Advice on dating Thai girls

[IrishBhoy]

Hi , New to this forum. Yes i already know money number one but here is my scenario.

I don't particularly like Pattaya as i find it seedy in some places.

I have been to Thailand 5 times in less than 3 years. Was going out with a girl who was good fun but a bit mental, well actually really mental when drunk(she was 9 months older than me). Brought her all over Thailand(5 times) and Vietnam and brought her and her family to BKK and Pattaya 2 times. I never visited her family home(Chaiyaphum) as she has no hot water and it's quite rural and felt i would feel uncomfortable with most of them not speaking english.

 

We would skype or facetime for hours many times a day so i knew she was in her home and not 'working'.

 

I had a job offer in Pattaya to work in an office but decided against it after she started going a bit mad at me because i wouldn't be on the same money as i am in Ireland. That is true but the cost of living would be much cheaper and obviously the weather much warmer.

 

Anyway i plan on going back to Thailand soon and looking for places to go to meet people, people who have a 'proper' career so to speak. I've never been to a go go bar as i find them demeaning.

Pattaya is just so close to BKK so it's not a long journey after a long flight. 

I am basically looking to meet someone respectful, my ex was always just complaining about me booking nice hotels and flights to the islands and also Vietnam.

Obviously i paid for everything but she would have prefered me to keep the money for her family. She didn't understand that sometimes i need a holiday too.

Anyway the job offer is still open but i would like to meet someone first when i come for a holiday soon and then really decide if i will take the job.

 

Sorry for the long  post but there is just so much conflicting information online.

[Pravda]

How did you manage to get the office job?

[steven100]

What is the temperature in Ireland at this time.

[tabarin]

Lol that must be an interesting office job.

It is plain simple; do not look for them in the bar life and be really patient as a good one generally won't do such things that fast. 
Be yourself, pretend to live a life on a modest budget and do not make things better than they are, leave any girl who expects or hopes different.

Personally I would also avoid girls that were in a relationship with another foreigner before you, could be a benefit but that would be lucky.

Edited April 19, 2019 by tabarin

[IrishBhoy]

2 hours ago, steven100 said:

What is the temperature in Ireland at this time.

19c

 

2 hours ago, Pravda said:

How did you manage to get the office job?

Online, Skype Interview with a uk company.

[IrishBhoy]

13 hours ago, tabarin said:

Lol that must be an interesting office job.

It is plain simple; do not look for them in the bar life and be really patient as a good one generally won't do such things that fast. 
Be yourself, pretend to live a life on a modest budget and do not make things better than they are, leave any girl who expects or hopes different.

Personally I would also avoid girls that were in a relationship with another foreigner before you, could be a benefit but that would be lucky.

Well it's not central Pattaya. Money is good too in Thai terms.

You meet good ones and bad ones and mental ones like i did lol.

She threatened to kill me after i cancelled her Visa to come to Ireland. I went back over and i am still alive ???? She's 

บ้า B̂ā

[RobMuir]

There are many huge factory areas within a two hour radius of Bangkok and Pattaya.

Samut Prakan, Samut Sakorn, Donhua loh area in Chonburi, Amata city in Rayong all have literally tens of thousands of single girls under thirty.

It is amazing and you will rarely see other farangs. 

 

They are factory workers but a lot of them are in admin etc. I have even scored a few engineers, senior managers etc over the years. 

It really is like shooting fish in a barrel as soon as you get your game plan sorted. 

 

It is very possible to have three or four on the go. Many work the night shift, some work weekends and get a weekday off.

Get yourself a “dumb” phone if you want to play the field. A smartphone will bring you undone. This is important.

 

Also tell them you have contract work which will give you freedom to tell them you are busy and give you an excuse for not answering your dumb phone. Don’t join LINE etc.

I can’t remember exactly how many I have scored in the last nine years this way but it is well over 200.

All the factories have a different uniform. Get to know the uniforms as you won’t remember all of their friends you will meet, and it helps you spot people who might see you and give you up. You have to be aware that you will stand out like dogs balls being the only farang.  Most of the factories are Japanese owned but occasionally you will see a few farangs who work for farang companies.

