Hi!

 

I haven't seen my "thai girlfriend" for a long time. We communicate via phone apps. I am in my country while she is in hers. I am waiting for regular flights to start.

 

I am thinking of having a child with her. It's just a thought as of now. I am in my mid thirties and she is in her late twenties. She has a child from a thai man already but she was never legally married. I guess that's how it works there seeing the huge number of single moms in that country. But things are different for foreigners I suppose.

I find it impossible to find a girl in my own country  due to various factors. 

 

The purpose of a marriage is to have a child and that purpose can be fulfilled by a "thai /pinoy/  girlfriend". I have been involved with this girl for a few years now and I have supported her during this pandemic as well even though there was no possibility of meeting. 

 

I have a few questions :-

 

1. Will the child be considered as illegitimate and looked down upon in the Thai society? 

 

2. Will the birth certificate of the child bear my name even if I am not legally married to his/her mother? Can the child have my last name? 

 

3. Will the child automatically have Thai nationality even though I am the father and not a permanent resident ? 

 

4. Will I be eligible for some kind of visa which allows me to visit Thailand whenever I want to meet my child? ( I don't want to live in Thailand)

 

5. Are schools where medium of instruction is English available across Thailand? If yes then what is the yearly expense. 

 

 

 

 

9 minutes ago, lovethai123 said:

PS-  Sensible replies and advice only. 

 

what kind of advice would be sensible ?      

 

 

You're out of your mind. There, that's some sensible advice.

Just now, Pottinger said:

You're out of your mind. There, that's some sensible advice.

Thanks for the "sensible advice"

Just now, lovethai123 said:

Thanks for the "sensible advice"

you are in your thirties.   many guys (such as me)  on this forum are much older and more experienced in things Thailand,   and relationships.     

 

i think you are going to get a lot of similar responses ....... but what do we know ?

Your child will be "luk krueng" ( half Thai ) and hence looked down on by all Thais. Unless you are going to bring the child up outside Thailand, forget it.

20 minutes ago, lovethai123 said:

PS-  Sensible replies and advice only. 

 

People that ask sensible questions tend not to have to add that caveat.

1 minute ago, rumak said:

you are in your thirties.   many guys (such as me)  on this forum are much older and more experienced in things Thailand,   and relationships.     

 

 

That is why I never leave this forum. Some are rude but most people try to help and give advice. I don't want to discuss it with the girl unless I am sure of a few things. I am not a thai man and if I have a child I will make sure he/ she has a better life than me. 

1 minute ago, Salerno said:

 

People that ask sensible questions tend not to have to add that caveat.

coz in the past people have trolled. no worries, i will remove it. 

Having a child and being an absent father is the cruelest thing you could ever do to a child.

 

It is downright selfish and just plain wrong.

Wow. This is a joke surely? 

3 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

Your child will be "luk krueng" ( half Thai ) and hence looked down on by all Thais. Unless you are going to bring the child up outside Thailand, forget it.

Thanks for the input. ????

Just now, lovethai123 said:

That is why I never leave this forum. Some are rude but most people try to help and give advice. I don't want to discuss it with the girl unless I am sure of a few things. I am not a thai man and if I have a child I will make sure he/ she has a better life than me. 

 

i will be happy to help.   Next time you are in CM  we can have a good long talk about all the conditions of your particular situation.        good luck

Just now, jak2002003 said:

Wow. This is a joke surely? 

may be for u. but not for me. I am considering it. as chances of me getting married to a woman of my country is zero now. I have crossed the age barrier of 30 and i cant find a good woman 

Just now, rumak said:

 

i will be happy to help.   Next time you are in CM  we can have a good long talk about all the conditions of your particular situation.        good luck

if u r serious i would take the next flight to bkk and fly to cm. but there aren't any flights. i am always open to discussion with people who have lived in that country

6 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

Your child will be "luk krueng" ( half Thai ) and hence looked down on by all Thais.

 

But, if the genes are there, potential for a decent modelling/TV career.

