my girlfriend wants gold

[kiever]

hello, we are together for 2,5 years with my thai girlfriend. i take care her, we travel in thaiand and asia. stay usually high end accomodations and travels usually by planes or taxis. eating in good places.
dont need to say i pay for everything of course.
. And she also lived with me in my home country for 1 year. i gave her about 15k-20k every month for her expenses and she sent 5k-10k to her family every month. honesly i didnt buy something expensive for her at all and she neither never demanded such things for 2,5 years relationship.
i pay for simple things such as dress, shoes, dentist, bags etc but i didnt buy a gold , cellphone or louis vuitton for example. now i am in my home country and cannot come back thailand because of corona. she is in thailand.
she said she wants golds because in the past i didnt give her any gifts.  what i understand that she wants me to buy her about 150k-200k golds when i come thailand. she says if i leave her she would have nothing for her future and her life will be very difficult. and she said a friend of her got these amounts of gifts from her boyfriend regularly and why i wouldnt do same ? she complains about her future all the time and wants me to do something for her future. well i love her but i am not sure if she loves me really ( never understand love of thais). OK, i can spend 150k to make her happy,  it is not a big money for me and it will be one time deal (i hope).   but is it normal  she just wants a big money ( gold = money) from me ? i am suprised when i heard it first time . i am afraid her next step , she will probably  demand land, home, car and bigger and bigger things because she will think i would do what she wants.  What do you think i should give what she wants ?

[zhounan]

This is the RIGHT time to realize that you should stay very far from Thai girls.

And DON'T give your money to the girls, don't spoil them, otherwise they're only with you for money and comfort.

Thai woman are used to have many sexual relationship, no matter what you done for them or how many years have been together. 

Take this advice from me like I'm your big brother:
Run away as soon as you can, don't let it ruin your life.

Edited April 9, 2020 by zhounan

[Thaiwrath]

[JHolmesJr]

With drugs and Thai women...

 

JUST SAY NO

[CharlieH]

You have been on the forum long enough to know and read the well known and often lamented story you are telling.

Wake Up ! you wouldnt entertain such a request in your country so why even listen to such greedy nonsense here.

 

 

 

[Pilotman]

Gold is her pension, the rest is just living expenses.  Either understand  that or ditch her, but if you ditch her, it's not her fault for asking, its yours for not understanding the 'deal' in a Thai Farang relationship.    She is just being normal. I had a 'deal' with my wife for the first 10 years of our relationship, until she qualified for half my pension when I died.  Each year I would buy her one item of 1 Baht gold on her birthday, or upgrade one, 1 Baht item to a 2 Baht item. It worked out well for us both.  We both own that gold now and trade it as we require. 

Edited April 9, 2020 by Pilotman

[Pilotman]

4 minutes ago, CharlieH said:

You have been on the forum long enough to know and read the well known and often lamented story you are telling.

Wake Up ! you wouldnt entertain such a request in your country so why even listen to such greedy nonsense here.

 

 

 

nonsense 

[Davo369]

Would you do this to a girl from your home country? 

Call it a day mate.

[CharlieH]

5 minutes ago, Pilotman said:

Gold is her pension, the rest is just living expenses.  Either understand  that or ditch her, but if you ditch her, it's not her fault for asking, its yours for not understanding the 'deal' in a Thai Farang relationship.    She is just being normal. I had a 'deal' with my wife for the first 10 years of our relationship, until she qualified for half my pension when I died.  Each year I would buy her one item of 1 Baht gold on her birthday, or upgrade one, 1 Baht item to a 2 Baht item. It worked out well for us both.  

Your relationship, do it your way, personally - absurd.

[Davo369]

Op don't get me wrong there are good one's out there, 

But your girlfriend asking for gold is a no no. 

If my girlfriend ask me... I would tell her to go and do one. 

I mean my wife I forgot we got married.

[kiever]

15 minutes ago, Davo369 said:

Would you do this to a girl from your home country? 

Call it a day mate.

no never i would do it for a girl in my home country.. but in my home country i would never have a girl at less than half age of mine.

[riclag]

Sounds like you can afford to give 1 bht of gold ,I think at the current rate would be 23k for 1  bht.

 

Now ,what I would do is tell her that you will contribute to this ,about 15k+

That's fair enough

[kingofthemountain]

29 minutes ago, kiever said:

hello, we are together for 2,5 years with my thai girlfriend. i take care her, we travel in thaiand and asia. stay usually high end accomodations and travels usually by planes or taxis. eating in good places.
dont need to say i pay for everything of course.
. And she also lived with me in my home country for 1 year. i gave her about 15k-20k every month for her expenses and she sent 5k-10k to her family every month. honesly i didnt buy something expensive for her at all and she neither never demanded such things for 2,5 years relationship.
i pay for simple things such as dress, shoes, dentist, bags etc but i didnt buy a gold , cellphone or louis vuitton for example. now i am in my home country and cannot come back thailand because of corona. she is in thailand.
she said she wants golds because in the past i didnt give her any gifts.  what i understand that she wants me to buy her about 150k-200k golds when i come thailand. she says if i leave her she would have nothing for her future and her life will be very difficult. and she said a friend of her got these amounts of gifts from her boyfriend regularly and why i wouldnt do same ? she complains about her future all the time and wants me to do something for her future. well i love her but i am not sure if she loves me really ( never understand love of thais)....

