13 minutes ago, PatOngo said:

Marko please! Listen to Batman!

 

 

BATMANS  right hand is worn out.  Now on to using the left hand

Just got divorced, met another bar girl who's great in bed.

 

     But she's got an English bf who pays her good money not to f...with you, but you do.

 

   Don't be surprised when the English bf beats the shi_e out of your ar_e!

 

  Asking people on such a forum what to do is really insane. Are you an adult, or a teeneager?

 

You sound like a guy who never had a woman before you got married.

 

   Read My Private Dancer before it's too late. I can send you a copy. 

 

  

Whenever you see an attractive woman, see her for what she really is, a bag of blood, bones and bile!

7 hours ago, SenorJorge said:

You are looking for a long term relationship with another Thai.. a BAR GIRL. 

I think it's unfair to think all bar girls are bad and all non bar girls are better.

 

Where does a guy, maybe a few years older and not super fit anymore, can find a pretty young girl to spend his future with?

Online dating? I don't think so. Maybe through friends? At work? Where?

There are thousands of pretty young girls in bars. Obviously many of them only want to make money. But other are happy to have a steady relationship with just one guy. And maybe money is not the most important criteria for them.

I don't think it's easy to find a nice bar girl and be happy ever after.

But I guess it's still easier than all the other options.

 

where im from we dont say goodbye to the ex at all, when we find someone new we just move on happy.

 

its a no-brainer

 

 

9 hours ago, marko kok prong said:

i have pulled the plug and told her i will not share her

Am confused, she is a bar girl, so obviously you have to "share" her. 

You knew that when you met her.

Be happy you have had her for 5 months or whatever.  

 

She will likely contact you later after her other friend has gone back to UK.  

 

6 hours ago, Mikisteel said:

Imagine some big black bar steward absolutely destroying your Mrs whilst your handcuffed to a nearby door and she's absolutely loving it.

i usually pay extra for that.

If you are really serious about her, Marko, you need to out bid the Englishman, make her a monetary offer she can't refuse, don't be tight on this! But her a new iPhone and a Honda Scoopy, she'll love you long time.

9 hours ago, marko kok prong said:

my poor wallet has taken a hell of a thrasing.

Ah, surviving "the power of the pussy".

 

Apologies for being so blunt, but guys like you, who allow themselves to just open up their wallets to women in general, can only expect to be fleeced, i.e. every woman wants money, regardless if she is a bar girl or as others have stated prostitutes, a pretty heavy word in my opinion, although we "John's" use their services regularly, but won't admit it.

 

Fact of the matter is they need to survive, they play us with the "power of the pussy", and we play them with the money, be it a bar girl or not, they want to be rewarded for the spread that we so desperately desire and we are prepared to pay for it, however if your strong enough to keep it tight, but fair, and focus on what's going on around you, as opposed to being binded by that little pouch, you will survive "the power of the pussy", but that would also mean that you have to shield that heart of yours, because once they know your weak, it's all over, forget the Mills & Boons books or the movie Titanic, it's all created to give you a false sense of security, seriously !

 

Face up to the fact, if a woman didn't have a pussy, you wouldn't be in interested, some say you would be throwing half bricks at them from the otherside of the street, a bit harsh I know.

 

You just haven't learned to handle them, yes she is there to be handled, and if your weak, she will gut you, not all, but a lot of them will, it's just a matter of time, oh he is a nice guy, but too soft for me so I will take what I can, it's survival of the fittest, and you only have one thing she wants, "security" be it a better life with a house, car, steady money flow coming in monthly etc etc, lets' face it, if you didn't have any, would she be wasting her time with you, and please don't tell me she is different as I have been around a fair while and been with a few women in my time, they all have one thing in common, i.e. what's in it for me, whereas for us guys it's all about "the power of the pussy".

 

Do yourself a favour, forget the emotional roller coaster, as some other poster said, there are thousands of girls around, you just have to know what you want and always sleep with one eye open, i.e. NEVER hand over your wallet, finance them or anything else like that, unless you know you are only prepared to lose what you invest.

 

I am a very happily married guy, sex is great with my partner, but hey, I am human and like a slice of cake every now and again, so I have this little cute thing on the side when I want her, just for sex, no relationship prospects and she understands its just a business deal, that said she has a boyfriend overseas who sends her money every month, it's a normal thing here, i.e. if the farang is overseas and is supporting the girls, they will keep collecting what they can, not all, but others, like this one, like both the money and the sex, and I am not complaining, as she is on tap.

