help ! marriage divorce don't have a clue what to do

[confused american 48]

ok i try to make it short i meet thai girl on line supposed to be good girl virgin but not did the thai engagement and spent around 60 thousand us then thai wedding around 80 thousand us building, buying houses, land ,cars, companies, wife the third trip when son was born hired two people to kill me . went back one more time . and she spent every day from the first day to set me up again ,shes had a lot of affairs, and refuses to give a divorce unless i walk away with nothing. i spent 120 thousand us but we have built a empire there i am being cheated out everything and my son i am not allowed to see him if i go back they will kill me she went into debt every where for her dad and i never agreed or signed anything she used forged copies of my passport and stuff to do things with out me knowing any thing i don't know what all she has done we made millions all went to her dad everything to her family 0 to me or us what do i do any help would be welcomed

[NeverSure]

Sorry to hear. This would be my biggest fear. I know another guy who was supposed to get 1/2 of a house he bought and he'd even bought a 30 lease on the land. But that did him no good when he went back and some Thais promised to kill him if he ever came around again.

If you can afford it, I'd just walk. Life is short enough and I hate court fights. Somehow I get bigger and better emotionally when I just walk from something rather than get into a protracted hassle. At least I know who the better man is.

I sincerely hope you can afford to put it behind you and get on with your life.

Others may disagree with me and tell you to fight it. Up to you. I wouldn't.

[daveAustin]

I agree. Try and tempt the little witch into letting your son have a holiday in the US and never return. A pig of a woman like that is only interested in one thing, money, which makes it kind of simple. You could try to pursue the forgery of passport angle in the courts, but it will likely drag on and the lawyers will bleed you dry. Knowing a Thai with clout is a major plus to doing things the Thai way... Personally, I'd just try to get my son out and walk.

All the best.

[georgemandm]

Hi mate I had a friend have the same thing happen to him he took his thai on and one it all so take her on I would .

If I was you I would not care about her trying to kill you , find some thai people to help you Thais are not all like her ok take her on if you need some help I can get my friend to help you hop you take her on .

This thing can happen in your own country as well woman get all man get jack sh?t it happens all the time but here in thailand you just have to be one step ahead of a thai lady lean from it like I have here just give her what you can lose I have said to my self I can lose that and I will not put more in to thailand now I am going good and if my thai dose not like it I have told her the mango tree has a lot of mango so I will just go to the tree and get a new mango good luck stick in they mate you will win .

[Twice shy]

Hi mate I had a friend have the same thing happen to him he took his thai on and one it all so take her on I would .

If I was you I would not care about her trying to kill you , find some thai people to help you Thais are not all like her ok take her on if you need some help I can get my friend to help you hop you take her on .

This thing can happen in your own country as well woman get all man get jack sh?t it happens all the time but here in thailand you just have to be one step ahead of a thai lady lean from it like I have here just give her what you can lose I have said to my self I can lose that and I will not put more in to thailand now I am going good and if my thai dose not like it I have told her the mango tree has a lot of mango so I will just go to the tree and get a new mango good luck stick in they mate you will win .

Yeh but if this happened in his own country she would be facing serious prison time

Trying to get people to kill another is viewed as a serious crime in most civilized countries

But you can take Thailand out of that list of countries

Get a good lawyer and get after her scummy ass....

[gamini]

Your wife is just trying to scare you. Get a good lawyer.

[AlexRRR]

Is confused american for real? smells like a troll to me, well his english is very poor so he could be that dumb.

[Crossy]

A post in poor taste (and with poorer spelling) has been removed along with the (sensible) reply.

[AnotherOneAmerican]

Wondering how someone semi-literate managed to accumulate $120,000.

No helping for any guy as daft as the OP.

(this can't be real)

[ezzra]

MOD, may I suggests initiating a new TV forum section where by all marriage woes, i.e. problems,

advice, guidance, and pouring of the hearts will be bunched in one section for easier perusing...

it can be under the heading of Thai marriages, or I married a Thai B#*^%......

Edited October 6, 2014 by ezzra

[BudRight]

Make sure to tell the guy in the other thread whose thinking of proposing to his girlfriend.

[bristolgeoff]

you have many problems,my best advice is get a lawyer if that works and you may get something back in money terms.divorce and you should get something back from what you spent.don,t give her everything you spent in Thailand.you have a difficult decision to make walk away or fight

[crazykopite]

Life us to short and believe me it will become shorter for you if you pursue her, treat it like the end of a chapter in a book and move on . Yes 120,000 $ is a lot to loose but is it worth being killed for NO. Most expats who live in Thailand have been ripped off some will admit it but most would keep quiet I admire you for being brave enough to come out and open up and tell us your story, what's done is done I hope you can go on and have a happy life !

[crazykopite]

Wondering how someone semi-literate managed to accumulate $120,000.

No helping for any guy as daft as the OP.

(this can't be real)

There are many in the world with no or very little education who have gone on to be very wealthy , it is not a requirement to be well educated to succeed therefore I find your comment " Semi-literate " to be somewhat degrading , offensive , insulting.