 

They mostly go out straight from work in their uniforms and don’t go home to get changed first (too much traffic at peak times in these areas)

 

 

This is where you want to hunt. Even girls with real jobs in Pattaya, Phuket etc are generally spoiled and know too much about our bad sides. 

 

The upside with most of these factory girls is they are living away from their home villages, so away from prying eyes, families and neighbor gossip, so they are a lot easier.

 

 These factory areas have a great nightlife scene as they are full of young people who work and therefore have money to go out. Many are also quite lonely and bored if they haven’t made work mates yet. A steady stream of newbies arriving daily. Women generally outnumber the men two or three to one in these areas.

 

If you are in a pub, I suggest not approaching girls with males in the group. I never had much success this way, you end up wasting time speaking to the males and the girls just seem harder when males are around. They are more likely to slut about if in a group of girls.

 

Many have studied English to a certain degree and will enjoy showing off a bit talking English with you. Probably best to meet them on ThaiFriendly etc until you improve your game strategy.

 

Dont pressure them for sex on the first night. Don’t even expect to stay with them on the first night. They will end up chasing you this way.

If you end up staying in the same house, but In different rooms, act the gentleman and say goodnight. Then mention that you thought you saw a ghost there previously and it is very likely they will get scared after an hour or two and actually ask if they can sleep next to you.  

 

Best of luck, if you follow my advice you really won’t believe how much quantity and quality you will get. It is unbelievable.

Don’t do the bar sluts in Tourist areas.

[AlexCanada]

If you want to meet 'proper' girls you're much better off going to Bangkok than Pattaya.  

[PatOngo]

Batman has some advise.

[ajarnmarc]

On 4/19/2019 at 10:00 PM, RobMuir said:

There are many huge factory areas within a two hour radius of Bangkok and Pattaya.

Samut Prakan, Samut Sakorn, Donhua loh area in Chonburi, Amata city in Rayong all have literally tens of thousands of single girls under thirty.

It is amazing and you will rarely see other farangs. 

 

They are factory workers but a lot of them are in admin etc. I have even scored a few engineers, senior managers etc over the years. 

It really is like shooting fish in a barrel as soon as you get your game plan sorted. 

 

It is very possible to have three or four on the go. Many work the night shift, some work weekends and get a weekday off.

Get yourself a “dumb” phone if you want to play the field. A smartphone will bring you undone. This is important.

 

Also tell them you have contract work which will give you freedom to tell them you are busy and give you an excuse for not answering your dumb phone. Don’t join LINE etc.

I can’t remember exactly how many I have scored in the last nine years this way but it is well over 200.

All the factories have a different uniform. Get to know the uniforms as you won’t remember all of their friends you will meet, and it helps you spot people who might see you and give you up. You have to be aware that you will stand out like dogs balls being the only farang.  Most of the factories are Japanese owned but occasionally you will see a few farangs who work for farang companies.

 

They mostly go out straight from work in their uniforms and don’t go home to get changed first (too much traffic at peak times in these areas)

 

 

This is where you want to hunt. Even girls with real jobs in Pattaya, Phuket etc are generally spoiled and know too much about our bad sides. 

 

The upside with most of these factory girls is they are living away from their home villages, so away from prying eyes, families and neighbor gossip, so they are a lot easier.

 

 These factory areas have a great nightlife scene as they are full of young people who work and therefore have money to go out. Many are also quite lonely and bored if they haven’t made work mates yet. A steady stream of newbies arriving daily. Women generally outnumber the men two or three to one in these areas.

 

If you are in a pub, I suggest not approaching girls with males in the group. I never had much success this way, you end up wasting time speaking to the males and the girls just seem harder when males are around. They are more likely to slut about if in a group of girls.

 

Many have studied English to a certain degree and will enjoy showing off a bit talking English with you. Probably best to meet them on ThaiFriendly etc until you improve your game strategy.

 

Dont pressure them for sex on the first night. Don’t even expect to stay with them on the first night. They will end up chasing you this way.

If you end up staying in the same house, but In different rooms, act the gentleman and say goodnight. Then mention that you thought you saw a ghost there previously and it is very likely they will get scared after an hour or two and actually ask if they can sleep next to you.  

