How do Thai women compare with Western women as a wife?

[OneMoreFarang]

30 minutes ago, HiSoLowSoNoSo said:

If you can find a Thai wife who you can have an intelligent conversation with and likes sex after 40, she's a keeper.  

Why would you (try to) have an intelligent conversation with the wife? That's why we have friends!

[Isaan sailor]

Sure, Thai women have strong family values, and can make a loyal, fun-loving wives.   But they have something else—a lower standard of living (especially in places like Isaan).  Who wants to live in a hut when you (and your family) can live in a mansion?  Age gap marriages are common.  And you see some real stunners here.  
If you’ve got some Baht—you might get lucky…

[Guest Isaanlife]

1 hour ago, Dustdevil said:

I'd say in the context of East Asia, don't marry a Japanese or Korean. The cultural differences are too great. It would take a long article for me to explain everything, but suffice it to say I recommend Chinese women (not from Malaysia, though) and do not recommend Japanese or Koreans. Yes, Japanese women are beautiful, but so are all the others, but living together, the two cultures clash too much.

 

You cannot explain anything but your Opinion!

 

As a younger man working for the US government early in my professional career, I lived in Japan and South Korea, then Zhuhai, China.

 

I had a wonderful relationship in Japan for a few years that was stuffed by my employer and position at the time (I would have easily married her). Aside of apartments being very small, no cultural differences what so ever. Still have a lot of love for her and those times.

 

My colleague married a South Korean and have been married for 35 years.

 

Had the time of my life in South Korea as well. 

 

Looking back I think the main difference was NOT being around women in those 2 countries that worshipped money; they were all educated and not from the bars.

 

As far was looks?

 

South Korea, Japan, Thailand, China

 

 

[OneMoreFarang]

The biggest difference:

 

[martand]

3 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Why would you (try to) have an intelligent conversation with the wife? That's why we have friends!

Maybe because women have a completely different way of seeing things, which is very annoying and very interesting at the same time, yet somehow makes a man go ahead on some changes (either positive or negative of course). 

[chrisandsu]

38 minutes ago, HiSoLowSoNoSo said:

If you can find a Thai wife who you can have an intelligent conversation with and likes sex after 40, she's a keeper.  

Most are as dumb as rocks which is why a lot of western men prefer them . I was married to a thai for 15 years ,lovely girl but the miss understandings and still not being able to properly have a conversation (shes fluent in english) got me in the end . I have gone back to western and love having a proper conversation and there being no cultural miss understandings . 

[Mar Hau]

I am not a racist but you need to understand that most foreigner found their love with Isaan women. There are good and bad in every society but the general Issan intend to love ATMs on two legs and prefer not to walk to far to get to an ATM. This is not only my knowledge base but confirmed in general by Thais not myself. Well you need to ask the non Issan people. Again I have Issan friends that are totally different but one in a million. I refer to A) foreigners in general have Issan wifes, B) Issan people in general for of this mindset. Just an observation I have make the 32 years I live in this beautiful kingdom of Thailand. 

[Guest Isaanlife]

Not butterflies? Come on Op!

 

Thailand is the undisputed champion of Mia Noi's and Gik's!

 

 

 

 

[KhaoYai]

5 hours ago, webfact said:

Finally, Western women can be boring. A significant portion wants to know from a man what kind of car he drives, his job/career, will he take care of her, so she doesn’t have to work, etc. before tying the knot.

I'm not sure where this 'snapshot of general views' comes from or which planet the respondents have been living on but I disagree with most of it - the comment above especially.  The people who think that clearly don't speak Thai.  They very much DO want to know how much they are likley to get from you and often set about finding out what you've got from the outset.  On more than one occasion, when I've visited a potential 'match' in her home town, she's booked me in to or suggested the most expensive hotel she can find to see if I balk at the cost.

 

Go to any gathering, birthday party, wedding etc. and if you understand Thai, take a walk over to within earshot of where the women are gathered.  All you will hear is, "how much you get from him", "what car you have", "how much gold he buy you".

 

In fact I'd go further and say that a fair proportion of the population and some sectors of the government/authorities are out to see what they can 'get' from unsuspecting foreigners - even down to the BBQ seller outside my old condo in Bangkok that tried to charge me double what her Thai customers paid for a chicken skewer.

Edited February 18, 2022 by KhaoYai

[blazes]

1 hour ago, fredscats said:

Poverty knocks on the door,love flies out of the window

Oh, you mean "No money, no honey"??