Just now, lovethai123 said:

if u r serious i would take the next flight to bkk and fly to cm. but there aren't any flights. i am always open to discussion with people who have lived in that country

99%  here will tell you don't even think about what you are suggesting.   I am in that group

3 minutes ago, bwpage3 said:

Having a child and being an absent father is the cruelest thing you could ever do to a child.

 

It is downright selfish and just plain wrong.

Thanks for the input ????

 

In your  opinion , a 5 day visit every month is acceptable or not? I have never had a child so I don't know. 

Just now, rumak said:

99%  here will tell you don't even think about what you are suggesting.   I am in that group

well, i like a good eye opening conversation while enjoying a cool chang/singha

5 minutes ago, Salerno said:

 

But, if the genes are there, potential for a decent modelling/TV career.

I am not white. I am brown.

 

I was thinking with the right guidance and education ,I can arrange the child to attend college in a western country and live over there eventually. That's why I am interested about English schools

3 minutes ago, lovethai123 said:

may be for u. but not for me. I am considering it. as chances of me getting married to a woman of my country is zero now. I have crossed the age barrier of 30 and i cant find a good woman 

There are plenty of good women in Thailand who would be happy to share their life with you, provided you can take care of them. They don't care if you are as ugly as a hatful of bums. Unfortunately, there are also plenty of women here who want to take everything you have, and with the language and cultural barriers, sorting the wheat from the chaff is not easy.

6 minutes ago, Salerno said:

 

But, if the genes are there, potential for a decent modelling/TV career.

Tiger Woods is a luk krueng. African- American father, Thai mother. The odds against that are about 1 in a billion.

Just now, Lacessit said:

There are plenty of good women in Thailand who would be happy to share their life with you, provided you can take care of them. They don't care if you are as ugly as a hatful of bums. Unfortunately, there are also plenty of women here who want to take everything you have, and with the language and cultural barriers, sorting the wheat from the chaff is not easy.

The girl in question has already passed all those tests. That is why I want to spend the rest of my life with her.

I can't live permanently in thailand. I can only visit regularly to meet the child

Just now, lovethai123 said:

The girl in question has already passed all those tests. That is why I want to spend the rest of my life with her.

I can't live permanently in thailand. I can only visit regularly to meet the child

Absentee parenthood is not good for any child, they need role models. Some have to do without.

What you are talking about could be done. If you are well cashed up. Many children the world over live in broken homes.

 

The real question is: Would You desire to be raised under a similar set of conditions?

 

Parenting is a full time job...

 

35 minutes ago, lovethai123 said:

I have a few questions :-

 

1. Will the child be considered as illegitimate and looked down upon in the Thai society? 

 

2. Will the birth certificate of the child bear my name even if I am not legally married to his/her mother? Can the child have my last name? 

 

3. Will the child automatically have Thai nationality even though I am the father and not a permanent resident ? 

 

4. Will I be eligible for some kind of visa which allows me to visit Thailand whenever I want to meet my child? ( I don't want to live in Thailand)

 

5. Are schools where medium of instruction is English available across Thailand? If yes then what is the yearly expense.

 

1. I don't think so. Attitudes are changing, and there are lots of single Thai mums.

 

2. Yes, if your partner chooses to add your name.

 

3. Yes.

 

4. No.

 

5. Available in larger cities. Prices can range from not a lot at all to hundreds of thousands of baht per year. It all depends on the school.

 

If you don't want to get married you can go to Court and legitimise the child to become it's legal father. If you do this then the answer to question 4 will change to Yes if you fulfill the visa criteria.

11 minutes ago, lovethai123 said:

Thanks for the input ????

 

In your  opinion , a 5 day visit every month is acceptable or not? I have never had a child so I don't know. 

Parenting is a full time 24/7 every single day job for 18 years

45 minutes ago, lovethai123 said:

 due to various factors

Please expand on this, & then I  will endeavour to give you an appropriate reply.

 

Are you Danish?

Think twice, mate... You are young. Asking on here that question, having a gf with child already.... Think twice. IMO

1 minute ago, Tarteso said:

Think twice, mate... You are young. Asking on here that question, having a gf with child already.... Think twice. IMO

I am old as per the traditions of my country. Once you cross 30 you ain't getting married.