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If I were to start again with a Thai lady, I would take note of times she goes to the temple each month. I find that after a temple visit she are particularly evil. Virtually all my darkest times have been when she has recently gone to temple.

 

It's not been all doom and gloom however. There was a day last month where she actually made me a decent cup of rosy without me having to whistle for it; as I normally do. And last year she fed my koi carp without me telling her; no dinner for me though.

 

Sometimes I think she has matured. "Owl dear, do you like this shade of lipstick?" "Lipstick is wasted on you dear!" As she came at me with the cleaver I quickly said; "your lips are perfect as they are; no lipstick needed ." This seemed to clam her.

 

Our lovely daughter is the glue that holds it all together. Couldn't continue without her.

 

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5 hours ago, villagefarang said:

22 years for me as well. If someone needs to ask the OP's question then all is lost before you begin.????

Definitely.

Stereotyping also is a bad idea, though I find that Thai's are better at living together and maintaining space - even in the same room - so in general it works out a little easier in that respect than with some women I remember from England... 

Maybe I'm different - I didn't have many of the issues that I heard many guys had with their women.

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10 hours ago, GinBoy2 said:

Well some of us never went to Thailand for the hedonistic attractions of Pattaya, Patong  and the like. 

Me and my wife lived in Singapore before I decided Thailand was our low cost retirement destination.

 

So if that makes us boring, I'll fess up, guilty as charged.

We're just a normal couple, son, working slobs (well she is) splitting out time between the US & Thailand, and as I guess you would characterize it, living a boring life.

 

One word of caution however.

 

We can all lead the hedonistic lifestyle, but as we get older, the thought of who we want to live with, can be a whole lot different to the question who do I want to die with!

 

I can't fault that response to be honest. Fair play. 

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14 hours ago, colinneil said:

Many people married do not trust their partner, want to know where they have been, who with, check their partners phone etc.

LOL. I trusted my wife, and it wasn't till it was over that I found out how untrustworthy she had been.

Had I not trusted her, I'd have been far better off financially today.

I had no issues with her going off to do her thing, and she sometimes told me about how someone had been trying it on with her. She worked, like a normal Thai person, so I wouldn't have been able to "check up" on her all the time anyway.

 

BTW, how do they check their partner's phones when they can't read Thai?

 

14 hours ago, colinneil said:

The very small insignificant things, like telling her you love her, good night my darling, good morning my darling, we do this every day.

Us too, I knew it was over when she stopped telling me that she loved me, as she knew how important that was to me.

 

14 hours ago, colinneil said:

My wife can come and go as she pleases, if she wants to tell me where she is going/has been, up to her, i never ask.

Me too.

 

14 hours ago, colinneil said:

for over 5 years she has done almost everything for me,

That lasted the first year, then it slowly diminished to the point she wouldn't do anything for me.

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The majority of men searching for a better life in Thailand, together with the women searching a foreigner is a deadly mix, and give most very few chanches of a happy life. 

 

If both parties know to suck it up, and try to make it better for them self and for their partner, both is on their way to succeed. It takes two to tango, and that is the hardest learning. 

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12 minutes ago, colinneil said:

You are fully aware of my situation, so why bother posting that comment.

Ok so you are bitter regarding your time in Thailand, so you got out.

Many of us, me included have had bad experiences with Thai ladies.

You should be aware that not all Thai ladies are bad.

Sorry you took it that way. I was just contributing my experience compared to yours, and not making any comment on you personally.

Bitter about my time in Thailand? Not at all. I loved Thailand ( despite all the problems I had there ), and wished to live there till I died. Unfortunately I chose the wrong woman to do it with, and ended up not being able to live there anymore, because I didn't have enough money to pay for accommodation and medical insurance both. I could have stayed without insurance, but that's not a situation I want to get into in Thailand.