[shirtless]

if you have agreements that will hold up in court here and proof she has forged your name to borrow against your assets take her to court , but you should first make a police report for the fraud ,criminal case then go for your assets.

[jacko45k]

Sorry OP, other than recommending you cut and run I can think of nothing else.

Although, perhaps others can learn from your bad experiences.

Hey, don't get married and give everything you have to someone you have just met!!!

Give it a decade or two .....

[kiniyow]

The shock and awe has long passed then I read stuff like this and it re-kindles my belief in just how Naive some Farangs really are~~

[kwaussie]

Ever heard the saying you cant get blood out of a stone, imagine nearly impossible to get money back especially as no proper documentation.

Why waste more money trying to get back, plus maybe risk life, an expensive lesson and read the book Private Dancer.

[Estrada]

Wondering how someone semi-literate managed to accumulate $120,000.

No helping for any guy as daft as the OP.

(this can't be real)

You shouldn't slag off someone whose first language is not English. There are many people out there that are completly illiterate and are multi-millionaires:

The man who invented the "Cats Eyes" used on the roads worldwide was completely illiterate and became a multi-millionaire.

Andreas Panayiotou, a London real estate tycoon worth £400 million (roughly $650 million), lives on a 20-acre estate and owns several private jets. At just 45, he’s come from humble beginnings as the son of Greek immigrants and is now ranked as the 200th richest man in Britain. And he can’t read.

Edited October 6, 2014 by Estrada

[JAFO]

Have you gone to the police and filed a report using a Thai Lawyer? If you don't want to get serious then you should just walk away. The best advice for all in TL is only spend what you are willing to lose. If it goes sideways look at it as a bad investment and move on.

I am leaning at a troll. However based on the individuals writing skills and where he met his Thai wife, its plausible. There have been many many internet scammed foreigners. His story along with others that will make news on TV, should be a warning to all.

[ericthai]

Wondering how someone semi-literate managed to accumulate $120,000.

No helping for any guy as daft as the OP.

(this can't be real)

I agree. As first he said he spent 60K then 80K well that is 140K but then says he spent 120K so all that does not add up.

Story and I do believe it is a story makes no sense. Talking about talking his third trip So assume he is living in the USA?

Who in their right mind would spend 80K US in Thailand or anywhere else in the world to get married. TROLL

[steven100]

post sounds very troll to me .......

but ' run forest run ' comes to mind .

[dotpoom]

I'm so lucky, I was born in a country where English is it's native language....had I been born outside of those countries and learned English as a second language, I would be considered "dumb" or "illiterate" were I not word perfect when writing in it, according to some people.

I would be very chuffed with myself if I could participate in a forum that was in a different language from my own.

I'm really sorry for the OP and I imagine you could do with all the support you can get....in my thoughts (prayers).

[OLDAUSSIE]

To the OP. If your story is true, I hope it is a warning to other Falangs here....

Welcome to Thailand.. LoS, the land of scams.

[smotherb]

Is confused american for real? smells like a troll to me, well his english is very poor so he could be that dumb.

He would have to be that dumb to get involved with such trash and spend so much money. What really bothers me is that so many stories like that happen so frequently. How do so many stupid/naive/ignorant/desperate men even live long enough to make the plane trip to here?

[Emster23]

"But I never been so broke that I couldn't leave town..." Some Doors tune came to mind.

[BudRight]

Wondering how someone semi-literate managed to accumulate $120,000.

No helping for any guy as daft as the OP.

(this can't be real)

You shouldn't slag off someone whose first language is not English. There are many people out there that are completly illiterate and are multi-millionaires:

The man who invented the "Cats Eyes" used on the roads worldwide was completely illiterate and became a multi-millionaire.

Andreas Panayiotou, a London real estate tycoon worth £400 million (roughly $650 million), lives on a 20-acre estate and owns several private jets. At just 45, he’s come from humble beginnings as the son of Greek immigrants and is now ranked as the 200th richest man in Britain. And he can’t read.

If he was literate he would know better than to buy private jets and simply charter them. I think we can extend that anology to the OP.

Edited October 6, 2014 by BudRight

[BradinAsia]

A person pretending to be an American who writes "I meet thai girl..." is obviously a troll.

[apalink_thailand]

Agree with other posters that you should obtain a GOOD lawyer. I know one that specialises in family type law and he is a shark. Believe it or not, the Thai legal system can work in your favour as long as you play it right.

She is employing village tactics on you and probably hasn't done a good job of covering her tracks, therefore with some good investigative work, a good lawyer and his investigators may be able to dig up some dirt that can possibly catch her out. You may not get your money back but there is still a chance that you could get your son (this is the most important aspect) and possibly an agreement on the property (either you win it outright or it gets sold and proceeds split). I realise that at this point she has probably bled you dry but if you do decided to go the way of a lawyer, don't go cheap. Get a shark. She and her family are counting on you being a weak foreigner without local knowledge. Beat her at her own game.

[ford8]

Like the blind man said to Vinnie Harold in "The Fastest Gun in The West"...."There's ALWAYS someone faster", . No matter how desperate/tragic our own situation, on Thaivisa, there's ALWAYS someone worse off.

Edited October 6, 2014 by ford8