 

Best of luck, if you follow my advice you really won’t believe how much quantity and quality you will get. It is unbelievable.

Don’t do the bar sluts in Tourist areas. 

Great advice. 

Do you have a factory location you prefer over others?

What was the rent cost in these areas, do you remember?

If you have time, can you please PM me, 

as I'm very interested in relocating, 

after a 14 year failed relationship to a Thai lady.

[kingstonkid]

OP I am sure there are "good" girls in Pattaya, (I have not met many but I am sure they are there lol)

The best advice that I could offer is what has been said.

 

Take the job if you want. Come here and lead a normal life like you would in Ireland.  Stay away from the tourist areas Once you are working I am sure tht at least ne of the thai ladies in the company will want to introduce you to a friend lOL

enjoy but keep your finances your business and no one else.

 

[Hayduke]

Advice on dating Thai girls

 

Never forget that every woman in Thailand...every single one...was raised to think that Thai men are 'normal'.

 

 

Edited April 20, 2019 by Hayduke

[atyclb]

"Advice on dating Thai girls"

 

 

don't

Edited April 20, 2019 by atyclb

[RobMuir]

27 minutes ago, ajarnmarc said:

Great advice. 

Do you have a factory location you prefer over others?

What was the rent cost in these areas, do you remember?

If you have time, can you please PM me, 

as I'm very interested in relocating, 

after a 14 year failed relationship to a Thai lady.

Probably if I had to pick one in would be Amata Nakorn which is in Mueang Chonburi. The main drag is Don Hua Lo. 

I rented a brand new condo with a kitchen in a block that had a gym and a massive swimming pool for 7,500 per month. Average room with air are 3,500ish.

 

The nightlife there is awesome. Many, many pubs and also a big pub area with a massive car park in the middle and surrounded by about 20 pubs and restaurants, most with live, not too loud music.

 

The only downside is while the nights are great there, the days are hot and dull, not much to do unless you have set up a date with a night shift worker. A new Robinsons just opened so that gives a bit of relief.

While it technically is in Chonburi city district the city is about a 15 minute drive away. 

 

If you stay in Pattaya it is only a 45 minute drive up the motor way and you will also be within easy 40 minute range of the Amata City Rayong industrial area which is another large area with easy pickings. Being this distance away means more driving, but the upside is it is too far for them to pop in unexpectedly if you are playing the field. A few have cars, a lot have motorbikes, and many get picked up by their company vans. 

 

Do not tell them you live in Pattaya. They will suspect you are a dirty sexpat with a whore infested dick. Tell them Nongprue, or Banglamung. You won’t be lying, but most of them are geographically challenged so won’t make the link.

 

if you go closer to bkk, the two Samuts are good, but a bit of a traffic nightmare. 

 

You wont believe it until you see it. Take your time at the start, it will build up. Clean shaven and lose some weight if you need to. Don’t be pushy and smile a lot.

Good luck. 

[atyclb]

16 hours ago, RobMuir said:

If you end up staying in the same house, but In different rooms, act the gentleman and say goodnight.

 

i took your advice and did this. subsequently i called her but she didn't want to meet saying she knows i am gay and like to hang out with girls.

[Small Joke]

17 hours ago, IrishBhoy said:

Well it's not central Pattaya. Money is good too in Thai terms.

You meet good ones and bad ones and mental ones like i did lol.

She threatened to kill me after i cancelled her Visa to come to Ireland. I went back over and i am still alive ???? She's 

บ้า B̂ā

You dodged a bullet, and I don't mean the death threat. 

 

She's not 'crazy' she's a conniving little cow, that would quite possibly see you dead for the right money.

 

Yes it happens, you can be fed to the jungle ants for less than ten grand THB. She'd be nabbed within 48 hours (because they're cunning, but morons) but you'd be dead.

 

All Thais, good or bad, value family (theirs) above everything. They will go so far as mitigating a politician or high ranking officer for the worst excesses if it's known they 'take care their family'.

 

When you marry any Asian girl you marry the family. I should know, been there with both Korean and Chinese, now keeping my divorced status until I die.

