Exclusive: 86 year old British expat left "starving and mistreated" by Thai family on his way home to UK

[bluesofa]

1 hour ago, ThailandRyan said:

Obviously he loves the lifestyle, the slow pace, the weather, his dog, what else is there to know. Don't judge someone unless you walk a mile in their shoes first.  Everyone is different and has a belief system as well as there own values.  Do not paint everyone with the same brush you paint yourself with.  Rushing to judgment is easy to do, but it is a fools errand.....enjoy your life wherever you may be, but never try to put your values onto someone else...There's your break

I always thought it was 'Don't criticise someone unless you walk a mile in their shoes first'.

That way you'd be a mile away and have their shoes.

[Canuck1966]

1 hour ago, Neeranam said:

Probably the sort that go to Pattaya. 70 year old men don't end up in Sakon Nakon with nice ladies. 

I wonder if the lady was younger than him. 

Don't judge a nation on its prostitutes' families. 

That's a lot of families not to judge!

[colinneil]

1 hour ago, Malawi said:

Must be those caring Thais we read so much about.

Well mate, some Thais are the most caring people you could find anywhere.

Sadly there are many who are not caring, only want money.

My wife is the most caring person you could ever meet, her family the complete opposite.

One time wife unable to get home before 21.30, asked 1 of her sisters to prepare some food for me, bring it and water to me, she never came, ( now that happened when i was bedridden, unable to do anything myself).

Another occasion, my wife was away on school business, another of her sisters was asked to come, help me on my bed ( i am unable to sit in my chair more than 4 hours), she never came, my wife arrived home at 23.00, i had been stuck in my chair since 08.00.

 

[pineapple01]

This isnt about the poor Old Man anymore. Its Fan Room V  Suitably Financed.

[PJPom]

5 minutes ago, Susco said:

Maybe I missed it, but has there been any update on the Declan guy, as from previous threads it had become clear that he was a very bogus type of person?

My thoughts also, last week people were digging up many references to him and he didn’t come across as a knight in shining armour. 
This whole thread has now developed into criticism or compassion for the old chap with very little questioning of the hows and whys of his “ seemingly rescue “,.

 

[lordblackader]

how is this exclusive? I read the same story a week ago on social media. 

[holy cow cm]

I am not so sure you can look at it like the evil Thai family. It did not say he was hit or abused that way. He willingly went with his newer gal and it said he has a spinal injury. So they stuck him upstairs. I am sure they only cooked Thai food and his appetite probably only ate a little bit. The woman probably thought the money was open for grabs to rent and take care of her needs, a gift from heaven for her selfish needs. He probably could not fend for himself. He probably could not speak Thai. He couldn't walk so much or very far so things went down hill and her and the whomever of the family plainly got bored with him and left the old foreigner basically alone.. So good he will go back to England where he belongs and should never come back here again. He is lucky he is alive, and just maybe he wasn't a happy bowl of sunshine to be around all of the time. I would like more to this story.

 

 

[Neeranam]

My 80-year old father said he would move here and find a young wife when my mother dies! I was rather shocked and not sure if he was joking or not. 

 

 

[Relocated]

2 hours ago, Neeranam said:

You are 86 years old, you fool. 

 

Why on earth would you try to have a relationship at this age in a foreign culture? 

 

Ever consider that they might just be after your money? 

For the courage he should be knighted and called Sir Ron. 

[Neeranam]

2 hours ago, Skallywag said:

When I approach that age, I plan to be walking distance from a bank, a hospital, a market, and a dentist.   

I hope to have a nice set of falsers by 70, and only visit the dentist every 5 years. 

[NanLaew]

52 minutes ago, colinneil said:

Well mate, some Thais are the most caring people you could find anywhere.

Sadly there are many who are not caring, only want money.

My wife is the most caring person you could ever meet, her family the complete opposite.

One time wife unable to get home before 21.30, asked 1 of her sisters to prepare some food for me, bring it and water to me, she never came, ( now that happened when i was bedridden, unable to do anything myself).

Another occasion, my wife was away on school business, another of her sisters was asked to come, help me on my bed ( i am unable to sit in my chair more than 4 hours), she never came, my wife arrived home at 23.00, i had been stuck in my chair since 08.00.

 

I back that sentiment 101%. You have a keeper as do many others here.

 

Mrs NL won the lottery and bought me a pickup.

 

Now I know what it feels like to be a Thai 'brother'.

[AhFarangJa]

Well done Declan, good to hear a happy ending for a change, and I take my hat off to you. One day maybe I will be able to shake your hand and buy you a beer.

 

[zoza]

we had a lad who had his own routine were he used to  make his way into Pattaya most

days via several bars, he was an x boilermaker and had a decent pension.

i was in a bar one day and his wife got him by the throat, it was a bit of a shock and he later

told me his little secret that his wife had caught him out? i cannot repeat what i heard but lets

just say although i was surprised i was not at all bothered by his story.

a few months later his best mate turned up and told me he could not contact the x boilermaker?

the story was him and his wife had moved to her village.

a few months on and the next story was he now never answered his phone, but his thai wife did and 

made an excuse time after time but never put him on. and although i did see his mate he said the

last time he spoke to the boilermakers wife, and lied to her that he owed her husband some money

and that he wanted to pay him back but she just hung up.

i have never seen or heard anything of the three since that day,,,,and i know at least three others who disappeared in similar situations.  just didn't realize i was so boring.....  