 

So do yourself a favor, enjoy yourself, study the beasts, learn, and keep them under control, and sorry to say, this one is not for you, i.e. unless you want to be fleeced.

6 minutes ago, 4MyEgo said:

Face up to the fact, if a woman didn't have a pussy, you wouldn't be in interested,

If only a washing machine had one, you wouldn't need a woman!

36 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

I don't think it's easy to find a nice bar girl and be happy ever after.

You'd be surprised how many of us are out there, happy as pigs in mud having married a "bar girl", you see, desperate times, means people do desperate things and as long as you can accept that and see them beyond their past, it's all and good, because we are only human. 

 

1 minute ago, PatOngo said:

If only a washing machine had one, you wouldn't need a woman!

I've heard that eating lots of rhubarb takes away the sex urge .....

2 minutes ago, 4MyEgo said:

43 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

I don't think it's easy to find a nice bar girl and be happy ever after.

You'd be surprised how many of us are out there, happy as pigs in mud having married a "bar girl", you see, desperate times, means people do desperate things and as long as you can accept that and see them beyond their past, it's all and good, because we are only human. 

Actually I am not surprised.

I know many guys and girls in such relationships.

But I also saw many who thought they found their dream girl but then it was more like a nightmare girl.

It's possible - some guys get it right. And some make the same mistakes again and again.

13 minutes ago, PatOngo said:

If you are really serious about her, Marko, you need to out bid the Englishman, make her a monetary offer she can't refuse, don't be tight on this! But her a new iPhone and a Honda Scoopy, she'll love you long time.

But maybe it's not only about the money.

Maybe the other guy f$#%# like a champion.

6 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Actually I am not surprised.

I know many guys and girls in such relationships.

But I also saw many who thought they found their dream girl but then it was more like a nightmare girl.

It's possible - some guys get it right. And some make the same mistakes again and again.

Yes, it's the 50/50 split, there has to be a balance, and that is your balance, 50% happy and 50% regret it, what is that old saying, not all gloves fit the same hand ?

 

The first thing a bloke should learn here is that he should only invest 10% of his worth, because if things go belly up his still 90% better off.

 

I have seen too many guys go all in, over what, "the power of the pussy", I love you, please, I am going to vomit ????

 

Actions speak louder than words and "the power of the pussy" will blind you ????

 

44 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Online dating? I don't think so

absolutely false. My last 2 Gfs a future's trader and a highly paid Manager (lasted 9 years) were from Thai love links and now I'm single I'm heading back there again

7 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

But maybe it's not only about the money.

Maybe the other guy f$#%# like a champion.

Marko doesn't mind coming second, third or fourth ....... It's not the winning that counts, rather the taking part ....

 

1 hour ago, AJBangkok said:

You’ve just ended one relationship because the woman was cheating on you.

Now you are considering getting into another relationship with a woman who is currently cheating on someone else.

 

whats wrong with this picture? Can you connect the dots?

.....he likes being cheated on ?

marry her dude! she sounds like a keeper.

7 hours ago, Mikisteel said:

Getting mighty fed up of reading these tear jerkers absolutely ruined my night. Look after yourself 

Your solution to more ruined nights is simply stop reading about these tear jerks. Pull yourself together man.

OP, do you feel the same about other things you rent, hotel rooms, motorbikes etc

 

Replace the word girlfriend with the word hooker, hotel room or motorbike. Replace the word boyfriend with customer, tenant or renter. Replace the word seeing with the word renting and re-read your OP.

 

 

 

 

1 minute ago, Peterw42 said:

OP, do you feel the same about other things you rent, hotel rooms, motorbikes etc

 

Replace the word girlfriend with the word hooker, hotel room or motorbike. Replace the word boyfriend with customer, tenant or renter. Replace the word seeing with the word renting and re-read your OP.

 

 

 

 

and make sure there are no dents or scratches after you're done!

18 minutes ago, kellersphuket said:

marry her dude! she sounds like a keeper.

Or get her a nose job, then she may qualify for a job with Air Asia!

39 minutes ago, madmen said:

1 hour ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Online dating? I don't think so

absolutely false. My last 2 Gfs a future's trader and a highly paid Manager (lasted 9 years) were from Thai love links and now I'm single I'm heading back there again

Let me guess, your online dating profile does not like similar to this:

"I am a 60 year old guy with a beer belly and I am looking for a cute young girl who makes me happy long time."