[spidermike007]

Even though my wife is very smart, I do not get much intellectual stimulation from the relationship. But, I get so much else. And in all of the relationships I was ever in with really smart women, who I got intellectual stimulation from, there was also so much grief to contend with. Such combative women. So much competition. Yikes. Thrilled to death to have left all of that behind. When I was only in the relationship for a year or so, I had dinner with a very sharp American friend. I asked him about that. He laughed. He said, when you feel the need for intellectual stimulation, call me. We can hook up for a meal, and break down the origins of the cosmos. Do not fret. That same brain that gives you that stimulation, also tends to give you so much grief, it is not worth it, on any level. Get over it. Enjoy all of the other qualities, that make your day so delightful and fulfilling. Great advice, that I have followed to this day. I learned long ago that an intellectual woman, who can match me intellectually, also tends to be a combative woman, and the chance of harmony is low. I for one, love a harmonious house, where my woman is joyful and light hearted, with a great sense of humor, and an amazing attitude toward life, and us. Just my point of view. Whatever works for you, stick with it.

 

One of the most wonderful things about Thailand, is that the judgment level of couples with signifiant differences in age, is not as harsh, as in the west. My wife is quite a bit younger than me too. It works really well for us. When I dated women close to my age back in the US, it rarely ever worked out. Most were very rigid, closed minded, and set in their ways. Plus, many liked to go to bed very early, and behaved as if they were 20 years older than they were. That was not fun. I find younger women to be far more vital, more vigorous, and if you are fortunate to find one, far more open minded and adventurous.

I find when we are out in public many men stare at her, as she is still very attractive and fit, and look at me with envy. Women here seem to be fairly neutral. In the US we get some attention. She gets alot of looks, and the guys look at me like they presume I am a centi-millionaire. The gals look at me like I a felon, and have committed a major crime, by refusing to jump over the hurdles prescribed by them, and taking a shortcut to heaven. That is so much fun. It is a wonderful feeling to watch the Western women squirm and to witness their confusion and disapproval.

 

Lastly,  I think a large part of the equation is the erosion of femininity in the West. It has gotten so bad, that masculinity is now considered toxic. This is an existential threat to civilization, no doubt. It is me-too, and uber-feminism that has been the real nuclear bomb to relationships and a woman's ability to express herself, have sex freely, date normally, manifest the incredible dignity within femininity, and relate to men, in a healthy manner. It seems to contribute to an extremely unfulfilled female gender, and has resulted in making life very difficult for most men in the West. With Covid, things are even worse than before. A real life Zombieland. Thankfully, little of that toxic nonsense has reached the shores of Thailand. Women here seem to intuitively know how powerful their innate femininity is, and they use it to the fullest. I am very thankful for that. I think many have simply rejected alot of mind numbingly, wrong headed Western notions, that women are saddled with. 

[Hummin]

27 minutes ago, sipi said:

Western women don't want regular money?

Not the ones I've met. The first thing they look at is your shoes then your car.

Not that there's anything wrong with that.

I look at the ladys feet in Thailand! Alot you can see and tell by their feet and hands

[Lacessit]

I don't have a wife, but my Thai GF of about 8 years might as well be one. She compares very favorably with the two long term relationships I had in Australia.

I have always been a good provider for the women I have been with. To me, the big difference is the appreciation I get in return. My Thai GF will take care of me until I snuff it, and gives herself to me completely. Sex is not a bargaining tool, I think for her it is like having a good meal.

On the physical side, she fluctuates between 40-42 kg, and gets stressed if she hits 43 kg. Has the firm body of a woman 20 years younger.

Of course, she has her faults, but they are very minor in the scheme of things.

[Lacessit]

26 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

The biggest difference:

 

Post of the thread.

[micmichd]

2 hours ago, hellohello123 said:

One demand/expects money monthly 

The other takes it upon divorce

I prefer the first type. Fortunately I was never ever married in the West, and hence no divorce. 

[EVENKEEL]

4 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

I don't have a wife, but my Thai GF of about 8 years might as well be one. She compares very favorably with the two long term relationships I had in Australia.

I have always been a good provider for the women I have been with. To me, the big difference is the appreciation I get in return. My Thai GF will take care of me until I snuff it, and gives herself to me completely. Sex is not a bargaining tool, I think for her it is like having a good meal.

On the physical side, she fluctuates between 40-42 kg, and gets stressed if she hits 43 kg. Has the firm body of a woman 20 years younger.