 

Also never be worth more to them dead than alive, too cynical? Google Alan Hogg.

[atyclb]

8 minutes ago, RobMuir said:

Do not tell them you live in Pattaya. They will suspect you are a dirty sexpat with a whore infested dick.

 

 

only if you are a rhodes scolar, scholar from pattaya 2nd and 3rd rhoads

[RobMuir]

1 minute ago, atyclb said:

 

i took your advice and did this. subsequently i called her but she didn't want to meet saying she knows i am gay and like to hang out with girls.

If she thinks you are gay you can use that to your advantage.

[atyclb]

4 minutes ago, RobMuir said:

If she thinks you are gay you can use that to your advantage.

 

 

hows that, she wont see me again and told me to find a boyfriend

[Vacuum]

20 hours ago, IrishBhoy said:

I had a job offer in Pattaya to work in an office but decided against it after she started going a bit mad at me because i wouldn't be on the same money as i am in Ireland. That is true but the cost of living would be much cheaper

Believe me, it won't be.

[SteveMack]

To IrishBuoy, If she talks Violence, drinks a lot, ( sounds like Big Trouble ) I would,nt go there, there are many many Beautiful/attractive Humble girls in Thailand, Just take your time, and dont drink too much when you meet them, Best of Luck, Slainte.

[Thaidream]

23 hours ago, IrishBhoy said:

Sorry for the long  post but there is just so much conflicting information online.

If you currently have a very good job in Ireland, do not quit it and come to Thailand  and work in Thailand for lower wages.  In Irelande, you are building a career; you are getting credit for retirement; and you could move up the corporate ladder.

 

During vacation- come to Thailand and enjoy yourself for a few weeks.  Forget about coming now looking for Thai women.  They will always be here and they will always need money for themselves and their families. The problem is- you won't have enough money when it's time to retire.  

Don't try to live the dream now- most of the time it ends in a nightmare.

Edited April 20, 2019 by Thaidream

[MadMuhammad]

5 hours ago, kingstonkid said:

OP I am sure there are "good" girls in Pattaya, (I have not met many but I am sure they are there lol)

The best advice that I could offer is what has been said.

 

Take the job if you want. Come here and lead a normal life like you would in Ireland.  Stay away from the tourist areas Once you are working I am sure tht at least ne of the thai ladies in the company will want to introduce you to a friend lOL

enjoy but keep your finances your business and no one else.

 

There is one good girl in Pattaya I know of, mine 555. But I had to drag her here from BKK ????

[Ozybear]

On 4/19/2019 at 10:00 PM, RobMuir said:

There are many huge factory areas within a two hour radius of Bangkok and Pattaya.

Samut Prakan, Samut Sakorn, Donhua loh area in Chonburi, Amata city in Rayong all have literally tens of thousands of single girls under thirty.

It is amazing and you will rarely see other farangs. 

 

They are factory workers but a lot of them are in admin etc. I have even scored a few engineers, senior managers etc over the years. 

It really is like shooting fish in a barrel as soon as you get your game plan sorted. 

 

It is very possible to have three or four on the go. Many work the night shift, some work weekends and get a weekday off.

Get yourself a “dumb” phone if you want to play the field. A smartphone will bring you undone. This is important.

 

Also tell them you have contract work which will give you freedom to tell them you are busy and give you an excuse for not answering your dumb phone. Don’t join LINE etc.

I can’t remember exactly how many I have scored in the last nine years this way but it is well over 200.

All the factories have a different uniform. Get to know the uniforms as you won’t remember all of their friends you will meet, and it helps you spot people who might see you and give you up. You have to be aware that you will stand out like dogs balls being the only farang.  Most of the factories are Japanese owned but occasionally you will see a few farangs who work for farang companies.

 

They mostly go out straight from work in their uniforms and don’t go home to get changed first (too much traffic at peak times in these areas)

 

 

This is where you want to hunt. Even girls with real jobs in Pattaya, Phuket etc are generally spoiled and know too much about our bad sides. 

 

The upside with most of these factory girls is they are living away from their home villages, so away from prying eyes, families and neighbor gossip, so they are a lot easier.

