Good luck with that if you can afford it.

[risky11]

MGTOW baby! - Men Going Their Own Way...

[kinmaew]

I've always placed money and food above women good or bad but I am solvent and live well.

[AnotherOneAmerican]

Maybe the issue is that I am not rich, not even well off? They don't know that tho..

Nah, the issue is, all the Thai girls are completely bonkers.

You just have to alter your sights a bit, not higher or lower but weirder.

[kekalot]

I've had girlfriends here, but in general I find it difficult to find someone I'm interested in. Most girls specifically looking for farang are unacceptable for various reasons.

same here, I kind of gave up on those women who only want foreigners.

And always wary of any women who dares to approach me and speaks English too but I give them a fair chance.

I guess that I look rough and definitely intimidating to normal Thai women but that doesn't stop them from looking! I catch lots of them checking me out..

They look away as soon as I look their way every time.

[Cypress Hill]

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Well then, having read all the posts on here, I have to say that.. Sometimes it's not that easy.

I am 32 years old, tall and fit.

Having a hell of a hard time meeting any "normal" women here.. It was a pain in the bottom in Cha-am where most smart women would leave and the rest either didn't speak English or were too shy to talk to me.

I am even on a paid dating website (membership before I came over) but every lady I meet from there have issues.. I guess it comes from them going on falang hunting websites to begin with.

Maybe the issue is that I am not rich, not even well off? They don't know that tho..

I left Cha-am now and am on the verge of possibly moving somewhere else.

I bet it would be real easy to find someone if I drank or went to party/clubs/bars but I have no interest in any of the above or in any women who does.

Maybe it will take me 20 years too

It all depends on the kind of person you are.

If you're looking for a woman who is happy to be seen and not heard, it's paradise here

If you're looking for a woman who lets you be the boss (or does a bang up job of letting you THINK you're the boss), it's paradise here

If you're looking for the kind of woman who's more pragmatic than her Western counterpart if she catches you playing away, it's paradise here

Guys in the West have had a pretty tough time of it with their women; Thai women are a welcome departure from that for many

If, however, you're looking for a woman who can stimulate your mind and your intellect, someone who respects you beyond whatever financial firepower you have or don't have; who brings her own financial independence to the table, who takes care of herself physically and is secure enough in herself to put her hands up and say "I was wrong" then be prepared for the long haul in this country . . . oh and MAKE SURE YOU CAN SPEAK THAI

[lee b]

A wise man will stay single in Thailand. Shame I'm not wise anymore...

[ggt]

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To Winstonc:

I can understand why you may have thought that mentioning my ladies desire to achieve a good education, her perserverence in achieving a high standard in the business world and her desire to dress well either professionally or informally as frivolous rhetoric but I applaud her and anyone like her who wants to rise above in a country where it is so difficult to do that...

But I am sure you had a good reason to bring all this to my attention and this is why it is so great to have a forum such as this to allow everyone to express their thoughts...

You will discover Winston...that there are some posters who live everyday to be able to show their ignorance on this forum...just ignore them...or they will likely not go away...I have seen threads go on and on with mindless banter as each inane poster tries to get in the last word...and with that I say Welcome...we look forward to your participation...

[malt25]

What is the point of this post ? If you have so much time on your hands to even consider posting something like this you really do need a hobby.

[Berkshire]

Most girls specifically looking for farang are unacceptable for various reasons.

Agree. More the reason to learn Thai when venturing out into those shark infested waters.

[ableguy]

Just tell them you are looking for an honest bar girl. that ought to shut them up

Or a nymph who owns a string of liqueur stores.

[wow64]

Maybe tell em you are confused about your sexuality. They will understand, you are in the right place for it.

[john1000]

Why anyone over 55 would want a permanent relationship, marry or live with someone in Thailand?

Maybe a sign of being insecure or lonely.

Having your cake and eating it; Thailand is the one place you can do this.

[Lukecan]

Its more fun to be single in Thailand if you're young.

[J Bradley]

Why anyone over 55 would want a permanent relationship, marry or live with someone in Thailand?

To start a family?

[Cypress Hill]

Why anyone over 55 would want a permanent relationship, marry or live with someone in Thailand?

To start a family?

Can't think of anything more reckless than starting a family in Thailand at 55+ years old especially if you're on anything less than a very generous income.

Schooling a child to Western standards costs an arm and a leg and, considering the alternative of a Thai state education or returning to farangland, why make the rod for your back?

[samsensam]

footloose and fancy free in thailand is the way to be

who wants to get tied down when there's so much candy in the shop?!

[fish fingers]

for a 20 something yes, for a 40 something even in Thailand it gets a little harder to find something that doesn't come with baggage, kids or a mental disorder.

[Cypress Hill]

for a 20 something yes, for a 40 something even in Thailand it gets a little harder to find something that doesn't come with baggage, kids or a mental disorder.

I'll bet there's a similar sentiment running through the ranks of Thai women who knock about with farangs.

[mrtoad]

Why anyone over 55 would want a permanent relationship, marry or live with someone in Thailand?

To start a family?

Can't think of anything more reckless than starting a family in Thailand at 55+ years old especially if you're on anything less than a very generous income.

Schooling a child to Western standards costs an arm and a leg and, considering the alternative of a Thai state education or returning to farangland, why make the rod for your back?

I agree with CH that having kids at 55 + isnt a great idea. I honestly would not want kids at that age and all the extra responsibilities that go with it.