11 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

But it seems he is proud to be together with a career woman - independent of all her other "qualities".

 

I won't push my moral values, but it isn't even about being proud. It was a simple math which I thought the life would be easier with  someone who (and their family) doesn't really need outside money to be happy and survive. You should see the life in her village. They have so much land, yet older generation including her parents are very happy with their simple lives. Only the new generation that are recently married are building 3-5 mil baht mansions which are much nicer than anything I saw (well at least from the pictures here) that Westerners built for their Isaan wives. And yes.... they pay sinsod between Thais. 1 Million baht is the norm, but it is all returned to the couple. I envy their life and I know that she will not miss me one bit because she has her family and support and thousands of friends. Yep, we as Westerners really suck at life I think.... that's why we are here and not back where we belong.

 

Anyway, even though she barely spoke to me last night I think she is getting calmer. I observed her enough in the past 5 years, so I know she is calming down. Maybe I will get my papers signed and that will be that.

If it were me then based on what she said to you I would leave.

Those 4 years wasted are your years, not hers. She deserves nothing from you after comments like that.

 

Move on, be happy, find someone who values you for who you are, not for what somebody wants to gain from you.

3 hours ago, Olmate said:

That’s not cheap 

2k peso = approximately 27 pounds, or 1,200bht.

2 hours ago, Pravda said:

It was a simple math which I thought the life would be easier with  someone who (and their family) doesn't really need outside money to be happy and survive.

A fairly basic mistake, if she doesn't need you to survive, she won't be as compliant and cooperative.

Women who are desperate for money have far fewer choices.

 

If my girlfriend stopped having sex with me, I would just choose a new girlfriend and more importantly she knows that. It's not as if there is any lack of young, slim, attractive and available women in most Asian countries.

24 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

A fairly basic mistake, if she doesn't need you to survive, she won't be as compliant and cooperative.

Women who are desperate for money have far fewer choices.

 

If my girlfriend stopped having sex with me, I would just choose a new girlfriend and more importantly she knows that. It's not as if there is any lack of young, slim, attractive and available women in most Asian countries.

Judging by what I see in my  village  they've  all  turned into lard buckets  hanging over the sides of their  long  suffering motorbikes.

7 minutes ago, gunderhill said:

Judging by what I see in my  village  they've  all  turned into lard buckets  hanging over the sides of their  long  suffering motorbikes.

That's why they're in the village.

6 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

That's why they're in the village.

Your village.  Mine's fine.????

On ‎4‎/‎22‎/‎2019 at 1:35 PM, Pravda said:

watching the world (girls) go by it's a depressing thought going back

Why do you want to go back?

I read a couple of your posts but I read only negative things about your wife - written by you.

 

The only positive thing I read, and we can argue if that is positive, is that she is a carrier woman.

You didn't mention that you love her or enjoy time with her or she is such a good cook or lover or whatever...

On 4/22/2019 at 2:24 PM, NightSky said:

Hmm, Im not sure..

 

You say you dont help with monthly finances and so you're wife calls you a 'cheap Charley' and its also the way you use the language 'banging whores' which leaves me thinking that to see the problem...

 

..you should maybe look at yourself first.

it is amazing what some people see when they look in the mirror.   I think it is very very different than what others see when viewing them.   For a sample group I chose a few posters on TV that have "views" of themselves far different than what I see.  ????????.    But I am aware that they would say the same about me.

Would like to know what Pravda sees when he takes a look at himself.   the post is getting stale 

 

4 hours ago, Aussieroaming said:

 

Move on, be happy, find someone who values you for who you are

we are making assumptions again ......... we do not know just how much "value" there is in khun pravda.

would like to hear from him on that matter

2 hours ago, BritManToo said:

If my girlfriend stopped having sex with me, I would just choose a new girlfriend and more importantly she knows that

i hope you do it with your eyes open ,   Could be she's scrolling through FB while you're doing your 

push ups

11 minutes ago, rumak said:

i hope you do it with your eyes open ,   Could be she's scrolling through FB while you're doing your 

push ups

It wouldn't do her any good, she can't read English.

And she knows she's with me just for sex (and some child care).

18 minutes ago, rumak said:

we are making assumptions again ......... we do not know just how much "value" there is in khun pravda.

would like to hear from him on that matter

 

How can I give value to myself?