Of course, she has her faults, but they are very minor in the scheme of things.

43 kg, yikes. Got yourself a shorttt one.

[chrisandsu]

The other thing we have to take into consideration is the majority of guys that come to thailand have hardly had their choice of pretty western girls . They  are not what i would call high caliber males . They have most likely been picking low hanging fruit in the west and then come to thailand and repeat it again but convince themselves this is real as they hold most of the cards now (money) its delusional to think some old farm girl rump is somehow A better standard then a decent western lady .  Keep Convincing yourself that up until the money runs out ….. 

[Lizzy Duang]

Of course it always depends on the individual. But to say that money is more important to Western women than to Thai women seems wrong to me. First of all, Thais talk more about money in my eyes. There is good reason for that, as Western women have better chances to earn enough money and independence themselves. From what I see here, most foreigners support their wives with a monthly amount from 10.000 Baht up which equals a local minimum salary. None of my Western friends hands over a minimum salary to his girlfriend or wife at home.

[klauskunkel]

5 hours ago, webfact said:

They are happy to make ends meet and enjoy the free things in life such as

the free aircon in shopping malls.

[hotandsticky]

1 minute ago, chrisandsu said:

The other thing we have to take into consideration is the majority of guys that come to thailand have hardly had their choice of pretty western girls . They  are not what i would call high caliber males . They have most likely been picking low hanging fruit in the west and then come to thailand and repeat it again but convince themselves this is real as they hold most of the cards now (money) its delusional to think some old farm girl rump is somehow A better standard then a decent western lady .  Keep Convincing yourself that up until the money runs out ….. 

 

 

"They".... ?

 

 

 

thank you Brad Pitt for the pretentious pr!ck of the day post so far......

 

 

Spoken like a man who has been burned.

[chrisandsu]

Just now, hotandsticky said:

 

 

"They".... ?

 

 

 

thank you Brad Pitt for the pretentious pr!ck of the day post so far......

 

 

Spoken like a man who has been burned.

Sounds like you old codgers have been burned . I have zero issues with western women seems like your ego got battered by them Not wanting you . Says more about you then them . 

[BritManToo]

3 minutes ago, chrisandsu said:

I have zero issues with western women

1. How many have you married?

2. Why are you here?

 

PS. I'm an elderly '4', I only want young '8+', so yes I do have a problem, I'm not prepared to settle for a female elderly '4' ........... glad you're happy with yours. 

Edited February 18, 2022 by BritManToo

[BananaGuy]

Help wanted. Someone at AseanNow seems to be stuck in the 1950’s …

[RocketDog]

2 hours ago, hellohello123 said:

One demand/expects money monthly 

The other takes it upon divorce

As generalizations go, how about this one:

Western women demand /expect money monthly and later take the balance upon divorce

 

[Hummin]

To many claims to respond to, but one thing Im surpriesed me most. 
 

Western woman is boring? Define boring?
 

Was never bored with western women,

 

Travelling and had fun, doing sport, enjoyed parties, same taste movies and food, just cuddle up in a sofa having a weekend just relaxing, eat, sex, see movie and repeat. Very few obligations to her family, made her own money, and we could talk about and analyse movies, sex, politics, books, food, wine, music, climb up a mountain and watch the sunrise or sunset, skydive together, snowboard, kayaking, camping, and you name it. 
 

she even changed tires, and cut the gras in garden when needed.

 

Anyway, feels sorry for so many bad experiences by so many in here, when it comes to women in general. Maybe not the women who is the problem!
 

Yes I had problems with women, broken hearth, lied to, and been dissapointed, but im not stuck in the past, and will never give up the faith in women. It is only up to me, and the choices I make. I do a mistake, a pay for it, and learn from it. Easy as that

 

As many said already, there is good women, and bad women, and the same goes for men. 

Edited February 18, 2022 by Hummin

[BritManToo]

36 minutes ago, Mar Hau said:

I am not a racist but you need to understand that most foreigner found their love with Isaan women. There are good and bad in every society but the general Issan intend to love ATMs on two legs and prefer not to walk to far to get to an ATM. This is not only my knowledge base but confirmed in general by Thais not myself. Well you need to ask the non Issan people. Again I have Issan friends that are totally different but one in a million. I refer to A) foreigners in general have Issan wifes, B) Issan people in general for of this mindset. Just an observation I have make the 32 years I live in this beautiful kingdom of Thailand. 

Issan is 60% of the Thai population, so hardly surprising there's so many around.