If I'm bitter, it's at myself for making the biggest mistake in my life, and getting legally married. Had I been clever, I'd have had a village wedding. I don't think I made a mistake with her initially, as she was a lovely, lovely woman, but her family ruined our marriage ( and her ).

 

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34 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said:

 

BTW, how do they check their partner's phones when they can't read Thai?

I have a translation ap on my phone that works great for text. 

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24 minutes ago, marcusarelus said:

I have a translation ap on my phone that works great for text. 

An great translation app to wich language? 

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1 minute ago, CharlieH said:

Sorry, but if anyone feels the need to examine their partners phone and get it translated etc, its already over! The trust has gone and been replaced with suspicion. Dont delude yourself.

I was responding to a question another poster had about how do you check a woman's phone if you don't read Thai.  I use the app for lots of things while shopping or reading messages in the rest room.  I've had a number of relationships in Thailand and got used to counting the money in my wallet at night and in the morning to see if the amount was the same.  Better safe than sorry and the only being I trust is my dog. 

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7 minutes ago, Tagged said:

An great translation app to wich language? 

Translates from Thai to English and many other languages, camera, handwriting, conversation, voice.

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18 hours ago, Whip Me Granny said:

What would your advice be , what after all Your years of being married to a Thai woman , in your personal opinion makes a successful long term marriage work

Are you writing a dissertation or something?  tens of thousands of books written on how to "make marriage work" "successful marriages"  Maybe Thai women on the average are different than european or american women, yet as statistics show - all marriages seem to have around a 50-50 chance. 

 

As one intelligent poster here has mentioned many times (do not see him on this thread yet), Summarizing:  take your time, get to know the person, do not rush into marriage, etc... 

Same info for anyone anywhere who has that incomprehensible need to make a relationship "official" and get a "certificate"  to make it "legal" .  Marriage does not always make a relationship more loving or caring, yet one advantage in Thailand is you can keep 400,000 baht in the bank instead of 800,000 baht if retired.

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32 minutes ago, marcusarelus said:

Translates from Thai to English and many other languages, camera, handwriting, conversation, voice.

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I wish you good luck with trusting that one ????

 

have you become any wiser by the time using it? 

 

The day I have check my gf¨s phone, I will leave here.  

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18 hours ago, Lacessit said:

Don't get married. My GF and I are 8 years into a good relationship.

Look after the good ones well, and they will look after you even better. The trick is to find a good one.

If you are over 60, fathering children is not a good idea. Teenagers when you are in your seventies, and luk kreungs to boot?

Leave 80% of your assets in your country of origin.

 

Apologies if that doesn't fit within your template; however, you were asking for advice.

I agree, my partner and I live together for 13 years, We will never marry and the relationship is negotiable and positive. She doesnt want any more kids ( made that mistake once 23 years ago with a Thai, he did a runner after 6 months). Her honesty is about money; tells me if we are not married she cant get to my money; but once married all my money is hers.

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26 years already, living 20 years in my homeland, and now 6 years in isaan, even all is not perfect, we continue to love each other I hope for many others years

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Take care - the culture is a big difference if she is is really thai. Only few you really can trust, and the Government do what they like and don`t care about us. 

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There are way too many tips that I can give... but let me add this... 

 

first, there are plenty of us who had first marriages in our own country where languages were in common, that had problems... more important than words are actions and intent...

 

people change, relationships change too... no guarantee that anything will remain the same. 

 

check out the family first - old adage about apple not falling far from the tree.. 

 

ps - I have a village wedding, about 18 years ago.. 

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20 hours ago, Lacessit said:

Don't get married. My GF and I are 8 years into a good relationship.

Look after the good ones well, and they will look after you even better. The trick is to find a good one.

If you are over 60, fathering children is not a good idea. Teenagers when you are in your seventies, and luk kreungs to boot?

Leave 80% of your assets in your country of origin.

 

Apologies if that doesn't fit within your template; however, you were asking for advice.

great advise...its such a pity that so many 'mature' farlang men, cant use this type of common sense...

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