 

 These factory areas have a great nightlife scene as they are full of young people who work and therefore have money to go out. Many are also quite lonely and bored if they haven’t made work mates yet. A steady stream of newbies arriving daily. Women generally outnumber the men two or three to one in these areas.

 

If you are in a pub, I suggest not approaching girls with males in the group. I never had much success this way, you end up wasting time speaking to the males and the girls just seem harder when males are around. They are more likely to slut about if in a group of girls.

 

Many have studied English to a certain degree and will enjoy showing off a bit talking English with you. Probably best to meet them on ThaiFriendly etc until you improve your game strategy.

 

Dont pressure them for sex on the first night. Don’t even expect to stay with them on the first night. They will end up chasing you this way.

If you end up staying in the same house, but In different rooms, act the gentleman and say goodnight. Then mention that you thought you saw a ghost there previously and it is very likely they will get scared after an hour or two and actually ask if they can sleep next to you.  

 

Best of luck, if you follow my advice you really won’t believe how much quantity and quality you will get. It is unbelievable.

Don’t do the bar sluts in Tourist areas. 

great read

 

[Mukdahanman]

On 4/19/2019 at 10:00 PM, RobMuir said:

There are many huge factory areas within a two hour radius of Bangkok and Pattaya.

Samut Prakan, Samut Sakorn, Donhua loh area in Chonburi, Amata city in Rayong all have literally tens of thousands of single girls under thirty.

It is amazing and you will rarely see other farangs. 

 

They are factory workers but a lot of them are in admin etc. I have even scored a few engineers, senior managers etc over the years. 

It really is like shooting fish in a barrel as soon as you get your game plan sorted. 

 

It is very possible to have three or four on the go. Many work the night shift, some work weekends and get a weekday off.

Get yourself a “dumb” phone if you want to play the field. A smartphone will bring you undone. This is important.

 

Also tell them you have contract work which will give you freedom to tell them you are busy and give you an excuse for not answering your dumb phone. Don’t join LINE etc.

I can’t remember exactly how many I have scored in the last nine years this way but it is well over 200.

All the factories have a different uniform. Get to know the uniforms as you won’t remember all of their friends you will meet, and it helps you spot people who might see you and give you up. You have to be aware that you will stand out like dogs balls being the only farang.  Most of the factories are Japanese owned but occasionally you will see a few farangs who work for farang companies.

 

They mostly go out straight from work in their uniforms and don’t go home to get changed first (too much traffic at peak times in these areas)

 

 

This is where you want to hunt. Even girls with real jobs in Pattaya, Phuket etc are generally spoiled and know too much about our bad sides. 

 

The upside with most of these factory girls is they are living away from their home villages, so away from prying eyes, families and neighbor gossip, so they are a lot easier.

 

 These factory areas have a great nightlife scene as they are full of young people who work and therefore have money to go out. Many are also quite lonely and bored if they haven’t made work mates yet. A steady stream of newbies arriving daily. Women generally outnumber the men two or three to one in these areas.

 

If you are in a pub, I suggest not approaching girls with males in the group. I never had much success this way, you end up wasting time speaking to the males and the girls just seem harder when males are around. They are more likely to slut about if in a group of girls.

 

Many have studied English to a certain degree and will enjoy showing off a bit talking English with you. Probably best to meet them on ThaiFriendly etc until you improve your game strategy.

 

Dont pressure them for sex on the first night. Don’t even expect to stay with them on the first night. They will end up chasing you this way.

If you end up staying in the same house, but In different rooms, act the gentleman and say goodnight. Then mention that you thought you saw a ghost there previously and it is very likely they will get scared after an hour or two and actually ask if they can sleep next to you.  

 

Best of luck, if you follow my advice you really won’t believe how much quantity and quality you will get. It is unbelievable.

Don’t do the bar sluts in Tourist areas.

Highly informative post, I bet you could write a lot more ????

[baansgr]

Sound advice,  don't date them 

[RobMuir]

26 minutes ago, Ozybear said:

great read

 

 

16 minutes ago, Mukdahanman said:

Highly informative post, I bet you could write a lot more ????

 

I can not describe how amazing it is in these areas. Best time of my life. Makes you want to live for a thousand years.