[checkered flag]

2 minutes ago, zoza said:

we had a lad who had his own routine were he used to  make his way into Pattaya most

days via several bars, he was an x boilermaker and had a decent pension.

i was in a bar one day and his wife got him by the throat, it was a bit of a shock and he later

told me his little secret that his wife had caught him out? i cannot repeat what i heard but lets

just say although i was surprised i was not at all bothered by his story.

a few months later his best mate turned up and told me he could not contact the x boilermaker?

the story was him and his wife had moved to her village.

a few months on and the next story was he now never answered his phone, but his thai wife did and 

made an excuse time after time but never put him on. and although i did see his mate he said the

last time he spoke to the boilermakers wife, and lied to her that he owed her husband some money

and that he wanted to pay him back but she just hung up.

i have never seen or heard anything of the three since that day,,,,and i know at least three others who disappeared in similar situations.  just didn't realize i was so boring.....  

Pattaya bar talk. Should we believe it? I think not.

[checkered flag]

1 minute ago, colinneil said:

What a loving caring a==e ho++ you are, you just need to hope and pray you are never in a situation where you need  help, shame on you posting that.

Go ahead and donate.

[hotandsticky]

1 minute ago, checkered flag said:

Go ahead and donate.

 

 

He did ....... I put a Tenner in from myself and a Tenner from Colin because I know what a caring chap he is................................. next.

[jak2002003]

The guy hardly looks starved. And why the caring British family with all the loving words did not know about this or help him if he needed help in all those years? And the lot of them can't come up with the money for a plane ticket between them? 

 

 

[Peter Denis]

24 minutes ago, Neeranam said:

My 80-year old father said he would move here and find a young wife when my mother dies! I was rather shocked and not sure if he was joking or not.

Well, if your father is in good health and still active, why not?

But I agree that it can come as a shock if he already says this when your mother is still alive.

My stepfather turned 78, looks 60 and is presently training to do the Camino (the pilgrim's walk to Santiago de Compostella) next summer from his Belgium home, almost 1850 km.

My mother deceased 3 years ago, and he is now mentioning that when he meets the right partner he will go for it.  And I wish it to him, as he deserves all the happiness he can get.

Same goes for your father > Also, the pictures of Thailand and the beautiful thai ladies, as well as the stories he heard from you living here, must have had its effect.  I wish your father all the best!

[colinneil]

15 minutes ago, checkered flag said:

Pattaya bar talk. Should we believe it? I think not.

So what you are saying, people should not believe hard luck stories they read on here?

What about my story? Quite a lot of people put them selves out and helped me, probably cost them money, but did they think about that no, just like Hotandsticky he was 1 of the first to step up and help me, and yes i was/ am extremely grateful for his and others help.

So no point in me expecting any help from you.????

[2 is 1]

Truth sits upon the lips of dying men.... "Matthew Arnold"

Good he come back coz hes dog..... 

I take beer.... And actualy truth is here! Only read one comment from here, he should know everything about LOS! hmm.... but maybe that age he dont know how get here! Relatives need to teatch him for next time! Then he never make misstake like all of us in this forum..... 555

 

[spidermike007]

There is nothing to indicate he was kidnapped and locked up. There is nothing to indicate he was incapacitated. So, after just a month or two, with full possession of his ATM card, and his bank accounts, why did he not simply leave? Why continue to subject yourself to a miserable woman, and a miserable family? He had some pension money. Was that not in the form of monthly income? Or was it savings, that was depleted? Am I missing something here?

[CharlieH]

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[scubascuba3]

I bet he tries to get back to Thailand ASAP

[Neeranam]

35 minutes ago, zoza said:

i have never seen or heard anything of the three since that day,,,,and i know at least three others who disappeared in similar situations.  just didn't realize i was so boring.....  

Happens a lot. There was the ex policeman who was being poisoned and luckily found by a travelling foreign monk, that made the UK press a few years back. 

 

My good friend took his wife to court and won. He was awarded half the estate, 7 million baht. He was killed in a hotel room shortly after. Police never investigated. 

 

 

[checkered flag]

This guy can't afford to live in Thailand and lacks survivor skills. In Britain he'll probably be sent to an old folks home of some sort. If he has family, do you think they will welcome him back and care for him? 

[pineapple01]

Bout time this was ended,

[checkered flag]

50 minutes ago, hotandsticky said:

 

 

He did ....... I put a Tenner in from myself and a Tenner from Colin because I know what a caring chap he is................................. next.

Is that 10 baht each?

[Deez]

3 hours ago, mr mr said:

so he was basically kidnapped and forced to hand over his monthly pension yet still really loves thailand ? 

I think he wants to make sure he gets out before speaking the truth

[Peter Denis]

13 minutes ago, checkered flag said:

This guy can't afford to live in Thailand and lacks survivor skills. In Britain he'll probably be sent to an old folks home of some sort. If he has family, do you think they will welcome him back and care for him? 

Even if it turns out that it was a Porkie Story, the lack of empathy and trust in your fellow men showing in your posts is stunning and more than sad.  I'd rather be taken for a ride every time, than going through life with such attitude.

[BradinAsia]

4 hours ago, hotandsticky said:

 

 

What a pity that he didn't have the foresight to seek out your expert opinion before moving to Thailand.

 

Hahaha... not likely he would've gotten any expert advice on this forum of mostly gloom-and-doom.