 

Go on. Give me an example.

 

And it's not Khun Pravda it's Tovarisch Pravda.

7 hours ago, BritManToo said:

I was told that by a Flip bar girl, although I never gave more than 2k.

 

There's also the 2-2-2.

2 hours ago, Pravda said:

 

How can I give value to myself?

 

Go on. Give me an example.

 

And it's not Khun Pravda it's Tovarisch Pravda.

I think I can understand your wife's feelings after reading your posts.  One quote of yours "Yep, we as Westerners really suck at life I think."  is quite telling.   I think it would be more appropriate if you said " I, Tovarisch, suck at life".    To think that WE all suck at it as well is quite demeaning, and maybe how you talk with your wife.   I hear misery loves company,  but I won't be coming to that party.

32 minutes ago, rumak said:

I think I can understand your wife's feelings after reading your posts.  One quote of yours "Yep, we as Westerners really suck at life I think."  is quite telling.   I think it would be more appropriate if you said " I, Tovarisch, suck at life".    To think that WE all suck at it as well is quite demeaning, and maybe how you talk with your wife.   I hear misery loves company,  but I won't be coming to that party.

1-1-1

If you need a lawyer ?, here’s one I recommend . [emoji51]

3 hours ago, Pravda said:

1-1-1

Naw..you haven't bit the dust.You haven't even sucked on the saveloy..

If you have to pay a monthly "salary" I would also leave. Where did you meet her?  In a bar? 

 

6 hours ago, balo said:

If you have to pay a monthly "salary" I would also leave. Where did you meet her?  In a bar? 

 

 

Who? Me?

20 hours ago, BritManToo said:

2k peso = approximately 27 pounds, or 1,200bht.

Average for Patong

Marriage, and relationships in general are always a bit of a crap shoot.

 

With Thai women, I have learnt to live with the screaming and the histrionics.

 

The older I get I just have got use to phasing it out.

 

I think my wife, God Bless her has told me to get lost multiple times in the last ten years, yet the next morning it's like nothing has happened!

 

Go Figure!

43 minutes ago, GinBoy2 said:

Marriage, and relationships in general are always a bit of a crap shoot.

 

With Thai women, I have learnt to live with the screaming and the histrionics.

 

The older I get I just have got use to phasing it out.

 

I think my wife, God Bless her has told me to get lost multiple times in the last ten years, yet the next morning it's like nothing has happened!

 

Go Figure!

 

3 mornings. She still pissed.

Well, the thread is dead, but I did get papers signed.

 

Off to Savannakhet tomorrow.

Well, the thread is dead, but I did get papers signed.
 
Off to Savannakhet tomorrow.

Coming straight back or gonna take a few days till the dust settles ?

On 4/22/2019 at 4:37 PM, from the home of CC said:

i dunno but if it was me that was facing big changes in my life, this would be the last place I would look for clarification...

 

So you're saying you're NOT a masochist?

 

39 minutes ago, Andrew Dwyer said:

Coming straight back or gonna take a few days till the dust settles ?

 

I'm taking a visa run company recommend here, so I can't stay long. I wouldn't know what to do in savannakhet anyway. Staying a week in Vientiane would not be a problem, but no 1 year Visa.

On 4/23/2019 at 12:35 PM, Pravda said:

 

If I did I'd feel like even bigger idiot now.

 

Here's a good question.

 

Her parents built us small house after we got married. Yes, they paid for it. Do I have any claim to this asset? Maybe I should make the divorce interesting a bit and lawyer up?

If it's in her name and you didn't sign the paper at the land office that states it was all her money. Then yes you have a claim of 50% of the sale value of that asset, you would even get 50% of the land in your name which you can hold legally as a foreigner for up to 12 months.

Those 12 months you have time to search for a buyer.

 

i know of farrang that emptied their wifes family assets, company etc. on a divorce in thailand, well deserved in those cases tho (wife cheating).

Just leave, you will never win  any Mind games with Thai women, They just dont care , diffrent culture they live in the Now dont think about the future or past. best of luck 

I'd go back through your posts and see if they identified a man who really disliked all things Thai and the answer might be there. 

Look see it’s the one who thinks he knows about Wine and any criticism of a Thai is “thai bashing “! sad individual

 

 

Sent from my iPhone using Thailand Forum - Thaivisa mobile app