[swm59nj]

It really depends on the person.  Not if she is Thai or western . Good and bad all over the world. 
Plenty of couples have also been married for a very long time in western countries also.  
Im not married.  And to be truthful.  I have dated a number of Thai women since I been here in the last two years or so.  And in the first couple of meetings it was obvious they were looking at the money.  Not at the person. 
A lot of men on here seem to have been married to their wives for a number of years. Peoples attitudes were probably different then.  A Thai man once told me. Ten years ago and beyond it was different.  Now people focus on money more. 

[blazes]

22 minutes ago, spidermike007 said:

Even though my wife is very smart, I do not get much intellectual stimulation from the relationship. But, I get so much else. And in all of the relationships I was ever in with really smart women, who I got intellectual stimulation from, there was also so much grief to contend with. Such combative women. So much competition. Yikes. Thrilled to death to have left all of that behind. When I was only in the relationship for a year or so, I had dinner with a very sharp American friend. I asked him about that. He laughed. He said, when you feel the need for intellectual stimulation, call me. We can hook up for a meal, and break down the origins of the cosmos. Do not fret. That same brain that gives you that stimulation, also tends to give you so much grief, it is not worth it, on any level. Get over it. Enjoy all of the other qualities, that make your day so delightful and fulfilling. Great advice, that I have followed to this day. I learned long ago that an intellectual woman, who can match me intellectually, also tends to be a combative woman, and the chance of harmony is low. I for one, love a harmonious house, where my woman is joyful and light hearted, with a great sense of humor, and an amazing attitude toward life, and us. Just my point of view. Whatever works for you, stick with it.

 

One of the most wonderful things about Thailand, is that the judgment level of couples with signifiant differences in age, is not as harsh, as in the west. My wife is quite a bit younger than me too. It works really well for us. When I dated women close to my age back in the US, it rarely ever worked out. Most were very rigid, closed minded, and set in their ways. Plus, many liked to go to bed very early, and behaved as if they were 20 years older than they were. That was not fun. I find younger women to be far more vital, more vigorous, and if you are fortunate to find one, far more open minded and adventurous.

I find when we are out in public many men stare at her, as she is still very attractive and fit, and look at me with envy. Women here seem to be fairly neutral. In the US we get some attention. She gets alot of looks, and the guys look at me like they presume I am a centi-millionaire. The gals look at me like I a felon, and have committed a major crime, by refusing to jump over the hurdles prescribed by them, and taking a shortcut to heaven. That is so much fun. It is a wonderful feeling to watch the Western women squirm and to witness their confusion and disapproval.

 

Lastly,  I think a large part of the equation is the erosion of femininity in the West. It has gotten so bad, that masculinity is now considered toxic. This is an existential threat to civilization, no doubt. It is me-too, and uber-feminism that has been the real nuclear bomb to relationships and a woman's ability to express herself, have sex freely, date normally, manifest the incredible dignity within femininity, and relate to men, in a healthy manner. It seems to contribute to an extremely unfulfilled female gender, and has resulted in making life very difficult for most men in the West. With Covid, things are even worse than before. A real life Zombieland. Thankfully, little of that toxic nonsense has reached the shores of Thailand. Women here seem to intuitively know how powerful their innate femininity is, and they use it to the fullest. I am very thankful for that. I think many have simply rejected alot of mind numbingly, wrong headed Western notions, that women are saddled with. 

Excellent. I could have written this myself!!!

 

One slight caveat: the addiction to cell phones will probably ensure that slowly but surely Thai women will absorb most of the negative traits of the Western woman that you outline so eloquently above.  Alas, we live in a global culture.

Of course, my wife is different (as we all say) !!!!!!!!!  But to be fair to her, she uses her cell phone to scroll through loads and loads of YouTube videos that help her in her career.

[chrisandsu]

4 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

1. How many have you married?

2. Why are you here?

 

PS. I'm an elderly '4', I only want young '8+', so yes I do have a problem, I'm not prepared to settle for a female elderly '4' ........... glad you're happy with yours. 

Can you read ? Said i was married to one for 15 years . I get that  they are cheaper to run and you can control them through money . But writing off all western woman because you cant control them or get a decent one is nothing but cringe. 

[Pravda]

58 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Is this the best you can offer?

It sound to me like the homework from a bored student who had to write something, anything and have it done.

If this forum wants to shine with their expertise than try again. And try harder!

 

I have to agree. I can't believe this passed the strict and rigid quality control of aseannow team.