Farang Married / GF Thai ask where you go?

[DJ54]

When I ask my wife where she is going she says friends. never will say where. I always answer where and who if asked. 

Do you see this as a norm? We’ve been married 1 year 

[juehoe]

Thai women have a lot of friends. It is not a general sign to worry. Does your wife use Facebook? Normally they will post a lot of photos of these events. You can also ask to invite these friends at your home?

[Justfine]

Sounds highly suss. Which friends? What are there names?

 

 

[colinneil]

OP take a chill pill, you are overreacting, keep calm or it will become a big issue.

Many Thai ladies have many friends, give your wife a bit of space, please.

If you dont ,it could lead to problems.

[Justfine]

Or 3 other farang boyfriends paying her :-)

[MaeJoMTB]

Go out and see your friends too.

And when she asks ....... give the same reply.

 

What times does she visit her friends?

10am? 10pm?

[Gecko123]

Never says where she's going?   Highly suspicious in my mind. Especially if these friends never visit her at your home. Most Thai husbands wouldn't tolerate their wives disappearing for long periods of time and not knowing where they were, who they were with, and what they are doing. Gambling, closely followed by infidelity, would be at the top of my list of concerns. Gambling, (and what comes with having and hiding gambling debts) can quickly ruin a marriage. Need to find out names and places. Would venture to say that hanging out with "friends" for long periods of time unless it is for card playing (likely involving gambling and drinking as well) is not particularly normal Thai female behavior. Most working age people don't have that kind of spare time because they need to work. Maybe your wife needs to find a job. Not a control freak in the least, just been watching the river roll by for a while.

[Justfine]

25 minutes ago, Gecko123 said:

Never says where she's going?   Highly suspicious in my mind. Especially if these friends never visit her at your home. Most Thai husbands wouldn't tolerate their wives disappearing for long periods of time and not knowing where they were, who they were with, and what they are doing. Gambling, closely followed by infidelity, would be at the top of my list of concerns. Gambling, (and what comes with having and hiding gambling debts) can quickly ruin a marriage. Need to find out names and places. Would venture to say that hanging out with "friends" for long periods of time unless it is for card playing (likely involving gambling and drinking as well) is not particularly normal Thai female behavior. Most working age people don't have that kind of spare time because they need to work. Maybe your wife needs to find a job. Not a control freak in the least, just been watching the river roll by for a while.

Stop making sense. The forum can't deal with it.

[Justfine]

Strange that you are married and don't actually know her very well.

 

Simple solution. You ask can I come? If she says no it's suss.

 

 

[petermik]

9 hours ago, colinneil said:

OP take a chill pill, you are overreacting, keep calm or it will become a big issue.

Many Thai ladies have many friends, give your wife a bit of space, please.

If you dont ,it could lead to problems.

I wish my better half would bugger off to visit"friends" sometimes and give me a bit of peace...........

 

p.s. on a more serious note if the OP cannot trust his wife he is on a downward spiral unfortunately......if she,s messing about don,t worry...there are plenty here who will be only too willing to step into her shoes

[Justfine]

16 minutes ago, petermik said:

I wish my better half would bugger off to visit"friends" sometimes and give me a bit of peace...........

 

p.s. on a more serious note if the OP cannot trust his wife he is on a downward spiral unfortunately......if she,s messing about don,t worry...there are plenty here who will be only too willing to step into her shoes

He doesn't even know who her friends are or what she does everyday.

[Gracas]

Many Thai ladies find it hard to tell their husband that they are going to visit (service) their other husband, so they won't give too many details.

[Justfine]

3 minutes ago, Gracas said:

Many Thai ladies find it hard to tell their husband that they are going to visit (service) their other husband, so they won't give too many details.

555

[DJ54]

Thanks all! She has FB but she won’t “Friend”me. Enjoy the day

[Andyfez]

Quite normal!

'I go see my friend 'is normal talk. I ALWAYS have to further the discussion to ask who and where. It's never volunteered.

Also on the phone - the whole village is full of aunts and uncles, and it's difficult to explain which one shes chatting to on the phone.

No problem.

[ChangMaiSausage]

I take it your living in Thailand?

 

Playing cards could be a good guess.

 

What time of the day does she disappear?

 

Does she come home smelling of booze / jumps in the shower / jumps on you?

 

[yankee99]

best thing in the world ...dont ask where shes going and hopefully she wont ask where your going. In the west i hat3d those check phone calls "where are you, who you with and when are you coming home"

[cms22]

Agree with comment above.... Gambling. (Speaking from experience)

[montereyjp]

3 hours ago, DJ54 said:

Thanks all! She has FB but she won’t “Friend”me. Enjoy the day

You are married and she will not share her Facebook life with you? Does not sound good.

[Pungdo]

My wife doesn't even say she is going half the time, just jumps on her bike and leaves, doesn't even bother closing the gate, but then again she was born in a tent and doesn't close anything 555

 

[dotpoom]

You just do same as she?

[kwak250]

My girlfriend keeps saying the same thing when i ask her hope shes not your wife?

Is she short with long black hair?

[jossthaifarang]

4 hours ago, DJ54 said:

Thanks all! She has FB but she won’t “Friend”me. Enjoy the day

Definitely a red flag there mate, I would be concerned. At first I thought nothing of it, but no Facebook you have a potential problem.

 

Just out of interest, since you are putting yourself out there on TV, how old is she and how old are you? That would be the best way of knowing if there is anything going (potentially)

[jobwolf]

You just stay away for a day or 2 and see what she got to say. Just tell her I don't know yet when you leave,

 

[Justfine]

11 minutes ago, kwak250 said:

My girlfriend keeps saying the same thing when i ask her hope shes not your wife?

Is she short with long black hair?

Wouldnt that be funny

[thaibeachlovers]

4 hours ago, DJ54 said:

Thanks all! She has FB but she won’t “Friend”me. Enjoy the day

You do have a problem. 

Ask her to bring them to your house instead of her going to their's all the time.

If she refuses, you can either accept that you may be getting cuckolded, or hire a PI to follow her.

Either way, don't invest in anything expensive and hide your money.

 

Don't start fighting with her as you'll never win.

If she is playing away don't expect her to tell you the truth. She'll lie.

 

Sorry for your situation. Many of us have been there already.

[HLover]

I answer her in Pig Latin and sport a smile then wave bye bye.

Problem solved, your welcome.

[masterpasser]

Buy a tracker -Can hide inside her bag or whatever.

Can follow locations on your mobile phone.

Get the evidence first , then plan a response.

[Justfine]

1 minute ago, masterpasser said:

Buy a tracker -Can hide inside her bag or whatever.

Can follow locations on your mobile phone.

Get the evidence first , then plan a response.

How much are they?

[Juan B Tong]

Yes.  I know.

She never tells me when she's coming over!