 

And even if your profile would be: "I am a 50 year old guy and I am fit for my age and I want a girl who is young and pretty" I guess you have to look through a lot of hooker profiles before you will maybe find one or the other suitable candidate.

 

But maybe you like old women and you don't care how they look. I guess that would make things easier. But I don't know, I was never interested in old women.

Ask a bunch of Puritans who haven’t yet discovered online porn for educational purposes and you get the usual puritanical answers, cynical and unimaginative.

 

You gotta think outside the box while thinking about the box, so to speak. You’ve been far too hasty to “pull the plug.” Put that plug right back on in there.

 

Here you have a stunning girl insatiable in bed who wants to be with you. And she’s already told her old bf about you. Not only has he not cut her off, he’s coming to see her. He didn’t freak out. He doesn’t want to lose her. Obviously he appreciates her assets. He may also appreciate the fact that they could be further leveraged.

 

Hence just arrange to go to Phuket with her. Give her a little time to orient the old bf to the concept of a threesome. Everybody then has a great time together, especially her as she achieves satiety. After he leaves she keeps his credit card and he continues paying, so greatly reducing your ongoing maintenance cost. No need to worry further about “fiscal loss.”

 

Now freed from puritanism, after the holiday just take the next step of the FMF combo. Maybe you’ve already made her wait for one of her fave enjoyments. She’s already "friends" with your ex. You and your ex aren’t unaccustomed to each other. Then there’s your mate and his wife with whom you were going to Cambodia: why not share a large room?

 

Well, there’s a wide world out there beyond the keyboard. You may have stumbled into a relationship that will make it a bit more exciting.

2 hours ago, OneMoreFarang said:

I think it's unfair to think all bar girls are bad and all non bar girls are better.

 

Where does a guy, maybe a few years older and not super fit anymore, can find a pretty young girl to spend his future with?

Online dating? I don't think so. Maybe through friends? At work? Where?

There are thousands of pretty young girls in bars. Obviously many of them only want to make money. But other are happy to have a steady relationship with just one guy. And maybe money is not the most important criteria for them.

I don't think it's easy to find a nice bar girl and be happy ever after.

But I guess it's still easier than all the other options.

 

refreshing and realistic perspective.

 

the reason most guys are here is because they need to leverage the financial card to make up for other shortcomings, thus putting the "just find a normal woman" solution out of reach for many.

 

not because they want to, but because there is no other choice.

37 minutes ago, fhickson said:

refreshing and realistic perspective.

 

the reason most guys are here is because they need to leverage the financial card to make up for other shortcomings, thus putting the "just find a normal woman" solution out of reach for many.

 

not because they want to, but because there is no other choice.

Who want's a "normal woman"?

I work for a couple of companies and in their offices are lots of "normal women". Maybe 30, normal clothes, normal job, normal attitude.

I have no problem working with them but in my view most of them are boring normal. I didn't come to Thailand to find a boring normal woman as long as there are lots of pretty hot alternatives.

 

3 hours ago, OneMoreFarang said:

I don't think it's easy to find a nice bar girl and be happy ever after.

But I guess it's still easier than all the other options.

EASY is the real essence of what you say.   How many guys on TV love to say how the Thais are lazy and

don't put effort into doing anything ?  How thais always want a lot of money but don't want to work for it.

WELL,  isn't this the case with "finding"  a gf  that is not a bargirl and might be a longtime companion?

Put in the Time and Effort to learn the language !  Learn it well enough to carry on a conversation and there will be many options .  I would say better options ( for a real relationship).   She may not be as young or sexy as a bargirl ,  but definitely have less mileage, baggage, and hopefully trustworthiness.  And the cuter you are..... the cuter they will be  ????      However, if you insist on young ladies and you are old,  its show me the money !

You should use her for your own purpose. For good sex. For good entertainment. For whatever makes fun together. Give her money for this and you both will be happy. Just don't fall in love with her or try to possess her. I did this often and always was happy even if the relationship ended. Never ever regretted one minute. 

1 hour ago, rumak said:

However, if you insist on young ladies and you are old,  its show me the money !

Yes. And that is true for bar girls and it's true for non bar girls.

Pretty "normal" girls also want money.