 

Also the food at these pubs is the best I have ever had. They are all trying to outdo each other. Instead of the standard thai food, which I like anyway, a lot of them make up their own special dishes. 

 

And a lot of the pubs have “pretties” serving the drinks obviously to attract the thousands of male workers. Back in Oz the female customers would be intimidated by this and be uptight so it doesn’t happen, but the thai women don’t think anything of it, and will often admire their beauty.

 

Great food, live music, cute, often stunning women everywhere and table service by pretties!!!

Back in Oz, queue up for your heavily taxed, overpriced beer, wait for your change, and usually a bunch of old blokes sitting around watching horse races or playing pokies. 

 

 

[Quack]

On 4/19/2019 at 10:00 PM, RobMuir said:

There are many huge factory areas within a two hour radius of Bangkok and Pattaya.

Samut Prakan, Samut Sakorn, Donhua loh area in Chonburi, Amata city in Rayong all have literally tens of thousands of single girls under thirty.

It is amazing and you will rarely see other farangs. 

 

They are factory workers but a lot of them are in admin etc. I have even scored a few engineers, senior managers etc over the years. 

It really is like shooting fish in a barrel as soon as you get your game plan sorted. 

 

It is very possible to have three or four on the go. Many work the night shift, some work weekends and get a weekday off.

Get yourself a “dumb” phone if you want to play the field. A smartphone will bring you undone. This is important.

 

Also tell them you have contract work which will give you freedom to tell them you are busy and give you an excuse for not answering your dumb phone. Don’t join LINE etc.

I can’t remember exactly how many I have scored in the last nine years this way but it is well over 200.

All the factories have a different uniform. Get to know the uniforms as you won’t remember all of their friends you will meet, and it helps you spot people who might see you and give you up. You have to be aware that you will stand out like dogs balls being the only farang.  Most of the factories are Japanese owned but occasionally you will see a few farangs who work for farang companies.

 

They mostly go out straight from work in their uniforms and don’t go home to get changed first (too much traffic at peak times in these areas)

 

 

This is where you want to hunt. Even girls with real jobs in Pattaya, Phuket etc are generally spoiled and know too much about our bad sides. 

 

The upside with most of these factory girls is they are living away from their home villages, so away from prying eyes, families and neighbor gossip, so they are a lot easier.

 

 These factory areas have a great nightlife scene as they are full of young people who work and therefore have money to go out. Many are also quite lonely and bored if they haven’t made work mates yet. A steady stream of newbies arriving daily. Women generally outnumber the men two or three to one in these areas.

 

If you are in a pub, I suggest not approaching girls with males in the group. I never had much success this way, you end up wasting time speaking to the males and the girls just seem harder when males are around. They are more likely to slut about if in a group of girls.

 

Many have studied English to a certain degree and will enjoy showing off a bit talking English with you. Probably best to meet them on ThaiFriendly etc until you improve your game strategy.

 

Dont pressure them for sex on the first night. Don’t even expect to stay with them on the first night. They will end up chasing you this way.

If you end up staying in the same house, but In different rooms, act the gentleman and say goodnight. Then mention that you thought you saw a ghost there previously and it is very likely they will get scared after an hour or two and actually ask if they can sleep next to you.  

 

Best of luck, if you follow my advice you really won’t believe how much quantity and quality you will get. It is unbelievable.

Don’t do the bar sluts in Tourist areas. 

You remind me of my younger days, you have it completely sussed as did I. As you say, it is unbelievable how many stunning girls just want to be with you.

 

Besides the places you mentioned, any large university is just as good assuming you're young-ish. When I first moved here I taught at a school close to Ramkhamhaeng University and I'd just go to its massive food hall for lunch every day. They have those long benches and tables so it was easy to sit close to anyone I picked and just start a conversation. I'd get a new girl's number at least 3 - 4 times a week

 

A good strategy definitely helps!

[CharlieH]

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[Destiny1990]

What’s ur rush and fixation about relationships??

Lots of miserable guys here on tvf are into a relationship. They have to ask permission for every little thing surely they would love to trade places with u enjoying being single and carefree.

Edited April 20, 2019 by Destiny1990