Hello

if i understand well she doesn't work (Except to take care of you and your money)

can i ask why she is unable to earn any money by herself? 

(Of course i don't mean during this special period of time with corona

but the years before)

You want to be sure if she loves you really?

It's easy, just stop to give to her even 1 baht and look how it turns

you should discover very quick an ugly side of your ''girlfriend''

good luck anyway

[stuartd1]

It's called redistribution of wealth.

If you have a long term relationship in the West you could be had for a split of assets by law on breaking up, much more expensive!

[NCC1701A]

36 minutes ago, kiever said:

What do you think i should give what she wants ?

start over with a new one.

 

[PatOngo]

Ask yourself, how cool would she look with 5 baht handing around her neck, have a go, make her the happiest girl in Thailand. 

[kingofthemountain]

5 minutes ago, kiever said:

no never i would do it for a girl in my home country.. but in my home country i would never have a girl at less than half age of mine.

It seems that in fact you are just paying for a young escort

it's your choice and your money

but please don't call it love

 

[EricTh]

Looks like a gold-digger for me. If you aren't married to her and already have children, it's better not to give her any expensive gift like gold or house.

 

I've seen many who got kicked out after giving the gifts.

 

Ask her to go out and get a job instead.

[ratcatcher]

You are one of the lucky ones, your bird aims higher. Most just want to take care of the 

Just about everyone replying to your post is wondering whether you are   or are really planning on a future with this individual.

You didn't mention where you met, but golds (sic) is a frequent request/demand from some of the ladies. You may be able to afford to chuck money around like there's no tomorrow, but her family is loving it. You didn't mention the age equation, but when all is said and done, if you can afford it, be her man and help her. She will lub you forever, until the next hansum man comes along. Are you the only one on her email contact list d'ya think?. By the way, you aren't the first to have pondered this dilemma, and won't be the last. Chok dee.

[KKr]

I think she wants to demonstrate her family and friends that you are serious about the relationship.

[connda]

44 minutes ago, kiever said:

What do you think i should give what she wants ?

You're temporarily saved.  All the gold shops are closed.  Non-essential business.

Now, back to reality.  What would you say if a Western gal you were dating told you that she wants $3000 to $5000 in gold in order to keep the relationship alive.  What would you tell her.  There's your answer. 

[bestie]

I can't sometimes believe what these girls here in Thailand become from some foreigners,... money, a car, a house.

Jealous me? Yes, of course.!!!! <deleted>

[Pravda]

Age disclosure of both parties should be a requirement before starting a thread like this.

[BritManToo]

59 minutes ago, kiever said:

What do you think i should give what she wants ?

Find a new gf, plenty available now there's no foreigners here and the entertainment venues have all closed.

I hear some of the girls are now living with guys just for food and accommodation.

[rvaviator]

30 minutes ago, kiever said:

no never i would do it for a girl in my home country.. but in my home country i would never have a girl at less than half age of mine.

I think you have answered your own question ...  ????

[tropo]

20 minutes ago, kiever said:

no never i would do it for a girl in my home country.. but in my home country i would never have a girl at less than half age of mine.

And you struck the nail on the head. A lot of surprisingly ignorant people here don't understand that if you're in a serious relationship (meaning you're married or have been together a long time) with a much younger woman, you owe it to her to try your best to set her up for when you're gone. What's the point of using up her young years, only paying her bills, and when she is older, she has nothing. All she has to look back on are years where her bills were paid.

 

Shame on people like that! Shame on the OP making a thread about it.

 

A few hundred thousand baht worth of gold is peanuts and won't set her up for long.

 

I know some of you will want to roast me for this - bring it on!  

 

Before you do, consider the difference between a serious relationship and a casual one. I'm talking about serious, close relationships.

[connda]

9 minutes ago, ratcatcher said:

You didn't mention the age equation, but when all is said and done, if you can afford it, be her man and help her. She will lub you forever, until the next hansum man comes along. Are you the only one on her email contact list d'ya think?.

I've lived here long enough to see acquaintances of my wife stringing one or two farangs along all the while having a Thai boyfriend or husband or even a farang boyfriend/husband who is in on the con.  Or family members in on the con.  That's just reality here in The Land of Scams.  
If you marry her, then buy her some gold.  I've been married for over 12 years, and my wife appreciates that she can show off some bling as it raises our social status. And we have a long, establish, legal, relationship.   
But until you're married?  Don't do it.  It's a fool's game.  If it affects your relationship, all the better - let her go. 

[Lacessit]

I gave my GF the gold watch I got when I retired, since I never wear watches. Expensive brand, she was over the moon.

[justin case]

she wants gold because she DIGGS YOU

 

get it ... gold DIGGER

 

yes, car, house, whatever next is coming, don't forget SIN SOD on top, few million baht, her friends got it, blabla ...

[connda]

1 minute ago, BritManToo said:

Find a new gf, plenty available now there's no foreigners here and the entertainment venues have all closed.

I hear some of the girls are now living with guys just for food and accommodation.

Yeah baby!  It's a buyers market!!!  Tons of available, slightly used merchandise.  You should be like a kid in a candy store.